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Dr. Paula Bloom
Dr. Paula Bloom is a practicing clinical psychologist, speaker, frequent mental health and relationship expert on the CNN networks and co-author of Why Does He Do That? Why Does She Do That? Two Relationship Experts Reveal the Naked Truth About Dating in the 21st Century. She has been featured in Cosmo, Woman’s Day, Men's Health, Beliefnet and Dr. Sanjay Gupta's blog on Her private practice is located in Atlanta where she lives with her husband, their two unicycling children and a 2 rescued dogs named Shayna and Sienna.
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Entries by Dr. Paula Bloom

Valentine's Day: Gift-Giving and Game-Playing

(1) Comments | Posted February 4, 2015 | 1:02 PM

I know the following statement may fall into the "duh" category but here goes:

You are more likely to get what you want if you actually ask for it.

I know, shocking, right? As Valentine's Day approaches I'm reminded of all the game playing involved with gift giving in romantic...

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Home for the Holidays: 5 Tips for Not (Completely) Losing It

(0) Comments | Posted November 21, 2012 | 7:00 PM

You do yoga, drink green tea, and read every self-improvement book that comes out. You know that it is important to use "I" statements when giving feedback about how you are feeling. You have it together, you are evolved, and you've got the whole emotional intelligence thing under control.


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Accessing Faith Through Treating Depression

(112) Comments | Posted June 9, 2010 | 3:40 PM

"I don't believe in medication; I have faith and just need to be more connected to God."

I hear this a lot. Faith and spirituality can be powerful sources of strength, happiness and meaning. I know this to be true from reading scientific studies, listening to clients' stories and...

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PBS's 'This Emotional Life': Can Facebook Help You Grieve?

(6) Comments | Posted May 11, 2010 | 11:56 AM

As a psychologist I'm often asked about what I think of social media. I've discussed the harm that can be done by the lack of accountability that can come from relative anonymity. I've spoken various times on TV about the "retrosexual" syndrome which is basically the idea of being stuck...

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PBS's This Emotional Life: How is Simon Cowell the Key to Better Relationships?

(1) Comments | Posted April 1, 2010 | 10:24 AM

Hi, my name is Paula and I like American Idol. I am ready to admit this which I guess is the first step in my recovery. (Though I don't think I have a problem because I can stop DVR'ing it anytime I want.)

Like many Americans, one of...

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PBS's This Emotional Life: 5 Lessons I Learned From My Vacuum Cleaner

(2) Comments | Posted March 24, 2010 | 9:35 AM

Wisdom comes to us in many different ways. Sometimes a friend will ask you for advice and you find yourself saying what you yourself most need to hear. Other times you go to a faith community and feel the sermon is totally directed at you and your current dilemma. Bumper...

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What Can You Do To Lower Your Kids' Future Therapy Bills?

(9) Comments | Posted February 23, 2010 | 9:58 AM

"You're right, I'm the worst mom ever. This will give you another thing to tell your future therapist," you say to your daughter. While kidding -- at least halfway -- the modern parent is beginning to see therapy in their child's future as inevitable, a necessary part of being a...

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Poisonous Resentment

(1) Comments | Posted February 18, 2010 | 12:02 PM

Colombia is a country with frequent kidnappings, often with tragic results.

Such was the case of a father who reported his 11-month-old son kidnapped, then joined in the frantic search for his missing child. The outcome was terrible: the child was found to have been killed by his own father.

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Transforming Your Pain Into A Gift For Others

(2) Comments | Posted February 15, 2010 | 10:40 AM

A woman I'll call "Sasha" was referred to me by her primary care physician after her 12-year-old daughter died suddenly of unknown causes. This doctor believed Sasha needed therapy because of what happened. While therapy can be a powerful tool, most of life's solutions are not found on the couch....

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Just Do It! Does Action Precede Motivation?

(17) Comments | Posted February 11, 2010 | 2:39 PM

As I write this my father is in the ICU. He is very sick with a multitude of issues and struggling to breathe. I feel so sad and powerless and am resisting the urge to do something to get rid of these very healthy, normal feelings. These feelings are so...

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Evangelical Pessimists, Stop Trying to Convert Me!

(7) Comments | Posted February 3, 2010 | 12:22 PM

There is a natural tendency in all of us to want to be validated. Feeling connected to others is a key to physical and emotional well being. We all want to feel heard.

Have you had the experience of someone telling you how bad his or her life is? You...

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PBS' 'This Emotional Life': Your Diagnosis Does Not Define You

(2) Comments | Posted February 1, 2010 | 1:31 PM

If you had a broken leg how would you tell someone? Would it be "I am broken leg" or "I have a broken leg"? Unless you are a caveman it would likely be the latter. We recognize that a broken leg is not a representation of who we are. It...

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