Obviously, not all youth football coaches are frustrated, never-made-it-to-the-next-level guys. But a great number are, and they are out there on football fields across America preaching the need to win at all costs to kids as young as 5 years old.
If inaction or retaliation results, you -- and your athlete -- must be prepared to leave the team. It isn't fair, but the bottom line is that the current situation is destructive and intolerable -- and you need to protect your kid as well as your values.
I often have wondered why he, and so many of us (yes, us) are so wrapped up in our child's sports experience that we will go to drastic measures...like being fired. I called on Dr. Dan Wann, a noted psychologist from Murray State University, and here's what he had to say.
Tragedy is not the end, but a chance at a new beginning. Tragedy will define a particular moment or period in our life, but from that instant, we can change the narrative and our metric. From this day forward, how will you measure a year?
This question torments every parent who wants to support their children's efforts as they pursue their own personal greatness in a sport. It is also one of the most frequently asked questions I get from parents of young athletes.
Even parents who aren't looking to create the next Tiger Woods feel like they have no choice but to reluctantly buy into the trend. But does early specialization build a better athlete? Growing research suggests it doesn't.
By the age of 14, girls drop out of sports twice as often as boys. Social stigma, lack of access, safety and transportation issues, costs and lack of positive role models can all contribute to the reasons why girls drop out of sports in their adolescent years.
Sports programs must be inclusive of all youth, and coaches must be trained to value and promote diversity and inclusion. We simply cannot afford to have any child drop out of sports based on prejudice.
Let's start with a little context. I have two boys. Both are in sports at a young age level (ten and six). My oldest competed in Tae Kwon Do tournaments in the past (won some trophies) and now is focused on basketball, soccer, and baseball. His choices, not ours, which is how it should be.
Parents proudly watching their aspiring major leaguers hit a home run, serve an ace in tennis, or lunge to stop a goal might find it hard to imagine that their child's success in sports could harm his or her health. But today, games like sandlot baseball often are not kid stuff anymore.
We've all see the bumper sticker on the back of cars that say, "My child's on the honor roll." Well I think there should be ones made for kids like this one that says, "My kid just stood up to a bunch of 'little league' jerks who don't get it."
It's a tragic thing indeed, but sometimes the biggest bully on the team is the coach. Both of my kids have experienced bully coaches, to varying degrees and with different outcomes. It's never any fun. Here are five signs that the coach is a bully:
If you are involved in a private youth sports program which plays on publicly-owned fields, diamonds, rinks, or courts, or are in local government, you have probably been hearing a lot lately about what is being dubbed the "power of the permit".