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Fear Factor: The Religious Right's Problem With Women

Posted: 01/31/2012 9:14 am

The world has seen the terror and confusion on the porcelain face of eight-year-old Naama Margolese, who was insulted and spat on by ultra-Orthodox men as she walked to school in the Israeli city of Beit Shemesh. The Haredi, to use Israeli term, found her bare arms so immodest that they screamed "whore!"

The video of a very frightened young girl and the furious, arrogant men, who told reporters they were perfectly justified in their actions, has become a flashpoint in what some are calling a struggle for the soul of a country.

As I watched, I wondered: What is it about women that the men of deeply conservative religions find so threatening? What runs so deep that it justifies traumatizing an innocent eight-year-old?

It's a question that echoes throughout the Middle East and beyond. The men of the Haredi and the men of the Taliban won't be getting together any time soon to swap philosophies. But they might find they have a lot in common. In their subjugation and abuse of women, they are brothers united.

Consider the familiar ring of some of the recent actions of the Haredi.

Women on buses that pass through or even by their neighborhoods have been physically forced to the back seats -- and one who refused ignited a small riot. Park benches have been removed from neighborhoods so men and women could not sit together, and women would not have a place to sit outside their homes. "Modesty police" harass and beat women on the streets.

Just last week, a woman was attacked in her car for being "immodestly" dressed. They smashed her car windows, punctured her tires, poured bleach in her car, and hit her in the head with a rock as she fled. A crowd gathered, but no one helped.

You could easily transport those incidents from the streets of Jerusalem and Beit Shemesh to the streets of Kabul and Cairo. Cultures differ, but female separation and oppression are the master gears in the far right's machinery of control. Without them, it appears, there is terror that the machinery breaks down.

Find a place where men oppress women, and you'll hear the same justification: we're doing it for their own protection. It's not protection. It's projection.

The logic: My sexual urges take me away from a focus on God. Women cause me to have those urges. The obvious solution is to beat them down, cover them up, and lock them away. What I can't see won't tempt me.

And so: women see the world through the eye-slit in a burqa, or stay covered head to toe in a brutal Israel summer. They are beaten in the streets for showing a bare arm, a bit of blush, a flash of ankle. They are locked away to become brood mares to cultures that prize large families.

Those hoping for solutions from newly formed governments grateful to the women who were on the front lines of revolution will likely be disappointed. The Arab spring is already giving way to an Arab winter for women -- as governments' first orders of business appear to restore the default settings for female oppression.

Accommodations to the ultra-orthodox parties in coalitions are an increasingly worrisome influence on Israeli policy.

As Haredi men occupy more government positions, they can impose beliefs on a greater portion of the secular majority. The mere presence of ultra-orthodox men recently prevented a noted female Israeli pediatrics professor from receiving an award on stage from the Israeli Health Ministry, or even to sit with her husband.

Fear of female sexuality in religiously conservative Arab cultures often takes us from control to savagery.

Police in Saudi Arabia forced schoolgirls back into a burning building because in their terrified attempt to escape the flames they were immodestly dressed. Girls in Afghanistan had noses sliced off or acid thrown in their faces because they wanted to marry the man of their choice, or ran away from abusive in-laws. The obvious point -- throw them on society's trash heap by making sure no other man will want them.

Some studies indicate such horrors radiate from a violent collision between the imperative to repress and control female sexuality and the cultural power of shame. A female that defies the norms brings a shame to families so corrosive, that it can only be washed clean by spectacular violence -- the kind that not only delivers a punishment, but leaves an enduring message.

Another argument holds that a combination of religious belief and a culture of gender separation cause a deep sexual anxiety in Arab men. If females aren't free to express their sexuality, there can be no comparison-shopping. Women dare to insist on that expression invite violent reprisal.

We can also turn our view to the West, where female repression is alive and well in the precincts of the religious right.

The actions may not be as extreme, but the insistent urge to control female bodies is the same -- from reproductive rights (we'll tell you the answer to the unknowable question of when life begins in your body) to approving reimbursement for Viagra (which facilitates pregnancy) to denying reimbursement for birth control pills (which prevents it). As someone said: if men got pregnant, birth control would be a sacrament.

