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Dr. Peggy Drexler
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Dr. Peggy Drexler, Author, Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family

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I am an Assistant Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Weill Medical College of Cornell University and former Gender Scholar at Stanford University.

I’ve spent my career studying sex and gender: men and women, boys and girls, and how they come together in families. As the concept of family continues to pass through a time of stress and redefinition, my research has taken me deep into their lives. I’ve explored who they are, what they want, and how they are changing. It’s been a fascinating journey.

I’ve had a life-long interest in how children are affected and shaped by their relationships with the men and women in their families. I’ve looked at how these early associations influence how they live, work and love– and how content they are with the adults they have become.

Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family is about the changing connection between fathers and daughters. (Rodale, May 10, 2011). Using my personal story, research, and the first person stories of the many women I’ve interviewed, the book examines the state of a powerful bond in a time of unbridled female choice and opportunity. It explores how daughters can enhance the bond, and even recreate it, by breaking through the roles and assumptions of the past.

My first book was the much discussed, Raising Boys Without Men. It introduced readers to boys in single and two-mother families. The book earned wide praise and was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life Award and a Lamda Literary Award.

I’ve been fortunate to share my ideas and findings in a variety of academic settings, including presentations at Harvard Law School and Harvard Medical School.

I’ve also appeared on and written for a wide range of national and international media, including: The Today Show, Good Morning America, NPR, New York Times, USA Today, Good Housekeeping and Parents magazines. My blogs appear regularly on Huffington Post.

Entries by Dr. Peggy Drexler

Five Things People Do to Hurt Their Careers -- And How to Stop Doing Them

(3) Comments | Posted September 19, 2014 | 1:42 PM

Happiness within the modern workplace is improving, sure. We talk less about discrimination, and we're getting closer to equal pay regardless of gender. But that doesn't mean that workers are thriving unhindered. The big difference is that these days, the barrier to advancing is more likely to be self-constructed. That's...

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Pistorius Negligent But Not Guilty of Murder: Sadly, I'm Not Shocked

(69) Comments | Posted September 12, 2014 | 9:24 AM

The latest shocking development in the conversation surrounding domestic violence comes at the hands of a South African judge who found Olympic athlete Oscar Pistorius "negligent," but not guilty of murder in the Valentine's Day 2013 shooting of his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp. Today's final verdict of "culpable homicide" is a...

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What Ray Rice Should Mean for NFL's Female Fan Base

(204) Comments | Posted September 9, 2014 | 4:25 PM

If the men of the NFL won't stand up against violence toward women, then the women of the NFL need to.

According to Adweek, the Super Bowl was the most watched TV program among women this year. Sure, there was Bruno Mars. But more and more women are coming...

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6 cose in cui uomini e donne sono (solitamente) diversi

(7) Comments | Posted August 28, 2014 | 7:20 AM

Sia noi che loro vogliamo avere tutto dalla vita. Ma le ricerche dimostrano che in realtà abbiamo ben poco in comune.

Ho passato buona parte della mia carriera di psicologa ad esaminare le differenze, così come le somiglianze, tra uomini e donne nell'approcciarsi alla vita e alle esperienze che...

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6 Ways Men and Women Are (Mostly) Different

(27) Comments | Posted August 27, 2014 | 8:56 AM

We both want it all. Beyond that, research finds we have less in common.

I've spent most of my career as a psychologist examining the differences, as well as the similarities, between how men and women approach life, and the experiences that make up that life: How they work, how...

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Dear Daughters: 'Because You Can' Is a Reason to Drink to Excess -- Just Not a Very Good One

(20) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 2:30 PM

In recent months there's been much discussion about how, and how badly, colleges, as a whole, have failed students who have been victims of sexual assault. Much of the dialogue has centered on the "victim-blaming" that goes on (and on). Victim-blaming is telling a survivor of assault that she "asked...

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The Sexist Truth About Office Romances

(13) Comments | Posted August 9, 2014 | 10:15 AM

Men do it for love. Women do it to get ahead. That's the outrageously biased way people judge office romances -- and another example of women getting a bum deal.

According to a survey of 8,000 workers by the job-search website, four out of 10 employees have dated someone...

