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Dr. Peggy Drexler
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Dr. Peggy Drexler, Author, Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family

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I am an Assistant Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Weill Medical College of Cornell University and former Gender Scholar at Stanford University.

I’ve spent my career studying sex and gender: men and women, boys and girls, and how they come together in families. As the concept of family continues to pass through a time of stress and redefinition, my research has taken me deep into their lives. I’ve explored who they are, what they want, and how they are changing. It’s been a fascinating journey.

I’ve had a life-long interest in how children are affected and shaped by their relationships with the men and women in their families. I’ve looked at how these early associations influence how they live, work and love– and how content they are with the adults they have become.

Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family is about the changing connection between fathers and daughters. (Rodale, May 10, 2011). Using my personal story, research, and the first person stories of the many women I’ve interviewed, the book examines the state of a powerful bond in a time of unbridled female choice and opportunity. It explores how daughters can enhance the bond, and even recreate it, by breaking through the roles and assumptions of the past.

My first book was the much discussed, Raising Boys Without Men. It introduced readers to boys in single and two-mother families. The book earned wide praise and was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life Award and a Lamda Literary Award.

I’ve been fortunate to share my ideas and findings in a variety of academic settings, including presentations at Harvard Law School and Harvard Medical School.

I’ve also appeared on and written for a wide range of national and international media, including: The Today Show, Good Morning America, NPR, New York Times, USA Today, Good Housekeeping and Parents magazines. My blogs appear regularly on Huffington Post.

Entries by Dr. Peggy Drexler

The New Meaning Of Success For Professional Women

(9) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 1:05 PM

The old saying, "Success is getting what you want and happiness is wanting what you get" might well sum up the dilemma of many professional women. Certainly, many gladly make the sacrifices and adjustments necessary to get what they want. Maybe that's working until midnight in order to catch their...

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Helicopter Parenting by the Governor of California

(53) Comments | Posted January 16, 2015 | 8:38 AM

We are on the brink of a "Yes Means Yes" revolution. In the fall, California governor Jerry Brown signed legislation requiring colleges in the state to adopt sexual assault policies demanding "affirmative, unambiguous, and conscious" consent throughout any sexual encounter. "No Means No" isn't enough anymore. We know now that...

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Women Are Criticized for What They Spend and Men Are Admired

(140) Comments | Posted January 9, 2015 | 8:04 AM

A recent Daily Mail story reported that Gwyneth Paltrow--Hollywood actress, Martha Stewart of the X Generation, former rock star wife--spends upwards of £14,000 (roughly $22,000) a month on a beauty regimen that consists of regular facials, weekly blowouts, intravenous vitamin therapy (it's a thing), and various types of...

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Mom And Dad, Please Explain This One to Your Daughters

(250) Comments | Posted January 2, 2015 | 11:03 AM

Some months back, April 9, 2014 to be exact, Senate Republicans blocked -- for the third time -- the Paycheck Fairness Act, a bill proposing to close the pay gap between men and women. The goal of the bill -- the attainment of equal pay for equal work -- seems...

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Is Your Boy Bully Potential? 5 Ways to Avoid

(27) Comments | Posted December 26, 2014 | 9:47 AM

*Quentin, three-and-a-half, was happily darting around the playground, like usual, when out of nowhere another little boy kicked him in the shins. Quentin looked stunned, like he couldn't believe what had just happened. But he didn't kick back. First, he cried for a few minutes -- not unusual for a...

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Mean Girls Versus Sluts: Some of Us Are At It Again

(22) Comments | Posted December 20, 2014 | 7:15 AM

Study after study confirms that women backstab, undermine and put down one another -- at work, in the PTA, out for drinks -- basically taking every chance they can to act out the movie Mean Girls long past high school.

Such "intrasexual competition" pressures young women to act and look...

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It's a Shame Body Shaming Is Part of American Culture

(16) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 1:56 PM

Body shaming is a part of American culture, at once abhorrent and everywhere. Women are shamed for being fat, skinny, tall, short, flat chested, busty, too plain, too sexy. But lately, there seems to be a different response from women -- frustration followed by acceptance and moving on.

Modern women...

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Fight for the Right to Take Nude Photos

(42) Comments | Posted December 5, 2014 | 9:18 AM

The Internet often lets people do whatever they want to whomever they want. What often happens is more than a violation of privacy; it's flat-out criminal invasion. Prosecution, however, may be something of a long shot. Although a Florida man responsible for breaking into the private email accounts of more...

