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The Silver Trumpet of Freedom

Posted: 02/23/11 02:14 PM ET

"The silver trumpet of freedom had roused my soul to eternal wakefulness."

So Frederick Douglass describes the impact of learning to read in his autobiography. "It had given me a view of my wretched condition, without the remedy," he writes. "It opened my eyes to the horrible pit, but to no ladder upon which to get out. In moments of agony, I envied my fellow-slaves for their stupidity."

My son, DJ, recently used this passage as an epigraph for his college admission essay, comparing his predicament as a nonspeaking person with autism who had been taught to read and to type on a computer to that of a famous, mid-19th century American slave. What use is knowledge, DJ asks, if it can't be developed and mobilized to improve one's life?

Unlike Douglass, however, who was entirely self-taught, DJ has enjoyed a rigorous education. The moment we adopted him from foster care at the age of six, my wife and I included him in a regular classroom, despite the fact that he carried the label of "profound mental retardation."

It was no small achievement getting him out of the special school in which he had learned nothing. Inclusion, of course, was equally challenging, but with the help of many dedicated teachers, aides, counselors, principals and therapists, DJ slowly but surely proved his competence. By the time he entered high school, he was earning all "A"s in an advanced curriculum and using his text-to-voice synthesizer to participate vigorously in academic and extra-curricular life.

In addition to promoting the importance of self-advocacy and autistic civil rights at national conferences, he has published in newspapers, academic journals, and books. He has also authored two plays: one called "Plotting Hope"; the other, "Finding Our Voices" -- both of which have been performed in our community. He has even appeared on CNN's "Anderson Cooper 360" as part of a program about the burgeoning neurodiversity movement. When Dr. Sanjay Gupta asked him whether autism should be treated, he typed impishly, "Yes, treated with respect."

Pitting his fear of an oppressive neurotypical culture, which as a rule continues to exclude people with autism and to prevent them from realizing their potential, against his belief in the power of words to combat prejudice and to change society, he decided to apply to a range of highly selective liberal arts colleges. Although he had made a place for himself in our small, rural community, he had his doubts about the wider world.

The fact remains: very few people whom the medical community would describe as "severely autistic" matriculate to college. By some estimates, only 20 nonspeaking people with autism have ever earned a college degree. Tito Mukhopadhyay, author of three books and perhaps the world's most renowned nonspeaking autist, puts it this way: "My school is the doubt in your eyes."

Some of the colleges to which DJ applied are close to home; others are a good 16 hours away. In the end, he set his sites on Oberlin College, a mere nine hours away. He liked Oberlin so much that he chose to apply early decision. My wife's grandfather taught French and Italian there years ago, and the town resembles the one in which we live.

But most important to DJ was the institution's commitment to inclusion. The first college or university to admit women and African Americans, Oberlin, DJ believed, might be ready to admit him -- not only admit him but figure out a way for him to live in the dorms. He wants to be the first nonspeaking autist to go away volitionally to school.

How will he do this? How will we do this? Heaven knows, but how have we done anything? How have we all gotten this far? Only by laboring imaginatively and by building communities of support will this young man, who has so much to offer, continue to flourish.

During his two campus visits to Oberlin, DJ says that he heard the "silver trumpet of freedom." Like Frederick Douglass and his other hero Harriet Tubman, he longs to work on behalf of his people, breaking barriers in education, housing, and employment. Just last week he received his letter from Oberlin, and I'm happy to report that he got in. "Now maybe I can easy breathe," DJ remarked.

My wife and I feel less pride than gratitude for the many people who have helped our son, allowing a boy who was thrown away, then abused terribly in foster care, to write joyously of his "reassessed as smart self's walk down freedom's trail."

 
 
 
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09:07 AM on 02/26/2011
I've been over in the education section of HP listening to people chatter about how some kids are just impossible to teach, cannot learn, because they are disadvantaged. How absolutely wonderful to read your column! You have restored my faith in people and human potential. I know the journey has been difficult, a daily struggle, but your determination was built on a foundation of acceptance of your son for the person he is. I see that so infrequently ... well, thanks for letting me see it in you.

