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Rachel A. Sussman, LCSW

Entries by Rachel A. Sussman, LCSW

Media Messages Do Not Promote Being Single

(48) Comments | Posted March 8, 2012 | 6:20 PM

Hurrying down the street on a cold day last week, I turned the corner and saw a huge billboard for the upcoming movie, "The Vow." Although I have no idea what the movie is about or what "the vow" actually is, I saw Rachel McAdams and Channing Tatum gazing romantically...

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Five Ways to Focus on Your Recovery, Mark Zuckerberg Style

(17) Comments | Posted February 17, 2012 | 11:30 AM

It's quite astounding how Mark Zuckerberg and Facebook have changed our world over the last decade. Whether you follow the news or not, most are well aware of Facebook's initial public offering. The list continues to expand regarding who will soon become millionaires and billionaires. Many on this...

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What I Know About Love Now That I'm In My 50s

(77) Comments | Posted February 14, 2012 | 7:29 AM

I think relationships get better with age, and mine certainly has. If I knew in my 20s what I know now, I would have avoided abundant heartache. But that's the journey, and you acquire astounding wisdom in the process. At least I did. This is what I know about love...

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Five Unexpected Behaviors That Sink a Marriage

(205) Comments | Posted January 30, 2012 | 1:00 PM

With all the celebrity breakups lately, many of us are debating, deliberating, and calculating the numerous reasons marriages fail. We all speculate whether it's the usual suspects such as infidelity, discrepancy over finances, midlife crisis, or growing apart that leads to the majority of splits.

Obviously there is no...

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Do Open Marriages Work?

(606) Comments | Posted January 24, 2012 | 12:00 PM

It seems like everyone is discussing the concept of open marriages this week after Marianne Gingrich, the second wife of GOP presidential candidate Newt Gingrich, claimed in an ABC News "Nightline" interview that her ex asked her to enter into an "open marriage" arrangement so he could continue...

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Dating a Friend's Ex: Is it Ever Okay?

(237) Comments | Posted January 18, 2012 | 12:00 PM

It started our innocently enough. Brian had been divorced for three years when he filled out the cumbersome eHarmony profile. Looking through all the profiles on other dating sites was daunting, so he decided to let a computer do the mate selection for him. He had a good feeling about...

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Consider Some Forgiveness With Your New Year Cleanse

(30) Comments | Posted January 4, 2012 | 8:11 PM

Many people I'm acquainted with were doing a fabulous job cleaning up and putting their house in order in anticipation of the New Year. In the homes I visited, both literally and through tales that were told, grand-scale transformation was commencing. Gifts were put away, luggage was unpacked, trees and...

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Please Delay The Dating Until You Are Fully Healed

(140) Comments | Posted December 20, 2011 | 11:40 AM

My client Mark* proudly announced to me the other day that he was actively dating on When my facial expression changed from a grin to a grimace, he clearly was perplexed. "I thought you'd be happy for me, Rachel. I'm tired of feeling lousy. Dating puts me in 'active'...

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I'll See You in My Dreams

(64) Comments | Posted December 2, 2011 | 11:30 AM

I met my friend for coffee the other day. Samantha's* 25 year marriage ended in divorce several years ago, and after a prolonged recovery period, she is making great strides in her newly rebuilt life.

We simultaneously arrived at our destination and after a brief greeting she turned to me...

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Creating New Traditions for Thanksgiving and the Holidays

(1) Comments | Posted November 23, 2011 | 1:45 AM

If there is one holiday that is universally celebrated in our country, it is Thanksgiving. Its meaning is simple yet profound. It kicks off our holiday season, and any religion, race or ethnicity is invited to attend. It is representative of the family unit, and it recalls memories from our...

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It's A Trick Not A Treat

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2011 | 7:45 PM

It's the week before Halloween and my office is abuzz with ghosts and goblins. Skeletons sleeping in closets have suddenly woken with fervor. My clients grant me prescient powers and command me to explain what they deem the inexplicable.

Melanie, newly separated, just returned from a business trip and...

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