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Pamela Madsen
A pioneer in fertility advocacy, Pamela Madsen is the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association. She is a fearless advocate for women’s health and integrated sexuality who leverages her raw honesty and well-informed wit to help strip the stigma from infertility, female desire and body image. A well known sexuality coach specializing in the needs of women, her retreats: Back to the Body: Sensuous Retreats For Women have been sell outs.

Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and renowned blogger for Psychology Today, Better After 50 and Care2. She is the author of Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, January 2011). Please include the link to the book on Amazon.

Pamela has appeared on 60 Minutes, Oprah, CNN, AARP Primetime Radio, The Dr. Laura Berman Show, The Jane Pratt Show, and Playboy Radio.

Entries by Pamela Madsen

The Flirtatious Fifties

(0) Comments | Posted July 30, 2015 | 2:25 PM

Let's set the scene:

I'm in downtown Riverdale, NY waiting in line at Starbucks to order coffee. I'm dressed in a sleeveless tank top (I'm sporting cleavage), and loose fitting flowing slacks. There is a very handsome, older tall man in front of me wearing a safari-style hat. He is...

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Sexcation Your Way To A Better Sex Life

(14) Comments | Posted July 21, 2015 | 6:05 AM

Sexcation is defined as a vacation devoted entirely to sex. Sexcations usually occur over a long weekend, and the couple spend most of their time either in bed, having sex or eating food worthy of photographing. Sometimes, couples take specialized sexcation retreats or workshops. Some even hire a sexpert to...

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The Epidemic of the Angry and Numb Vagina

(5) Comments | Posted July 13, 2015 | 4:44 PM

I'm a sex educator who gets to work with mostly "enlightened women." Women who are in some way already on their way to empowering their lives and connecting to their sexuality. And way too many of them are showing up at sexuality retreats and into private sex coaching...

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How To Reclaim Your Sexual Voice Through Orgasmic Yoga

(3) Comments | Posted July 13, 2015 | 5:05 AM

One of the more challenging things for many people when it comes to sex is to find out what really turns them on after having removed all of their shame and judgment. The next big step is to then state their desires aloud to themselves and to their intimate partners....

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The Badass Babes Guide To Living A Life Of No Regrets Starting Now

(3) Comments | Posted July 6, 2015 | 6:50 AM

We all live the consequences of our own choices; the question is whether or not our choices reflect the life we truly want to live. The women I work with around sexuality, body image and relationships ask me all the time -- how I do it. How do...

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Os 4 grandes erros que os homens repetem em seus relacionamentos

(3) Comments | Posted July 2, 2015 | 5:17 PM

Como coach de relacionamentos e sexo, vivo vendo homens que condenam seus relacionamentos ao fracasso, mesmo quando realmente amam e desejam sua mulher.

Como é possível querer realmente estar em um relacionamento, mas mesmo assim fazer tudo errado?

1. Você não dá a devida atenção à sua...

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12 erstaunliche Fakten über die Klitoris

(4) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 2:31 PM

Ich war kürzlich auf einer tollen Kunstausstellung rund um das Thema Klitoris, der Titel lautete „CLITERACY". Über die Klitoris wird selten in den Medien berichtet. Meist wird ihr von der Vagina die Schau gestohlen, die wiederum vom Penis in den Schatten gestellt wird, der am meisten Aufmerksamkeit erhält.

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10 Tips For Seducing Your Man Away From His Smartphone

(0) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 6:16 AM

If it was easy to keep people erotically charged by each other after they enter a long-term relationship, sex experts would be out of business. The fact is, that after the first few years of marriage or any relationship arrangement where people spend a lot of time together, interest can...

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11 consejos para una vagina feliz

(8) Comments | Posted June 28, 2015 | 9:57 AM

Las vaginas disfrutan, necesitan de tu atención, así que saber cómo mantener contenta a tu vagina es algo muy importante. Porque es que si tu vagina no está contenta, ¡nadie lo va a estar! Si eres una mujer de mediana edad, es posible que hayas notado que tu vagina y...

