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The Real Edwards Question

Posted: 06/04/2012 2:19 pm

As Americans rinse off the stench of the long sad Edwards affair, we find ourselves wondering yet again: how did this happen?

Part of it is the same hubris and delusions of entitlement that ensnared Clinton, Gingrich, Spitzer, Schwarzenegger, Baker, Swaggart and others who have seen their private behavior torch their public image.

But the odor from this one has a particularly sulfurous tang -- carrying on an affair with a woman brought into the inner circle for ease of access, while a wife dying of cancer traveled in the same entourage. Add reports that that a man who was a supermarket tabloid away from being vice president of the United States made a sex tape -- potential evidence that exceeds the titillation factor of even Monica Lewinsky's stained dress.

Some politicians are brought down by the Washington Post. Others by The National Enquirer. Times change.

But what truly sets apart the Edwards saga from the others is the scale of the complicity.

How many office romances go unnoticed? Bonnie Raitt wrote in "Something to talk about": "We laugh just a little too loud. We stand just a little too close. We stare just a little too long."

Compound that by the close quarters of a campaign bus, and a baby with no father on the certificate, and I would defy anybody in the traveling show to say they were shocked.

Events would support reports that the strategy was to reveal the affair after the election and after -- this will follow Edwards forever -- his wife passed away.

Unimaginable hubris meets astonishing delusion meets toothless campaign laws; all converging at the intersection of questions that are yet to be answered -- and perhaps never will be.

Faithful to the sad, sordid script in a parade of political implosions, Rielle Hunter has a tell-all coming out at the end of the month: What Really Happened: John Edwards, Our Daughter and Me.

What Really Happened will almost certainly answer such pressing questions as how cute did they meet, how good was the sex, how bad was the guilt and -- of course -- the reliable book-mover and buzz-maker: the sex tape.

But there are other questions about what really happened.

How did a seasoned campaign staff think that they could pull this off? In what always-on media universe would it be possible to hide an affair with your spectacularly unqualified and inept videographer and your baby -- with The National Enquirer reporters prowling the campaign like coyotes circling a campground?

How can it be so easy to divert $1 million from wealthy donors to hide a mistress from your supporters and -- of course -- your dying wife?

How did a man so bereft of common sense and common decency make it to the Democratic ticket in 2004 and the short list of Obama's possible running mates in 2008?

How could someone be so corrosively self-involved that he would campaign for that spot knowing that under the thinnest of veneers lay ample evidence to reduce the whole campaign to smoking ruins?

It's very doubtful that John Edwards will address these questions as he pursues what he said in his post-verdict statement is "God's plan" for him. But somewhere in the muck of the answers is a cynical politician and flawed human, supported by a staff and structure that chose to see instead an electable asset with a bright smile and perfect hair.

 
 
 

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jf12
Esta vez saldré como las otras y me escaparé.
01:43 PM on 06/05/2012
Edwards had a lot of other affairs. Not just Bunny Mellon, his political appeal has always been his appeal to women.
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jstrate
11:37 AM on 06/05/2012
Most politicians are family guys. A few of the more ambitious among them think or later find out that politics is a good way to get women. The view access to young women as a perquisite of political power. The morality of such behavior varies cross-culturally. In America, the norm is to publicly condemn it. Those caught are compelled to stand up and renounce their sins. Plainly, only a fool would think these confessions to be sincere. It makes for interesting political theater but I suppose a lot out there by now are bored by it all.
GHO
Sooner or later you run out of other peoples money
11:29 AM on 06/05/2012
How did this happen? The same way it always happens - arrogance.

I am always amazed at the arrogance involved as these high profile figures tell outright, easily discovered lies, yet expect everyone to just take their word for it. Remember Bill Clinton standing at the podium, pointing his finger at the camera, as if lecturing the American people, on how he did not have sex with "that woman", only to be shown for the dog that he is? Remember Hillary Clinton telling us how she landed under fire in Bosnia? As if no one would go back and look at the video.

