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Paul David Walker

Paul David Walker

Posted: August 10, 2009 11:37 PM

Are We Arguing While Our World Falls Apart?

What's Your Reaction?

Nero fiddled while Rome burned and we are arguing, continuously trying to be right while our worlds falls apart. On every newscast, talk show, and yes, even here on the Huffington Post, it seems most of our energy is expended trying to be right, rather than finding solutions to the ever-increasing problems our world faces. We all have a position we want to defend! As journalists we are rewarded for creating controversy. Talk show hosts yell and try to put each other down, instead of using their wisdom to explore together to find the answers. Once someone, perhaps you, has decided his or her thoughts are right, it is impossible to see what is really going on. The need to be right feeds our adrenaline rushes while it blinds us from seeing reality. What makes it worse is our media feeds the whole cycle.

Our Thoughts Are at Best an Approximation of Reality

Thought is at best an approximation of reality, not reality itself. Yet we fight and die for our thoughts, beliefs and values: Right Wing, Left Wing, Conservative, Liberal, Christian, Atheist, Jew, Muslim, Hindu, fundamentalists of all kinds -- pro-choice, anti-choice, trickle-down, supply-side, socialists, government healthcare, and privatize everything. Can all the prophets of blabber just take a break? We may speak the same language, but we are now becoming the modern tower of babble. We are all intelligent on some level, and surly we know that what we are saying is not exactly real. In our hearts we must realize that we have painted ourselves into a corner.

We all see "our own reality" because of the effect of thought and our egos that are made up of thoughts, but there is a reality that has momentum outside of our thoughts and speculations. Over history, those who have ignored the flow of this reality have suffered and perished. It is like we are standing on the beach as the bay empties on soapboxes screaming our theories into the wind as the shadow of a great wave comes over us.

Our Children Are Watching

Sadder yet, some get caught up in these proclamations and believe one point of view or another, or they just check out with bizarre behaviors crying out for love as we argue. If you have any inkling that your thoughts might not be exactly right, just stop and reflect. Look beyond both sides and see if you can make contact with the flow of the greater reality.

Absorb and Integrate the Flow Before Speaking

There is a flow of cause and effect that has momentum and rhythm and informs all creation, you know it as you look upon nature's beauty, or find yourself like an athlete in "the zone," responding effortlessly to the movement of a complex game. The only way to understand the complexity of life is to absorb and integrate in the present. Great leaders can feel the flow and rhythm of the market or world events, and being informed by this flow their thoughts lead people to peace and understanding. They see the sea empty out and lead their people to higher ground before the wave crushes them.

What are we doing with our words? Are we leading people to higher ground or are we creating rhetoric to draw attention ourselves? Test what you say with your heart's deepest desires, instead of your ego's needs, before you speak or write. Don't follow the herd; lead them to greener pastures.

 
 
 

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09:11 PM on 08/17/2009
Great points Paul. Wanting to be right as opposed to collaborating towards a meaningful solution is the fundamental reason for human conflicts and many wars. However our media is not responsible for creating this problem, it is only highlighting a human problem. We notice this kind of behavior in organizations, in social meetings and even in family discussions. A majority ( not all) of talk show hosts, politicians and people in the media are our representatives of this behavior. They probably would not get the ratings for their shows or will not get elected otherwise - we are watching and listening to them and we are voting for them. So who is really responsible?

In our great democracy we have a choice - we can turn on the program we want to watch and vote for the public representative we prefer. In that sense they represent our collective consciousness.
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12:24 AM on 08/30/2009
Thanks for your comment. The media plays a role, but I wonder if they are playing into our dark side. Giving us what we want to see and hear about. It seems a deep shit in our consciousness is needed.
01:02 PM on 08/13/2009
Great insights! Thanks, Paul!!
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12:24 AM on 08/30/2009
You are welcome.
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radical green architect
09:37 PM on 08/12/2009
I too have no idea just how to address this common failure and bring about change, unless the Simpsons require reading objective news before watching.....
as always, all solutions posed find themselves many answers, regardless of intent or value - and we are the worse for it. I really appreciate your topic and the resonance here. Sadly, there is no good solution my friend.
John Ruskin had a good point about the difference between hearing, seeing, listening and looking.

