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Waiting Without Waiting: Another Benefit of Meditation

Posted: 01/03/11 08:09 AM ET

I'm sitting here at Los Angeles International Airport, and my flight has been delayed for two hours. I'm on my way to Vancouver to see some dear, close friends, including speaker and author Eckhart Tolle. I first met Eckhart more than 10 years ago, when he was not famous, just a quiet man with a powerful message. Although what he teaches is similar to Advaita Vedanta, Zen and many other meditation traditions, he hasn't proposed a formal practice or system. Instead, he recommends bringing meditation principles into every moment of life. Furthermore, he proposes that how this unfolds in your life is up to you.

He used to stay in the guest room of my home whenever he came to Los Angeles to give a talk or host a workshop. My partner and I adored his visits because we always learned so much about happiness from him, even when he didn't speak a word. I brought him his coffee in the morning, and the newspaper. We spent time together in silence, and we also did a lot of laughing. I remember sitting on the front steps watching birds play in the jasmine, enjoying the flight of a cloud through the blue sky. This was my first time acknowledging the profound peace and joy in the simple experiences of life, and it opened my eyes to the simple joy of being.

Since then, Eckhart's many books, including "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth," have gone on to be international bestsellers for years at a time (remarkable), with a profound message that has sent a spark of peace, introspection and love into millions of hearts. At the core of Eckhart's teachings is the realization that experientially speaking, this moment is all there ever is. The depth of your awareness of this moment, or of your effort to avoid it, is directly related to the depth of your joy in life.

For example, here I am at this airport, delayed for two hours. And to be realistic about travel, it could be longer. Who knows how long I'll be parked in this waiting room? Something handy that I picked up from Eckhart is "waiting without waiting." Normal waiting for me would feel like agitation, grumbling thoughts, complaining, stress and compulsively checking the slow-moving clock. I could be stuck in the feelings of frustration and anger for quite a while. However, there is another choice. In the face of a problem that is out of hands, such as being stuck here in this airport, my two choices are to be miserable or to let it go (in Eckhart's language, "surrender to what is").

Now that I realize I have the choice of letting go when action is not possible, I usually do, avoiding the inner grumbling, and therefore avoiding the stress and suffering. But "waiting without waiting" doesn't end there. Now that I am no longer "in resistance to what is," I can enter the present moment. Why? Because it's wonderful in its own way, even if you are trapped by a delay at the airport. What? Yes, it's true.

So what's entering the present moment? Fasten your seatbelt. It depends on how deep you're willing to go. First, shift your focus to your physical body, accessing a feeling state. In other words, notice how your body feels right now. Are there any areas where you're holding tension? If you find tension, consciously take a breath and relax.

Next, enter your inner body. This is the energetic body that animates your flesh and blood. It's that energy that differentiates your body from that of a corpse: your aliveness, your vibration, your life force. Becoming aware of yourself on this level has the potential to pull you out of your life "situation" and put you back in touch with the essence of life itself.

And, if you're daring, you can go even deeper. Do not operate heavy machinery at this time; however, sitting in an airport terminal is a perfect environment, if that's where you happen to be. While still aware of your inner body, you can become aware of the energizing life force animating the world around you. Keep your focus off the world, and look for the energy of the world. It's kind of like looking at those 3-D posters: you have to look at it while looking past it to get the full effect.

Without criticism or labels, you can take in the hustle and bustle of the airport, the chair supporting your body, the floor beneath you, the ceiling above you and the air all around you. Suddenly, while in this moment, there are no problems.

Life is circulating within you, life is circulating all around you. You might become aware of your connection to the whole. You might even feel a spontaneous, deep and effortless love for the miracle of existence, including yourself.

Maybe flight delays aren't so bad after all. The next time you find yourself waiting, try "waiting without waiting." If you don't like it, you can always just read some magazines.

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I'm sitting here at Los Angeles International Airport, and my flight has been delayed for two hours. I'm on my way to Vancouver to see some dear, close friends, including speaker and author Eckhart T...
I'm sitting here at Los Angeles International Airport, and my flight has been delayed for two hours. I'm on my way to Vancouver to see some dear, close friends, including speaker and author Eckhart T...
 