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12 Crazy Amazing Facts About The Clitoris

(456) Comments | Posted June 27, 2015 | 1:30 PM

I recently checked out an amazing art exhibition all about the clitoris, called "CLITERACY." Now, the clitoris doesn't usually get a lot of press. It's usually upstaged by the vagina, which is usually left in the dust by the attention that the penis gets.

So, to walk into...

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Can We Just Celebrate for One Minute Please?

(2) Comments | Posted June 27, 2015 | 10:09 AM

There was this moment yesterday, when Facebook turned into a sea of rainbows. When the White House turned the color of Pride. When the Gay Men's Chorus sang The National Anthem in front of the Supreme Court after the ruling and people around this country cheered and cried...

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16 Wege, wie ihr die Leidenschaft am Laufen haltet

(0) Comments | Posted June 25, 2015 | 3:38 PM

Was, wenn "sie lebten glücklich bis ans Ende ihrer Tage" doch etwas langweilig klingt und überhaupt nicht "natürlich"?

Ist euch schon einmal aufgefallen, dass in Märchen nach dem "bis ans Ende ihrer Tage" nichts mehr kommt? Monotonie funktioniert für viele großartig. Aber trotzdem ist schwindende Leidenschaft das größte Problem, das...

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Are You Holding Yourself Back From Orgasm?

(115) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 9:21 PM

What is stopping countless women from experiencing the pleasure of orgasm? And is the new female Viagra the answer?

Before you pop your first pill, ask yourself this: When was the last time during a sexual encounter that you were simply focused on being in the moment of sexual expression?...

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«Ils vécurent heureux...»: 16 conseils pour que le désir demeure ardent

(1) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 3:16 PM

Et si vivre heureux à tout jamais était ennuyeux et n'avait rien de naturel?

Avez-vous remarqué qu'après "Ils vécurent heureux...", c'est le silence radio dans les contes de fées? Et la monotonie a le vent en poupe chez beaucoup de gens, pourtant le plus gros souci que rencontrent les couples...

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"Ils vécurent heureux...": 16 conseils pour que le désir demeure ardent

(0) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 11:11 AM

Et si vivre heureux à tout jamais était barbant et n'avait rien de naturel?

Avez-vous remarqué qu'après "Ils vécurent heureux...", c'est le silence radio dans les contes de fées? Et la monotonie a le vent en poupe chez beaucoup de gens, pourtant le plus gros...

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The 4 Big Mistakes Men Consistently Make In Their Relationships

(91) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 8:48 PM

As a relationship and sex coach, I watch men blow relationships even when they actually love and desire their woman.

How can we really want to be in relationship and yet make a mess of it?

1. You don't bring her your presence.

Presence is about...

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Beyond 'Happily Ever After': 16 Tips For Keeping Desire Alive

(618) Comments | Posted June 22, 2015 | 5:34 AM

What if "Happily Ever After After" was boring and didn't come "naturally"?

Have you noticed that nothing ever comes after "Happily Ever After" in fairy tales? And monotony works fabulously for lots of people and yet the biggest problem couples and individuals have is the loss of desire.


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Women and 'Desire Hunger'

(0) Comments | Posted June 12, 2015 | 4:28 PM

Women oppress our desires with stuff. When we fill ourselves compulsively with food, or shopping or exercise, or drama, it's basically hitting the stop button on being fully alive and fully ourselves. We allow ourselves to starve our souls until we can't take it anymore. We are frightened of our...

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The Fascinating Truth About Woman And Sex After 50

(3) Comments | Posted June 11, 2015 | 4:55 AM

When a woman calls me for sexuality coaching she is often around 50-years-old. Sure, I help women in their fabulous forties and younger, and while the sexuality wake-up call can happen at any time, for many women, turning 50 triggers their sexuality alarm clock in a big way....

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Busted! 5 Myths About Sex After 50

(50) Comments | Posted June 4, 2015 | 7:25 AM

One of the fastest growing markets in sex education today is the "Baby Boomer." They grew up in the hot '60s and are now confronting their own myths around sexuality, midlife and aging. Most Boomers grew up believing that life after 50 was a fast trip into a kind of...

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