Randi Small and Jen Schwartz
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Jen Schwartz, a child of divorce, and Randi Small, a divorcee, are the co-founders of www.DivorceCandy.com. Both have suffered the stigma of divorce in different ways. They have dealt with loss, the acceptance of new families, the often painful adjustment to change and so much more. Through their website, they offer others in similar straights a place where they can start over and stay positive.

Jen’s parents separated in 1995 and divorced 7 years later. She knows all too well the pain of loss, the shame of not wanting her friends to know. During high school, her greatest escape was studying, so she excelled at school and got into a top university. As she began to experience the power of accomplishment, she transformed the pain and anger that was the backdrop at home into learning how to find the positive in life.

Randi was married in her early 20s to a man she was deeply in love with. But after awhile things began to unravel. The environment in which she and her husband were raising their two sons was fast becoming dysfunctional. It was clear to Randi that if her boys were to emerge healthy and emotionally strong, they had to leave. Instead of staying in a bad marriage for the sake of the children like so many people do, she left for the sake of the children. She experienced countless heartbreaking moments in the 12 years since, but made the choice to keep growing and learning. She realized that for every difficult conversation with her ex about the kids, or vacations, or money, there are joyful moments too, which she believes are the moments to hang on to; they get you through the bad ones. One of those joyful times was the catalyst for DivorceCandy, as she and Jen became determined to share these life lessons with the world.

Divorcecandy.com is a new website offering advice, support, communities and content designed to assist divorcees in starting over, staying positive, and rebuilding their lives.

Jen, a native New Yorker, is an English teacher and currently lives in Charlotte, NC with her husband and their two dogs, Eloise and Harry Potter. Randi, also from New York, is an executive with a global professional services firm in Manhattan and the mother of two college-aged boys. She currently resides in Tenafly, NJ with her second husband.

Randi and Jen have learned that divorce is not just one moment that ends with the sweep of a pen. Its fallout is lasting. They have overcome many hurdles and are thriving in their own lives. Thus, they remain dedicated to helping the ever-growing population of divorcees do the same.

Blog Entries by Randi Small and Jen Schwartz

The Time-Lapse Divorce

Posted January 15, 2011 | 11:11:27 (EST)

It was the best of times, it was ... short and kind of sucked.

Why do so many young people these days decide to divorce after such seemingly brief marriages? We asked several women and men in their early 30s and their answers were what you might expect. They got...

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Not Only is There Life After Divorce, There's the Inevitability of a Better One

Posted December 29, 2010 | 19:57:58 (EST)

Facebook has gained a certain amount of notoriety as one of the leading causes of infidelity among married couples. In fact, almost two-thirds of lawyers surveyed by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers have cited the site as online evidence of marital affairs. Whether one half of a couple reconnects...

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When Do You Stop Feeling Divorced?

Posted November 12, 2010 | 11:26:13 (EST)

By Randi Small

When do you stop feeling "divorced"? When you remarry? When your ex remarries? What if no one ever remarries? Does the feeling - or the way you identify yourself - ever go away?

Arianna Huffington recently wrote, "Those of us who have been divorced know that,...

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Need Proof There's Life After Divorce? Just Ask Facebook

Posted September 9, 2010 | 08:00:00 (EST)

The DivorceCandy.com mission is to show that there is life after divorce ... that divorce can lead to all things positive and happy, and no one should feel ashamed or embarrassed to go through one. So, it makes us a little frustrated seeing some recent articles...

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Divorce Bucket List: Everything You Want to Do Now You're Single

Posted August 18, 2010 | 13:14:00 (EST)

Who were you before marriage and perhaps kids entered the picture? What did you always want to do but never had the chance once you said your I do's? Perhaps you wanted to go back to school, travel to a foreign place, take cooking classes, salsa lessons or learn pole...

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A Child of Divorce--My Story

Posted August 5, 2010 | 16:00:00 (EST)

My name is Jennifer Schwartz, and I am a child of divorce. My parents began their divorce process 16 years ago and ended it 9 years later -- a period of unbelievable turmoil. It's been seven years since their divorce was finalized, and you might think that those seven years...

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Divorced Dads-R-Us: A New Tradition in a Non-Traditional Family

Posted July 22, 2010 | 18:13:00 (EST)

How many dads does it take to make a new tradition? In my case, it takes four. But let me start at the beginning.

Everyone knows the act of divorce puts an end to the traditional institution of marriage and breaks up the traditional family unit of mom, dad and...

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Changing the Stigma of Divorce, One Divorce Registry at a Time

Posted June 23, 2010 | 17:56:43 (EST)

Back in January of this year, UK department store Debenhams launched the first in-store divorce registry, creating quite the stir among the Web. This concept of the newly single registering for gifts post-divorce was met with both support and criticism. There were individuals who expressed disgust - believing the divorce...

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Yes, There Really Is Life After Divorce...

Posted April 13, 2010 | 12:08:49 (EST)

It's been almost two years, but it feels like yesterday. My Aunt Randi was taking me to buy wedding shoes - her gift to me. So there we are having a wonderful time chatting away in the car when my cell phone rang. It was my dad. He wanted to...

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