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Paula Spencer Scott is the content chief at and the author of Surviving Alzheimer's: Practical Tips and Soul-Saving Wisdom for Caregivers. She covers women's inner lives and outer roles, from babycare to eldercare.

She's been a Met Life Foundation Journalists in Aging fellow, a columnist for Woman's Day, and a contributing editor of, Parenting, and BabyTalk. She's also the author of Momfidence, Pregnancy Journal, and The V Book, among others.

Her websites are and

Entries by Paula Spencer Scott

Finally, a Cool Formula for Teaching Kids How to Be More Grateful, From a Gratitude Researcher (and Dad)

(0) Comments | Posted November 18, 2015 | 5:26 PM

'Tis the season... for asking kids to name what they're grateful for over turkey... for nudging them to give thanks for all those holiday presents...

... And, oops, for being slightly mortified by their, um, oblivious lack of gratitude?

Alas, kids don't come by an attitude of gratitude naturally. Just...

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Is It Dementia Or Alzheimer's Or Normal Aging? (Does It Matter?)

(10) Comments | Posted June 30, 2014 | 8:50 AM

"What's the difference between Alzheimer's and dementia?" I hear that question constantly. Doctors see another version of this confusion: "It looks like dementia," they say. Then the patient (or a family member) replies with relief, "At least it's not Alzheimer's!"

Of course, Alzheimer's is dementia (though not all dementia...

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5 Things I Miss About My Dad's Alzheimer's

(2) Comments | Posted June 10, 2014 | 2:10 PM

What could I possibly miss about Alzheimer's? Sure, it would have been best -- would have been bliss -- had my dad's dementia never happened. But it did. Distressing as it was for everyone who knew and loved him to see him change, our good times didn't end. In fact,...

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The Scary Part Of Alzheimer's That You Can Prevent

(3) Comments | Posted May 31, 2014 | 6:40 AM


"So are you going to be tested?" my 19-year-old daughter asked me over dinner. This came after a string of questions about Alzheimer's: What are the first signs? When do they appear? Do people with the disease know they have it?


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6 Timely Things to Know If Your Mom Has Alzheimer's

(2) Comments | Posted May 6, 2014 | 1:02 PM

If your mom has Alzheimer's disease, Mother's Day, other holidays, and her birthday can be bittersweet. It's hard enough to watch your mother get older. Being an eye-witness to a brain-altering disease can also try your patience and break your heart.


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12 Mother's Day Regrets I Can't Fix

(19) Comments | Posted May 3, 2014 | 8:22 AM

I often hear people say they wish they'd visited their mothers more, or been more generous with the "I love you's." But I don't think I disappointed on those scores. Mama-daughter drama? None. So why, then, do a bouquet of regrets still...

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10 Creative Ways to Help When Your Help Isn't Wanted

(0) Comments | Posted April 14, 2014 | 5:59 PM

The number-one reason older adults often refuse assistance is fear of losing control. (It's numbers two, three, and four, too.) It's almost irrelevant that the need for help may be clear due to an illness like Alzheimer's or stroke. Parents are driven by a need for control, and their adult...

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9 Ideas For Music Therapy For Alzheimer's Patients At Home

(5) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 4:51 PM

My dad couldn't always remember my name, but he could sing every word of "The Blue Skirt Waltz." When he danced with his youngest granddaughter to Frankie Yankovic, the effects of his dementia disappeared into a polka beat.

Musical memories are stored in various areas of the...

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Don't Believe These 6 Excuses That Add Stress to Alzheimer's Care

(0) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 12:18 PM

Stress -- petty or epic, sneaky, relentless -- is like the evil twin of Alzheimer's when you're caring for someone with the disease.

Of all the things that help lower caregiver stress -- knowledge about what to expect, insight into why behaviors happen, healthy self-care -- possibly...

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5 Naked Truths About Sex, Your Parents -- and Alzheimer's

(1) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 11:03 AM

Sexual urges can run hot and bothered long after an Alzheimer's diagnosis -- in ways that can often leave surprised targets simply bothered. Imagine your dad grabbing for your breasts or your mom trying to French kiss your husband. Or seeing your demure stepmother suddenly open her shirt at brunch...

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The Little Question That Can Change Alzheimer's Care

(1) Comments | Posted March 10, 2014 | 4:01 PM

One day, my dad, who had dementia, kept moving like one of those figurines in a German clock, over and over in the same formation. Only in this instance, he was literally moving a clock. Four, five, six times, he'd lift an old wall clock from its peg, open up...

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