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My Daughter Gave Me a Report Card

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PETE WILGOREN
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Our kids get report cards or progress reports throughout the year. I love my kids so much... but how am I really doing as a parent? Would my daughter give me honest answers? I wanted to know, so I asked her to fill out this report card on my parenting. My questions and her answers are below... How would YOUR kids answer the questions?

Dear Alicia,

I've been at this dad thing for almost 10 years now. It's hard to believe you're getting so big. Each year, mom and dad can't wait to see your report card from school and see how you are progressing and learning. Now I'm hoping you can tell me: How am I doing? I figure I'd rather hear it now then in 20 years. I've attached this easy questionnaire complete with multiple choice questions and hope you'll answer honestly. I'll listen to your criticism and I'll work to address your concerns.

Love,

Dad

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, where would you rank me on the dad scale
(please pick a number)
10

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, where would you rank the happiness of your childhood so far (please pick a number)
9

Providing love and affection, Dad:
Exceeds expectations.
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
exceeds expectations :)

Balancing work and family, Dad:
Exceeds expectations
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
meets expectations

Balancing social media and family, Dad:
Exceeds expectations
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
meets expectations

Taking part in your school activities:
Exceeds expectations
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
needs improvement

Just being there for you:
Exceeds expectations
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
exceeds expectations

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, my ability to sing a good lullaby ranks where
(please pick a number)
8

Please list your favorite lullabies or songs I sang you to sleep when you were very little...
No answer.

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, am I an entertaining dad?
(please pick a number)
10

Please specify some of the entertaining things you remember..
Coming onto my field trip and giving my group JERKY !!!

On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the best, my ability to cook you a meal
(please pick a number)
4

Please specify any meal, if there are any, that you enjoy when I cook
TURKEY BURGERS !!!

Have I ever embarrassed you in front of your friends? Yes or No
No

Dad wardrobe:
Exceeds expectations
Meets expectations
Needs improvement
(Please pick one)
needs improvement

Please specify any dad outfit of mine that you'd hide given the chance:
everything !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Would you be comfortable coming to me for advice as you grow up? Yes or No
Why: yes because you are my dad

Would you be comfortable confiding in me a secret? Yes or No
Why: same answer as before

If you can, write down some of the things you think would make your childhood even better and happier.
Passes at amusement parks

If you can, write down some things you'd tell your own kids about your dad one day.
You are awesome

So there it is. It took me 10 times as long to think of the questions as it did for my daughter to answer them. In the end, she gave me some very 9-year-old answers. But they still show some areas where I can grow and work to become a better dad and parent... and it's not just my cooking or my wardrobe. I asked my daughter again, how can we make that 9 from your childhood turn into a 10? She said, "I just want to be happy all the time." She then gave me one of those big bear hugs. I ate it up. I'll take it as a sign that we're going in the right direction. I wonder what next year's report card will look like.

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