 
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01:27 PM on 01/08/2011
Thank you
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solitude1951
07:11 PM on 01/04/2011
one long now
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Olivia Rosewood
12:13 PM on 01/05/2011
yes
04:31 PM on 01/04/2011
Great perspective. Life will always produce those situations which will instigate emotions, stress, and tension without offering a reasonable catharsis. Though it is probably more difficult not to rage (something I tend to do), letting a more meditative state overcome one's being seems to benefit not only the individual but also those in their immediate vicinity. Next time I am in one of these unfortunate, horrible predicaments, I'll have to try this method. Thanks.
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Olivia Rosewood
12:14 PM on 01/05/2011
You're welcome. I'm glad you found this point of view helpful.
01:55 PM on 01/04/2011
I Grok what you are saying, but I think it was Valentine Michael Smith who said "waiting is"... But then he was a "Stranger in a Strange Land".
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Olivia Rosewood
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
10:12 PM on 01/03/2011
Whenever I try meditating, I either fall asleep (which would guarantee my flight being called at an airport, lol) or I get itchy. Even happened under hypnosis, years ago. But I've found doing Reiki - I have a level two certiicate - is a very pleasing alternative.
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Olivia Rosewood
12:18 AM on 01/04/2011
french_queen13, it sounds like you find peace with your Reiki practice. Perhaps that is your meditation. There is not one single right way to meditate - meditation is your method of connecting and experiencing inner peace and happiness. Sounds like you've found it?
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french queen13
my beloved is mine and I am his
06:08 PM on 01/04/2011
Good point, Olivia, and yes, I think so! :)
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TheBlondeRaven
09:20 PM on 01/03/2011
I will never be happy at a airport never. No matter how much "wisdom" any "author" writes.
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Olivia Rosewood
12:19 AM on 01/04/2011
LOL -- ok, i tried.
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DynamicMentalFitness
03:56 PM on 01/03/2011
Goodness gracious the Olivia Rosewood hits just keep on comin' - AWESOME article! I look forward to the opportunities that inconveniences present in the moments they occur, because the moment in which any such a one occurs is exactly the deep, profound sea into which one should become immersed in order to be free from the effects of any mentality that insists the world should follow its dictates. What a silly mind we have that can't control itself yet rages at the world for not bowing down to it. Patience is power. When the mind insists, "I WANT IT NOW!", then Now, this very present moment, is exactly what the mind most needs to find.
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Olivia Rosewood
12:21 AM on 01/04/2011
Well said. Thank you.
02:30 PM on 01/03/2011
so waiting is for creating health

http://www.globalgoodnews.com/health-news-a.html?art=1293989195131549065

time flows but what is it that is flowing ? eternity is flowing

what is moving in any dynamic state [ activity] it is silence flowing

activity is non-action flowing

absolute silence is immortality
01:56 PM on 01/03/2011
Thanks for this reminder, that sometimes being stuck is an opportunity to explore our inner selves and connect to the life force around us. The idea of "waiting without waiting" is brilliant. I have tried this while standing in line at the grocery store, and what a difference it makes!

When we focus only on the physical, we feel impatient and bored. When we go deeper, we no longer need constant distractions and can be quite content just practicing awareness.
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Olivia Rosewood
04:05 PM on 01/03/2011
You're welcome, simonesimone. Well said -- depth is related to happiness and contentment.
10:06 AM on 01/03/2011
Learning to be in the present has helped me immensely. I have learned how to meditate and have experienced a deep spiritual awakening. If only everyone could...
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editorjuno
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11:55 AM on 01/03/2011
Everyone can -- it's just that relatively few are sincerely interested.
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Olivia Rosewood
01:02 PM on 01/03/2011
I agree, editorjuno. Everyone can. And although I've been drawn to meditation all of my life, I usually found myself at retreats and workshops with those who are more mature, usually 65 and older. However, I have noticed that there's more and more interest from people of all ages lately. I'm not alone in feeling that the urge to deepen and transcend suffering is becoming more common. The fact the Huffington Post, which now has a broader readership than the New York Times, is publishing uplifting articles about meditation serves as a confirmation to me that there is, in fact, a great deal of interest in this activity. Imagine the possibilities...
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Olivia Rosewood
01:03 PM on 01/03/2011
Beautiful, SunsetMom. Thank you.