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12/20/2012 12:37 pm ET | Updated Feb 18, 2013

Arrow Through the Heart

The streets of heaven are too crowded with angels, but every time we think we have measured our capacity to meet a challenge, we look up and we're reminded that that capacity may well be limitless. This is a time for American heroes. We will do what is hard. We will achieve what is great. This is a time for American heroes and we reach for the stars -- The West Wing

Throughout the past few years, we've lived through some pretty horrendous things -- 9/11, Columbine, Virginia Tech, the Aurora movie theater shooting among many others -- and we've coped as usual. We send our condolences to the families, put up statuses on our Facebook walls showing support, join millions of pages to express our rage, but after awhile we move on because it's the natural progression of time. Most of the time we even forget because so many other things happen in our lives.

But this past weekend's tragic shooting in Connecticut has changed that; we can't move on because it's impossible. It's changed our sense of safety and faith in the school system, to know that you could send your child to what's supposed to be a safe haven at 7:30 a.m. only to find out it's become a house of horror by noon. It's enough to make anyone reconsider sending their kids to public school and instead try homeschooling.

What bothers me, aside from the death of 20 little kids which is more than devastating enough, is that the media is portraying this guy, Adam Lanza, as both a victim and a cold blooded killer saying that his Asperger's Syndrome was a key factor this and that could possibly be the only reason why. As a learning disabled person, it's not a reason, it's not an excuse, there has to be other factors and the media keeps insisting that it's the only reason -- because he couldn't have been molested or smacked around by his mother, bullied or anything -- it all comes down to his learning disability.

Now instead of becoming more educated about disabilities, we're adding an even bigger stigma to it, now every kid diagnosed has to live in fear that they'll be forever labeled a potential killer and the bullying epidemic will grow even more. If kids weren't a major target, they will be now.

The media is so focused on blaming the disability that they are providing false information and causing an even bigger panic -- everything's been so distorted we don't know what to believe. Because of it, we're getting fed information in giant clumps instead of a little bit, some of it unnecessary, especially how the kids were killed at close range and shot between three and 11 times, things a mother burying her child should only know. In some instances, interviewers are going too far in their line of questioning. One went as far as to ask one of the brothers of a victim what they wanted the world to know about his slain brother less than 12 hours after.

Although the stories of the teachers heroism are absolutely commendable, it overshadows the 20 little faces that haunt you -- through every image and flash of the news, it's nearly impossible to pay attention to anything else.

My question is that if this kid has been in a public school before his mother decided to home school, did his teachers, advocates any pay attention to his social and cognitive needs, the fact that he clearly had issues? If someone, anyone had intervened, this whole thing could have been avoided instead of 26 families ruined, mothers, fathers, brothers and sisters facing the holidays without someone they love.

There are millions of questions and we'll never get any real answers. The only thing we're sure of is that we'll never take for granted little moments with the people in our lives, every moment is a chance to make a memory and to hug a little tighter.

What do you think of the media's portrayal of the Connecticut? Is it solid reporting or are we being fed misinformation?