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Brad Hirschfield

Brad Hirschfield

Posted: March 19, 2010 10:56 AM

Seeking Converts to Judaism

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Proselytizing, seeking converts, sharing the "good news", or evangelizing. While different communities favor different terms, it's all pretty much the same.

Now, it's true that no form of Judaism imagines that one must be Jewish to attain salvation or gain entrance to heaven, and equally true that Jews have not traditionally sought converts. But rabbis serving the nation's largest Jewish denomination, the Reform movement, recently stepped away from that tradition.

At the 121st meeting of the Central Conference of American Rabbis, the group decided that the open spiritual marketplace of America and the reality of increasing intermarriage between Jews and gentiles demanded the change. A press release from the meeting included the following:

"While in the past the Reform rabbis focused discussion on how to prevent intermarriage, the CCAR today affirmed that intermarriage is a given and should be approached with the goal of engaging intermarried families in Jewish life and living. Rabbis can and should work to improve the effectiveness of their efforts to encourage intermarried people to embrace Judaism for themselves and their children." The statement goes on to stress "the importance of encouraging in-marriage (marriage between Jews) and conversion of non-Jewish spouses".

Whatever one thinks about the substance of this statement on intermarriage and the conversion of Christians to Judaism, there are lessons there for all of us -- lessons about keeping things in perspective and appreciating that even the most radical things often become entirely normal.

Minimally, I hope that their statement will remind Reform rabbis that when it comes to seeking converts, what's sauce for the goose is also sauce for the gander, that turnabout is fair play, and that we should do unto others as they would do unto us.

Imagine the consternation that would be caused were a Christian group to target Jews, even if "only" those married to Christians, this way. Oh wait, we don't have to because they sometimes do, and when they do, it is the Reform movement that has traditionally led the cry against such behavior, labeling it theologically ugly and communally inappropriate.

Truthfully, I am not fundamentally opposed to seeking converts to Judaism as long as doing so is never based on the superiority of Judaism to other paths. The fact that Jews have not done so over the last two millennia is at least as much a function of historical circumstance as theological commitment. But then we should be open to the fact that members of other faiths have the right to do the same thing.

But it is weird when Jewish groups call it "poaching" when Christians seek to convert Jews, yet find it acceptable for Jews to seek the conversion of Christians. That we are numerically smaller and more psychologically insecure about our own existence does not give us rights we do not grant others.

I am also struck by the fact that the ideas which form the substance of CCAR's statement were first proposed to the same movement as early as 1978 by Rabbi Alexander Schindler. But when Schindler first imagined that intermarriage was a door into -- and not out of -- the Jewish community, he was thought of as kooky at best and reviled at worst. To miss that is to miss the really important lesson in this new move by these rabbis.

Every tradition was once a radical innovation, and virtually every innovation was initially decried as destructive of the very culture it sought to revitalize. I hope that whatever people think about intermarriage, proselytizing by Jews, or virtually any other religiously divisive issue, we can all keep that in mind and treat each other accordingly.

The rabbis of the Mishnah (legal text from about 100 years after the time of the New Testament) ask why we preserve minority and rejected opinions in Jewish law so carefully. The response is that one day another generation will arise and view the rulings rejected now as appropriate conclusions for them.

Imagine if different kinds of Jews looked at each other that way. Imagine if members of different faiths did so as well. If they did, all of our houses of worship would be overflowing and nobody would worry about shrinking numbers, religious competition, or any of the other worries which distract us from the bigger picture - the picture of people using the world's many wisdoms to make their lives better and empower them to help others do the same.

What we really need, at least for now, is a new ethic of proselytizing, one which accepts that some people feel compelled to share their faith, while demanding that they do so in a way that doesn't turn the believers' pursuit of heaven into a living hell for those who don't share their beliefs.

 
Proselytizing, seeking converts, sharing the "good news", or evangelizing. While different communities favor different terms, it's all pretty much the same. Now, it's true that no form of Judaism im...
Proselytizing, seeking converts, sharing the "good news", or evangelizing. While different communities favor different terms, it's all pretty much the same. Now, it's true that no form of Judaism im...
 
 
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10:04 PM on 03/23/2010
I have a number of married friends who have followed the same paths.

Non-Jewish wives, never having converted to Judaism, bearing children and raising them as Jewish, ignoring the traditional matrilineal basis.

No one will ever ask their offspring for paperwork to prove their authentic claims to being Jewish.

Regardless of the tradition, or law that defines who is Jewish, the best thing that the Jewish community could do to stem the tide of exodus from among its ranks is to welcome those who want to share a Jewish life into the community.