Hope your son enjoys Oberlin. It is, indeed, a magical place.
12:24 PM on 02/25/2011
What a remarkable boy who will no doubt grow to be a remarkable man, thx much to the strength of his community and family. Kudos to Oberlin, and may they continue to fuel his much deserved success.
07:43 AM on 02/25/2011
Ralph: What a magnificent story of strength and persistence by the entire family. I have known of you and DJ for quite some time, having lived with the old bruised muse for 33 years. I am so proud of DJ not only for his great achievement but for his college selection criteria focused on greatness and, more important, exclusion. Each of you is a blessing and a guiding light to autistic kids and their parents everywhere. I only wish our little one were here to see the light.
08:22 AM on 02/25/2011
Thanks for these kind words, Bob. I've never seen a kid work harder than DJ. There were a couple of kids in foster care with DJ who didn't make it out--I think of them often. Indeed, I think of kids like your son and my nephew who had their lives cut short. I like to believe that DJ honors them with his courage and persistence.
11:26 PM on 02/24/2011
Thanks to you, DJ, and Oberlin for leading the way. I've posted the link to your wonderful article on the Kilometres for Communication Facebook page. As a mother of a young man who also communicates in alternative ways, I'm looking forward to the day when what you are doing will be so commonplace that it is no longer news--when there is real acceptance of neurodiversity and communication diversity, and the presumption of ability.
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Barbara Fischkin
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10:58 AM on 02/24/2011
I want to congratulate BOTH DJ and Oberlin.

Finding your voice when such an endeavor requires so much work; hearing a voice that others may not.

These are both great things.
11:57 PM on 02/23/2011
What a great follow up to Reasonable People! Is there some way to see the plays online?
11:07 PM on 02/23/2011
Wonderful piece.

Good luck with your fabulous son.
03:45 PM on 02/24/2011
Thanks. --R.S.
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10:27 PM on 02/23/2011
Sir, my greatest respect to you and your family. It's people like you that preserve my faith in this country.
03:46 PM on 02/24/2011
I really appreciate this comment. --R.S.
07:19 PM on 02/23/2011
What an amazing essay and story. I would congratulate DJ and the Savarese family for all they have accomplished, but in this case, I think it better to congratulate ourselves on our good fortune to live in such remarkable, inspiring times. We can all hear the silver trumpet of freedom, DJ!
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Tom Matlack
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05:52 PM on 02/23/2011
Dude you are a rock star, a great tennis player, a former classmate, an amazing writer, and it sounds like you are one hell of a father. So cool to see you here on HuffPost! Maybe I missed it before but I have been patrolling the living section for a while now (my random ramblings here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tom-matlack). I founded www.goodmenproject.com a while back and I am sure we'd love to have you contribute. I will connect with you directly.

Standing O brother.

Tom
04:06 PM on 02/23/2011
Way to go parents and DJ!
03:47 PM on 02/24/2011
I can tell you, having taught for 25 years, that I've never seen anyone work harder than DJ. --R.S.
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03:59 PM on 02/23/2011
Mr. Savarese, our son is severely autistic with a "measured" IQ of 48. He does not speak. We have never given up.

Other than your book, how can we contact you?
03:21 PM on 02/23/2011
May God bless you and your son; few people reading this will have any clue as to the struggles you have endured, the mountains you have climbed, the social isolation you have gone through and the amazing success you and your son have achieved. It takes an extremely special, patient, loving and giving person to willingly adopt such a child and dedicate one's life to maximizing his potential. Congratulations! With your continued support, your son will continue to do great things and achieve all of his goals. Thank you.
03:49 PM on 02/24/2011
Thank you for this. I like what the most recent commentator has said: Oberlin is luck to have DJ. I have to tell you that however difficult the journey at time, getting to be DJ's father has been the most enriching thing I've ever done. --R.S.