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Rachel Macy Stafford
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Rachel Macy Stafford is a certified special education teacher and New York Times bestselling author of Hands Free Mama. Through truthful storytelling and simple strategies, Rachel helps people overcome distraction and perfection to live better and love more. Rachel’s second book, Hands Free Life, is currently available for pre-order and releases on September 8, 2015. Rachel loves being outdoors, baking, and doing acts of kindness for those in need with her husband and two daughters who inspire her daily. Join her on her Hands Free journey to grasp what really matters at
Rachel's books are: Hands Free Mama and Hands Free Life.

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8 Ways to End the Day in Peace & Connection

(4) Comments | Posted October 2, 2015 | 4:32 PM

I recently heard from someone who read about the "Heartbeat Check" in my new book and was making it a nightly ritual with her child. One night she was instructing her spouse on how to do it in her absence, and it led to a meaningful talk and...

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Die 3-Sekunden-Pause: Ruhig bleiben in Erziehung und Alltag

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2015 | 5:25 PM

Ich wünschte, ich hatte die Kaffeetasse meines Mannes nicht in der Spüle zerschmettert. Ich wusste es schon in dem Moment, als ich meine zitternden Hände gegen das mit Scherben gefüllte Metallbecken presste.

Reue schmerzt.

Ich wünschte, ich wäre auf dem Parkplatz nicht mit quietschenden...

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The Loss of Life Beneath Your Skin & How to Revive It

(7) Comments | Posted September 11, 2015 | 8:40 AM

A few months ago my newly turned 12-year-old daughter got into making iced tea. We seek out new flavors at quaint little farmers' markets and at fancy tea shops in the mall. My child holds the canister and asks questions of the vendor that I do not understand. She pays...

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Vow to Breathe

(0) Comments | Posted September 8, 2015 | 12:52 PM

During my highly-distracted years, life was a blur -- the to-do lists took over ... my life was a constant mad dash to a finish line that couldn't be reached ... and my devices were gripped more tightly than the hands of my loved ones.

Five years later, things are...

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The Single Most Important Parenting Action We Can Take Today

(33) Comments | Posted September 8, 2015 | 9:41 AM

A few years ago, my dad apologized for being distracted throughout my childhood. "I'm deeply sorry for that," he wrote. "I hope you always knew how much I loved you."

My dad didn't go into detail about what he was sorry for... He didn't need to. I knew. I...

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Quella pausa di tre secondi che può salvarti la giornata e risparmiarti un po' di sofferenza

(1) Comments | Posted September 4, 2015 | 4:23 AM

Vorrei non aver afferrato la tazza di mio marito per scaraventarla con violenza nel lavandino. L'ho capito nel momento stesso in cui ho diretto le mie mani tremanti verso il lavabo, pieno di frammenti di vetro.

Il rimorso fa male.

Vorrei non aver fatto stridere le ruote...

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The 3-Second Pause That Can Save a Morning and Spare Some Pain

(40) Comments | Posted August 31, 2015 | 6:09 PM

I wish I hadn't taken my husband's coffeepot and smashed it in the sink. I knew it the moment I steadied my shaking hands against the metal basin filled with jagged slivers of glass.

Regret hurts.

I wish I hadn't squealed my tires in the...

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Das wichtigste Gespräch mit meinem Kind hätte ich beinahe verpasst

(0) Comments | Posted August 27, 2015 | 11:58 AM

Ich hätte nicht gedacht, dass ich so emotional auf das Video von Dr. Shefali Tsabary über das öffentlichte Bloßstellen von Kindern reagieren würde. Es waren die folgenden Sätze, die nach zwei Minuten und zwanzig Sekunden gesprochen wurden, die mich zum Weinen brachten.

"Ich bin bei dir,...

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The Conversation I Almost Missed & the Future It Could've Cost

(10) Comments | Posted August 21, 2015 | 7:20 AM

I was not expecting to experience such an emotional response when Dr. Shefali Tsabary shared her video about the public shaming of kids with me. It was the following passage, found two minutes and 20 seconds into the video, that brought me to tears:


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8 Wege zu einem glücklicheren Tag

(0) Comments | Posted August 9, 2015 | 10:28 AM

1. Sagen Sie Sätze wie "Ich warte auf dich" oder "Wir haben Zeit". Solche Einwände kosten nur wenige Minuten, aber bergen die Möglichkeit, in jeder Situation sofort für Ruhe zu sorgen.

2. Nimm eine Bitte an, die jemand anderen glücklich macht:
Ja, du kannst eine Münze in den...

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8 Ways to Make a Not-So-Good Day Better

(7) Comments | Posted August 5, 2015 | 8:31 AM

1. Use the phrase "I'll wait for you," or "We have time." Such offerings only cost a few minutes, but have the potential to bring instant peace to any situation.

2. Accept one invitation that will make someone else happier:
Yes, you can throw a penny in the...

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The Manager in My Home and the 5 Words That Changed Everything

(138) Comments | Posted July 29, 2015 | 3:35 PM

Every couple of weeks I patiently untangle the knots of strawberry-blonde hair that sit at the base of my child's neck. As I sat on the corner of the tub the other night, gently loosening an especially stubborn clump while my daughter chattered about her day, I couldn't stop the...

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Freeing Yourself From the Web

(2) Comments | Posted July 8, 2015 | 8:34 AM

The thought of a 48-hour break from technology got into my head and wouldn't leave. Perhaps it was because of the spectacular weather forecast for the weekend. Or maybe it was due to the fact that I'd been engrossed in the final edits on my forthcoming book. Or perhaps it...

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Wie Sie die Seele Ihres Kindes stärken (oder zerstören) können

(1) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 5:32 PM

Wenn Sie abnehmen möchten, was würde Sie mehr motivieren?

Du hast ein paar Kilo zugenommen. Ich kaufe dir keine Kleidung mehr, bis zu abgenommen hast.


Lass uns nach dem Essen spazieren gehen.
Du darfst den Salat machen.
Ich liebe dich so wie du bist, genau so...

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To Build (or Break) a Child's Spirit

(31) Comments | Posted May 21, 2015 | 9:43 AM

If you needed to lose weight, what would be most motivating?

You've put on some pounds. I'm not buying you any more clothes until you lose weight.


Let's take a walk after dinner.
I'll let you make the salad.
I love you just...

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10 Wege, einen katastrophalen Morgen zu einem guten Morgen zu machen

(1) Comments | Posted May 12, 2015 | 12:28 PM

1. Betone das Gute - alles Gute, das du finden kannst - auch wenn es nur ein „Ich bin so froh, dein Gesicht heute morgen zu sehen" oder „Du hattest schon immer eine Gabe für einzigartige Kleiderkombinationen" ist.

2. Wenn jemand mürrisch ist, lass ihn das tun, was er immer...

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10 modi per migliorare una mattinata "no" prima di uscire di casa

(0) Comments | Posted May 12, 2015 | 10:36 AM

1. Apprezzate le cose positive - tutte quelle che riuscite a notare - anche se si tratta semplicemente di fare commenti tipo "Sono felice di vederti stamattina" o "Hai sempre avuto un grande talento nell'abbinare i vestiti".

2. Se qualcuno ha la luna storta, lasciate che svolga le mansioni di...

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10 Ways to Salvage a Bad Morning Before Parting Ways

(14) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 8:28 AM

1. Notice the good -- any and all good you can find -- even if it is simply, "I am so glad to see your face this morning," or, "You've always had a knack for unique clothing combinations!"

2. If someone is grumpy, let her do something you usually...

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The One Question That Can Also Be an Answer

(6) Comments | Posted April 21, 2015 | 10:34 AM

This past summer was a difficult period for me. We'd just moved to a new state and left behind friends who were like family. The deadline to submit the first draft of my second book was looming, and I found myself unable to write. During this time of...

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The Life of the Party Is Closer Than You Think

(6) Comments | Posted April 15, 2015 | 8:55 AM

The other night, my friend and brilliant writer Alexandra Rosas shared a glimpse into her life. With short, non-descriptive sentences, it wasn't intended to be profound. With text structure unpolished and informal, it wasn't meant to evoke an emotional response like the well-crafted essays she writes. But her...

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