Peggy Drexler

Peggy Drexler

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Dr. Peggy Drexler has spent her career studying men and women: who they are, what they want, how they act, how they're changing.

Her latest focus is on the new American family, which led to the much-discussed book: Raising Boys Without Men: How Maverick Moms are Creating the Next Generation of Exceptional Men. Her work received wide praise - for showing that effective families come in many forms, including mothers single by choice and lesbian parents - and sharp criticism by those who believe the word family has just one definition.

She is currently at work on a new book about fathers and daughters.

Dr. Drexler has been a clinician and lecturer at the New York Hospital/Cornell Medical School, researcher at Stanford University as a Gender Scholar, and is currently Assistant Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at the Weill Medical College of Cornell University.

She is an in-demand speaker, with presentations at Harvard Medical School, Harvard Law School and many other colleges and universities across the United States. She has appeared on numerous television shows, including Good Morning America and Today. She frequently offers her expert commentary on gender, families and the lives of boys to national, local, international and professional publications. Among them: Newsweek, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The San Francisco Chronicle, The Village Voice, The Houston Chronicle, The Seattle Times, The Observer (United Kingdom), Ma'ariv (Israel), O Estado De S. Paulo (Brazil), Cosmopolitan, Health, Child Magazine, Maclean's Magazine (Canada), The Huffington Post, Women's eNews, The Bulletin of The Menninger Clinic and others.

She and her husband of over 30 years have two children - a daughter fourteen and a son twenty-eight.

Blog Entries by Peggy Drexler

Sexism, Politics and Equal-Opportunity: Media Doesn't Just Pick On The Girls

Posted July 1, 2008 | 01:02 PM (EST)


The Clinton camp is complaining bitterly that Hillary's campaign was done in by rabid media sexism. Maybe so. But a little perspective says it comes with the territory - and both genders are fair game.

No doubt, being female was a factor in coverage. There was a parade of subtle...

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My Daughter Is 16. The World Is Crazy. I'm Looking For Ideas.

51 Comments | Posted June 26, 2008 | 06:19 PM (EST)


I read about the 17 teenagers at Massachusetts high school who became pregnant last school year - pact or coincidence, take your pick. I look at my beautiful 16-year old daughter. And I wonder about the state of young women in America.

I have to ask myself a very difficult...

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Ladies Choice - What does America Want?

34 Comments | Posted June 23, 2008 | 12:02 PM (EST)


Come January, one of two women is going to be keeping house with the leader of the free world.

The question: what kind of first lady do Americans want? In recent history, the answer came down to style and likeability. How else can Laura Bush's approval ratings remain high in...

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Looking For A Women's Candidate? Check For Daughters

18 Comments | Posted June 13, 2008 | 09:42 AM (EST)


At this point in my life, reproductive rights are not a big issue. I don't need fair funding for my field hockey team. Equal pay for equal work is not a problem. I don't see any glass ceiling I need to crack.

But I look at my...

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Don't Vote Chromosomes: The First Woman Must Be The Right Woman

Posted May 31, 2008 | 05:22 PM (EST)


I was talking to a friend about the tortured persistence of the Clinton campaign and she said: "She needs to stay in. This will be the last chance in my lifetime to vote for a woman for president."

There are a lot of women of a certain...

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Hillary Should Stay in Because She Can

Posted May 15, 2008 | 11:39 PM (EST)


The Democratic Party is starting to wonder if Hillary Clinton is in it to win it, or doin it to ruin it.

Players and pundits are opining about motivations. Is she angling for a spot on the ticket in hopes of engineering a palace coup four years from now? Does...

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Humbly Submitted: A New Stump Speech for Hillary Clinton

Posted May 9, 2008 | 10:39 AM (EST)


Dear Senator Clinton:

When I heard that you have now spent about $12 million of your own money on what is looking increasingly like a mathematical impossibility, I had a thought.

Since you're paying for this anyway, and the odds of winning are about the same as W and Michael...

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Mother's Day Forecast: I'll Embrace an Empty Nest

Posted May 5, 2008 | 12:55 PM (EST)


Mother's Day marks a time for some women to reflect on years past and what lies ahead once the kids are gone. After 30 years with children, Peggy Drexler is preparing to contemplate a loss that's ahead of her and how to embrace her empty nest.

