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Dr. Peggy Drexler
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Dr. Peggy Drexler, Author, Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family

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I am an Assistant Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry, Weill Medical College of Cornell University and former Gender Scholar at Stanford University.

I’ve spent my career studying sex and gender: men and women, boys and girls, and how they come together in families. As the concept of family continues to pass through a time of stress and redefinition, my research has taken me deep into their lives. I’ve explored who they are, what they want, and how they are changing. It’s been a fascinating journey.

I’ve had a life-long interest in how children are affected and shaped by their relationships with the men and women in their families. I’ve looked at how these early associations influence how they live, work and love– and how content they are with the adults they have become.

Our Fathers Ourselves. Daughters, Fathers, And The Changing American Family is about the changing connection between fathers and daughters. (Rodale, May 10, 2011). Using my personal story, research, and the first person stories of the many women I’ve interviewed, the book examines the state of a powerful bond in a time of unbridled female choice and opportunity. It explores how daughters can enhance the bond, and even recreate it, by breaking through the roles and assumptions of the past.

My first book was the much discussed, Raising Boys Without Men. It introduced readers to boys in single and two-mother families. The book earned wide praise and was a finalist for a Books for a Better Life Award and a Lamda Literary Award.

I’ve been fortunate to share my ideas and findings in a variety of academic settings, including presentations at Harvard Law School and Harvard Medical School.

I’ve also appeared on and written for a wide range of national and international media, including: The Today Show, Good Morning America, NPR, New York Times, USA Today, Good Housekeeping and Parents magazines. My blogs appear regularly on Huffington Post.

Entries by Dr. Peggy Drexler

Women Believe Sexual Assault Is Part of the Female Experience

(45) Comments | Posted June 24, 2014 | 10:09 AM

In his June 5 column, conservative syndicated columnist George Will wrote about the proliferation of sexual assaults on college campuses and the problem those schools are facing as a result. He's not talking about the mounting allegations of Title IX violations, nor the drop in applications at certain schools that...

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Find Out If You Are Hard Working or Working Too Hard

(4) Comments | Posted June 20, 2014 | 8:05 PM

Many people confuse hard-working people with workaholics.

What is workaholism?

Workaholism is more than a dedication to your job. It's a near-obsessive commitment that supersedes most, if not all, other aspects of life. For many, workaholism is a true addiction, inextricably tied to feelings of self worth and identity.

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The Importance of Being Fluent in the Language of Texting

(8) Comments | Posted June 12, 2014 | 8:36 AM

Can we tlk?

On the eve of the Battle of Bull Run, Major Sullivan Ballou of the 2nd Rhode Island Volunteers wrote to his wife about his fears of dying (justified as things turned out) in the coming battle.

"I shall always be near you; in the brightest...

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Can Work Ethic Be Learned?

(23) Comments | Posted June 3, 2014 | 9:18 AM

Parents are told--among the many, many things modern parents are told--that it's important to instill in their children a strong work ethic. There are plenty of ideas for how to go about doing this. Some insist the kids take on chores or, later, summer jobs. Others make an effort to...

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College Grads: Should You Work For A Woman?

(24) Comments | Posted May 29, 2014 | 4:46 PM

This month, hundreds of thousands of college seniors will graduate and enter the workforce. And, it seems, few of them have the luxury of being picky: According to a new poll by career-networking website AfterCollege, 83 percent will not have landed a job by the time they collect their diploma.

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5 Strategies to Being Your Own Boss

(11) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 10:15 AM

Among the hundreds of thousands of twenty-somethings graduating from American colleges this month, an increasing number may consider forgoing the traditional first job search and opting instead for what has become something of the new American dream: Being your own boss.

The latest figures from the...

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Sexuality and Sexual Orientation

(7) Comments | Posted May 17, 2014 | 10:01 AM

Wondering how to have a conversation with your children about sexuality and sexual orientation?

These days, it's becoming more and more impossible to define "normal." That's a good thing. Go into nearly any classroom and you'll see the physical landscape of children looks vastly different than it did a...

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OMG It's Mother's Day: Last Minute Gift Suggestions

(3) Comments | Posted May 11, 2014 | 9:38 AM

If you live nearby, a visit never fails. My favorite mothers' days have been the ones I've spent at home and that feel like any other lazy Sunday morning, but with my kids and my husband and all three dogs lazing around with me. Maybe you bring over muffins and...

