Dr. Peggy Drexler
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Dr. Peggy Drexler, Author, Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family

You can reach me through this Web site: www.peggydrexler.com

I am an Assistant Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Weill Medical College of Cornell University and former Gender Scholar at Stanford University.

I’ve spent my career studying sex and gender: men and women, boys and girls, and how they come together in families. As the concept of family continues to pass through a time of stress and redefinition, my research has taken me deep into their lives. I’ve explored who they are, what they want, and how they are changing. It’s been a fascinating journey.

I’ve had a life-long interest in how children are affected and shaped by their relationships with the men and women in their families. I’ve looked at how these early associations influence how they live, work and love– and how content they are with the adults they have become.

Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family is about the changing connection between fathers and daughters. (Rodale, May 10, 2011). Using my personal story, research, and the first person stories of the many women I’ve interviewed, the book examines the state of a powerful bond in a time of unbridled female choice and opportunity. It explores how daughters can enhance the bond, and even recreate it, by breaking through the roles and assumptions of the past.

My first book was the much discussed, Raising Boys Without Men. It introduced readers to boys in single and two-mother families. The book earned wide praise and was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life Award and a Lamda Literary Award.

I’ve been fortunate to share my ideas and findings in a variety of academic settings, including presentations at Harvard Law School and Harvard Medical School.

I’ve also appeared on and written for a wide range of national and international media, including: The Today Show, Good Morning America, NPR, New York Times, USA Today, Good Housekeeping and Parents magazines. My blogs appear regularly on Huffington Post.

Entries by Dr. Peggy Drexler

7 fatos sobre a relação entre pais e filhas

(0) Comments | Posted June 26, 2015 | 5:42 PM

Escrevi meu livro Our Fathers, Ourselves depois de encontrar pouquíssimas pesquisas sobre pais e filhas. Apesar da evolução dos papéis sociais de homens e mulheres, o vínculo entre pai e filha - quer seja um vínculo forte e reforçador ou algo quebrado ou inexistente - ainda exerce influência enorme sobre...

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Fathers Are Not Mothers to Their Daughters

(30) Comments | Posted June 20, 2015 | 10:38 PM

I set out to write a book Our Fathers Ourselves after finding very little research on fathers and daughters. Despite the evolution of women's and men's social roles, the father-daughter bond -- whether strong and nurturing or broken or non-existing -- still holds an enormous sway over women. No matter...

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Women On Top?

(40) Comments | Posted June 12, 2015 | 8:45 AM

Every time a woman leaves a big organization to start her own business, the media goes a little nuts: Powerful Woman breaks free from the shackles of The Man to take back the office! Oh, the feminism of it all. In recent years, there have been plenty of high profile...

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Women Are Growing Tired of Conforming to Men's Standards

(191) Comments | Posted May 30, 2015 | 9:23 AM

High heels have always been central in the battleground of sexual politics, with feminists and other pro-gender egalitarians often at odds. One on hand, many wonder if it's possible to argue for gender equality while hobbling around on six-inch heels. On the other: How is what women wear relevant at...

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Teach Your Kids To Talk To Strangers

(45) Comments | Posted May 22, 2015 | 5:51 PM

Of all the public service campaigns embraced throughout the years, that which seems to have made one of the more lasting impressions is also among the more misguided: Don't talk to strangers. The phrase has become a sort of unquestioned edict passed from parent to child, from one generation to...

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Will We Ever Get Along Again?

(88) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 7:55 AM

In late April, thousands of mourners said their goodbyes to Freddie Gray, the 25-year-old black man who died of a spinal cord injury while in police custody in Baltimore. It was not a peaceful day of mourning. Teenagers pelted police with rocks, boards, and blocks of concrete, accusing them of...

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10 Questions Answered About Fathers and Daughters

(13) Comments | Posted April 21, 2015 | 1:54 PM

1. How do daughters learn from their fathers? Are there lessons fathers are better able to teach than mothers?

More and more, fathers are treating their little girls like they might have treated sons in the past: teaching them to fish, taking them camping, familiarizing them with things like car...

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Indiana's RFRA May Help End Bigotry

(141) Comments | Posted April 17, 2015 | 1:09 PM

The latest news out of Indiana shows Governor Mike Pence's popularity taking a big hit, with a recent poll conducted by Bellwether Research putting Pence's approval rating at 45 percent, down from 62 percent in February. The decline has been linked to the state's implementation of the controversial Religious Freedom...

