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Major court decisions on controversial social issues are sometimes ahead of their times. That was certainly the case with judicial rulings decades ago that struck down laws banning interracial marriage. But despite conservative claims that U.S. District Court Judge Vaughn Walker's ruling Wednesday to overturn California's Proposition 8 ban on same-sex marriage is outside the mainstream, the reality is that his decision is in sync with public sentiment.

The gay rights movement has won Americans' hearts and minds. The tide has turned. Opponents can try, but they can't push it back.

Although nobody believes that homophobia has disappeared, polls show that public support for gay rights - including marriage - has increased dramatically in the past decade, especially in the last few years. Moreover, support for gay marriage is much higher among younger Americans, indicating that the future belongs to the advocates, not the opponents, of same-sex marriage. Soon, conservative politicians and groups will no longer be able to use gay marriage as a "wedge" issue to stir controversy and win elections.

The battle for gay marriage is often compared with the struggle to end the prohibition against marriage between blacks and whites. In fact, Americans' attitudes about same-sex marriage changed much more quickly.

In 1948, when California's Supreme Court legalized interracial marriage (the first state to do so) in Perez v Sharp, most Americans opposed it. In the 1950s, when half the states still had laws prohibiting interracial marriage, over 90% of Americans still considered it wrong. By 1967, when the U.S. Supreme Court, in Loving v. Virginia, knocked down state anti-miscegenation laws everywhere, 16 states still had such laws on the books and 72% of the public still opposed interracial marriages.

It wasn't until the 1990s that even half of Americans said they approved of marriage between blacks and whites. In 2007, the most recent poll on the topic, 77% of Americans supported interracial marriage. It may be shocking to some that 17% of Americans still disapprove of black-white marriages (6% had no opinion), but the shift in public opinion over five decades has been steady and irreversible.

The civil rights movement laid the foundation for the gay rights crusade, which adopted many of its strategies and tactics, including grassroots organizing, protest and civil disobedience, fighting for justice in the courts, lobbying for legislation, and campaigning to elect sympathetic candidates.

After the gay rights movement burgeoned in the 1970s, it took time for public opinion about homosexuals to shift. But as gay activism accelerated, and more and more people (including public figures) came out of the closet, attitudes changed, reflecting a profound transformation in public opinion.

More and more public figures - politicians, entertainers, teachers, judges, journalists, businesspersons, athletes and clergy -- acknowledged their homosexuality. TV sit-coms began to have openly gay characters. Businesses began to appeal to gay consumers.

As advocates began to put specific issues on the agenda, public support increased for such questions as allowing openly gays and lesbians to teach in public schools, providing health benefits for gay partners, permitting gay couples to adopt children, ending anti-sodomy laws, outlawing job and housing discrimination against gays, funding for research to combat AIDS, and imposing penalties for people who commit hate crimes against gays. In 1993, for example, only 44% of Americans believed that gays should be allowed to openly serve in the military, according to a Washington Post/ABC News poll. Today, more than 75% think so.

A growing number of Americans began realizing that they knew gay people. (By 2003, 58% of Americans said that had a friend, relative, or coworker who is gay or lesbian - the same as today).

People began to confront their own values and views about a subject that was once taboo in their own lifetimes. Today, 78% of Americans (and 88% of those who say they personally know someone who is gay or lesbian) say that they are comfortable around homosexuals.

Until the late 1990s, gay marriage wasn't even an issue, and most pollsters didn't bother asking the public how they felt about it. (One exception was the Field Poll, which first asked Californians in 1977 if they approved of extending marriage laws to same-sex couples. By a 59% to 28% margin, they said no).

But eventually the question of gay partnerships - civil unions and marriage - emerged as a topic of public debate and private conversations in every corner of the country. Not surprisingly, in the past decade, support for legalizing gay partnerships has skyrocketed. Initially, the idea of civil unions broke the comfort zone barrier. Americans are still more supportive of civil unions than of gay marriage, but the positive trend for both is indisputable.

