Comedian Gary Shandling said: "My friends tell me I have an intimacy problem. But they don't really know me."
So it is with fathers and daughters. Women who say they hunger for a new intimacy with their fathers often have a hard time defining it, or apportioning it -- how much is too much; how much is not enough?
Is it deep involvement in the direction and contours of their lives? Is it an ongoing dialogue? Is it unquestioning and unconditional support; perhaps unspoken, but there in a moment? Is it constant, or does it change with the stages of a woman's life - perhaps vibrant in her younger years, but fading as her own life and confidence take shape.
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