Sexual predation on children and youths is back in the national spotlight since Jerry Sandusky, the former Penn State football defense coordinator, has been accused of sexually assaulting multiple boys over 15 years.
It doesn't take much imagination to understand the horrors and damage caused by sex offenders offenders. And it's hard to talk about the facts of any criminal behavior since misinformation is common and ideas contrary to misinformation are quickly associated as soft on crime. The nuances of any criminal behavior are complicated.
A lot of sex offenses involve an over consumption of alcohol resulting in sexual assault and other inappropriate behaviors that have nothing to do with children. However, concerning children, we should not worry about sex offenders as a broad category; we need to worry specifically about pedophiles. Pedophiles are a certain type of sex offender. Pedophilia is a specific mental disorder classified in the DSM, and to be clear, acting on impulses is also a crime. Pedophiles have a sexual interest in children; most, but not all, act on this interest but for those who do, it is serious crime. Not all sex offenders are pedophiles, however, by definition, all pedophiles who act on their sexual interest in children are sex offenders and criminals.
Protecting Children
Since experts estimate that only 1 in 20 cases of child sexual abuse is reported, the implication is that there are a sizable number of sex offenses and therefore sex offenders out there who are going unpunished. With this in mind it is very important: 1) that a child knows what constitutes inappropriate contact (something called "good touch, bad touch" training); 2) to say no when boundaries are crossed; 3) to report inappropriate contact to a parent and other trusted persons; and 4) that the child has done nothing wrong and should be praised for being brave enough to put aside the stigma wrongly associated with being a victim. Also, sex offenders try to find children on the Internet; kids need to be made aware of risks and parents need to monitor activity.
Most Internet sex predators target teens, not children. With this in mind, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children has several resources to reduce this risk, as does the Crimes Against Children Research Center. But most is not all so we cannot stop there.
A total of 60 to 70 percent of sex offenses on children are done by acquaintances of the child. With this in mind, an effective strategy would begin by addressing this huge proportion of victims. It should also be made clear to the child that inappropriate contact can come from strangers and someone known and trusted by the child. It is extremely important to let the child know that anything that happens to them is not their fault; that they have done nothing wrong; and they are not going to get in trouble for reporting any and all inappropriate contact.
Since 30 to 40 percent of victims are not an acquaintance of the offender, another extremely important thing that can be done is for parents to educate their children about the risks associated with strangers and how to be smart while alone. But more importantly, according to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Chlidren, or StopItNow, there are several things that parents can and should do to keep their children safe.
Kids don't come with instruction manuals. Parents and caregivers need to be taught what symptoms to look for that indicate abuse. Education on points parents need to address with their children about sex offending is something that needs to be offered more.
It is important to know what works and what doesn't in keeping children safe. For example, the program "Stranger Danger" has been found to be ineffective and, consequently, is a false sense of security. Since most sex offenses on children are done by people they know, "Child Safety Zones" and even sex offender community notification laws are also a false sense of security.
We have to be clear who we are talking about when considering risk. Contrary to popular belief, as a group, sex offenders have the lowest rate of recidivism of all crime categories. This is important to consider when creating crime policy. As awful as high profile examples sex abuse cases are, such as Jaycee Dugard or Elizabeth Smart, it is important to remember that high profile events are high profile precisely because they are unusual and unlikely. Making policy based on high profile events is a surefire way to overreact and make inefficient and, worse, ineffective policy. A high profile event is good time find out where a shortcoming of a policy or a failure of a policy might reside, but a high profile event is not what policy should target. Doing so would result in the majority of cases being marginalized and a strategy designed around an unlikely event.
Even though sex offenders have a low rate of recidivism, there are some people who should never be released back into society and won't be. This may be especially true for persons diagnosed with pedophilia (more needs to be know about pedophiles and their propensity to re-offend); meanwhile, in Kansas v. Hendricks, the U.S. Supreme Court has said that civil confinement is acceptable if a danger to society is demonstrated. But if prison is our way of dealing with sex offenders, or any criminal for that matter, it will have been too late; the crime and damage will already have been done. Parents are their child's best line of defense against sex offenders.
Paul Heroux previously worked for a prison and for a jail for over four years, and with children for over seven years. He holds a Master's in criminology from the University of Pennsylvania and a master's in public administration from the Harvard University JFK School of Government. Paul can be reached here.
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little voice that tells us when something is wrong or bothering our child. Trust your instincts. Listen to your children. Pay attention if they tell you they don't want to be with
someone or go somewhere. This may be an indication of more than a personality conflict or lack of interest in the activity or event. Practice basic safety skills with your children and reassure them, you're there to help and not to blame, and it is
okay to tell you anything. I was scanning through a few blogs and found this article on a Safety Service for my children. It seemed interesting so I checked it out on Facebook and actually got 15 days free. Here's the article: http://anationofmoms.com/2011/08/protect-your-family-giveaway.html
People are also not aware that many sexual predators 'touch with their eyes'
long before they initiate any physical contact. This is subtle and insidious.
For example, my father spent endless hours with his Super 8 movie camera,
filming us as we ran around in our swimsuits (we lived on a lake). To the adult
observer, this looked like a doting father recording his kids' antics for posterity.
But the reality of what was going on in his mind was far different, as became
clear to me when I was 13 and he took me on a trip and started to fulfill the
fantasies he had been nurturing . . .
http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Healthday/story?id=4510555&page=1#.TsN-7j3NmtQ
I certainly do not want to see my teenager targeted for sexual advances by an adult. But as a society we have to come to terms with all that is done to sexualize teenagers, making them very attractive to perfectly normal adults. Men are hardwired to be visual as well as attracted to nubility. It seems pretty hypocritical to me to have the actresses on Glee (who may not be teens but represent teens), or Miley Cyrus or Brittany Spears (when she first started) wear next to nothing, or better yet, wear schoolgirl uniforms, slither around like Playboy models, and then we scream pervert when a man is sexually turned on! WHAT did you expect!!!??
http://psychcentral.com/news/2008/02/19/internet-predators-target-teens-not-kids/1936.html
As a parent, you can discuss prevention and let your child know, you know it's not their fault and that they should come to you, another trusted adult they feel comfortable in telling. Another way is to bring them to and allow them to attend at school programs that teach them prevention of childhood sexual and other abuses, teaching them to protect themselves, making them aware of this.
Juvenile Justice System, Children's Aide Society, other programs in your neighborhoods that conduct classes for both parent and child. Virtus on-line is another program that deals with this issue.
Shana Rowan