In 2002, the New York Times began to publish announcements of same-sex civil unions and weddings. The following year -- just seven years ago -- a Washington Post/ABC News poll asked Americans if gay and lesbian couples should be allowed to form "legally recognized civil unions, giving them the legal rights of married couples in areas such as health insurance, inheritance and pension coverage." Only 40% agreed. When they asked the same question earlier this year, 66% agreed. Over that same period, the proportion who say they favor gay marriage increased from 37% to 47%. Although different polls use a variety of wordings to gauge public opinion on the issue, they all show growing support for gay marriage.

Public support for same-sex marriage is strongest in the West and weakest in the South. But legalization of gay marriage depends not only on public opinion but also on the willingness of politicians and judges to tackle the issue. Gay marriage is now legal in Iowa, Vermont, Connecticut, New Hampshire, Massachusetts, and Washington, D.C.

In most states, it was the opponents, not the advocates, of gay marriage that forced the issue into the public debate. Hoping to whip up fears and energize conservative voters to go to the polls and help elect Republicans, they put measures on the ballots to ban same-sex marriage. In all 30 states where the issue has been put to the voters, they've rejected legalizing gay marriage.

These ballot outcomes have been setbacks in the battle for gay marriage. They may accurately reflect current public sentiment in those states, but they also reflect the effectiveness of the
opponents of gay marriage in mobilizing voters, raising and spending on ads and other propaganda, and framing the issue to win over "swing" voters.

This was certainly the case in California. For example, in July 2008, the Field Poll found that California voters approved of same-sex marriage by a 51% to 42% margin. But four months later, California voters approved Proposition 8 - which banned same-sex marriage -- by a 52% to 48% margin.

What happened? First, a small number of voters misled pollsters (and perhaps even themselves) in voicing support for same-sex marriage, while others may have mistakenly thought that voting "yes" meant support for marriage equality. Second, too few pro-gay marriage Californians bothered to vote. Third, some lukewarm sympathizers were persuaded by TV ads or flyers to change their minds.

When the campaign was over, there was much fingerpointing, but eventually many gay rights activists began to seriously examine what they did right and wrong. Many of the organizers of the anti-Proposition 8 effort acknowledge that they ran a lousy campaign, especially in terms of generating turnout and responding to anti-gay attack ads. They also conducted thousands of interviews to determine who voted against gay marriage and why. The result is an important new study. It found that between mid-September and election day, approximately 5% of voters--at least 687,000-- moved to favor the ban on same-sex marriage, mostly parents with children at home.

Yes, there is a hard core of anti-gay Americans who are more fervent in their views than their pro-gay marriage counterparts. Their activism fueled the campaigns against extending wedding vows to gays and lesbians. But, the study suggests, many people who voted against gay marriage are not haters. They support other aspects of gay rights and may eventually change their views on same-sex marriage.

A Field Poll conducted earlier this month and released on Wednesday found that California voters once again support allowing same-sex couples to marry by a 51% to 42% margin, with 7% uncertain.

But gay rights supporters know that for public opinion to influence public policy, it has to be mobilized. A vocal minority can have disproportionate influence if they are well-organized -- a lesson the Tea Party has learned well. Judge Walker's ruling is a victory for gay marriage proponents, but it doesn't end the battle to win in the political arena - in California and elsewhere.

What is clear, however, is that the future belongs to marriage equality. Last month's Field Poll revealed that age makes a big difference in attitudes toward same-sex marriage. Only 42% of California voters who are 65 or older endorsed gay marriage, compared with 46% of 50-64 year olds, 47% of 40-49 year olds, 53% of 30-39 year olds, and a whopping 68% of 18-29 years olds.

Among the in-between generation -- the 40-49 year olds - 12% still register no opinion. Both older and younger Californians are clearer about where they stand on the issue. Only 5% of 18-29 year olds say they have no opinion about gay marriage.

Nationwide polls show a similar dynamic. A Washington Post/ABC News poll conducted in February found that 30% of Americans over 65 believe gay marriages should be legal, compared with 47% of those in the 30-64 age group, and 65% of those between 18 and 29. In fact, in 38 states, a majority of those age 18-29 support same sex marriage, according to an analysis by Columbia University political scientists Jeffrey Lax and Justin Phillips. The 12 other states (except Utah) are all in the South, and in six of those states (Texas, North Carolina, South Carolina, Louisiana, Georgia, and Kentucky) more than 44% support gay marriage.

