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Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben, Ph.D.
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Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben holds Bachelors degrees in Philosophy and Political Science from the University of California, Davis, MsEd from the University of Southern California and MAHL from the Hebrew Union College, Certification in Aging and Human Development from the University of Georgia, a Ph.D. in Religion from Sierra University and two honorary doctorates from the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College and the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion.

Rabbi Reuben is the author of numerous books, including "Raising Jewish Children in a Contemporary World" (1992), "Making Interfaith Marriage Work" (1994), "Raising Ethical Children" (1994, Prima Publishing), "Children of Character: Leading Your Children to Ethical Choices in Everyday Life" (1997, Canter & Associates), "A Nonjudgmental Guide to Interfaith Marriage" (2002), "A Parent’s Guilt-Free Guide to Raising Jewish Kids" (2002, Xlibris Corporation), "There’s an Easter Egg on Your Seder Plate: Surviving Your Child’s Interfaith Marriage" (2008, Praeger Publishing) and "Becoming Jewish: The Challenges, Rewards, and Paths to Conversion" (2011, Roman & Littlefield).

He is Senior Rabbi of Kehillat Israel Reconstructionist Congregation in Pacific Palisades, California (the largest Reconstructionist congregation in the world) and is a past President of the Board of Rabbis of Southern California. He is married to Didi Carr Reuben and is stepfather to Gable.

Entries by Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben, Ph.D.

What's More Important Than the 10 Commandments?

(1) Comments | Posted February 11, 2015 | 2:14 PM

If you ask most people in the Western world where the foundation of Judea-Christian ethics comes from, I suspect that even today in our secular world of 2015 most would readily agree it all started with the famous Biblical revelation experience at Mt. Sinai called, "The 10 Commandments." Indeed, for...

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A Million People in Paris Teach Us What Religion Is Really All About

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2015 | 6:53 PM

A million people marched in Paris this week. A million men, women and children, Christians, Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus, Atheists, and those with no religious label at all, marching simply to demonstrate their ultimate humanity that crosses religious distinctions and definitions and unites all human beings through the transcendent qualities...

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Hanukah: Still Fighting for Freedom After 2000 Years

(1) Comments | Posted December 19, 2014 | 11:05 AM

Hanukah is undoubtedly the best known of all Jewish holidays. It owes this fame, in no small part, to its annual proximity to Christmas. Originally a relatively minor holiday in Jewish tradition, Hanukah has assumed greater and greater importance over time as Jews have felt a need to compete with...

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Making Interfaith Marriage Work: The Questions I Am Asked Most

(4) Comments | Posted November 29, 2014 | 4:13 PM

Interfaith marriage is one of the most persistent spiritual realities and challenges of our time. As a rabbi who has officiated at interfaith ceremonies for over 37 years I have watched as the rate of intermarriage has risen every year so that today more Jews may actually marry non-Jews than...

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Imagine a World Without Israel - Part 2

(13) Comments | Posted August 25, 2014 | 3:49 AM

Given the amount of news print, UN resolutions, radio and television air time spent commenting, discussing, attacking, challenging and reviling Israel, an alien dropping down to Earth from another planet would have to think that Israel is one of the largest, most populous and powerful countries in the world. Instead,...

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Imagine a World Without Israel - Part 1

(5) Comments | Posted August 15, 2014 | 3:09 AM

Whenever I have heard these words, "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness..." from our own Declaration of Independence, I swell with...

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Blurred Lines -- Living in the 21st Century Fish Bowl

(0) Comments | Posted May 7, 2014 | 10:56 AM

You may recall that the biggest Top 40 musical hit of last summer was a steamy, hip song by Robin Thicke called, "Blurred Lines". That song could just as well be the title song for the entire 21st Century. Blurred Lines -- like whatever happened to the line between "private"...

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What the Bible Can Teach Our Leaders About Humility

(0) Comments | Posted January 29, 2014 | 12:00 PM

For some people the three hardest words in the English language to pronounce are "I was wrong." For most of us it starts as early as pre-school. Almost immediately we quickly learn from experience that there are "right" and "wrong" answers to questions, "right" and "wrong" ways to draw, "right"...

