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What I Learned About Parenting at IKEA

(0) Comments | Posted January 23, 2015 | 1:58 PM

For my entire motherhood journey -- almost eight years, to be exact -- I have had a really strong aversion to the kids playroom at Ikea.

You want me to leave my children in the hands of complete strangers so they can get germ-infested, potentially picked up and taken home...

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Getting My Daughter to Dive Into the Deep End -- And Jumping in With Her

(0) Comments | Posted December 11, 2014 | 12:26 PM

I have started taking some yoga classes.

I had tried yoga exactly two other times in my life and on both occasions, I declared that I was simply "not a yoga person." I was internally rolling my eyes at the spirituality, I was confused by the poses and the coordination...

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A 3-Year-Old's Take on 'Forever'

(0) Comments | Posted October 24, 2014 | 2:54 PM

My son doesn't know the word "forever."

To him, in his perfectly sweet 3-and-a-half-year-old innocence, there is no concept of forever.

No eternity. No infinity. No endless anything.

But there is "for all the days."

"Daddy said I could keep this piece of paper for all the days," he said...

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Quality Versus Quantity in Relationships

(1) Comments | Posted October 24, 2014 | 1:38 PM

There is a phrase I like to use a lot when it comes to business: quality versus quantity.

In my industry, public relations, that means that we don't strive for media impressions just for the numbers behind them... we strive for impressions that actually count. That move the needle. That...

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The Road Home: Our Story of the San Diego Fires

(1) Comments | Posted May 21, 2014 | 5:50 PM

This is a photo my husband took last Wednesday evening, May 14, 2014.

He captioned it "the road home," which it was, but it was familiar in many senses and anything but in many others.

The smoke was still thick and everywhere we turned it appeared that another inferno was...

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What My 6-Year-Old Daughter Taught My 6-Year-Old Self... 30 Years Too Late

(0) Comments | Posted April 30, 2014 | 7:48 PM

When I was a young girl on the school yard, I would marvel at the girls who could spin and flip around the bars.

You know the move; one leg hiked over a bar and then you use your body strength to propel yourself around it and sit back on...

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How to Be (Happily) Married With Children

(0) Comments | Posted April 8, 2014 | 4:11 PM

I had two conversations about marriage this week that stuck with me. Neither of them was planned or expected. But the important things in life often aren't.

A few nights ago I ran into an acquaintance/new friend in the aisles of Target (we were both admittedly escaping our kids for...

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10 Tips for Loving Life (and Yourself!) in Your 30s

(2) Comments | Posted March 22, 2014 | 11:18 AM

I am in my mid-30s now and I have to say, becoming comfortable in my own skin is more important to me now than ever. I spent my 20s worrying about career and having children and making money and buying the right handbags. I spent the past few years focused...

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Big Deal or Little Problem?

(1) Comments | Posted March 19, 2014 | 3:58 PM

I get to pick my first grader up from school most days. It's one of the very best benefits of working from home. I like to get there early. I don't know why, I am sure there is some deep-rooted psychological explanation behind it, but I cannot stand the idea...

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5 Friends Every Woman Should Have

(1) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 11:00 AM

Friendships evolve a lot over time. People's lives take different routes, our tastes change, our priorities shift, our personal morals and values become deeply rooted and we end up more passionate about them than we may have been in the past. But there are a few key friendships that every...

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A Parenting Moment You Will Never Forget

(0) Comments | Posted February 27, 2014 | 8:34 AM

Dear Daughter,

You learned to ride a two-wheeler this week. You are exactly (per your terms) 6 and three-quarters years old. And now you can ride a two-wheeler.

Your daddy huffed and puffed his way up and down the block maybe 600 or so times before you got it.


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Talking to Toddlers So They Will Listen

(2) Comments | Posted February 21, 2014 | 10:32 AM

"As parents, we guide by our unspoken example. It is only when we're talking to them that our kids aren't listening." -Robert Brault

Listening has been a hot topic around here lately. Well, more specifically... not listening.

My son, in all his just-turned-3 glory, has been giving us a serious...

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Lessons For My Daughter And Lessons For Me -- If Only We Would Listen

(235) Comments | Posted January 7, 2013 | 10:50 AM

It's a New Year and with that comes another 12 months of experience, wisdom, mistakes and memories under our tightly cinched belts. There are so many things I want to teach my daughter in life and by the same token, so many things I am learning in the process of...

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How To Relax -- A Lesson For Moms

(11) Comments | Posted November 29, 2012 | 3:16 PM

'Tis officially the season and that means lots of things for moms out there: shopping, wrapping, donating, cookie baking, memory-making... so I am here to add another thing to your list: relaxing. You heard me right; rest is a requirement amidst the chaos. And the good news is that you...

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I Remember Kindergarten

(15) Comments | Posted November 12, 2012 | 10:20 AM

I remember kindergarten.

I remember my teacher Mrs. Steiner with her curly black hair, thin-rimmed glasses and less-than-tall physique.

I remember being dropped off in the morning. The kindergarten kids had a separate side entrance in the building made of brick, but from our safe haven we could...

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How To Know If You're Ready For Marriage

(132) Comments | Posted November 9, 2012 | 12:03 AM

Ok, so maybe you've been dating for two years. Or six. Or, in my case, 10+...(we were young when we started, give us a break!) The inevitable is looming out there. Girlfriends are asking. Your mom is hinting. Tiffany rings are being Pinned left, right and center.

But before...

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Talking To My Daughter About 9/11 And Dreams

(0) Comments | Posted September 11, 2012 | 12:14 PM

September 11 is a day that will forever be marked on the calendar for so many of us.

The day that was supposed to be the first of a brand new chapter for me.

I moved to New York on September 10, 2001.

I had given it all up...

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I Don't Believe In Date Night

(342) Comments | Posted August 7, 2012 | 10:57 AM

Reprinted with permission from The Conversation

I don't believe in date night.

It's not that the idea of three hours of child-free, wine-fueled conversation in an overpriced restaurant with candlelight doesn't sound lovely... it does. But the pressure that comes along with it -- the notion that this...

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