So the questions remain:

Why is female sexuality and empowerment so deeply threatening to the conservative religious cultures? What would happen to those cultures if women were free to make their own sexual choices, and exercise their own personal power? Would free, healthy, sexual, productive women bring down a society or dramatically strengthen it?

 
 
 

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whirlpool
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10:43 PM on 02/05/2012
It comes back to the male fear of nature and the fear of losing control. The whole male ego projection that is god would be threatened by the organic female presence. Susan Griffin in her book Woman and Nature explains this well:
“He says that woman speaks with nature. That she hears voices from the earth. That wind blows in her ears and trees whisper to her. That the dead sing songs through her mouth and the cries of infants are clear to her. But for him this dialogue is over. He says he is not part of this world, that he was set on this world as a stranger. He sets himself apart from woman and nature. And so it is Goldilocks who goes to the home of the three bears. Little Red Riding Hood who converses with the wolf. Dorothy who befriends a lion, Snow White who talks to the birds, Cinderella with mice as her allies, the Mermaid who is half fish, Thumbelina courted by a mole. (And when we hear in the Navaho chant of the mountain that a grown man sits and smokes with bears and follows directions given to him by squirrels, we are surprised. We had thought that only little girls spoke with animals.)”
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f0rTyLeGz
Everything is falling.
08:47 PM on 02/05/2012
"Why is female sexuality and empowerment so deeply threatening to the conservative religious cultures?"

Female sexuality isn't threatening... that's just an easy meme, an excuse, a blizzard of words, that fundamentalist use cultures to control their women. What's really happening in cultures, where men have total power, is that they want to control the women totally. They want to HAVE as many women as possible, and they want them as young as possible. It's control.
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Bob Kellerman
Let's have more sanity toward each other
08:39 PM on 02/05/2012
YOU ASK TOO MUCH OF CLOSED-MINDED PEOPLE

,,,,,,,Why is female sexuality and empowerment so deeply threatening to the conservative religious cultures? What would happen to those cultures if women were free to make their own sexual choices, and exercise their own personal power? Would free, healthy, sexual, productive women bring down a society or dramatically strengthen it?................
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07:49 PM on 02/05/2012
This is a fascinating topic. But I think you neglect the extent to which male fear is NOT that they fear that their 'James Bond' nature will overwhelm them and they will want to have sex with every female around if a woman shows a bare limb. No, it's the opposite. It's their absolute shame at the sense of their own INADEQUACY in the face of female sexuality. In fact, it's probably their confusion about their sexuality generally. 'Course, that's probably true of everyone. Thank god Western men have learned to address that inadequacy in other ways (drinking, drugging, Mercedes-Benzing and other methods of show-boating, etc)
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sheaintsayin
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07:00 PM on 02/05/2012
I think many men marry trophy wives because their cannot bear to look into the eyes of a woman who has seen their missteps, their fears and failings, their (self-perceived) weakness, their vulnerabilities, their trials and tribulations on the way to success. I also think that many men blame women (mothers, girlfriends, teachers, wives) for those weaknesses, especially the one for which there is not hiding, the sexual one. It seems to me that when some men hate themselves, they transfer that hate to the women who love them, so they can escape.

The religious maniacs hate everything more deeply than others, because they are more conflicted and more in need of a devil, and that is how they feel about themselves.
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ckdogs
06:19 PM on 02/05/2012
I don't think the control issue is fear based. I think it's power based. Men love having the power to control women's lives, and force them to do their bidding. They have their own personal slaves. They have the power of life and death over them. Religion is a convenient hook upon which to hang these atrocities - but it's power.
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Dominic
To share is simple pragmatism
06:11 PM on 02/05/2012
I think a lot has to do with the fact that women can often seem to "know" things about men that men desperately try to keep hidden - even from themselves.

This can create a deep sense of insecurity.

The response to that is of often bluster, and to strike out - which when given enough time, and organization, leads to cultural "norms" and accepted behavior which is extremely savage and violent.

No one wants to admit that the basis is fear and insecurity - so the screw is turned even tighter to distract and cover up. Call it anything but what it really is becomes the underlying mantra, with religion often becoming a factor because it's much easier to blame "God's Will", than man's inadequacies.
03:59 PM on 02/05/2012
Excellent article. Thank you.

