Tentativeness Made Simple

Syadvada is a practice of tentativeness in expression that is associated with the ancient Jain tradition of India (Radhakrishnan & Moore, 1957). In Sanskrit, the word syad means "perhaps" or "maybe" or "in some ways." Syadvada system consists of a total of seven propositions that were designed specifically to counteract dogmatic thinking when attempting to describe the multifaceted complexity of reality. Practice the following three parenthetical phrases as a way of infusing a degree of tactful tentativeness:

In some ways, it is.
In some ways, it is not.
In some ways, it is and it is not.

When encountering a point of view that you disagree with practice responding with any of these statements. Say, you propose something that I ardently disagree with. Instead of firing back that "You are dead wrong!" I'd do well to communicate my disagreement with the help of Syadvada style tentativeness: "in some ways what you say is so" or "in some ways what you say is so and in some ways it isn't." Try Syadvada style statements to keep the channels of communication open and to tone down the unattractive definitiveness of certainty.

Pavel Somov, Ph.D. is the author of "Eating the Moment" (New Harbinger, 2008), "Present Perfect" (NH, 2010), and "The Lotus Effect" (NH, 2010). He is in private practice in Pittsburgh, PA. For more information visit www.eatingthemoment.com and sign up for Pavel Somov's monthly "Mindful-not-Mouthful" Newsletter

 

 

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Comments

[Pavel Somov, Ph.D. - Huffpost Blogger]

Thanks, Diogenes of Alaska, for your on-the-nose sarcasm. Indeed! Indeed!

[DiogenesOfAlaska]

you're welcome!

[DiogenesOfAlaska]

Are you saying that there's more than just bottom-line thinking?

Wow. I'd have to reconsider all of world history before I have any idea what that would actually mean in application to what selective and competitive pressures are telling me.

It could actually result in a finding to the effect that the world is different from what I was told it was like.

[Romulus]

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