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Pamela Madsen
A pioneer in fertility advocacy, Pamela Madsen is the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association. She is a fearless advocate for women’s health and integrated sexuality who leverages her raw honesty and well-informed wit to help strip the stigma from infertility, female desire and body image. A well known sexuality coach specializing in the needs of women, her retreats: Back to the Body: Sensuous Retreats For Women have been sell outs.

Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and renowned blogger for Psychology Today, Better After 50 and Care2. She is the author of Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, January 2011). Please include the link to the book on Amazon.

Pamela has appeared on 60 Minutes, Oprah, CNN, AARP Primetime Radio, The Dr. Laura Berman Show, The Jane Pratt Show, and Playboy Radio.

Entries by Pamela Madsen

Hot To Turn Lukewarm Sex Into Red-Hot Sex

(3) Comments | Posted November 23, 2015 | 7:04 PM

We all dream of finding that perfect someone to live happily ever after with. And many of us do find that someone. Everything feels right from how you fit together holding hands to how you make love. There is the excitement of the engagement, planning a wedding, honeymoon and finding...

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Sex Is Not Static

(0) Comments | Posted November 19, 2015 | 6:17 AM

Sex is as impermanent as life. There is what came before, an understanding about sexuality, our relationships, and our history with sex. But ultimately and in the best sense, sex is constantly changing. Every single day we can create and consume our sexuality in so many various ways that can...

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Relationship Pioneers: The New Age Of Long-Term Commitment

(0) Comments | Posted September 18, 2015 | 7:44 AM

So what is a "Relationship Pioneer" and how does anyone stay together happily for 10, 20, or 30-plus years?

I think a "Relationship Pioneer" is all of us that are not willing to throw away our "foundational relationship" because we need something more added over time: whatever THAT more is.

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Why Size Really Doesn't Matter When Loving A Woman

(1) Comments | Posted September 12, 2015 | 7:21 AM

I just gave an interview to a magazine about what it is to be a "Well Fucked Woman." I'm not sure I told them what they wanted to hear, but here I go:

I love being a well fucked woman. And that has nothing to do with a man penetrating...

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The Wisdom Of Embracing Your 'Inconvenient Woman'

(1) Comments | Posted September 8, 2015 | 8:05 AM

I know the "inconvenient woman" like the back of my hand. I meet her every day in my sexuality coaching practice or at my retreats. She is a woman who is successful by most measures in every part of her life, yet she feels so frozen in her...

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How I Found My Sexual Voice With The Help Of A Professional

(0) Comments | Posted August 19, 2015 | 7:35 AM

Women are paying for sex, just like men. We just don't talk about it. Instead we whisper.

According to a recent study published in the British Newspaper; The Daily Mirror,
"more British women than ever are paying for sexual services because they are too busy for...

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Why Don't We Trust Young Women With Their Own Vaginas?

(1) Comments | Posted August 14, 2015 | 11:16 AM

The dominant culture still doesn't trust young women with their own sexuality. And the fallout can be so big that it can last a life time. I don't just see this in the stories of the women I work with in my sex coaching practice or on my retreats.


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4 Ways To Fire Up The Sexually Hungry Marriage

(31) Comments | Posted August 12, 2015 | 7:22 AM

It can go like this: You want sex and your partner doesn't. Or your partner wants sex and you don't. Or it seems like neither one of you wants sex and are more interested in watching Netflix. What's up with that? You know that you love each other and yet...

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9 Tips For Loving The One You're With

(3) Comments | Posted August 7, 2015 | 7:28 AM

There is no perfect man. Get over it. And in case you didn't get the memo, you aren't perfect either. I know, hard to believe. The issue is really that most of us don't understand relationship maintenance at all or really how to care for each other past the first...

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I'm Driving a Vulva

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2015 | 9:44 PM

I believe that sexual arousal, passion and anticipation energy when nurtured, allowed and channeled fuels more than genital orgasm: it fuels a creative orgasm.