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Why It's Wrong to Condemn The Bachelorette's Nick

(42) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 3:07 PM

Nick Viall is pop culture's unlikeliest feminist

Monday night's finale of The Bachelorette, ABC's long-running guilty pleasure, was uncharacteristically surprising for a show whose formula has been well-established and its storylines fairly predictable. The show's final weeks have the Bachelorette -- this time, an Atlanta woman named Andi Dorfman...

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The Trouble With Gender Quotas

(6) Comments | Posted July 29, 2014 | 11:19 AM

What we know: Having women in the boardroom is a good thing. But are more women a better thing? That depends, of course, on how they get there.

The persisting imbalance of women in positions of power has spurned debate in recent years over whether or not companies should...

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Are Workplace Bullies Rewarded for Their Behavior?

(27) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 8:11 AM

As a longtime hotel manager for upscale resorts across the U.S., Sandrine had spent her career believing that good service was the key to success. That included being courteous to your guests--and to your co-workers. Which is why the company's latest "star" employee, Russ, confounded her. He'd been hired as...

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4 Steps to Manage Up When Your Boss Is an Obsessive Micromanager

(4) Comments | Posted July 18, 2014 | 5:14 PM

Micromanaging can show up in many forms, but most typically in bosses who dictate how employees complete tasks, question employees' judgments, frequently ask for updates, and check in incessantly. While the line between effective involved leadership and micromanaging can be thin -- detail-oriented or obsessive? Constructive or controlling? -- many...

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It's Impossible to Know What Goes On Inside a Marriage or a Family

(30) Comments | Posted July 14, 2014 | 8:13 AM

It's easy to forget in our culture of celebrity gossip and social media overshares that most married people live very private lives. Marriage, even bad marriage, is an intimate thing very often crafted of secret histories and shared truths. And it is impossible to know exactly what goes on behind...

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Women Believe Sexual Assault Is Part of the Female Experience

(45) Comments | Posted June 24, 2014 | 10:09 AM

In his June 5 column, conservative syndicated columnist George Will wrote about the proliferation of sexual assaults on college campuses and the problem those schools are facing as a result. He's not talking about the mounting allegations of Title IX violations, nor the drop in applications at certain schools that...

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Find Out If You Are Hard Working or Working Too Hard

(4) Comments | Posted June 20, 2014 | 8:05 PM

Many people confuse hard-working people with workaholics.

What is workaholism?

Workaholism is more than a dedication to your job. It's a near-obsessive commitment that supersedes most, if not all, other aspects of life. For many, workaholism is a true addiction, inextricably tied to feelings of self worth and identity.

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The Importance of Being Fluent in the Language of Texting

(8) Comments | Posted June 12, 2014 | 8:36 AM

Can we tlk?

On the eve of the Battle of Bull Run, Major Sullivan Ballou of the 2nd Rhode Island Volunteers wrote to his wife about his fears of dying (justified as things turned out) in the coming battle.

"I shall always be near you; in the brightest...

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Can Work Ethic Be Learned?

(23) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 9:18 AM

Parents are told--among the many, many things modern parents are told--that it's important to instill in their children a strong work ethic. There are plenty of ideas for how to go about doing this. Some insist the kids take on chores or, later, summer jobs. Others make an effort to...

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College Grads: Should You Work For A Woman?

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 4:46 PM

This month, hundreds of thousands of college seniors will graduate and enter the workforce. And, it seems, few of them have the luxury of being picky: According to a new poll by career-networking website AfterCollege, 83 percent will not have landed a job by the time they collect their diploma.

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5 Strategies to Being Your Own Boss

(11) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 10:15 AM

Among the hundreds of thousands of twenty-somethings graduating from American colleges this month, an increasing number may consider forgoing the traditional first job search and opting instead for what has become something of the new American dream: Being your own boss.

The latest figures from the...

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Sexuality and Sexual Orientation

(7) Comments | Posted May 17, 2014 | 10:01 AM

Wondering how to have a conversation with your children about sexuality and sexual orientation?

These days, it's becoming more and more impossible to define "normal." That's a good thing. Go into nearly any classroom and you'll see the physical landscape of children looks vastly different than it did a...

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OMG It's Mother's Day: Last Minute Gift Suggestions

(3) Comments | Posted May 11, 2014 | 9:38 AM

If you live nearby, a visit never fails. My favorite mothers' days have been the ones I've spent at home and that feel like any other lazy Sunday morning, but with my kids and my husband and all three dogs lazing around with me. Maybe you bring over muffins and...

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