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On n'est jamais seuls à penser que nos enfants sont les plus beaux

(0) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 11:52 AM

Depuis que les réseaux sociaux se sont mués en monstres chronophages et protéiformes, les statuts de nos amis qui évoquent dans le détail les péripéties des membres de leur famille ont envahi notre quotidien. Un peu comme une séance diapos littéralement interminable... Résultat, on a envie de leur dire tous...

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Techies U R Da Best

(8) Comments | Posted November 27, 2014 | 9:22 AM

Just for the record, I'm thankful for my family, my work, my country, and those fighting to keep me safe. I deeply appreciate the gift of a beautiful sunrise, a long walk on the beach, and a swim in the ocean, and every day I get to be on the...

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'Yo Jackass, We All Think Our Kid Is the Cutest'

(35) Comments | Posted November 22, 2014 | 9:06 AM

As social media has mutated into a ravenous, many tentacled time-eater, news from our friends about their families' triumphs and trials has become omnipresent, unrelenting -- a never-ending vacation slide show from hell. As a result, every day there's a new complaint from those who follow: too much self-promotion in...

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Why We Love to Gossip

(20) Comments | Posted November 15, 2014 | 9:39 AM

Their are pros and cons of talking about other people, for men and women.

It is almost certain that deep in our past, a group of Mesolithic humans stood around a fresh kill, talking about someone who wasn't holding up his end of the hunting and gathering.

Jump ahead...

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Rich Kids: Money and the Teenage Brain

(4) Comments | Posted November 8, 2014 | 11:01 AM

Cyndi Lauper had a hit in the 1980s called "Money Changes Everything." She has a point. It may or may not buy happiness, but access to money does change things, including endowing the person with power.

Now, take a teenager and give them that power. What happens?

Justin Bieber, Lindsay...

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Online News Has Not Been the Death of Quality Reporting

(5) Comments | Posted November 6, 2014 | 2:10 PM

I love reading the newspaper. By which I mean the black-and-white, often-messy, use-two-hands, used-to-be-a-tree paper item that is delivered to front doors in increasingly few numbers. The paper paper. Indeed, I am one of those people Marshall McLuhan, who coined the phrase "the medium is the message," was talking about...

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The Hypocrisy of Plastic Surgery

(102) Comments | Posted October 27, 2014 | 7:34 PM

We can pretend that we pity Renee Zellweger for falling prey to society's expectations about women and aging, and condemn her for being so vain, but studies show that more, not fewer, people are undergoing plastic surgery. Botox is up. Fillers are up. And women and men are starting younger,...

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There's Now a Host of Ambitious Terminology for Women in the Workplace -- Are Men Feeling Left Out?

(13) Comments | Posted October 25, 2014 | 8:44 AM

Every study indicates Millennial males are an evolved model of masculinity: kinder, more accepting, not intimidated by dirty diapers, comfortable sharing power with a new generation of high-achieving females.

But how well do we really know them -- particularly in the workplace? The new generation of women at work has...

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Pretty Offensive -- Or Pretty Harmless?

(0) Comments | Posted October 21, 2014 | 9:58 AM

Interview magazine is causing a stir with its latest issue featuring a fashion spread entitled, "Pretty Wasted," in which a number of supermodels -- Anja Rubik, Lily Donaldson, and Daria Strokous among them -- are shown passed out in dirty alleys and slumped on sidewalks, empty bottles of alcohol strewn...

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Is Being a 'Tough Boss' Different for a Woman Than a Man?

(13) Comments | Posted October 18, 2014 | 2:19 PM

The existence of the Queen Bee -- the ultra-competitive, hypercritical female boss who has zero interest in fostering the careers of fellow women, possibly even actively seeking to keep them down -- has been much discussed. Is she real -- a real, live enemy to female career advancement? Or is...

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Parenting Suggestions for Totally Clueless Parents

(8) Comments | Posted October 11, 2014 | 2:54 PM

The past few years have seen a tremendous uprising of parenting experts, including baby nurses, parenting coaches, and, of course, mommy bloggers. Everyone has a different opinion, and there are endless outlets through which to voice that opinion. All day long, mothers engage in heated online debates over everything from...

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Why You Need to Brag More and 3 Ways to Do It

(1) Comments | Posted September 27, 2014 | 8:18 AM

Think hard: When's the last time you took credit -- really took credit -- for a job well done? Without giving props to others, shying away from praise, or otherwise shifting the recognition to anyone but yourself?

A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that women...

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