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About a "Girl" Who Refused to Just Shut up and Take Orders

(379) Comments | Posted April 29, 2014 | 6:47 PM

Much has been made of the remarks, caught on an audio recording, that, it has now been confirmed, were made by Los Angeles Clippers owner Donald Sterling. They were racist comments and included demands on a woman the website TMZ identified as Sterling's then-girlfriend V. Stiviano, a 31-year-old woman of...

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The Top Pros and Cons of Life in the Twitterverse

(4) Comments | Posted April 25, 2014 | 1:30 PM

One of the best things about Twitter -- indeed, perhaps its greatest appeal -- is in its accessibility. It's easy to use both for sharing information and for collecting it. Twitter provides unprecedented access to our lawmakers and to our celebrities, as well as to news as it's happening. A...

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Not All Women Get to Decide Between Opting Out and Leaning In

(97) Comments | Posted April 19, 2014 | 8:48 AM

The Pew Research Center released a report showing that, following a long-term decline, the number of stay-at-home moms is on the rise. Nearly 30 percent of American mothers with children under 18, Pew found, do not hold a job outside the home, up from 23 percent in 1999. On the...

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Equal Pay for Equal Work a No-Brainer, Right?

(160) Comments | Posted April 15, 2014 | 8:31 AM

Last Wednesday, Senate Republicans blocked -- for the third time -- the Paycheck Fairness Act, a bill proposing to close the pay gap between men and women. The goal of the bill -- the attainment of equal pay for equal work -- seems like a no-brainer, right? Women with the...

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Raising an Entrepreneur

(4) Comments | Posted April 11, 2014 | 10:53 AM

Last year, my son started his own business, called Alex Mill, a collection of clothing for men and boys. Fashion retail also happens to be his father's line of work, though the connection really does end there. While Alex certainly could have asked his...

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How Much Do Partners Need to Share?

(13) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 11:58 AM

Apple's newest iPhone features a fingerprint sensor that can recognize up to five prints. Will your partner's be one of them? It's a very modern quandary to be sure, but the cellphone has become an undeniable symbol of trust in relationships -- or the lack of it.

Many people struggle...

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Whether in Cookies or Cars: Buyer Beware

(47) Comments | Posted March 22, 2014 | 12:34 PM

I just opened a pack of Girl Scout cookies. The Samoas (chocolate caramel and coconut. To me, one of the basic food groups) are the size that LifeSavers used to be. (And LifeSavers are the size of Jujubes.) They are part of the incredible shrinking packaged goods phenomenon. Like frog...

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The Courage of Pussy Riot

(1) Comments | Posted March 7, 2014 | 5:11 PM

The women of Pussy Riot were attacked again today. This time by six men at a McDonald's restaurant in the city of Nizhny Novgorod. They were attacked with garbage, pepper spray and green antiseptic, leaving them with chemical burns and head injuries.

This follows members of the performance-art...

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The Ultimate Digital Vengeance

(27) Comments | Posted March 1, 2014 | 10:24 AM

This is the story of Kelly Blazek and Diana Mekota. Kelly is the proprietor of an on-line job site in Cleveland. Diana is a job seeker. Together they are an object lesson in electronic social interaction.

Marshall McLuhan died four years before Mark Zuckerberg was born. But he was on...

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The Right Mix of Personalities Can Drive Teams to Great Achievement: The Wrong Derail Them

(0) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 4:21 PM

Look around the office. It's easy to describe the behaviors of those who travel the offices, meeting rooms and hallways. We can range from awesome to awful, and points in between. The right mix of personalities can drive teams to great achievement. The wrong mix can derail them.

Most of...

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It's Possible That Jimmy Fallon Is a Natural-Born Nice Guy

(34) Comments | Posted February 17, 2014 | 11:20 AM

New Tonight Show host Jimmy Fallon has something of a reputation, but it's not the one we might naturally associate with Hollywood success stories: Fallon is, by nearly all accounts, a genuinely nice guy. As Vanity Fair described, "He possesses no ironic cynicism, no attitude, no agenda other than to...

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4 Steps to Take If Your Boss Is a Micromanager

(7) Comments | Posted February 14, 2014 | 4:58 PM

Katie worked at an events planning company, helping her boss design and execute some of the city's biggest and most important parties, weddings and fundraisers. She was good at her job -- creative and organized -- and she'd been promoted from intern to assistant to full-on planner in less than...

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