Given these trends, is there any doubt that a substantial majority of Americans will soon favor gay marriage?

In other words, the time when conservatives can use same-sex marriage as a "wedge" issue is coming to an end. For sure, some politicians - especially in some conservative states, Congressional districts, and state legislative districts - will continue to find it useful to bash gay marriage in order to win votes. But the days of gay-bashing as a political strategy are numbered.

The opponents of same-sex marriage claim that Judge Walker's ruling on Proposition 8 was a fluke. The Liberty Counsel, a right-wing legal group, called the decision "simply the whim of one judge." The conservative Family Research Council criticized Walker's decision as "far Left," despite the fact that he was first nominated to the federal bench by President Ronald Reagan, renominated twice by President George H.W. Bush, and strongly endorsed by conservative former Governor Pete Wilson.

The Proposition 8 advocates plan to appeal Judge Walker's ruling to the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals and, if necessary, to the United States Supreme Court. That process could take another year or two. By then, it is likely that an even more Californians, and Americans, will favor same-sex marriage. If the composition of the current Supreme Court doesn't change, it is possible that it will rule to maintain the Proposition 8 ban on same-sex marriage. But if they do, they will be even further behind where the American people are. It may set back the fight for social justice by a few years, but it will surely not reverse growing support for gay marriage.

We've seen dramatic changes in public opinion before - on such issues as women's suffrage, sexual harassment, interracial marriages, racial and sexual discrimination in jobs and housing, women's roles at home and work, government's role in protecting the environment, fuel efficiency in cars, and disability rights.

In each case, grassroots movements made a big difference. Their role is to put new issues on the public agenda - to make people think about things they hadn't thought about before. Initially, this makes people feel uncomfortable. It sometimes even triggers a backlash among some people who resist change. But eventually most people come to accept the reality -- and fairness - of new ideas and behaviors. The radical ideas of one generation become the common sense of the next.

When children born this year reach voting age 18 years from now, they will surely wonder how it was even possible that America once deprived gays and lesbians the right to marry. They will take same-sex marriage for granted.

Hopefully, however, they will learn in their history classes and on TV about the grassroots movement that catalyzed the dramatic changes in public opinion, laws and court rulings that made America a more humane country, especially for the married gay and lesbian couples they call their neighbors, friends, aunts and uncles, brothers and sisters, and parents.

 
 
 
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11:26 AM on 08/10/2010
The way I see it, it is possible for the SCOTUS to rule Prop H8 constitutional. That ruling would not outlaw same-gender marriage, but would affirm each state's right to do so, and, in so doing, CA's ban on same-gender marriage would stand; at least for the time being.

While this would correctly be seen as a setback for equality and civil rights, I, for one, would welcome the opportunity to have a new state-wide vote on the issue. Why? Because the moment in California history when the majority votes for equality, the last remaining objection by the bigots will have been removed. I can see it now: A solid hour of video clips featuring every hate-monger reciting, without exception, that the will of the majority should not be ignored and should be legally imposed.

