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Nina Lorez Collins is a former literary agent and scout. She lives in Brooklyn with her four children and is at work on a memoir. You can find more of her work at www.ninalorezcollins.com.

Blog Entries by Nina Lorez Collins

An Unconventional Gap Year

3 Comments | Posted April 11, 2012 | 11:50 AM

Since September of this year, my daughter's boyfriend has been living with us -- or more precisely, with her, in her bedroom. Violet is eighteen (although she was seventeen when he moved in) and Nile recently turned nineteen, and while the situation has made sense to me from the start,...

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Stepfamilies: the Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

0 Comments | Posted July 21, 2011 | 12:09 PM

When I got married, at twenty-three, I became a stepmother to a seven-year-old-boy. I'd known Jonah since he was four, and his parents had divorced when he was still a baby, so he'd never really known what it was like to live together with his family under one roof. Which...

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Jealousy

0 Comments | Posted June 22, 2011 | 12:37 PM

When women talk about the current romantic lives of their ex-husbands, it's common to hear refrains along the lines of "I couldn't care less who he's with. What a nightmare, she can have him, good riddance." And they usually add "As long as she's nice to my kids, that's all...

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What a Shame

0 Comments | Posted June 15, 2011 | 9:00 AM

I love to post on Facebook, and my favorite all-time Status Update read "Nina Lorez Collins has a lot of things, but she has no shame." This was about three years ago, when I was just coming out of what was probably the darkest period of my life.

Since those...

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The Pros and Perils of Online Dating

0 Comments | Posted June 8, 2011 | 11:34 AM

When I got divorced at age 37, I'd never really dated. I'd met my husband at age 20, and in the five years before that I was basically serially monogamous with various men/boys I met through school. I'd never been set up, never gone home with a guy from a...

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Should I Stay or Should I Go?

0 Comments | Posted May 31, 2011 | 7:05 PM

The other day I had lunch with a long married girlfriend who was bemoaning the fact that, for fifteen years, she and her husband hardly ever fought, and now, in the last five, they frequently do, which she mostly attributes to the strain of having young children. I've always thought...

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How We Became Friends Again

0 Comments | Posted April 13, 2011 | 12:02 PM

Like many of us, I had a truly hideous divorce. Adultery, physical violence, arrests, screaming fights, swimming pools of tears, hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal and therapy bills, you name it. The worst of it took two years, from the first serious talks of separation in 2005 to...

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Why Remarry?

0 Comments | Posted March 21, 2011 | 3:03 AM

The other day a younger friend, a woman in her twenties, called to share news of her engagement. She's been dating a great-seeming guy for about a year, and she sounded exuberant, glowing, over the moon. "Congratulations, Eleanor! I'm so happy for you." Yadda, yadda, yadda, and we wrapped up...

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Mistakes People Make in Divorce Negotiation

0 Comments | Posted November 25, 2010 | 1:05 PM

I'm not a lawyer, but by the time we were done, my divorce attorney told me I should become one. And while no one person's experience can apply to everyone's, there are a few things I learned that I think can be helpful:

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The Unexpected Upsides of Divorce

0 Comments | Posted November 19, 2010 | 12:25 PM

When I finally decided that I was really going to do it, to take the step I'd been debating for years and leave my marriage, I was an utterly terrified wreck. I must have sobbed every day for at least a year. I was a thirty-seven year old mother of...
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Who Keeps the Friends?

0 Comments | Posted November 8, 2010 | 11:15 AM

When Larry David portrayed his divorce on Curb Your Enthusiasm, and Cheryl got all the friends, I was so relieved. You mean, that really happens? I'm not the only asshole who made each and every one of my friends choose a side?

During my divorce, almost four years ago,...

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