3 Ways to Be More 'Bride' and Less 'Zilla'

06/26/2015 09:51 am ET | Updated Jun 25, 2016


Some claim that you don't see a person's true colors until you start planning your wedding. Most of the time dealing with all of the personalities is much harder than dealing with the actual planning itself. For some reason, I've found that weddings have a way of turning even the most mild-mannered, normal human beings into Gary Busey.

That being said, here are three ways to be a little more 'Bride' and a little less 'Zilla.'

1. Ask and Ye Shall Receive

Wedding planning has a way of not only consuming our days, but even our dreams. I would wake up in a cold sweat after nightmares about getting the wrong gown and looking like a total trash box on my wedding day. Even our subconscious can't seem to shake it!

While it may be the only thing you think about awake or sleeping, others may be begging you to give it a rest! (Trust me, if they haven't said it to your face, they've said it behind your back.) It's completely normal to rave or vent about this momentous day, but try not to over-share. If you stop getting invites to brunch, you'll know its because your friends wanted to talk about something other than your big day.

In order to prevent this from happening, make a rule with yourself. Do not talk about your wedding unless you are asked about your wedding.

2. Don't Break the Budget

It's easy to get caught up in the wedding rat race. While stalking on Instagram, you see that bitch from high school's wedding and can't wait to top it with your own. But the big day shouldn't be a competition; it should be about marrying your best friend. Don't ever lose sight of that.

Wedding budgets tend to skyrocket quickly, so figure out a budget you and your groom mutually agree upon from the get-go. Put that money into a separate wedding savings account and do not dip into any others, although it may be tempting.

Yes, this day may be once in a lifetime, but guess what aren't -- mortgages, car payments, and student loans. Those will continue to require your cash as well.

3. Keep a Wedding Journal

Start writing down your feelings and track all of your thoughts during the planning process. It can be a bit of a whirlwind, so this will be a way to highlight all of the memories -- the good and the bad.

Plus, if I actually had to write my feelings down (i.e. Sobbed to the dental hygienist about the dental bill that has now ruined my wedding budget or went ballistic over the cost of chocolate covered strawberries dressed as tuxedos), I may have realized sooner how bat shit crazy I was being.

Writing things down may help put things in perspective. And if you keep it PC and semi-sane, it could make for a nice and meaningful wedding gift to give your husband.