Ah, democracy; ain't it great?
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mcostello
It's just math
02:20 AM on 08/08/2010
The problem with this whole argument is the word "marriage'.
It has religious conotations for so many who would think it "blasphemous" to allow GL marriage. You can't just shove it down their throats. It will misfire the same way racism still does in the south.
We need to find a legal term that doesnt have religious overtones and force the religious conservatives to use it legally. Level the playing field not by forcing conservatives to "allow" GL marriage, but to force them to engage in "legal unions", and they can call it whatever they want in private.
09:56 AM on 08/08/2010
I grew up in the "near South," and at my church, we were taught that the Bible taught that blacks were inferior and were not afforded salvation in the same manner as whites. Sound preposterous? Of course it was. Lots of strange things are taught in the names of the various religions. The point is that I do not care if your church recognizes my marriage or not. But, society and my country must. History shows us that when society and states begin recognizing changes, so do churches. So, I cannot accept your argument that "you can't just shove it down their throats." With respect to society and the state, you can.
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mcostello
It's just math
12:51 PM on 08/08/2010
Society is such a vague concept. What society do you refer to? The bible school people would consider themselves a "society". If you try to stuff this thing down their throat then you get the same response at the undercurrent racism you have today.
Change the name and make them come to the new name to get their legal benefits. There will be some resentment, but you aren't "soiling" (their perspective not mine) their precious "marriage".
It is just pragmatic.
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rextrek
50yr old, Moderate-liberal in S.NJ/Phila
10:34 AM on 08/08/2010
the problem with your answer...is...even in Hawaii...they wouldn't ällow"Civil Unions...cause, to the homophobes - even THAT is TOO MUCH CLOSE to Marriage...they do NOT want LGBT Americans to have any rights...period.
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mcostello
It's just math
12:58 PM on 08/08/2010
Don't let the "they" control the argument. Make legal benefits of marriage based on a legal contract. Call it union, or civil contract, or whatever. Let them have their "marriage", but it has not legal benefits until they participate in the state sponsored legal contract.
It levels the playing field without offending the sensitive right.
The more the GL community mixes comfortably with the EVERYONE the more everyone figures out that they are valuable members of the neighborhood.
BTW, why does this legal contract called marriage have religion attached to it in the 21st century anyway? Should have been separated decades ago.
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mcostello
It's just math
12:59 PM on 08/08/2010
I have had intense arguments with an ex-friend in HI who is evangelical, and they don't want LG to not have any rights, just not the right to have a family.
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NWBrunette
Blessed Girl
01:22 AM on 08/08/2010
It's coming. It's taking too long, citizens are being harmed, and the h@temongers are surely annoying. But it's coming.
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mcostello
It's just math
02:15 AM on 08/08/2010
Annoying or annoyed?
08:31 PM on 08/07/2010
Tide is turning?

A majority of California voters rejected the redefinition of marriage, and one judge overrules all those people, and you think the tide is turning?

The tide may be turning, but I don't think it's going the way you think.
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FLVolFan
08:40 PM on 08/07/2010
Please read the article again. Acceptance levels today, as opposed to a few years ago, are significantly higher - that is what he meant by the tide is turning.

It's not a difficult concept to understand. The proof way laid out clearly for you.

You must just hate that Ronald Reagan and GHW Bush for imposing Judge Walker of this country.

It bears reminding you of a little idea; the majority should never be allowed to vote on the rights of the minority. That's a little concept by Thomas Jefferson.

So unless you hate American history and the Constitution, you would stop criticizing Judge Walker. The courts have ALWAYS provided a remedy against majority tyrannical rule.

That's what makes this country great.
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mcostello
It's just math
02:26 AM on 08/08/2010
This case may just put Gay professionals back. I heard on the radio (correct me if I am wrong) that Judge Walker is gay. Does that mean that any future judgeships will be blocked if the jurist is gay, regardless of ability or political leanings?
RR and Bush Sr. will be retroactive traitors.
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fratricide08
Proud "Firebagger"
03:30 AM on 08/09/2010
Good post and a vol fan! You're so fanned.
02:23 PM on 08/07/2010
Adults should be able to marry another regardles of sexual preference, relations etc.. Same sex hetros should also be able to marry if the economics of doing such fall into their favor.
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hrpmap
Retired man still active..
02:22 PM on 08/07/2010
Said the people of Sodom and Gomarah.
03:16 PM on 08/07/2010
Iran called, they want their talking points back.
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05:51 PM on 08/07/2010
Sodom and Gomorrah, according to the Bible, was destroyed because of the cruel inhospitality of their inhabitants.

When Lot took in off the streets angels in human disguise, the inhabitants of Sodom demanded that Lot hand them over, as they had strict laws against aiding strangers, a manifestation of xenophobia. The male citizens intended to humiliate the male guests by sodomizing them, which was considered a great means of imposing humiliation on a man. Lot refused, but he offered to the crowd his daughters. The angels then revealed themselves and spared Lot's family, fleeing with them, as God destroyed Sodom for its wickedness. The wickedness that offended God was the people's cruel inhospitality towards their city's visitors.

