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Facebooking Friends: How Soon Is Too Soon?

(4) Comments | Posted October 13, 2011 | 7:21 PM

The question of how soon to call a potential love interest is an oldie, but a goodie. The answer is debatable and I'm sure different for everyone, though I can't help but recall Vince Vaughn's Trent, in Swingers:

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?

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The Geography of Friendship

(2) Comments | Posted March 17, 2011 | 5:17 PM

Recently a new friend of mine had her 30th birthday. In true celebratory style, her friends flocked to Chicago from all over the country to celebrate. There seemed to be guests from everywhere: New York, Boston, D.C., San Francisco, Jacksonville, Atlanta -- the list goes on. A chunk of the...

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To Hug or Not to Hug?

(7) Comments | Posted November 19, 2010 | 12:22 PM

Can we please talk about the most awkward moment of a girl date? Because it's killing me.

You have a nice dinner, easy chatting, and then, when you part, there's this moment: nervous hesitation, shifting from side to side, uncomfortable energy in the air... And then you go for it....

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Pay for Play, Friendship Style

(1) Comments | Posted October 28, 2010 | 2:37 PM

There was a time when going online to find a mate was considered weird. Maybe even pathetic. That time is long gone. Online dating is standard operating procedure these days. One of my closest friends just got engaged to a fabulous guy she met online.

It works, people. But...

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Girl-Hate-Girl Action

(2) Comments | Posted October 8, 2010 | 1:20 PM

When I tell other women about my current plight, most nod their heads in agreement. They can usually relate in some capacity. Maybe they too have relocated. Perhaps they've been left behind by friends who've gotten married and moved to the suburbs. It could be that everyone in...

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Hey Ladies! 10 Tips to Make New Friends

(41) Comments | Posted October 1, 2010 | 8:00 AM

The last time I made a conscious effort to win over potential BFFs I was an awkward, eager 18-year-old -- one of about 2,000 college freshman looking for the same thing -- so I was feeling a little rusty when I started this search. But when you cannonball...

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Dining With Friends: A Weighty Issue

(1) Comments | Posted August 24, 2010 | 5:14 PM

Here's a fact I'm not proud of: I've gained about 10 pounds in the last year. There, I said it.

I attribute this to two things: Getting married and making friends. Obviously it's more complicated than that. Marriage and friendship don't actually cause weight gain. But a skipped session (or...

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Why Doesn't Bella Have Any Friends?

(1) Comments | Posted July 8, 2010 | 10:10 AM

It's true. I saw Eclipse on opening night. I clearly enjoyed myself--well, duh--though I maintain that any movie that makes the entire audience laugh during what are supposed to be the really serious parts has perhaps not totally succeeded. But I got what I came for. Taylor Lautner's my-jaw-actually-dropped-when-I-saw-them abs....

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Breaking Up Is Hard to Do -- Even More So With a Friend

(9) Comments | Posted June 30, 2010 | 7:12 PM

"Experts at Manchester University claim the bonds of friendship are so deep that splitting with even unwanted pals leads to 'terrible' guilt. And women in particular find it more traumatic to dump their friends than they do their lovers," reported The Daily Telegraph on April 13.

Friendship breakups...

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The Frenemy Within

(9) Comments | Posted June 8, 2010 | 2:23 PM

In searching for a BFF, it might be helpful to consider what qualities most certainly do not make a friend. Early in my search, I wrote about a dilemma involving my bikini waxer--specifically, the conflict between my desire to befriend her and my fear that our professional "closeness"...

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The Young and the Friendless: The Second City Factor

(3) Comments | Posted June 1, 2010 | 4:44 PM

I am a Married White Female searching for a Best Friend Forever.

It's not that I don't have best friends, mind you. It's that I moved to Chicago three years ago to be with my now-husband, and my closest friends live in New York, Boston, DC, San Francisco and...

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