Why bother with formal conversions or other processes? There is no need to seek converts, let's just welcome those who wish to share their lives with a Jewish mate and make that process as simple as and welcoming possible.
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09:48 PM on 03/20/2010
BTW, it is against Jewish practice to in any way persuade, entice, encourage anyone to join our tribe. Jews are not part of a religion. On the contrary, a Jew must discourage it. Jews are part of a tribe which like all tribes have or had an ancient religion. Christianity, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism and the others are purely religions that anyone can freely and easily adopt if one so chooses. Judaism is NOT. It is the narrow religion of a specific tribe of people, and nothing more. It claims no unique path to "salvation" or anything like that. On the contrary, it places more burdens than anything. It is the yoke of the Law tailored for the needs of this specific tribe, though it carries messages of a universal God of the universe who created humanity for various specific tasks, and demands a certain minimal set of behaviors for all.
03:00 PM on 03/19/2010
It appears to me that the writer of this article does not understand the proposal of the Reform Jews to actively proselytize to be directed at spouses of jews. Either way, Conservative and Orthodox judaism may still have a problem with spouses thusly converted. It is a much larger problem than discussed here, and it is a different one than the writer understands it, apparently. There is no movement, that I know of, to proselytize members of other religion who do not intermarry with jews.
10:21 PM on 03/19/2010
As an active Jew (who attends both conservative and orthodox services) it is no surprise to me that once again the detractors from within the religion are the reform Jews. Reform Judaism was largely conceived as a way to hide the fact that Jews were Jews, and to make assimilation as easy and seamless as possible in Western Europe, primarily Germany. From doing services in pure vernacular to the absurdly high rate of intermarriage and goyim children, the message has always been clear: By and large reform Jews do not have Jewish children, therefore, Reform Judaism is not sustainable and harmful to Jews as a community. The decline in number of Jews in the United States from the 70's to today is a marked reminder of this fact.
02:36 PM on 03/19/2010
A few weeks ago I found a family member of mine again via facebook. We both have the same jewish family name. We had fathers who were brothers. We wrote each other exchanging WWII experiences. And also family experiences. He wanted to know about the *jewish connection*. Strangely enough, his father had taught me jewish concepts as a child, but not him. He had to wear the Star of David, but I never had to do that. I, however, did make a trip to Auschwitz, but was released and managed to get my father and family members released, as a young child, and he was out of the nazi's range. In the end of WWII I had to go for Anmeldung with the Ortskommandant, every month, he never did. Our parents were educated and degreed, not much into religion at all. In fact, some familymembrs were communists in the 1800's and early 1900's. Never mind, I found that my jewish heritage is part of my DNA. I am a jew. It is not about religion, because jews and muslim, for example, believe in the same deity. It is not about joining a group, or a church. It is who you are. As such, you have a right to be and to be educated. It is about birthright.
08:02 PM on 03/21/2010
My dad and his twin were born in Breslau in 1929. My grandfather was fired from his job with the German government in 1933, and they were lucky to be able to leave Germany for Italy shortly thereafter. They finally made it to the US in 1941--my grandmother had a wealthy sister with connections. My grandfather changed the family name to Adams, because they wanted to obliteratre their Jewishness, something I can understand, given the circumstances. However, my whole life, most of my friends have been Jewish, usually the Reform variety. I have been attending synagogue now for about 15 years, and officially converted about 7 years ago. I discovered who I was, and who I have always been in Reform Judaism. I am married to a nonJew, who is perfectly understanding, and have raised my kids as Jewish. I am a synagogue president.
I have been reading about the Reform Movement's efforts to promote conversion, and I believe they are very mild---not much different from the Intro to Catholicism classes that all Catholic churches offer. Furthermore, no one is threatened with Hell if they don't join, no one is told that Judaism is the best religion, and so on. I do, however, believe that Reform Judaism has something to offer people, and I don't think it's wrong to let curious people know what we are about.
02:25 PM on 03/19/2010
Judaism is not just a religion. Being a jew is being part of a family (mispocha), a tradition, a culture. Conversion to judaism is not easy at all; it requires lifelong learning. As a person is born in an intermarriage family, he/she is a jew when the mother is a jew, but , as it stands now, since post talmudic times, NOT if the father is a jew and the mother is not. This has practical consequences, apart from religion. A child of a ajewish father, has a jewish name and is considered a jew by everyone, except for the jewish community. During WWII such children were wearing the Star of David, and they were transported to extermination camps. First it was persons with two jewish parents, then also only a jewish mother, then a jewish father, and finally persons with jewish ancestry. Children of mixed parentage often identify with one cultural heritage, for a number of reasons. If one has a black parent, and has an African American appearance, one may, or may not, identify as an African American. However, the world identifies the person as an African American and the black community accepts this person. Acceptance of a person as part of community is a large component of heritage. To be a jew one must know hebrew, know about the culture, the religion, the rhythm of life, and one's history. This requires being educated in that heritage.
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jgarbuz
09:39 PM on 03/20/2010
Jews are a tribe (sheivet in Hebrew). The natural connection to the tribe is matrilinial, unlike most tribes which are usually patrilinial. Jews and Muslims claim a common ancestral patriarch, Abraham, but Isaac and Ishmael had different mothers - Sarah and Hagar respectively. So the distinction in our heritage comes from the mother and not the father. And we are heir to different tribal homelands. Also, because women generally had domestic duties rather than religious or occupational ones, they are compensated for doing this difficult, often unappreciated "menial" work by being blessed as being the determinants of who is part of our nation. And perhaps unintentionally, it is sort of a "punishment" or deterrent for Jewish men to know that if they take foreign wives, their children are not part of the community. It may not be "politically correct" in this day and age, but there we are. It is what it is. There are hundreds of millions in the world today who have carry some Jewish heritage within their DNA, but God chose us to have a small piece of land of our own, so apparently the intention is that we not be great in numbers but hopefully in good deeds.
01:29 PM on 03/19/2010
Religion is a belief system and while it may not be politically correct to try and seek converts, the fact is that all religions can not be equally true. Christians believe Jesus is God in human form, Muslims believe he is simply a prophet, Mormons believe Jesus was from another planet and Jews simply ignore Jesus, their 1st century historian Josephus simply mentioning him as the leader of a 1st century religious movement. Atheists believe Jesus was a liar and a deceiver.