Of course, it's a fairy tale, as God doesn't turn people like Lot's wife into pillars of salt, but people use this fable to condemn gay people, constantly, erroneously blaming the destruction of Sodom on gay people, because it is convenient.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
03:54 AM on 08/08/2010
And no mention is ever made of the evil of Lot's intentions toward his daughters. It never ceases to amaze me how anti-gay christians can overlook that while condemning gays on the basis of that myth.
12:58 PM on 08/07/2010
I'm straight... and NOT narrow. I have no problem with any sort of marriage. Probably my great-great-grandsons will be wondering why it was ever illegal for a human to marry an android. Progress is inevitable, despite the attempts of a some reactionaries to impede it.
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timetraveler2039
Choose peace.
12:47 PM on 08/07/2010
It's generational -- young people don't remember the Holocaust, race riots with snarling dogs and fire hoses -- once gay friends came out of the closet, that was the beginning of the end. Gay people are friends, family - brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, school friends.... I agree, the tide has turned and there is no going back. Had lunch yesterday with a married gay friend -- and woke up this morning like nothing had happened -- nothing except a wonderful lunch with a special friend!
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mcostello
It's just math
02:27 AM on 08/08/2010
Did you wake up with your gay friend.....Wow, you are tolerant!
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Giglawyer
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11:49 AM on 08/07/2010
I support gay marriage and equal rights for all persons. That said, I think the author goes a little too far in saying "The gay rights movement has won Americans' hearts and minds. The tide has turned. Opponents can try, but they can't push it back." I don't think America is solidly behind the idea of interracial marriage, let alone gay marriage. But the protections of the Constitution are all that matter, and mainstream America will follow along, some kicking and screaming all the way.
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05:59 PM on 08/07/2010
I agree with you.

However, I do think since Prop 8 has passed, and as the debate has continued, many people's views have changed, being observers to the hate gay people face in their day to day lives.

Some of the things our opponents say about us are deplorable (I think the worse thing a person can say to another person is that God Himself despises him and finds him disgusting, or that he is inherently prone to molest children). The worst we say to them is that we think some of them are hateful bigots, which they claim makes US the hateful ones, which boggles my mind.

I think many people are hearing the ugly rhetoric of groups like NOM, the FRC, and the AMA, and deciding that they'd rather not be associated with such mean-spiritedness dressed up as moral superiority.
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mcostello
It's just math
02:31 AM on 08/08/2010
It just takes time. All a person has to do is spend any time with a Gay or Lesbian person in normal life to find that the problems, victories and tragedies are the same. Who they chose to spend their lives with is irrelevant.
See CK Louis on the subject.....DAMNIT!
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Good Wolf
Intrinsically Disordered...and PROUD of it!
11:48 AM on 08/07/2010
When you're lovers in a dangerous time
Sometimes you're made to feel as if your love's a crime
But nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight
Got to kick at the darkness 'til it bleeds daylight

-Bruce Cockburn-

I believe we're seeing more daylight now. My feet are getting sore, though.
10:27 AM on 08/07/2010
As a Californian, I was appalled at the Prop 8 election. So many lies from the right e.g. that churches would be forced to perform same-sex marriages against their will. The pro H8's KNEW this was totally false. I mean, divorce is legal, but never has any state forced the RCC to perform marriages of divorced people. Churches are protected by the First Amendment.

Worse, the total spent on the Prop 8 campaign was over $50 million. $50 million that could have gone for schools, health care, business investment, etc. All because some people thinking hating is better than loving.

This 60+ hetero mother of 2 takes comfort in the fact that the haters are aging and that mother nature will finally take them out of the voting pool.
Giordano Bruno
Flaming Librul
10:17 AM on 08/07/2010
Peter's article is incontrovertible. No question that homophobia and bigotry are on the wane. As the older generation becomes less politically significant, the votes won't be there, no matter how well organized the bacchetoni (Tuscan for religious hypocrites) are. They have lost the younger generation for the most part, and paradoxically have become increasingly more zealous as time goes on. The sad fact however remains that in 2010 gay people cannot serve openly in the armed forces, marry their life companions or even visit them in the hospital in many states. They pay extra income taxes, their life companions cannot be granted citizenships if they are of foreign birth. There are hundreds of rights they are denied due to their sexual orientation and the institutionalized homophobic society in which we live: http://www.hrc.org/issues/5585.htm

