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Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC
Dr. Paul Dunion earned an Ed.D from the University of Massachusetts, and MA and BA from the University of Connecticut, and has taught Philosophy at the University of Connecticut and elsewhere. He is a Licensed Professional Counselor with his own counseling and consulting practice. He has led over 300 workshops on a wide range of topics and is available for speaking engagements. Dr. Dunion is also the cofounder of Boys to Men (mentoring teenage boys), founder of the Croton Mystery School, leader of Connecticut's Men's Gathering (COMEGA) and author of several books. Website:; Path of the Novice Mystic is available at, and

Entries by Paul Dunion, Ed.D., LPC

The Healing of Very Young Love

(0) Comments | Posted January 26, 2016 | 5:28 PM

Our first nine months of womb life are about being literally attached by the umbilical chord to the mother. This attachment supports survival with a flow of blood, water, air and nutrients to the fetus. We might say that our first earthly lesson is that by being attached, we survive....

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Hermes' Seven Secrets

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2016 | 7:53 PM

There appear to be seven axioms guiding curriculum at the ancient Mystery Schools in Egypt. These principles are credited to an ancient magus by the name of Hermes Trismegistus. Let's examine these seven axioms and their contemporary usefulness toward raising of consciousness.

1) Mentalism. Mentalism is the...

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The Quiet Wound

(0) Comments | Posted January 1, 2016 | 11:13 AM

Unlike wounds resulting from physical or sexual abuse, where the invasive energy is blatant, the wounding energy of emotional incest is stealthy and very difficult to track. The intrusive psychic energy of the perpetrator is packaged in care and attention. It can be quite challenging to break into this care...

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Welcoming Compassion for the Self

(1) Comments | Posted December 12, 2015 | 8:54 AM

Before we can develop a genuine capacity for offering ourselves compassion, we must be able to acknowledge how self-loathing lives in us and be able to interrupt it (See "Getting Mindful About Self-Loathing"). Let's look at some concrete methods for fostering self-compassion.

*Interrupting the Purposes of Our Self-loathing -- The...

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Getting Mindful About Self-Loathing

(1) Comments | Posted November 30, 2015 | 1:10 PM

Nothing plagues efforts toward creating a life characterized by serenity and contentment more than self-loathing. Attempts to loosen the grip of self-repugnance are thwarted by two significant psychological dynamics. The first is denial and the second is trying to vault our psyches into the garden of self-love, catapulted by positive...

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The Art of Self-Forgiveness

(0) Comments | Posted November 11, 2015 | 7:29 PM

We are taught that forgiveness is something we give to others and receive from others. Folks who are in some way offended, hurt or violated by us are allegedly in control of whether or not we are deserving of forgiveness. This leaves us virtually out of control regarding the role...

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Hierarchy vs. Holding Rank

(0) Comments | Posted November 3, 2015 | 8:30 AM

There is immense confusion about the distinction between hierarchy and holding rank. Many of us of felt the bite of hierarchy throughout our childhoods and it may have extended into adulthood. Hierarchy suggests that those possessing certain competencies or socio-economic status are somehow better people than those lacking such skills...

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Spiritual or Spiritual By-Pass

(1) Comments | Posted October 27, 2015 | 12:14 PM

Spirituality, like all human endeavors, can be reshaped in order to avoid the tough stuff of life. Nothing can be more demanding than deepening and broadening our psychological maturity. An ancient definition of the word psyche is soul. We can say there is soul work to do. Typically, this deepening...

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What's Misandry?

(9) Comments | Posted October 16, 2015 | 11:51 AM

I canvased over 300 people representing a wide range of socio-economic backgrounds, regarding the word denoting hatred of girls and women. Approximately 94 percent of those polled correctly identified the word as misogyny. When asked to name the word defining hatred of boys and men, less than 2 percent were...

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The Betrayal of Manhood

(0) Comments | Posted October 10, 2015 | 1:14 PM

"Boy, it's time for you to die!" proclaims an indigenous chief flanked by tribal elders dressed in their ritualistic garb, about to address an American boy whom they found lost in the jungle and raised. (From the film "The Emerald Forest," based upon a true story.) An unspoken tragedy of...

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Unity Consciousness

(0) Comments | Posted October 5, 2015 | 2:58 PM

Unity Consciousness mostly means thinking and ultimately acting in ways that unite us to ourselves, others, Nature or to the God of our understanding. In this article we will examine Unity Consciousness as it pertains to our relationship to others. If the Dali Lama was correct in saying "all beliefs...

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Dealing With Differences

(1) Comments | Posted September 15, 2015 | 12:06 PM

The Honeymoon of a relationship is inundated with endless ways two people are similar. There is ongoing delight over how much the two have in common. As each person's unique values and needs surface, the initial enchantment begins to fade. It's time to either lament over the loss of something...

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"Am I Getting It Right Yet?"

(0) Comments | Posted September 5, 2015 | 12:57 PM

Countless American males are living in committed heterosexual relationships driven by the question: "Am I getting it right yet?" Our culture continues to drive home the message if males are emotionally bankrupt, then they are real men. One expression of emotional bankruptcy is not feeling emotional needs, unable to name...

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The 7 Sustainables

(0) Comments | Posted September 4, 2015 | 1:40 PM

More than ever, it appears to be critical to get clear about what it means to create a sustainable relationship with life. We advocate being educated; acquiring wealth, fame and popularity are regularly endorsed as ways to approach life. We may need to move beyond the bankruptcy of an ego...

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Misled Into Leadership

(0) Comments | Posted August 11, 2015 | 3:50 PM

We have come to believe that leadership is ultimately and mostly something that happens between people. It is a way we manage people. Beginning with such an exterior focus of leadership may be misleading. It may be that what we witness as leadership is implemented as an outcome of something...

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Beauty of Belonging

(0) Comments | Posted August 1, 2015 | 2:28 PM

If we think of beauty as the heart rejoicing in what it senses and feels, then there can be a vast amount of beauty in our experience of authentic belonging. We relinquish an opportunity for an experience of sublime belonging when we take refuge in anonymity. The challenge is to...

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The Hazards of Non-Belonging

(0) Comments | Posted July 27, 2015 | 2:57 PM

An old definition of the word belong is nearby. One implication is that we are motivated to bring our bodies, minds and hearts closer to a place, person or group when we experience belonging. Authentic belonging is accompanied by a comfort to reveal who we are. There is buoyancy to...

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What Is This Thing Called the Present?

(1) Comments | Posted July 6, 2015 | 1:15 PM

Living in the present or the here and now has been an extremely popular axiom from nearly every spiritual tradition. Said this way, the present is a noun, a measure of time that we are better off living in. However, since each moment is so easily eclipsed by the next,...

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'Tranquilized by Trivia'

(1) Comments | Posted July 4, 2015 | 1:43 PM

The above quote by the 19th century Danish Philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard, was a reaction to his own times, likely, unaware of how prophetic the statement was. We are all aware of the popularity of a myriad of sedative substances, including alcohol, street drugs and pharmaceuticals. We may not have realized...

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Some Insight Into Integrity

(0) Comments | Posted June 1, 2015 | 9:54 AM

Describing someone as having integrity typically suggests that person exemplifies a life of decency and righteousness. The emotional component to our descriptions of someone as upright might simply be that we approve of that person's actions. It may be helpful to deepen our understanding of integrity beyond a declaration of...

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