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Rabbi David Wolpe

Rabbi David Wolpe

Posted: February 6, 2011 07:20 PM

True Goodness

Is there such a thing as disinterested goodness? In the world of faith I believe there is -- and I offer a brief, wonderful story to reinforce the point:

My father's father died when my father was 11 years old. His mother was a widow at 34, and he -- an only child -- bore much of his grief alone. In accordance with traditional practice, he began to walk very early to synagogue each morning to say prayers in his father's memory, a practice lasting for a year after a parent's death.

At the end of his first week, he noticed that the ritual director of the synagogue, Mr. Einstein, walked past his home just as he left to walk to synagogue. Mr. Einstein, already advanced in years explained "Your home is on the way to the synagogue. I thought it might be fun to have some company. That way, I don't have to walk alone."

For a year my father and Mr. Einstein walked through the New England seasons, the humidity of summer and the snow of winter. They talked about life and loss and for a while my father was not so alone.

After my parents married and my oldest brother was born, my father called Mr. Einstein, now well into his 90s, and asked if he could meet his new wife and child. Mr. Einstein agreed but said that, in view of his age, my father would have to come to him. My father writes:

"The journey was long and complicated. His home, by car, was fully twenty minutes away. I drove in tears as I realized what he had done. He had walked for an hour to my home so that I would not have to be alone each morning. ... By the simplest of gestures, the act of caring, he took a frightened child and he led him with confidence and with faith back into life."

Say what you will about the evolutionary origins of altruism, or the way everyone is essentially selfish. There are transcendent and sacred possibilities in human beings. My father is gone now, but Mr. Einstein's walk continues to usher many of us along our journey.

 
 
 
True Goodness Is there such a thing as disinterested goodness? In the world of faith I believe there is -- and I offer a brief, wonderful story to reinforce the point: My father's father died when...
True Goodness Is there such a thing as disinterested goodness? In the world of faith I believe there is -- and I offer a brief, wonderful story to reinforce the point: My father's father died when...
 
 
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PMJ79
Gloria in excelsis Deo
05:50 PM on 02/11/2011
I'm glad that love and compassion and mercy are part of human nature, but they always compete with the dark side of human nature. Everyone has that war going on inside of them, between God and Satan, light and darkness.
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Ted Bouklos
U can have ur own opinions but not ur own facts
03:54 PM on 02/10/2011
Two words: Reciprocal altruism, birds do it, monkeys do it , we do it.. It's an evolutionary tool for survival.
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PMJ79
Gloria in excelsis Deo
05:51 PM on 02/11/2011
What an underused tool that is.
08:28 PM on 02/09/2011
Love the story and the theme of your article. Yes we can be Good. A transcended and sacred core of our being can shine forth. I think when this truly happens we name the result "Love".
06:59 PM on 02/09/2011
The only way to justify altruism is with divine commandments. Here on Earth, altruism (the moral duty to serve others at the expense of self) just makes things worse.

http://www.rationalpublicradio.com/have-you-abandoned-faith-but-kept-christian-morality.html
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Ted Bouklos
U can have ur own opinions but not ur own facts
03:56 PM on 02/10/2011
Reciprocal altruism.. look it up.. it needs no divine commandment.. only the drive to survive...
06:53 PM on 02/11/2011
Altruism in any flavor doesn't actually work on Earth with people. We have been conditioned to think it is good, not because it helps us, but because of divine commandment.
08:42 PM on 02/11/2011
The nature of reciprocity and the nature of altruism are diametrically opposed. The term "wrongly" describing something that exists in reality.
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Scott Schwenk
02:59 PM on 02/09/2011
"There are transcendent and sacred possibilities in human beings." Indeed. The willingness to practice this 'vision' both with the person in the mirror, and the mirror of the people in my life continues to reveal this transcendent and sacred, and the 'disinterested goodness' becomes a more prominent expression, over-riding the neediness of limited ego.
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Hillbilly49
Don't tell me you are a Christian; let me guess.
10:36 AM on 02/09/2011
Yes, people can be good and moral without gods.  However, more importantly being without the myths, fables and God of the Bible usually makes ones' life richer.   Religious fundamentalism is always an anathema to a free society.
03:41 PM on 03/27/2011
I love how you just post random "quotes" like if they were the undeniable truth. Stop being subtly smug through your attempt at being "clever". Your quotes are crap and have no place being post on a forum. Religion, just like "science, affects people in different ways and both have good values and that contribute to the advancement of society.
08:52 AM on 02/09/2011
Are there transcendent and sacred possibilities in people? Does easing the loneliness of an eleven year old boy by expending time and effort to be by his side during a year-long obligation make a transcendent moment? We might ask first what the motivation was for Mr Einstein taking on this task.

Mr Einstein seems to have had a very strong faith that led him to be a guide for a youth, who might on his own, without a father’s guidance, find little enthusiasm for the obligations and discipline required of the faith he was born into.

Proselytizing by the faithful is an act of passion that sends them into neighbourhoods, knocking on doors that slam in their face; yet they relentlessly continue because they believe they have found something transcendent. Was this what Mr Einstein was doing? Having others share your beliefs strengthens your own. A delusion shared is still a delusion. It’s a nice story though.
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Maria Alvarellos
08:45 AM on 02/09/2011
That is a lovely story.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:19 PM on 02/08/2011
Rabbi,

Read Romans end to end it tells you why and how
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
08:22 PM on 02/08/2011
We Christian need to find God in God.We have made the passion of our Lord into a dull system of rules, we need to discern and discover our own story and change the events in the Bible into a spiritual experience. Yes, change what some perceive as myths to mysticism. I feel there is a Christian need to let go of our attachment to words, rules and dogma, not be afraid of emptiness and go below the surface of the images find the Truth. We need to let go, relax and be still and let God be God.

Psalm 46:10 (New International Version
10 "Be still, and know that I am God;
http://thinkunity.com
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Allan Richter
06:16 PM on 02/08/2011
Nice article! :-)
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MohammedAbbasi
Co-Director, Association of British Muslims
05:37 PM on 02/08/2011
Shalom, my dear Rabbi that was a good article many thanks for this :)

May peace be with you
Bellla
Trans & Proud
11:20 AM on 02/08/2011
There is no good karma, there is no bad karma, there is only karma.
We each possess a kernel of the Divine within. If God is Good, then yes, there is good in all life.
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Oceras
A little inductive reasoning is a dangerous thing.
12:14 AM on 02/08/2011
A truly lovely and touching story.
But Mr. Einstein was not disinterested except in the legal sense of a disinterested party. By doing what he did, being one human being helping another in a time of need, he showed that he was indeed a very interested party. If nothing else, interested in performing a mitzvah.
Perhaps you meant unselfish?
11:20 PM on 02/07/2011
Good and God are essentially the same word. We ask these questions only because our society has fallen so far from our high ideals.
"When I tell you that My feet have already walked the pavements of your cities, this, My friends, is the truth. Men are known to Me in the fullest sense: I know their hopes and fears. I know their longings and yearnings. I know their aspiration for good. Upon all of this I rely. Make it your avowed task to aid Me in My coming work. May it be that you become channels for My Love. In this way shall you fulfil your destiny, too." - Messages from Maitreya the Christ