Do you dream about being in a relationship, but your weight isn't ideal so you choose to hibernate? Do you long to make a career move, but are paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong decision? Do you want to have a family, but feel your life needs to be in "perfect" order first? Do you wish to visit a particular destination, but put it off because feel the trip is too indulgent? Now ask yourself this: If tomorrow were your last day on Earth, would you have any regrets? Are you living in the future and ignoring the present?
"Live for the moment" is a statement we have all heard, and it is usually followed by, "because you never know if it will be your last." When we hear this we usually pause, reflect and resonate with this statement. We might even vow to change a certain behavior or act on a particular goal, but usually this is short-lived and we resort to our old habits, fears and motivations. Then we feel stuck and full of regrets. But why?
We live in a world with to-do lists, goals that may not be our own and responsibilities that may outweigh our wants and needs. Oftentimes, we are taking care of others before we even acknowledge our own desires. To make matters worse, fear tends to rise to the forefront and it may present itself as the "rational" decision, when instead it is just the safe choice. You may want to leave your job, but fear tells you it is not the reasonable choice. The key is to drown out the negativity and strike a balance between the "shoulds" and the wants. It is one thing to be a responsible person, and another to be living your life for someone else entirely or waiting for the perfect set of circumstances for your life to truly begin.
I have a holistic health practice, and I work with clients on their physical and emotional health. I have a client who has an incredible heart and many gifts, but she was unable to recognize them or even utilize them. She was waiting for marriage for her life to begin and as a result, she was not nurturing her gifts -- working with children and art. She ignored her creative side and her giving nature and instead made dating and husband-hunting her priority. She had a preconceived notion that her career would not be financially lucrative, and she needed a partner to share the burden. As a result, her career was on hold, she was meeting the wrong men, her health was suffering and her spirit was empty. We worked for several months on recapturing her passion and taking action steps to live in the now. She went back to school for art therapy and guess whom she met there? Her husband.
Many times we don't believe that it is possible to have our dream life, or we feel we don't deserve it. We make plans, but we rarely take action today. We even talk ourselves out of our vision because it seems easier to coast along a stream rather than risk a potential current.
But living in the future does not ensure a happy life today. Too often, we spend time planning our goals and we forget to be happy now. As a result, we save all of our joy for a day in the future that is not yet guaranteed.
When you think about your wish list for your life, are you living it now? Does everything have to happen in a particular order? Are you holding onto a certain set of beliefs that no longer suit you? What messages are you sending out into the universe -- are you asking for something, but then finding reasons why it shouldn't happen now?
Vow to begin today with no regrets. Commit to showing the world why you are here. Promise to live with passion. Spread your wings, stretch your spirit and learn to soar. After all, tomorrow is a present to be lived today.
10 Tips to Start Living Now:
This is an incredible tool to help you to visualize your future. Find images that represent your ideal life and make a collage using poster-board or another tool.
Look at your vision board and make a list of your top five or 10 goals with an action plan for how you can achieve them.
There is no better motivation than friends or family that support your goals. Tell people who support you about your plans. This will create accountability and keep you motivated and on track.
Oftentimes we are our own worst enemy, so when that negative voice creeps in, tell it: "I hear you, but I won't validate this. This is not truth." Replace each negative statement with one that empowers you.
This is important not only to help you to visualize what you want for your life, but also to surround yourself with possibilities. If they can have it, you can too.
Affirmations are powerful statements, and the more you say them the more you attract the meaning in the words. Affirm: "I am living my dream life each and every day. I live with purpose, joy and peace of mind and I am grateful."
When your brain is constantly on fast-forward, it is impossible to hear your own thoughts. How can you know what you want when you can't hear your own voice?
Stress can deplete these important glands that help your energy levels, sleep patterns, mood, hormones, cravings and so much more. You may want to try B-vitamins or an adaptogenic herb like ashwagandha or ginseng. Seek out a holistic practitioner who can advise you for your own individual needs.
It is important to set goals and monitor your progress, but don't expect a radical change overnight. Recognize even the small steps you have made.
If you cannot recognize the blessings, it is impossible to witness the miracles. Keep a gratitude journal and express gratitude on a daily basis.
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