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Unmarried: The Tempest in Tampa

Posted: 03/18/11 03:08 PM ET

Unmarried: Rose Ferlita has put her political ambition first and foremost, while her opponent is a dedicated family man with two children -- Ferlita is an unmarried woman with a suspect commitment to family values.

So reads a mailer that's making news in the Tampa mayoral run-off. Accusations and denials are flying about the mailer's origin or whether it was actually sent out. But regardless of who's to blame, the bottom line is that this line of attack on Ms. Ferlita's marital status is considered a powerful and persuasive and legitimate political tactic.

This tempest in Tampa is just the example of the stigmatization still faced by single, divorced and widowed women, even in 2011. This is a bias that is widely held according to a study released by Pew in February, which found 68 percent of those surveyed said that single women raising a child without a male partner was bad for society.

America is changing. Unmarried women make up the fastest-growing large demographic group and now comprise nearly one quarter of the U.S. population. One out of every two American women is now unmarried, and unmarried women are raising one quarter of all American children under 18 years old. Two-parent families may be the ideal, but we need to recognize -- not stigmatize -- the lives of the women who are making it on their own and supporting their children and families.

Unmarried women are changing this country in so many ways -- from the housing market to the workforce to the ballot box. Look no further than Colorado. In the Colorado Senate race, the marriage gap was 22 points, according to Project New West and America Votes data. Unmarried women voted for Democrat Michael Bennet over Republican Ken Buck 59 percent to 36 percent, compared with the narrower support for Bennet among married women, 47 percent to 46 percent. If unmarried women had voted as married women, Buck would have been sworn in as senator.

While unmarried women are a force demographically, politically and economically, they still face challenges. According to a White House report, and earlier research by Women's Voices. Women Vote and the Center for American Progress, unmarried women have been hit harder by the economic downturn than their married counterparts. They are struggling to put food on the table and roofs over their heads and the heads of their children. They are more likely to be unemployed, uninsured and have lower incomes than married women.

Rather than demonizing these women, we should be working to understand their needs, come up with policies that address their concerns, and educating and engaging them in the political conversation. Using scare tactics and dog-whistle language is a silly diversion; it ignores the reality of the changing face of America and the future of our society and democracy.

 
 
 
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02:15 PM on 03/21/2011
More sexism. Not sure how a reasonable person attributes marriage with political intelligence, but there are politicians out there that still can't grasp the basics of the Constitution.
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Comeplayinmyreality
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11:42 AM on 03/21/2011
Whenever i hear the term "family values" coming from a politician whether it be Dem or GOP it makes me very suspicious and I tend to stay away from them.
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gwhitejr
08:36 AM on 03/21/2011
The flier's origins are as controversial as its message. The St. Petersburg Times received a copy of it as an attachment to an e-mail from Ferlita campaign consultant Anthony Pedicini, who received it from political blogger Peter Schorsch, who says he received it anonymously.

The flier bore the name of Less Government Now, a Tampa-based electioneering communications group that put out an anti-Ferlita flier before the March 1 primary. Democratic political consultant Jonathan Brill of Tampa worked for Less Government Now during the fall elections. But Brill, whom the Buckhorn campaign has paid for research, says he has not worked for Less Government Now in the mayor's race. Both he and the group's treasurer deny having anything to do with the flier.

Meanwhile, the postal service says the flier had a fake postage permit number, leading Buckhorn to call it a hoax
http://www.tampabay.com/news/politics/elections/womens-vote-could-play-key-role-tuesday-in-tampa-mayors-election/1158529
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jbarelli
I don't belong to an organized political party.
12:21 PM on 03/20/2011
According to the St Petersburg Times story, the USPS has said that the flier provided by the Ferlita campaign had a fake postage permit number. So that "anonymous" recipient didn't get it in the mail.

Could it be that the Ferlita campaign printed a bogus flyer knowing that her Democratic opponent's base would be outraged by this? Could it also be that the reason that this is coming out so close to the election is that they don't want to give the Buckhorn campaign time to prove that they had nothing to do with it?

A Republican up to dirty campaign tricks? No, that couldn't be! Next you'll be telling me that the Easter Bunny isn't really delivering all those colored eggs.
09:36 AM on 03/20/2011
The most disgusting part of the mailer is it has become increasing clear that Ferlita's camp was BEHIND IT. Even after the USPS confirmed it had NEVER BEEN SENT and NO ONE has been able to produce a hard copy, the Ferlita camp has been using the mailer to push a pro-woman narrative in a city where the woman vote is key. Her campaign manager (a Republican operative with a history of dirty mail tricks) is the one who sent the mailer the media!!! And still, everyone took the story and ran with it. Ridiculous and disgusting!

http://www.tampabay.com/news/politics/elections/womens-vote-could-play-key-role-tuesday-in-tampa-mayors-election/1158529
11:45 PM on 03/19/2011
Before we over react, we should actually read the research. This is a example of a push poll with a specific goal of producing a desired result.
Look at the disclaimers on the( pdf . file) that the author links uses to support her article. It states the the questions don't quantify what people actually reason when they answer the questions.
When you ask a question like" Do you think single moms are good for America" you can have many reasons for your view. I think we should not draw to many conclusions without fully interpenetrating the data with objective reasoning.
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J Brill
11:28 PM on 03/19/2011
Ferlita is the Republican in this (officially non-partisan) race.
09:29 PM on 03/19/2011
Life is full of choices, some good, some bad, and some that get chosen for us (divorce). It is what it is. Ye reap what ye sow. Get over it, move on. Yes, you will be held accountable, even if it is not what you wanted.
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LMPE
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06:10 PM on 03/19/2011
The mailer must have been written by Mike Huckabee thinking that he was talking about Natalie Portman.
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Lorianne
ama vitam
02:28 PM on 03/19/2011
Oh please.
Sarah Palin was savaged for being married with children, and not staying home to tend to them.
 
