Pega Ren
Pega Ren holds a master’s degree in Public health and a doctorate in education in sexology. Besides her academic achievements, she has enjoyed teaching in the Women’s Studies and Continuing Education departments at Simon Fraser University, has written and hosted her own TV show on OUT-TV, has been a columnist for Xtra newspaper for the past seven years, and runs a practice in sex and relationship therapy.

You can read her many articles, and learn more about her and the work she does, on her lively website,

Entries by Pega Ren

Can I Be a Lesbian and Date a Trans Man?

(25) Comments | Posted June 15, 2015 | 1:46 PM

As a sex therapist in private practice, I'm asked all sorts of interesting questions on a regular basis. The following touched on sensitive and important issues deserving of being shared with others. Here's the question. Do you agree with my answer?

I'm a politically active high femme lesbian....

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Catch a Predator? Target One!

(0) Comments | Posted November 13, 2013 | 6:42 PM

The University of British Columbia in Vancouver has been plagued by a series of sexual assaults. All the victims have been female, and all have been attacked late at night while walking by themselves. They have identified their attacker as being a white male, in his early twenties, with a...

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Why Miley Cyrus Is Actually a Good Role Model for Girls

(73) Comments | Posted August 29, 2013 | 5:44 PM

If we hadn't noticed Miley before the MTV Video Music Awards, we have now. In a few brief minutes, she made herself the subject of every armchair critic's opinion. They agreed: little Miley was outrageous, indecent, and slutty. Though her ratings jumped, media response was definitively negative.

The next...

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Four Tips For a Passionate Valentine's Day

(1) Comments | Posted February 11, 2013 | 12:20 AM

As a sex and relationship therapist, I count Valentine's Day -- dedicated to love and lust -- among my favourite holidays. Not everyone agrees. With traditions so rigidly entrenched, it can become the annual romantic Olympics. Anxiety can run high.

It can be especially tough for couples who have moved...

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Time to Reconsider Those Resolutions

(0) Comments | Posted January 28, 2013 | 5:59 PM

With winter's weather reminding us it is still January even while our memories of eggnog and wrapping paper are rapidly fading, those of us who dutifully write New Year's resolutions are likely sorting them into two categories, self-congratulatory Hey, I'm doing wells and self-critical Whatever was I thinking?s.


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Do You Need a Sex Therapist?

(2) Comments | Posted November 5, 2012 | 12:30 PM

How does a sex therapist work with your medical doctor?

When people encounter a physical problem, they often discuss it first with their family physician. Those doctors often refer to specialists who have focused training and expertise. Sex therapists are one of these specialists.

On the other hand, sometimes...

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Break Out of Your Duty-Sex Pattern and Have Fun

(10) Comments | Posted September 7, 2012 | 1:00 AM

I recently attended a colleague's seminar concerning professional coaching, in which she skilfully wove together values and goals. She explained that when our values are in conflict with our goals, we procrastinate. This was illustrated by one participant's story of how, though an academic with a Master's degree and several...

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What to Do When Your Young One's "Playing Doctor"

(7) Comments | Posted July 16, 2012 | 1:00 AM

It's common for our children to surprise us with how fast they are growing. As a child I always looked forward to the packages that arrived seasonally from my year-older cousins, full of wonderful clothes just ready for me. My mother packed up similar boxes for my younger cousins, greeted...

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Depression Has Many Faces

(2) Comments | Posted May 9, 2012 | 9:17 AM

We've all been depressed. We use the term often and loosely, describing sadness or unrelenting lethargy or any point in between. Many take prescription medications to alleviate the symptoms, while others self-medicate with alcohol, drugs or bad behaviour.

We grudgingly exercise to lift depression's cloud, or we pull up...

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Balls in Your Court to Keep Clean

(3) Comments | Posted March 9, 2012 | 11:55 AM

Genitals require very little care to function properly throughout a lifetime, but as with anything valuable, they appreciate being looked after. Some basic maintenance helps these organs provide years of pleasure.

In infancy, the foreskin protects the penis from infection and injury. There is no medical or logical reason for...

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Reigniting Romance

(1) Comments | Posted February 14, 2012 | 2:22 PM

Remember when you were sixteen and you had just gotten your permit to drive? Remember the thrill, the power, the status of that driver's license? Can you recall the concentration you paid to each minute detail of the driving experience?

Let me compare that to the flush of new romance,...

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What's Your Anger Style?

(0) Comments | Posted February 8, 2012 | 5:03 PM

Try as we might to keep our emotions in check, we invariable get irritated and sometimes succumb to expressions of anger. We display our individuality in our anger styles. We learn these as children, watching our elders deal with difficult situations. We can usually, for instance, recall Mom's and Dad's...

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Therapy: Can You Handle the Honest Truth?

(1) Comments | Posted January 13, 2012 | 9:54 AM

During my years of training, both academic and experiential, I have learned all sorts of methods of softening the messages I delivered to my clients. One of the most effective was reframing, like telling someone they were good at finding methods to meet their needs instead of remarking about all...

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Saving it for a Special Occassion? Don't!

(5) Comments | Posted December 22, 2011 | 3:30 PM

We learn early to reserve the use of the best of our things for special occasions, for others. This practice may, however, signal more than meets the eye about how we view ourselves and our world. Let me give you an example.

During the Christmas holidays, I was visiting a...

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Put Sizzle Back Into Your Relationship (Without Sex?!)

(13) Comments | Posted October 12, 2011 | 10:08 AM

Let me see if I've got it right. You've been with that bright, independent, good-looking woman for a number of years now. You've learned how to weather the storms and support each other in the important decisions. You are really pretty content but you miss that fiery hot sex you...

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Why Doesn't Anyone Date Anymore?

(8) Comments | Posted October 7, 2011 | 10:06 AM

Fifty years ago parents wrung their hands wondering what to do with their daughter who was 'going steady' with her high school sweetheart. Back then, parents encouraged their daughters to see many boys, correctly believing that this would provide experience with a wide array of relationship styles, promoting better choices...

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