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10/26/2012 04:24 pm ET | Updated Dec 26, 2012

Friendkeeping: A Primer

Friendkeeping by Julie Klam is the book you will want to give all your best friends, not as a nudge-nudge, hint-hint reminder of what it takes to be a good friend, but rather as a celebration of just how great friends can be. And if they (or you) pick up a few hints on how to be a good friend, so much the better for everyone. We all need reminding once in awhile that connection takes more than just showing up for drinks or a walk -- and Klam offers the reminders with her usual big heart, goofy humor, and open admissions.

Klam tackles the big issues of jealousy within friendship (likening it to Kuato from the movie Total Recall - an ugly little creature that lives in her belly and rears his schadenfreude head from time to time); what happens when you love a friend but hate his/her parnter (we have all been there); sharing (despite being a memoirist Klam admits that for years she couldn't talk about her troubles with friends, either in her own life or with them. Now she understands the two-way street of sharing is vital to a good friendship -- but even then, she also understand there are situations when you are there just to listen); and how to let go of friends that just are not right for you (for Julie, the deal breaker was taking a dog out for a walk without a leash -- IN NYC!).

Klam also takes on, with wit and grace, the even bigger friendship issues of illness, depression, and distance: those moments (or years) in friendship when more effort, understanding, and love is required. You can do it, Klam urges us all, and with her coaching, she is right: we can.