While it is heartening to know that eventually gay people will be granted rights, many like David Mixner are now rightly questioning the response latency. How much longer before these archaic laws are overturned. How much longer will we tolerate an eloquent pretend progressive president. When will it become a liability for politicians to use hate speak rhetoric in order to attract votes?
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Dots
The shadow of God is beauty.
09:58 AM on 08/07/2010
I still believe that half the people voting "yes" on Proposition 8 thought they were voting FOR same-sex marriage. It was no accident that the wording was slanted.
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Contact1972
Honey Badger Don't Care
10:18 AM on 08/07/2010
Yeah I think quite a few people got a little confused by that.
10:30 AM on 08/07/2010
I kind of wondered that, too. Voting "yes" to be against something. Could have made a difference.
09:57 AM on 08/07/2010
As I am sure people familiar with this topic are aware and as reported in many publications like Popular Science, scientist have recently discovered a gene called fucose mutarotase which they can turn on and off in mice and which turns the gay behavior on and off. I think there are much larger issues the gay community should be worried about, like if the community will even exist 100 years from now.
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StevenWells
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10:18 AM on 08/07/2010
We've always been tastemakers and trend-setters. If people find out it can be voluntarily "turned on," pretty soon everyone will want to try it. Oh, well, at least then, when some claim it's a choice, there'll be some truth to it.
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Soulmentor
"To thine own self be true...."
12:53 PM on 08/07/2010
Increasingly, men especially it seems, are finding their minds freed up to the thought of sexual affections between men and are willing to break with the social brain washing and give it a try. As those old socio/sexual rigidities break down, people are discovering that they really do have sexual flexibility, that the sexual "tradition" has been a lie all along.
06:27 AM on 08/07/2010
It amazes me how this discussion is framed: if you oppose dismantling the centuries old definition of marriage as between a male and a female you are labeled anti-gay, homophobic, bigoted. Excoriating your opponents is just as bad as those who "whip up public fear" on the other side of the argument. God forbid emotionalism ever gets replaced with reason.
Giordano Bruno
Flaming Librul
10:03 AM on 08/07/2010
Let see, defending the time honored definition becomes the goal, and those who dare to bring about a needed metamorphosis are emotional vitriols. I am having a hard time with that, and it occurs to me that you are engaging in a time honored defense mechanism called projection. It is true that when you deny citizens of their civil liberties they tend to engage in emotional tirades. Defending the status quo may be an operative principle for you buster, but we are an evolving nation, and hopefully over time we will get this one right too. I think excoriating those who deny a repressed minority are deserving of a little excoriation. After all, they have engaged in it for years. It may not be the kindest approach to religious zealotry. However it is hard to forgive those who have been so entirely un Christian in their behavior. Perhaps some of them should dust off the New Testament, which in itself dismantled "centuries of old definitions." Religion is the last bastion of intellectual laziness, and while you might be a traditionaist, I would think it prudent to distance myself from them lest you change your name to reeliceguy. Giordy
06:16 PM on 08/07/2010
Giordy...Please don't appeal to the New Testament. Paul said to lie with a man as one would with a woman is worthy of damnation. So there's not much help there. And I in no way condone denying anyone of civil liberties. If gays want a civil union, then by all means have one. But don't redefine centuries of human practice that defines marriage as a union between females and males.
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TeraWatt60
Cogito Ergo Sum
10:07 AM on 08/07/2010
What is it to you? If you don't "believe" in gay marriage ...DON'T HAVE ONE! Extending marriage equality to gay people in no way diminishes marriage as a concept or threatens any heterosexual marriage.

The reason you are labeled anti-gay and bigoted is because with no legitimate reason to condemn LGBT people you continue to do so, the only other appropriate term would be theocratic since the animus to gays is often religiously motivated and that has no place in secular society.

In the end, your "belief" in the issue is totally irrelevant and history is on the side of gay people, so either get educated (talk to a member of PFLAG) or ask yourself "If gay marriage were suddenly legalized, other than invitations, how would anyone's life be adversely affected?
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Contact1972
Honey Badger Don't Care
10:19 AM on 08/07/2010
Well said!
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Giglawyer
I'm a conservative, and you may not like that.
11:53 AM on 08/07/2010
I am terribly intrigued with your comment history is on the side of gay people. It was my impression that history has proven to be rather unkind to gay people.