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Accept Responsibility (Principle #1 of the 7 Principles of Personal Effectiveness)

05/13/2014 03:52 pm ET | Updated Jul 12, 2014

In my last blog I introduced 'The 7 Principles of Personal Effectiveness' captured by the acronym A-D-D-R-E-S-S. I encourage you to work through each of the 7 Principles, and highlight any point that represents a gap for you, or challenges your current beliefs or practices.

The starting point for increased personal effectiveness is to examine our assumptions and beliefs. The seven assumptions below may challenge conventional wisdom, but all of them are critical to your success.

Accept Responsibility Blog II. Your emotions are your responsibility. No one can make you feel anything you don't allow them to.
III. You get the behavior you tolerate. If others are using your time in a manner that's ineffective,
you've made it ok for them to do so.
IV. Blaming others for your situation makes you a victim, and hands them control of your life. You always have choices (even of you don't like them).
V. Understand that you never have to have the same thought twice, unless you really like having that
thought. The answer is to have a system you trust.
VI. Your time is your currency, spend it wisely. Your calendar should be a sacred territory.
VII. Like elite athletes, we must rest, reflect, plan, warm up, cool down, and analyze our performance regularly if we want to 'go faster'.

Some of these messages may be a bit abrasive, but experience tells me that the next six principles of personal effectiveness are useless unless you accept complete personal responsibility for your circumstances.

If you're over this hurdle, my following blog will help you take the next step with the second principle of personal effectiveness; 'Define Success'.

For those of you who are interested in some further reading in this field of personal effectiveness, here are the key books and authors that have inspired me;

  • First Things First by Stephen R. Covey

  • Getting Things Done by David Allen

  • Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

  • Man's Search for Meaning by Victor E. Frankl

  • The Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey