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Mitt Romney, Man of Compassion?

Posted: 10/08/2012 12:01 am

One little problem with the compassion thing that Mitt Romney keeps touting in his recent television ads: He doesn't seem to have any.

We can safely assume that he cares about his wife and their boys. He must feel concern for the fellow congregants of his church and perhaps for some of his neighbors at one or another of his residences. He probably even liked that dog he stuck on the roof of his car.

But somewhere between his traditional social circle and the broader world -- a place inhabited by strangers whose jobs might require elimination in pursuit of profit -- Romney seems to lose emotional regard for the troubles of others.

It looks that way in part because Romney has made it look that way, cultivating the image of a stern and unsentimental disciplinarian in the face of wasteful federal spending in a bid to win over the anti-government zealots who dominate his party. This is how best to understand his decision to train his sights on Big Bird in last week's debate.

It looks that way because Romney is a creature of privilege, the son of a CEO and governor who spent his formative years at elite institutions of higher learning, and then in the exclusive ranks of premier business consulting and private equity firms. One can assume he didn't meet hordes of poor people at Harvard Business School or Bain Capital. It's hard to summon compassion for people who, within one's own experience, effectively don't exist.

In any event, it looks that way.

When you spend months bemoaning an expansion of food stamps in response to the worst economic downturn since the Great Depression, as Romney has done, word gets around that you are perhaps not the biggest-hearted mansion-owner on the lake.

When you lie about your challenger's supposed efforts to weaken limits on welfare while implicitly contending that anyone who needs government help is a loser, word gets out that concern for the vulnerable is not your defining feature.

And when you tell a room full of well-heeled campaign contributors that you have written off nearly half the country as a bunch of government-dependent parasites, compassion is not the word that springs first to mind.

Not that any of this recent history gave Romney pause when laying claim to compassion in his ads. Those in the business world like to celebrate themselves as self-made. Romney is self-made-up: He gloms on to any word that seems capable of selling the product, which is whatever incarnation of Mitt Romney he is playing that day.

"We shouldn't measure compassion by how many people are on welfare," Romney says in one ad. "We should measure compassion by how many people are able to get off welfare and get a good paying job."

That's a smart, politically opportunistic line, one that plays on the crucial need for jobs as well as on a traditional disdain for welfare recipients held by large slices of the electorate. It's also devoid of anything resembling genuine compassion.

Many people on welfare are there because they have tried and failed to secure decent paying jobs. The last Republican president put his imprint on the weakest so-called economic expansion in modern memory. Romney has been running on a pledge to extend and enhance Bush's policies, giving tax cuts to the wealthy, which would necessitate cuts to the social safety net. Yet here he is, invoking compassion as grounds for voters to congratulate themselves for their sensitivity while they join him in doing something small and mean-spirited: Cutting welfare (along with Medicaid, Medicare, food stamps and unemployment benefits) in order to hand out the proceeds to the affluent.

Romney seizing on this buzzword "compassion" seems like the result of the desperation manifest in not having enough of it in the first place.

From the beginning of the race, Romney has been plagued by troubles that stem from one fundamental truth: He is a prisoner of his own limited social experience. He can't adequately connect with people, and the people to whom he reaches out can see through him. He lacks authenticity.

In a recent national poll by NPR, half of those surveyed said they had "cool" or "unfavorable" feelings toward Romney. A recent ABC News/Washington Post poll asked registered voters which candidate "better understands the economic problems people in this country are having," and which one "seems like the more friendly and likeable person." Obama trounced Romney on both counts, by 52 percent to 39 percent, and 62 percent to 29 percent, respectively.

Translation: People don't relate to Romney, even the people who will vote for him on policy grounds. They don't understand him, and what they do understand they don't much like. Worst of all, they think that he is in no position to understand them.

The potential electoral consequences of these numbers seem clear enough. When people don't like you, and when they don't think you have a grasp of their problems, they maybe don't work up the same passion about helping you to become the president of the United States.

The broader consequences of a compassion deficit seem to exacerbate Romney's problems, sowing stress that seems to make him prone to saying the bumbling and unsympathetic things that have undermined his candidacy.

Those who are emotionally disconnected from others suffer physiological consequences, according to academics engaged in the scientific exploration of compassion. Research has found that taking care of others actually yields health benefits, lowering stress levels, delivering more oxygen to the brain and relieving strain on the heart.

"Compassion is simply recognition of another's suffering," said James R. Doty, a neurosurgeon who heads Stanford University's Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education. "We know -- and evidence has borne this out -- that a person who cares for others actually has improved immune states and lower levels of stress hormones. When you are more compassionate and caring for others, you actually improve your physical and mental health, because there are mechanisms in us that actually improve when we care for others."

So maybe if Romney had more of the stuff he's advertising, he would be calm enough to think before he speaks and avoid costly gaffes. Maybe he would sleep better, and perform better on the stump. Maybe he would be better attuned to what is happening around him in the rooms where he is addressing voters, and in the country he seeks to govern.

Or maybe not. Romney is surely not invoking such an elevated conception in his campaign ads. He's just trying to win a few votes by draping a selfish impulse -- 'Quit wasting taxpayer money on lazy poor people!' -- in morally palatable language.

But if compassion is a tempting word for politicians to throw around, it is also a dangerous thing to claim for those who don't really have much of it, warn psychologists who have identified a clear backlash that tends to result.

"Viewers have the ability to feel that viscerally," Emma Seppala, associate director of the Stanford compassion center, tells me. "Romney may be better off sticking to sincerity. If he's sincerely compassionate, then great, people will buy it and his policies will reflect that. If he's pretending, however, he's likely going to make more enemies than friends and create discomfort among his viewers."

The one consolation for Romney in that scenario: If viewers feel discomfort, he probably won't notice. And if he does notice, he probably won't care.

 
 
 

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One little problem with the compassion thing that Mitt Romney keeps touting in his recent television ads: He doesn't seem to have any. We can safely assume that he cares about his wife and their bo...
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blueskyseas
Veni, Vedi, Velcro. I came, I saw, I stuck around
05:46 AM on 10/13/2012
And to think that in 2008, John McCain was vetting VP candidates, of which Sarah Palin and Mitt Romney were potentials...

and McCain went with Sarah Palin.
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Bellerophon69
08:14 PM on 10/11/2012
Lack of human compassion is not just Mitts problem for me; the Republican platform seems to be devoid of a lot of humanity and caring as well. They care for the unborn, yet seem to believe that contraception equates with abortion, that the children of the poor or minorities should be resigned to no assistance, and finally that being the worlds policeman is a more important thing than education. Tough luck kid, sorry you weren't born rich or in a country we had to rebuild. Corporations, Banks, and Wall Street all receive plenty of tax breaks and bailouts when they fail, and somehow their mistakes are unfortunate and we should help them, but social welfare is pandering to slackers whose mistakes are well deserved, and what have you done for me lately. Frankly Christians have been losing me as well lately with the Neo Prosperity/Old Testament Taliban movements; the most "Christian" practitioners of late have been the Catholic Nuns up in NYC telling the Pope where to go by defying the Cardinal sent to rein them because they're helping the poor and touting contraception; you go Sisters, Jesus ministry is what you are doing!
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l78lancer
Wisdom is the principal thing
05:31 PM on 10/09/2012
Romney is a mirage. He's like mist or vapors. He moves, twists, blows and flows according to the direction of the prevailing winds. He has no mass, volume, substance, texture or temperature. And and as such Romney has not compassion or empathy. As surely as he became "compassionate" on October 3, 2012, he will become a preacher of the rightwing dogma if it means retaining their support.

While you can't fool all of the people all of the time, he has made a life out of fooling enough of the people to support him at their own expense and to his benefit.
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Tom Rowland
In Dog we trust
01:50 PM on 10/09/2012
This piece hits the nail on the head...Rmoney has never lived outside the narrow field of his well-to-do upbringing. He has never truly struggled...yes, he has struggled in this campaign, but never struggled to make ends meet, never struggled to put food on the table, etc. When people have gone their entire lives without truly seeing things from the perspective of another layer of society by actually EXPERIENCING what others experience on a daily basis, there comes a "point of no return" where it seems as though it's downright impossible for them to understand anything from any viewpoint but their own, lifelong perspective.
It's as though people form a grid of sorts that fits over their lives and lifestyles, makes sense of everything. Then, when they pick up and go someplace else, whether it's physical or metaphorical, they carry that same grid with them, and try to lay it down over a landscape that doesn't really fit within their grid. So the grid takes precedence, and they force that grid onto the landscape, changing the reality of that landscape in their own minds to fit their grid, instead of seeing the landscape for what it really is, and changing their grid to accommodate that reality.
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budanatr
US Expat in EU
12:43 PM on 10/09/2012
Empathy is an essential element of a modern human personality. Mitt Romney lacks this and because of that is not qualified to be President. Lack of empathy and narcissism are disqualifiers. Romney suffers from both personality disorders.
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01:22 PM on 10/09/2012
100% correct!
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Gestas
Mountain Man
12:30 PM on 10/09/2012
Compassionate for the Richest 1%...
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ClutchThePearlsMary
Keep moving!!..Shoot the dead & bury the wounded!
05:41 AM on 10/09/2012
“When he was in La w/Jindel after the floods for a photo-op....a woman came up to him crying that she had lost eveything...her home was underwater......had nowhere to go....didn't know where to begin......

Robot response: "Go home & call 211"

A compassionate person would have gotten a staffer immediately to use a cell phone they had that was working....& instruct them to cut through the red tape...get Red Cross & whatever agencies to provide help. He would have instructed to get this woman into a safe place/motel/shelter IMMEDIATELY....using the power he has & connections to make this possible in minutes w/ ONE phone call.....

AND....a true compassionate/genuinely caring person w/ CLASS would have done this quietly...away from the camera....simply because it would have been the right thing to do for someone distraught in a horrific crisis”

There are BASIC human qualities that transend wealth....The Kennedys, Rockefellers & so many other wealty American dynasties....were able to "connect" w/ the non-wealthy....provide foundations....quietly do charitable deeds........Something is very wrong w/ BishopWillard....
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OtayPanky
You're welcome
02:22 AM on 10/09/2012
In a mere 90 minutes, in front of 70 million people, Romney destroyed the "no compassion" meme that Team Obama has been building (often enough with Romney's help) for the past year.

That meme is now Humpty Dumpty. It's broken beyond repair. It's an act of stupidity and futility for Team Obama to try to put it together again.

You don't win re-election by concentrating on what you say are the challenger's policy or personal flaws. You win re-election by convincing the electorate that you are clearly the better man (or woman) for the job, just like you were four years ago.
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budanatr
US Expat in EU
12:44 PM on 10/09/2012
Exactly. That is why Mitt Romney cannot win.
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nkurland
I'm going to leave this planet alive
01:23 AM on 10/09/2012
What compassion? In the debate Romney proved that he's willing to take any position, say anything and court any demographic based purely on what will position him better for the general election at the moment. If anything, that's downright sociopathic.
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Jamie Schler
Writer at Life's a Feast & Huff Post blogger.
01:03 AM on 10/09/2012
Romney's supporters keep saying how having experience being a CEO will make him a great President. But what makes an effective CEO and what makes an effective President are not in any measure the same thing, no matter how well one "knows" how the economy works. Compassion, as you so astutely point out, is not high on the list of qualifications for a CEO - a CEO usually has no knowledge or or contact with the workers who produce what he is making money from (at least in a company like Bain), and those "little people" are dispensible, only tools used in the making of money and success. Compassion usually gets in the way. A President, on the other hand, must be riddled with compassion for every single person he represents, and quite possibly he needs more compassion for those lowest on the totem pole, those who most need compassion and someone to fight for them. And Obama has loads of it. That's the difference between electing someone with business experience and someone who spent years as a community organizer.
heterodoxlibertarian
bleeding heart libertarian
12:21 AM on 10/09/2012
Compassion is caring for people. Both sides have compassion. The question is what policies are best to help those in need and the big government approach of higher taxes, more spending, and expanded regulation does not help those in need. Indeed, government has done great damage to the poor with misguided programs and interventions in the market.
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cheryl tobin
Alpha Dog with my pack!
09:00 AM on 10/09/2012
Also, the government has provided food and shelter for needy families in a crisis situation. Many children have benefited from these services and have grown up to lead successful lives. The question is how to people survive in a capitalistic society if you are without a job. sick or old. Churches and charities have not been able to fill this need.
heterodoxlibertarian
bleeding heart libertarian
01:45 PM on 10/09/2012
The government has increased poverty with misguided intervention. The minimum wage, for example, has raised unemployment, serving as a barrier to entry for the unskilled poor. Occuptional licensing has allowed wealthy, established forces to keep out the poor, reducing opportunity. Protectionism leads to higher costs for goods. The war on drugs leads to the poor being thrown in prison, making them less likely to get jobs. So the government has made things worse.
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ChiBloger
And the truth shall set us ALL free
11:32 AM on 10/09/2012
I think when you use the term “Big Government” Only to deny the continuation or attack our social safety net you reveal your lack of compassion. Government is of, for and by the people. Why should not government be compassionate else the compassion of these people are false.
The term “Big Government” can be safely applied to the following situations:
Enacting laws created by big /Right wing business through ALEC that are not the will of the people.
Creating laws that disenfranchise citizens from voting.
Removing the right of the vote from those convicted of felony.
Forced cross vaginal ultrasound on women against their will.
Targeting Abortion clinics to closure with onerous laws.
Attempting to take away Social security from the people in order to give it over to corporations who will steal it.
Continual deference to the military industrial complex which saps our resources.
Laws promoting gay hatred among the citizenry for political gain.

It seems the Right wingers love Big Government after all but only when it's the most hateful, wasteful and disregarding of basic human dignity.
heterodoxlibertarian
bleeding heart libertarian
01:47 PM on 10/09/2012
Alright let's take them one by one. You'd have to specify what laws don't reflect "the will of the people." I agree. I agree. I agree. Okay so Social Security is 30 trillion dollars in the hole. Privatization would not lead to corporations stealing a thing. It would simply allow people to do whatever they wanted to plan for their retirement. They could invest, they could put their money in a retirement account with no risk and earn a little interest, and so on and so forth. Privatization would establish a legal claim to retirement funds, something that currently does not exist. I would say that defense spending could be cut in some areas, there's pork in all departments, including the Pentagon. Agree, gay hatred is despicable. I'm not a right winger so that's why agree on many of these... and many issues as well I'm sure.
10:31 PM on 10/08/2012
Well, anyone who is really observant can see that Romney has little compassion and doesn't understand people in different circumstances.

The real mystery, is why so many people will vote for him still.
01:48 AM on 10/09/2012
you got that right
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ex nihilo
Playing Old Man Par.
06:40 AM on 10/09/2012
The people that will vote for him are either severely misinformed or have even less compassion than he does.
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Joe Brindley
Don't tread on me.
09:58 PM on 10/08/2012
It's funny, the remarks you liberals make about how little compassion Romney has, even cutting on his wife, really makes your true colors show. You are the ones without compassion, you den of hypocrites.
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Jamie Schler
Writer at Life's a Feast & Huff Post blogger.
01:06 AM on 10/09/2012
And when has Romney shown compassion for anybody? He insults every person he talks about or speaks to. He says that he wants to cut funding for education, for welfare, food stamps, wants to take away healthcare to those millions who finally could enjoy healthcare under the ACA, and the list goes on. These things show a definite lack of compassion. I have never seen one drop of compassion in the man. If you have any examples, please share.
06:26 AM on 10/09/2012
The wife that talks about "you people". The Romneys are arrogant and greedy people. All they have done for this country is take from it. None of them have risked their lives to protect fellow Americans.
I am a disabled vet, one of the people that Romney and Ryan spit on. They are not worthy of my sacrifice or the sacrifice of other veterans.
It is sad that Ann Romney has MS, but that is life. But there is nothing honorable about her contracting a disease.
When one of the Romneys gets their limbs blown off in a foreign land and the family spends a few decades watching their loved one contend with the challenges of life maybe then the Romneys will begin to understand the meaning of empathy.
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homer winslow
Truth in Beauty, Beauty in Truth
10:38 AM on 10/09/2012
Dave, thank you for your service. It is obvious to anyone who has feelings that Mitt and Ann do not care about you, me or anyone else who can't enrich them in some way.
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Joe Brindley
Don't tread on me.
09:53 PM on 10/08/2012
So, Pete, you must have lived with Romney for quite a few years to blow out all these judgements. You Know what's great about liberals of the Left? They know absolutely everything about nothing and you are no exception to the rule.
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budanatr
US Expat in EU
01:12 PM on 10/09/2012
You know what is great about Brindley, he has not idea what he does not know but that never stops him from spouting off.
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RUKidding0
Freedom is Fundamental
09:41 PM on 10/08/2012
“ … bemoaning an expansion of food stamps in response to the worst economic downturn since the Great Depression.” …

… is NOT the pertinent point, nor one that Romney or any other American makes.

Obama’s FAILED presidency that created the NECESSITY for the expansion IS !!!

Obama’s socialist impulses that encouraged him to make these folks wards of the state IS !!!

Obama’s leaving 25 Million Americans un and under employed while pissing away billions on corrupt payoffs, like Solyndra, IS the point.

Obama’s advancing the social democratic state with its concomitant destruction of American Freedom IS the point.

Finally, real political compassion consists of recognizing the supremacy of individual freedom over ANY other issue and helping people help themselves.
berzsa
For I was lost and now I'm found!
12:20 AM on 10/09/2012
It is not a failed presidency that created the necessity of welfare payment expansions but the recession and unemployment, both of which were inherited. Loss of jobs started in 2008 and unemployment numbers kept increasing for the first nine months of the Obama presidency until this administration's policies started to take effect, jobs were added and unemployment started to decrease slowly but steadily. The folks who are on welfare are not wards of the state but are receiving a temporary help from the taxpayers. There is no Socialist agenda involved since these people have a right to their unemployment compensation and food stamps for a period of time or until they find a job. It's the law! Solyndra was one government experiment that failed while hundreds prospered. Not all investments pay off. Actually 97% of government investment in green energy has been successful or is still viable. What freedoms has Obama destroyed, pray tell? Any more parroting of baseless mantra for you? We all have the supreme individual freedom you so passionately embrace, nobody is interfering with that..... but, yes, compassion for your fellow citizen who needs your help is just as American as any other lofty American virtue you honor.
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RUKidding0
Freedom is Fundamental
09:45 AM on 10/09/2012
See,

http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/liberty-positive-negative/

Obama's social democratic state INHERENTLY destroys the freedom upon which this nation was founded..

We can have freedom or the collectivist tyranny of an overweening social democratic state, but not both at the same time in the same country.

Study our history over the last three quarters of a century since FDR's "New Deal", starting with the link I provided ... and you will discover that even FDR litearlly had to invent a new and incompatible definition of "freedom" to even be able to pretend that he wasn't destroying it.
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cheryl tobin
Alpha Dog with my pack!
09:06 AM on 10/09/2012
Maybe the collapse of the Big Banks, the recession and two unfunded wars that happened under Bush are too far back in history for you to remember.
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RUKidding0
Freedom is Fundamental
09:48 AM on 10/09/2012
I remember, but that is no excuse.

Under worse conditions - including 15 - 25% inflation, Reagan solved the problem and was re-elected by a massive majority - precisely because at this point in his first term, unemployment was down in the statisitcal noise and the economy had recovered.

Consider what damage four more years of Obama FAILURE will wreak upon the American economy and polity.