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Mean People Suck But They Are Often Successful

(35) Comments | Posted March 13, 2015 | 8:40 PM

I don't know John Boehner or Ted Cruz personally. They might be nice guys. But I don't think so.

As a T-shirt I've seen often on the streets of Manhattan says: "Mean people suck." And yet they seem to pop up everywhere: in the airplane seat in front of...

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6 Things to Do If You Work for a Jerk

(15) Comments | Posted March 7, 2015 | 9:34 AM

I recently had a sit-down with a colleague -- call him Frank -- who was notoriously hard to work with -- rude, dismissive, sarcastic and impatient. His meetings were hand-to-hand combat. He was known to start arguments in the elevator. Frank is also brilliant.

I asked him why go through...

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In Praise of Mother F------ Bosses

(16) Comments | Posted February 27, 2015 | 5:36 PM

There was a time when being the boss was pretty straightforward business. If you had the title, you made the rules. It's doubtful that Henry Ford ran many employee satisfaction surveys. Likewise, President Lyndon Johnson probably didn't spend a lot of time thinking about employee engagement, once offering the definition...

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Sons Can Never Really Please Their Dads

(60) Comments | Posted February 13, 2015 | 10:08 AM

The Broadway favorite "Kinky Boots," an emotional roller coaster of a story based on the 2005 film of the same name, has gotten attention for its racy bits, musical sass, and overall very modern appeal. It's a high-energy show: There is song and there is dance. But the musical hit...

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Millennial Women Are Taking a Laissez-Faire Approach to Romance

(52) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 7:35 AM

Recent talk about young women and sex has centered around the "hookup culture," and how millennials are forgoing serious relationships in favor of casual hookups; sleeping with men but not dating them; and taking a laissez-faire approach to romance. In many ways, this shift makes sense: In a competitive, media-driven...

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The New Meaning Of Success For Professional Women

(0) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 12:05 PM

The old saying, "Success is getting what you want and happiness is wanting what you get" might well sum up the dilemma of many professional women. Certainly, many gladly make the sacrifices and adjustments necessary to get what they want. Maybe that's working until midnight in order to catch their...

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Helicopter Parenting by the Governor of California

(53) Comments | Posted January 16, 2015 | 7:38 AM

We are on the brink of a "Yes Means Yes" revolution. In the fall, California governor Jerry Brown signed legislation requiring colleges in the state to adopt sexual assault policies demanding "affirmative, unambiguous, and conscious" consent throughout any sexual encounter. "No Means No" isn't enough anymore. We know now that...

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Women Are Criticized for What They Spend and Men Are Admired

(140) Comments | Posted January 9, 2015 | 7:04 AM

A recent Daily Mail story reported that Gwyneth Paltrow--Hollywood actress, Martha Stewart of the X Generation, former rock star wife--spends upwards of £14,000 (roughly $22,000) a month on a beauty regimen that consists of regular facials, weekly blowouts, intravenous vitamin therapy (it's a thing), and various types of...

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Mom And Dad, Please Explain This One to Your Daughters

(250) Comments | Posted January 2, 2015 | 10:03 AM

Some months back, April 9, 2014 to be exact, Senate Republicans blocked -- for the third time -- the Paycheck Fairness Act, a bill proposing to close the pay gap between men and women. The goal of the bill -- the attainment of equal pay for equal work -- seems...

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Is Your Boy Bully Potential? 5 Ways to Avoid

(27) Comments | Posted December 26, 2014 | 8:47 AM

*Quentin, three-and-a-half, was happily darting around the playground, like usual, when out of nowhere another little boy kicked him in the shins. Quentin looked stunned, like he couldn't believe what had just happened. But he didn't kick back. First, he cried for a few minutes -- not unusual for a...

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Mean Girls Versus Sluts: Some of Us Are At It Again

(22) Comments | Posted December 20, 2014 | 6:15 AM

Study after study confirms that women backstab, undermine and put down one another -- at work, in the PTA, out for drinks -- basically taking every chance they can to act out the movie Mean Girls long past high school.

Such "intrasexual competition" pressures young women to act and look...

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It's a Shame Body Shaming Is Part of American Culture

(17) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 12:56 PM

Body shaming is a part of American culture, at once abhorrent and everywhere. Women are shamed for being fat, skinny, tall, short, flat chested, busty, too plain, too sexy. But lately, there seems to be a different response from women -- frustration followed by acceptance and moving on.

Modern women...

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