Mother's Day was always...

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I'm Mad At Everybody - Except My Dogs

Posted April 30, 2008 | 02:48 PM (EST)


The recent Harris Interactive study that quantified stressed-out Americans focused on immediate and personal causes - like jobs, household budgets and dwindling personal time. And those pressures are all very real.

But those issues are spikes in an ever-elevating baseline of stress that comes from issues that are beyond our...

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Take My Wife, Please: Angst and Ambivalence in the Clinton-Clinton Campaign

Posted April 23, 2008 | 12:19 PM (EST)


The people of Pennsylvania have spoken and the show goes on. Not just the political campaign, but a marital drama unlike anything in American politics.

The interplay between husband-campaigner and wife-candidate is wonderfully and uniquely personal. And on levels I don't think have been fully absorbed by voters - curious...

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America's Pollsters: I'm Standing By to Take Your Call

Posted April 14, 2008 | 11:10 AM (EST)


I'm starting to feel inadequate. Across the decades since I have been eligible to vote, I have not received one single phone call asking me how I plan to vote.

So I did a mass mailing from my e-mail address file including friends, relatives, people I barely know and...

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The Family Meal: Why Moments Speak Louder Than Numbers

Posted April 11, 2008 | 04:00 AM (EST)


It's amazing to me how quickly the arguments about what is - and is not - an effective family defaults to big numbers when in reality, the effectiveness of families is measured in small moments.

It's as if citing percentages in the outcomes for kids of single...

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Is The Primary Making Me Paranoid?

28 Comments | Posted March 31, 2008 | 04:45 PM (EST)


Something has been nagging me about Chelsea Clinton's Lewinsky moment at Butler University. As we all know by now from the infinite news loop, a young man asked her if her mother's credibility had been damaged during the Monica Lewinsky scandal - as in dad was getting busy with interns...

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It's Not Just What You Say...

12 Comments | Posted March 26, 2008 | 02:42 PM (EST)


It's been a very long eight years. I was reminded of that as I listened to Barack Obama's amazing speech on race in America.

Just as you eventually get used to the annoying buzz from a failing light fixture, we have become accustomed to the snarling...

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Will Hillary Ever Be One Of The Cool Kids?

220 Comments | Posted March 24, 2008 | 12:48 PM (EST)


Madeleine Albright once said, "Anybody who thinks the world would be a better place if run by women doesn't remember high school."

I think about that. I remember the power players in my own high school. And I think about Hillary Clinton and women voters.

Studies of...

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In Praise Of The People Behind The Numbers

Posted March 14, 2008 | 06:05 PM (EST)


A note showed up in my e-mail the other day. It was from somebody who - well, let's just say he is not a fan.

He pointed out the published results of a 20 year study at Sweden's Uppsala University that showed active and regular engagement with...

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Millions For Your Mortification

Posted March 4, 2008 | 02:18 PM (EST)


Like so much of our culture these days, game shows are getting mean.

I was watching Deal or No Deal the other night - fine, I'll try to get out more - and I started wondering whether I was watching a game show of a finely tuned act of public...

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The Incredible Shrinking Man

Posted February 22, 2008 | 02:16 PM (EST)


If television reflects the state of the sexes, men are in trouble.

I've watched two episodes now of ABC's Cashmere Mafia and I see a gaggle of males who are insecure, dependent, jealous and damaged. I caught a few episodes of Big Shots, and I see stooges with money -...

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Mothers, Sons And Mysteries

Posted February 17, 2008 | 07:07 AM (EST)


A friend told me that she asked her 13-year-old son what is the most important thing about being a boy. He said: "Taking care of others."

She asked how I would interpret that answer. (As a psychologist, I get that a lot.) And like any psychologist, I answered with a...

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The Long Goodbye

Posted February 11, 2008 | 06:51 PM (EST)



I'm going to miss my newspaper.

We've been together a long time. I care about it. I need it.

I'm one of the people the godfather of medium and message Marshall McLuhan was talking about when he said "People don't read newspapers, they slip into them like a...

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