In a free society where ideas should be debated openly there should be no exception for religion. Christianity may be true or it may be the biggest lie in history. If it is true than it is the duty of Christians to try and convert others. Non-Christians may think that Christianity is ridiculous but to say it is insensitive for Christians to try and convert them is just as ridiculous.
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VirginiaJeff
Waiting for the "Jennifer Government" movie
02:08 PM on 03/19/2010
Agreed. I can't imagine any group -- Christian, atheist, Hare Krishna, capitalist, socialist -- not having the right to promote its way of thinking, and for others to voice disagreement with such thinking.
02:46 PM on 03/19/2010
Religion may be a beliefsystem, but judaism and being a jew is about more than that. Being able to change your mind, believe in another religion, and become a convert is one thing, Being chased, forcibly converted, being lied to in order to be made a convert is quite another thing. For example, Messianic *Jews* are groups of persons who were former jews and non jews, but they present themselves as jews, which they (no longer) are, religionwise. That is misrepresentation. Debating ideas, religion, ethics, and any other subject, is perfectly fine. Having Christians, Messianics, wait outside your College class, walking around you, sothat you trip over them, and being forced to hear them is another thing altogether. Getting an urgent notice from your childrens' school for a PTA meeting, then being surrounded by a group of twenty or more Christians, and marched into their Church, and being forcibly *baptized* is yet another experience. You may think that being irritated by this is *just ridiculous*. I have experienced all those things, in Memphis, TN, and I am telling you, that is interfering with another person's human right to be.
12:55 PM on 03/19/2010
How about ending evangelism altogether? Instead of actively trying to convert people, why not let them approach a religion freely without external influence?
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VirginiaJeff
Waiting for the "Jennifer Government" movie
02:09 PM on 03/19/2010
What's the purpose of free speech, if we can't use it to promote our ideas?
02:54 PM on 03/19/2010
You got it! That is the way to do it. However, in the case of a *mixed marriage* there are points to be made for making a decision in how you are going to lead your life together, how you are going to raise your children - everyone must do that. If it is just two branches of the same religion, it is not much of an issue, or should not be. If ther are two very different religions, such as Islam and Chritianity, then there are very strong cultural and life rhythm considertions that come into the mix. If it s a decision between Christianity and Judaism, there is a difference of the Deity, and there are strong cultural/heritage considerations. The way and rhythm of life. Scripture for jews is in Hebrew, so it involves knowing biblical hebrew. Judaism is a very complex and involved cultural heritage, and to be able to teach one's children, one must know it. Even if one decides not to teach any religion, the child may have questions, ask if h/she can be jewish, and those questions must be answered.