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Most of the Time 'Good Enough' Really Is!

(1) Comments | Posted October 24, 2013 | 7:14 PM

I had a very challenging childhood. My biological father died of a heart attack when I was four years old and somewhere deep inside I decided that nothing is really ever totally safe, or secure. So perhaps it wasn't such a surprise, that, even though my mom remarried an amazing...

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The Most Important Lessons I Have Learned From 37 Years as a Rabbi

(4) Comments | Posted September 20, 2013 | 11:02 AM

Hard as you try to control your life, to make the best decisions you can, to be the best person you can be, the reality is that life has a mind of its own, and most of the time you can't really choose the circumstances of your life. Things just...

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Attitude Is Everything

(0) Comments | Posted June 17, 2013 | 3:42 PM

Every one of us has the exact same power within to transform our lives at any moment. Each of us has available every single day the exact same magic formula. That magic is the overwhelming power of attitude, and it works regardless of our dreams, regardless of our goals, regardless...

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When Faith Kills

(0) Comments | Posted May 29, 2013 | 6:12 PM

Faith is a good thing. It can bring comfort to those who suffer the grief and sadness of profound loss, and inspiration to those seeking spiritual guidance and support during times of doubt and personal struggle. Faith can give hope and strength to the weary while they battle challenging diseases...

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What Baby Elephants Can Teach Us About Human Freedom

(3) Comments | Posted January 11, 2013 | 9:33 AM

Every year at this season I am reminded of baby elephants. The New Year is just behind us, and our conversations still echo with resolutions filled with hope for changes both simple and profound. In the traditional Jewish cycle of sacred text, this is the season in which we read...

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Who Shall Live and Who Shall Die?

(7) Comments | Posted November 1, 2012 | 10:56 AM

When the Bible commands us "Justice, justice shall you pursue," the repetition is to teach that not only we must have just ends, our means to those ends must be equally just.

Our commitment to that core teaching will be tested next month by our community's response to Proposition...

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Can't We All Just Get Along?

(3) Comments | Posted September 25, 2012 | 1:26 PM

As the Jewish New Year arrives I inevitably think of all those whom we have lost over the past year. Neil Armstrong, Marvin Hamlisch, Gore Vidal, Sally Ride, Ernest Borgnine, Stephen Covey, Hal David and Nora Ephron, among others. But in truth, the one famous person who died this past...

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The Importance of Traveling with Your Children

(0) Comments | Posted July 30, 2012 | 2:00 PM

"Are we there yet?" What parent has heard that little voice coming from the backseat of the car five minutes after driving out of the garage at the beginning of a long trip and hasn't sighed and asked themselves, "Is this all really worth it?" When it comes to taking...

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Fathers Day: Lessons From My Fathers

(0) Comments | Posted June 17, 2012 | 6:25 PM

My father died when I was four years old. I woke up one morning to discover that my whole world had been turned upside down. My house was a house of mourning and my older sister and I were suddenly surrounded by grief and sadness, loss and fear of the...

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Etan Patz and 5 Lessons That Loss Can Teach

(5) Comments | Posted May 25, 2012 | 2:10 PM

I was living in New York in 1979 when Etan Patz disappeared, and it changed my life forever. I knew his uncle, who was a fellow rabbi, and I remember how the shock of his disappearance reverberated throughout the Jewish community, then all of New York as pictures of his...

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I Didn't Do It! Politics and the Culture of Denial

(6) Comments | Posted May 14, 2012 | 5:01 PM

When first confronted in July 2008 by journalists about his affair with staffer Rielle Hunter and the possibility that her baby was his, then candidate Jonathan Edwards angrily declared, "I have no idea what you're asking about... I don't respond to these lies... I stand by that." In January of...

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God's Challenge

(39) Comments | Posted May 7, 2012 | 4:07 PM

Last week a distraught young man came to see me for counseling. He told me that he had graduated from college last year, had "finished" his formal education, found a job here in Los Angeles, and now was simply feeling spiritually lost. He said, "I don't know what life is...

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