Elle
02:34 PM on 02/05/2012
I think this conversation extends well beyond conservative religious societies or "Arab" culture (been to Lebanon lately?) to places like China and India, where girls are aborted or left to die as infants en masse. Some would argue further that beauty norms in our Western society--ultra-thinness, ultra-youth, the subservience and humiliation of women rampant in pornography, sex trafficking and modern slavery--all of these are symptomatic of a need or desire to control women or a frank undervaluing of our gender. I think there is a danger to implying that the problem is something that inhabits one realm (and so is somehow easily curable) and doesn't permeate other realms with similar, if differently expressed, enthusiasm...
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sonoflars
Growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional
02:01 PM on 02/05/2012
Religion is always used as justification for atrocities. That's why I've converted to Pastafarianism. I get to worship at Olive Garden and get garlic bread with the wine. And, it bets the hell out of sitting in a hard pew listening to someone go on and on talking about a place that they've never been to and, if you actually read the bible, they aren't likely to ever get to.
08:20 PM on 02/05/2012
I am looking for a "new" religion, I like to eat, and pastafarianism sounds good to me.

I am having some problems motivating myself to go to church lately after hearing some Repug words of wisdom there.....like the Dems control the media.
***Uh, the rich do that and control both political parties AND the media.

I am afraid to ask them how old they think the earth really is.
***I might cry OR laugh if they say 6,000 years.
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Peter Boehringer
Dona nobis pacem
10:17 PM on 02/05/2012
Even pastafarianism will be corrupted; someone will dupe everyone into making him the Big Meatball.
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ORAXX
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01:33 PM on 02/05/2012
Religious fanatics tend to hate anything they can't control. They will never have all the control they want over women, or men either for that matter. What has, and continues to be, tolerated in the name of religion does not fill me with hope for the future.
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elgeezr
annoying Libs daily with orgasmic gusto
12:07 PM on 02/05/2012
I don't think zealots fear women, they just believe women are some kind of lower form of animal. This is because the Bible, the Talmud, & the Koran characterize women in this way beginning with the Garden of Eden fable. The zealots see themselves as enforcers of the invisible man's rules as defined in those self same books. In other words they believe they are doing God's bidding. They deprive their societies of all the wonderful qualities women give all of us. Too bad.
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Poneez02
The dangerous kind - an informed woman who votes
02:35 PM on 02/05/2012
I disagree, the need for control is based on their fear, but whatever the reason the end result is still horror and terror for many of the women in this world.
08:22 PM on 02/05/2012
I think it is both.....wanting power and control over something they fear AND they think of women as lesser/inferior beings they have the right to dominate.

Just saying......
11:51 AM on 02/05/2012
The abuses of an ultra-liberal culture would probably be just as brutal but the sexes would be switched in the resulting spectrum of subjugations.
01:03 PM on 02/05/2012
oh please...just continue the "fear game"
02:00 PM on 02/05/2012
It's so easy to make jaw-droppingly inane remarks when you have no empircical evidence to support it.

I suppose in your tiny bubble Germany, Sweden, Denmark, Holland (as a small example) would qualify as "ultra-liberal". They have all the earmarks of what American's consider "ultra-liberal": free and fair democratic elections; free universal health care - family planning services, free universal education, robust unions; etc.

Yet, there no evidence of "brutality" by either gender. In fact, by most meterics they are a healthier and happier societies. Nor is there any evidence of anything that falls along the line of what you call the "spectrum of subjugations" by the female population.

You, silly moo....
04:01 PM on 02/05/2012
I actually wasn't thinking of any existing countries or cultures. I don't believe there exists a culture where women have and abuse the ability to exercise brute force. As for the countries you do mention, I'm sure many of the atrocities mentioned in the article occur quite frequently in communities of foreign minorities (that will soon enough be the majority). In those countries, "family planning" dwindles the traditional culture at a pretty brisk clip.
10:55 AM on 02/05/2012
We need to wake up, and stop tolerating this in the name of religious "freedom"
every time we women vote for someone who in principle or practice feel its government's role to control our sexuality we are part of problem not the solution.
Jay Haney
My nuclear family imploded when I was 18. I've bee
10:32 AM on 02/05/2012
The simple answer to both questions is that the societies would look dramatcally different. Knowing human nature like I do, there would be aspects that would be better and others that would be worse.