Sexual arousal is the "Super Power" that so many of us are simply not tapping which I like to call "Creative Eroticism."

Some people call "sexual...

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The Next Sexual Revolution: Women Over 50

(6) Comments | Posted August 5, 2015 | 8:02 AM

Sing along with me: "First Comes Love, Then Comes Marriage, Then Comes Sally With The Baby Carriage"! Sexual awakening and restlessness happens a bit later on in midlife.

Erica Jong, known best for her book "Fear of Flying," wrote an op-ed for the Sunday New York Times about what...

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¿Estás reprimiendo tus propios orgasmos?

(1) Comments | Posted August 5, 2015 | 2:02 AM

¿Qué es lo que impide que tantísimas mujeres experimenten el placer de un orgasmo? ¿Es la nueva viagra femenina la respuesta?

Antes de que pienses siquiera en tomar la pastilla rosa, pregúntate esto: ¿cuándo fue la última vez que, durante un encuentro sexual, te concentraste exclusivamente en...

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The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Sex

(4) Comments | Posted August 3, 2015 | 8:51 AM

Her voice is full of panic and longing. "I want to be shameless" she cries. "I" the professional, "I" the parent, "I" the daughter, and "I" the secret slut. I'm unsure how to experience "want", as in desire. I have denied myself so much for so long. I'm no longer...

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The Flirtatious Fifties

(0) Comments | Posted July 30, 2015 | 3:25 PM

Let's set the scene:

I'm in downtown Riverdale, NY waiting in line at Starbucks to order coffee. I'm dressed in a sleeveless tank top (I'm sporting cleavage), and loose fitting flowing slacks. There is a very handsome, older tall man in front of me wearing a safari-style hat. He is...

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Sexcation Your Way To A Better Sex Life

(14) Comments | Posted July 21, 2015 | 7:05 AM

Sexcation is defined as a vacation devoted entirely to sex. Sexcations usually occur over a long weekend, and the couple spend most of their time either in bed, having sex or eating food worthy of photographing. Sometimes, couples take specialized sexcation retreats or workshops. Some even hire a sexpert to...

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The Epidemic of the Angry and Numb Vagina

(5) Comments | Posted July 13, 2015 | 5:44 PM

I'm a sex educator who gets to work with mostly "enlightened women." Women who are in some way already on their way to empowering their lives and connecting to their sexuality. And way too many of them are showing up at sexuality retreats and into private sex coaching...

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How To Reclaim Your Sexual Voice Through Orgasmic Yoga

(3) Comments | Posted July 13, 2015 | 6:05 AM

One of the more challenging things for many people when it comes to sex is to find out what really turns them on after having removed all of their shame and judgment. The next big step is to then state their desires aloud to themselves and to their intimate partners....

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The Badass Babes Guide To Living A Life Of No Regrets Starting Now

(4) Comments | Posted July 6, 2015 | 7:50 AM

We all live the consequences of our own choices; the question is whether or not our choices reflect the life we truly want to live. The women I work with around sexuality, body image and relationships ask me all the time -- how I do it. How do...

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Os 4 grandes erros que os homens repetem em seus relacionamentos

(3) Comments | Posted July 2, 2015 | 6:17 PM

Como coach de relacionamentos e sexo, vivo vendo homens que condenam seus relacionamentos ao fracasso, mesmo quando realmente amam e desejam sua mulher.

Como é possível querer realmente estar em um relacionamento, mas mesmo assim fazer tudo errado?

1. Você não dá a devida atenção à sua...

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12 erstaunliche Fakten über die Klitoris

(4) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 3:31 PM

Ich war kürzlich auf einer tollen Kunstausstellung rund um das Thema Klitoris, der Titel lautete „CLITERACY". Über die Klitoris wird selten in den Medien berichtet. Meist wird ihr von der Vagina die Schau gestohlen, die wiederum vom Penis in den Schatten gestellt wird, der am meisten Aufmerksamkeit erhält.

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