Hmmm, now why did I write this?
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radical green architect
09:35 PM on 08/12/2009
part II

Michael seems to believe that response of a post/article is commensurate with a positive (or negative) public consensus. I believe this is simply the result of unintended spin our national media has decided at that moment to focus on. Sarah Palin still in the news? If enough broadcasters focus on the pink elephant, we all will be discussing it, no matter the rhetoric or value of this discussion. It's called BROADBAND for a reason, right? Btw, the obvious second most prolific human behavior trait is to destroy. History proves this.
Case in point: Michael Jackson's passing and THE COVERAGE. Why was this of any social/cultural importance? People ALWAYS die, even the famously unimportant (oops "insignificant") ones. What has MJ done that is of consequence and of lasting value to humanity? His donations? The public impact was so considerable that reporting had to pick it up, everywhere, print, radio, TV, internet.... but the MJ Specials that then followed? Does our humanity improve when a notable public personality passes, even with the equivalent of a fifth grade education? I see no loss and a lot of death tax benefit gains.

Paul is certainly accurate that we are failing as a nation now due to the prominence issue. The need to be heard regardless of the value of the comment is all too pervasive. Instead of providing the positive commentaries needed to help our perceptive economy (Goolsbee) heal, we are barraged by nonsense that is anything but newsworthy.
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09:33 PM on 08/12/2009
Wow, again - such great concepts to consider. I read your post twice, then walked away,
thinking: Should I respond? We do not have anything else but this approximation of reality.
Will your positivity help us in our common pursuits? No.

I must ask why you think our democracy is about arguing? I think this system of governance is about control, the control of money which provides the power to control more. This is argued ad nauseam. It certainly is not about the freedom of expression and the pursuit of liberty some postulate. Same goes with the corporate bottom line, the balance sheet determines the course of action, not the coaching or meaningful education and mediation skills of their leaders.

Rarely, Paul, do I see initiatives, regardless as to their issuance, by the boss, the board, the support staff, or even by consumers, that is proposed and implemented because of the common good of the argument -and for the well-being of its constituents. From local government, municipalities, to our national interests in DC, the balance of power, and how we regulate ourselves, is anything but altruistic.

There is nothing democratic here, as Obama has realized from his early days in Chicago.
02:22 PM on 08/12/2009
This article resonates!

In watching "Why We Fight" and "Breaking the Bank" on PBS - both shows connect the dots to Warnings for American citizens (not consumers) to see how many are consumed with distracting activity while the major corporations are controlling many aspects of our daily lives.

I wonder what it will take to help this country truly wake up and see the "turning around points" before we face more disaster.

I applaud your insights, Paul, and hope many others will read and spread your wise questioning. It's heart warming and soul tending to be a part of the dialog solution. I'm grateful for social media!
07:53 PM on 08/12/2009
Thank you so much. Spread the word.
10:43 AM on 08/12/2009
I was doing research for a new client last night, and this is exactly what was happening in the office. It was the boss against everyone else. I guess this is why coaches/consultants are needed, they try to take the middle ground and create a solution.
11:14 AM on 08/12/2009
Thanks Cory, the stronger an opinion is taken the stronger the resistance and polarity. It is because our language is based on comparison ... Right/wrong, good/bad etc. You cannot say or think something in language without making comparisons. Yet the universe is not operating in this manner. It is an endless flow without limits. Focusing on comparison or thoughts applies limits that are not real and takes us away from the greater reality, which is the source of happiness.

Thought is useful for navigating through the universe, but over use of thought can be dangerous to your health. Our thoughts are our description of what is happening around us, but they do not represent the actual reality. They take us away from the actual reality. It is like eating the menu instead of the food. Over time you will suffer malnutrition and constipation.
10:37 AM on 08/12/2009
I am trying to find people who want to discover answers to our difficult problems and participate in implementing solutions. Pass to word around if you will.
12:20 AM on 08/12/2009
Dear Paul,

I love your positivity here; thanks for posting it.

And yet, sadly, I predict that you will get relatively little response from positivity.

I've co-written a positive piece here, which received zero comments,

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/magatte-wade-and-michael-strong/africa-the-new-edge-the-n_b_179225.html

Whereas this highly partisan issue prompted 5,556 comments,

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/18/bush-breaks-silence-goes_n_217271.html

Of course, don't feel badly; this controversial post about breast implants only received 3,448 comments:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/05/01/miss-californias-breast-i_n_194385.html

My conclusion? That this insight is sadly true:

"the oldest human pleasure other than sex: ganging up on your enemies."

I'd be delighted to be surprised, and see your article receive as much attention as Bush hatred or a breast implant controversy.

Peace,

Michael
10:30 AM on 08/12/2009
Thanks for the advise, but it is certainly a comment on the state of our world. I am trying to draw people into meaningful conversations instead of tabloid journalism. All my blogs are all positive, tell your friends so we can start a trend.