Face it. Politics is a dirty game and women make especially good targets, married, unmarried, with children, without children ... whatever.
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MmeFlutterbye
Mmeflutterbye
03:20 PM on 03/19/2011
I cannot understand the woman-hate in this country by both men and certain types of women. Maybe I should change that term to woman-envy. It will get worse as the demographics grow in women's favor. Most men and submissive women detest strong women.
03:43 PM on 03/19/2011
Sistah Sarah was ravaged for being a HYPOCRITE, *not* for being a mother. She who dictates to other women how to run their lives and families was in a piss-poor position to do so, and got found out. Screaming family values when you have none is why she got found out. Not the same situation, at all.
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Lorianne
ama vitam
12:44 AM on 03/20/2011
She was villified for not being home taking care of her kids!
No male candidate would be critized for that and you know it.
 
The hypocrisy is on those who criticized her thus and then claim to want women to advance in politics, careeres etc.
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Shawna Vercher
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01:51 PM on 03/19/2011
I agree with the premise that marital status is not a political asset and that the mailer was sexist. However, just to shed some light on a local race, the mailer was actually intended to deliver a different message. There is widespread speculation in Tampa that Ms. Ferlita practices an alternative lifestyle. I have not seen the mailer you described, but assuming that what you are saying is accurate, my guess is that it was actually intended to stir up feelings of homophobia which is - in my opinion - even more disgusting.
useyourbrain
Once I heard nothing
02:17 PM on 03/19/2011
Alternative lifestyle? What's that? Does she breathe carbon dioxide and not oxygen. If you're the alternative what choice does that give her. It's called a life, not a life-style. Gays and straights come in all different sizes, colors, backgrounds, jobs. Billionaires to paupers, truck drivers to hedge fund mavens, teachers to ministers, big, little, white, black, etc.

Stop with the "alternative" label already.
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Shawna Vercher
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08:40 PM on 03/19/2011
I actually only used the more delicate wording because my posts tend to get picked up by the search engines prominently and I didn't want to put something volatile out there with the candidate's name on it. I didn't think it was appropriate under the circumstances. I agree with your point :)
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Lorianne
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12:51 AM on 03/20/2011
When Houston mayor Annise Parkerwas running for the job you could not find any information about her qualifications whatsoever.
 
Hundreds  and hundreds of articles on her and all they emphasized was that if she were to win she would be the first gay mayor.  It was gay, gay, gay, lesbian, lesbian, lesbian, first, first, first and that was it.
 
In fact, she was very qualified for the job, but if you were a voter trying to find that out, you could not find it from the media. Anywhere.
poorwriter
Why is common sense so rare?
01:16 PM on 03/19/2011
Well, looks like Ms. Ferlitta needs a wife, then -- you know, someone to cook and clean, bear and raise the children, run the errands.
By the way, did Sarah Palin have a "wife" at home to run things for her five kids while she was out stumping with McCain in 2008? You know, someone to uphold "family values" and all?
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02:26 PM on 03/19/2011
Yeah, Sarah Palin's "wife" was actually her husband! The Republicans didn't criticize her, though.
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Lorianne
ama vitam
02:29 PM on 03/19/2011
I rest my case.
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sjk1
12:41 PM on 03/19/2011
Ms. Ferlita is not the right choice for Mayor of Tampa-town, but the fact she is single or unmarried or never married has NOTHING to do with it.
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MmeFlutterbye
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12:37 PM on 03/19/2011
I wonder if the "dedicated family man" is just that ;or, is he the usual cheating politician whose wife and children spend time wondering where he is. Sanctimonious politicians who brag about their morals should be thoroughly investigated before a judgment is made in the voting booth.
02:58 PM on 03/19/2011
That was my first thought, too.
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Rene Epicurus
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09:41 PM on 03/19/2011
Ferlita's opponent - Bob Buckhorn had his 15 minutes several years ago, when he initiated a crusade against "exotic dancers" and "lap dancing", resulting in the notorious "6 ft rule".

So as a Tampan, I'm just glad Mr. Buckhorny has graduated from "exotic dance" expert to "jobs creation" expert.

At this point, many people in Tampa would take a job cleaning the poles at some the strip joints Buckhorny tried to put out of business. :)

But I digress.
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Dmpolis
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11:02 AM on 03/19/2011
Female teachers were not allowed to marry or they could not teach many years ago. In this enlightened age we now know what a crock that was. Women are excellent multi taskers single or married.
It was thought they would make better teachers if the only had their jobs to do and could put all their energies into teaching. Of course male teachers did not have any such restraints. So now in the 21st century we are going back to this kind of stinking thinking . But that's the south land they are still stuck in the past.