Don't get me wrong, I'm no idealist. I have no illusions that politicians won't lie. It's what they do, after all, but lies like these - so easily found out, so ridiculous (and career threatening) to tell - require the height of arrogance.
11:13 AM on 06/05/2012
We, the people, by and large refuse to get involved in politics on anything but cursory level. Thus, fanatics of either side are able to take over - hence the tea party, et al. Sychophantic media refuse to ask the hard questions, or if they do don't press for answers. Politicians are bought and paid for long before they get to Washington. In a democracy we really do get the government we deserve. Time we woke up!
GHO
Sooner or later you run out of other peoples money
11:43 AM on 06/05/2012
You are so right. I wish I could give a quiz at the polls before the ballots are handed out just to see how bad it is. I would love to ask voters:
1) What is your congressman's name? What party is he/she in?
2) Name any three SCOTUS justices
3) Which party controls the House? The Senate?

4) Name three Kardashians
5) Who won the most recent American Idol?
6) Who QB's the NY Giants?

Any guesses how that quiz turns out?
12:40 PM on 06/05/2012
time for a beer..you just outfoxed 75% of us with those tricky questions....
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FearlessFreep
A radical leftist with a JS Woodsworth avatar.
10:50 PM on 06/05/2012
Kim... Khloe... I can only name two!
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Annoula
Enough about me!
04:51 PM on 06/05/2012
Just for that you got yourself a new fan!
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chiara0
The sleep of reason produces monsters.
10:27 AM on 06/05/2012
I dunno - I thought from the start it was obvious that JE was over-slick and suspect. It just hung all over him. I didn't get how so many thought him to be the real deal. I'm just saying, if you looked, it was there.
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Paros
12:32 PM on 06/05/2012
I agree. Those same characteristics however are certainly those which worked so well for him before the jury. Perhaps that is where he should have stayed - for everyone's sake.
09:32 AM on 06/05/2012
When there is money at stake women are equals to men.

When it hits the fan women are victims of men.
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den1953
The National Inquire of Politics the GOP!
08:22 AM on 06/05/2012
Everything about this whole story is a sad , but this had political smear all over it before it was fully known by the public, from what can be gathered about this mans personal life was undermined by a Republican DA that wanted so badly to be a NC senator and he lost his bid,but had no problem bringing John Edwards and his family down by doing so. I personally don't agree with what Edwards did to his family, but this was not political in any way ,but politics brings out the nasty in everyone especially when the politician gets close to the top position. I wish the Edwards family well and some how they can move forward and recover to private life, as for the dirty politics i suppose it will be business as usual for some!
08:05 AM on 06/05/2012
He was the first candidate 2008 to talk about the poor, to talk about healthcare, and he was the one candidate that I saw that flat out said he did not believe that prayer worked whe asked about it during a debate.

G Dubya Bush was "faithful" and that worked out really good for us. I'd still take Edwards over Obama. He's a bad husband but so was Clinton.
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Paros
12:36 PM on 06/05/2012
He was a bad employer and a bad candidate. Just because he spouted good policy has little to do with his ability to execute. It came out in testimony that more than one campaign worker confronted him, that he had his right hand man claim to be the father of the baby. Is that really the kind of person you want as president. I'm not referring to the moral lacking here but the gross mismanagement of staff. I do not see this man as having a scintilla of the necessary ability to select and manage quality staff on even a micro level.
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ndem
07:45 AM on 06/05/2012
I live in France. Edwards not only would be expected to do this here our former President did from what I was told. No one would write a book though and no one would buy it. It is the droit de seigneur. Not saying it is right is just how it is...of except the state finances campaigns so private donors would not be donors...oops I forgot we had Gaddhafi donating to our former Pres back in 2007...maybe the whole politics things is just immoral.
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Annoula
Enough about me!
11:34 AM on 06/05/2012
Vive la France!
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rothomaha
The Truth will out
07:44 AM on 06/05/2012
I'd prefer to look at the Edwards affair as a glimpse of the soft underbelly of American politics. The variation is not in the moral essence of the stench, but in the nature of the rotting material. Translated, I am saying that, in order to "rise" to the level of a political candidate in the present state odf our country's government, one has to be corrupted and polluted almost, if not absolutely to the core. One has to shed(or never have had) the slightest empathy with the plights of other, more "common" folk, one has to be willing to deceive even one's own advocates, and one has to be able to associate with others like oneself, knowing full well the extent of their sins and the hypocrisy of their expressed views. Take, for example, a health issue - benign prostatic hypertrophy; with all the old geezers in Congress, certainly one or more has suffered the consequences. Has that made them more empathetic toward the average male in America who also needs an overnight hospitalization and simple surgical correction? Is it only Democratic or Republican males who develop BPH? No matter - "Down with Obamacare"!!! The cyniciam and hypocrisy is overwhelming, and Edwards just got caught - despicable man, you bet!! Out of the ordinary, no way!!! Remember, S..t floats!
12:58 PM on 06/05/2012
Well said ...what is 'sold' to us and the 'character' of those who do the selling is. I think, not really looked into much below the surface ..to assume those in power are 'like us' is at best optimistic .. the way our system has evolved corruption is assured .. its game of deciet played by very skillful players... the old adage of John Dolberg(aka Lord Acton) that "power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely" remains as true as it was centuries ago...
SouthernBlueBelle
Old and fed up
07:38 AM on 06/05/2012
Is it not OK to sue doctors when they make mistakes? But it is OK to drag Edwards mistakes to court! The fact that he was an attorney representing people wronged by the people they trusted did not make him a low life. Now maybe is personal actions did.
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Whistlejackett
Hey stop doing that
07:28 AM on 06/05/2012
Dr. Drexler, being an authority on family issues, is not out of line in her diagnosis of the Edwards debacle. Organizations are like families, they support, hide lies, and at times chastise for the good of all. When everything appears to be clicking along as expected there is a tendency to ignore, to not want to know or deny, where truths can become apparitions and lies the norm.

Edwards, no matter how vile or contemptuous, surrounded himself with such an organization, that was willing to focus on a goal no matter how bruised or smelly his carcase. The goal was the Presidency, and everyone was complicit, within their own private intent. There is cause here to view the Edwards campaign along with his disregard for decency, as a family of persons willing to slide into obscurity, but not for Edwards, but more so for their own personal gain. The little boy of princely visage, and pickled in narcissism of course was a fake; but his world around him, strong with support and a zeal to march in blinded self-indulgence kept him alive. That's the part we miss, because it could have been us.
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Paros
12:38 PM on 06/05/2012
Well stated.
07:22 AM on 06/05/2012
infatuation can happen to anyone, and once it does your good judgement goes out the window.
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gevan
big dubya
04:41 AM on 06/05/2012
The usual narative is that Edwards fell in love with the bubble that being a national candidate shrouded himself in. It gave him such a high that he felt like he had to push the envelope to get that jolt of L-dopa in his brain again.
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Annoula
Enough about me!
11:39 AM on 06/05/2012
In the interest of physiological accuracy, the neurotransmitter responsible for the jolt is dopamine. L-DOPA is a precursor that after crossing the blood brain barrier, is transformed into dopamine by undergoing enzymatic decarboxylation.
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Paros
12:39 PM on 06/05/2012
Love it.
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gevan
big dubya
04:36 PM on 06/05/2012
Sorry, but I can't remember all the words I've learned at any particlar moment's notice. I probably need some dopamine myself.
ubrew12
that crazy uncle from Amarcord
03:22 AM on 06/05/2012
Crazy times. Crazy pressures. I would suggest people read 'Willpower'. It talks about why Gov Eliot Spitzer might be found looking for prostitutes afterhours (hint: spend a day making the kinds of decisions he had to make, and then see how you feel).

We want to believe our behavior happens in a vacuum. That, no matter what happens 'out there', what we do 'in here' is completely the result of our inner spiritual journey. We want to believe it with every fiber of our being. But, if you believe that, welcome to Oz, Dorothy.

Scott Walker traveled to New York City to attend a fundraiser for himself amongst the rightwing billionaire class. Maybe it helped him, financially. But you can bet it helped, psychologically. People like Walker idolize the rich. Meeting with them would have been like meeting Jesus, to someone like Walker. Edwards, someone who wanted to help the 'common man', fell to a 'common woman'. People like Clinton, Spitzer, and Edwards will always be at risk from those whom serendipity places on their 'dance card'. People like Walker are immune to that: their dance card was filled by the Koch Brothers, long ago.
maddiemom
Retired teacher and ex-corporate wife.
10:06 AM on 06/05/2012
F&F. I can't remember who said (of JFK) "I'd rather have president who screws women than one who screws the country."
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Annoula
Enough about me!
11:41 AM on 06/05/2012
Great post! Fanned! [I loved your micro-bio, by the way! Fellini lives!]