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Rebecca Sive

Posted: January 18, 2010 04:44 PM

Coakley, Schmoakley, You're Not Our Heroes Anymore

What's Your Reaction:

Massachusetts Attorney General Martha Coakley may or may not be elected to the U.S. Senate tomorrow. I ask you: What difference will it make--one way or the other?

Badly, the Democratic guns-for-hire, Coakley's would-be colleagues, and the president want Martha Coakley elected because they, badly, want their 60th vote for a health care bill that presently renders American women unequal, second-class citizens to the men around them.

Coakley can't wait to vote for it: In thrall to Ted Kennedy's legacy and desirous of keeping the "Kennedy seat," talk about entitlement, she campaigns with Vicki Kennedy to make her case.

So, let's say Martha Coakley pulls it out of the bag. Then what?

Well, at the same time Friday that the Democratic Senate Campaign Committee was pleading with me to send money to help get Martha Coakley elected, I received a call from U.S. Senator Amy Klobuchar's (D-MN) fundraiser.

Now, Amy is a longtime and dear personal friend: A law school classmate of my husband's, we have sent money to Amy since her first run for office back in the 90's. So, when Amy decided to run for the U.S. Senate, I took it upon myself to introduce her to then Senator Obama's donor-world: the world of big-money, progressive Chicago Democrats. The dividends (for her) have paid off ever since.

But what about the dividends for me, for the rest of the women of Chicago, for the women of Minnesota, for the women of the rest of America?

Talk about the bag. Looks to me like we've all been left, holding the bag.

The reason for the formation of Emily's List, say, or of other women's organizations that raise money and work to elect pro-choice, Democratic women candidates, was crystal clear: It was to increase the number of Democratic women in the U.S. House of Representatives and the U.S. Senate, so that these women electeds would do what the Democratic men had failed to do: make the American world an equal one.

We were highly motivated; we worked really hard; we had a great interest in helping the interested women among us achieve this opportunity to serve--in order to serve our interests.

Instead, we find them serving their own.

As I've previously written in these pages, in lock step with their male colleagues, the 13 Democratic women U.S. Senators voted for a health care reform bill that, tragically, takes millions of American women back to pre-Roe v. Wade days, i.e., to daily life in which they will, odds are, be unable to obtain an abortion, in their very own state.

As to the Democratic women Members of the House of Representatives, well, yes, a group is fighting very hard to beat back the Stupak Amendment (talk about pre-Roe!), but their leader, Speaker of the House Nancy Pelosi, birthed Stupak in the first place. Talk about failing to serve the interests of women.

You're not my heroes anymore.

Your elections excited me. Your elections motivated me to (keep) helping you, because I believed that your election meant I would have representatives of me, fighting for me.

Well, as B.B. King would say: "The thrill is gone."

Don't come to me saying you represent me; don't come to me saying that I owe you my financial support; don't come to me saying that you are the defender of my rights; don't come to me saying you matter to women, or worse yet, for women.

For, right now, you don't.

So, until further notice, my phone is on voice mail; my checkbook is closed; my e-mail contact list doesn't include you; my living room chairs are empty of women donors; and my speeches for you won't get written.

B. B. continues: "The thrill is gone away for good."

Is it?

That's up to you.

On this day of all days, on the day when we honor the work of a man assassinated for standing up and acting on his belief in equal rights, the least you can do is:

  • Stop making deals, stand-up to the enemy, and fight like Dr. King did.
  • Stop thinking that being just a little bit better than the guys next-door is enough help for those who depend on you. Dr. King didn't make this mistake, and neither should you.
  • Stop thinking that being in proximity to power is sufficient (to our needs). The only thing that actually matters, on days like these, is having power, and using it to do good.
  • Stop thinking that fighting to "maintain the status quo" is a win, 'cause, gee whiz, I tried really hard. It isn't, not when women's very lives are at-stake.
  • Stop thinking "half a loaf is better than none." Sometimes, some days, these days, this day, it's not. We know that, and so should you.


On this day, of all days:

  • Know that your male colleagues don't understand what we need, in the way that you do. We need you to do what needs doing.
  • Know that your sworn enemies won't, ever, honor their word. The last few months of "health care reform" are ample proof of that, if any were ever needed. We need you to outflank our enemy, however you can manage to do that.
  • Know that equal rights can't be achieved by conducting business "as usual." We need you, desperately, to conduct the business that needs conducting, no matter the price you may personally pay for breaking away from the (male) norm.
  • Know that you owe us a debt, and it's time to pay it. We need you do what Dr. King did: Keep fighting for equality.


I close as B.B. closed: "I'm free, free now; I'm free from your spell, and now that it's over, all I can do is wish you well."

 

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10:26 PM on 01/24/2010
Ms. Sive,

I guess what was most interesting about your article is what was missing from it. You say you are a Chicago-bred organizer and woman activist who has been a champion for women candidates. Even leading women candidates in other states to the drinking well of Obama's campaign money because you believed they shared your progressive agenda. You've washed your hands of Martha and those women senators who are all falling in line with the men. Yet, right in your own backyard of Illinois, there is a woman running for U.S. Senate at this very moment who also shares your progressive stance on issues especially important to women, but there was nary a mention of her in your article. Cheryle Jackson, has loudly spoken out about Stupek-Pitts and has loudly protested the ills that are in the Health care bill, and more importantly she has quietly been a champion of women and everyday people when she was just simply working behind the scenes and not running for public office. Cheryle Jackson, could desperately use your level of support that you purport to have or used to have for women candidates who would truly be a voice on Capitol Hill for us.
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mitzvah
Optimistic Realist
08:59 AM on 01/20/2010
From California - I have found it interesting that throughout the past 2 days in particular, Howard Dean's name has come up repeatedly on various sites as an honest, can-be-counted-upon voice of clarity and truth. I was a Deaniac (and still am in my heart) and wish that those in the Dem party - women and men alike - would WAKE UP and follow his example. His vision and unwillingness to "play the game" is what got the Dems the majority and the White House and yet has been largely missing this past year by many of those "representing" us. Alarming, at best....
02:12 PM on 01/19/2010
Thanks for this great post.

I live in CA and have supported and voted for Barbara Boxer for years. Her contribution to the language in the so called abortion compromise in the senate version of the HC Bill was my breaking point. Coupled with her insulting justification for it - "well - if both the right and the left are unhappy with it - it must be okay" - was the final straw,

Dems are pro-choice in rhetoric only. With pro-choice women capitulating like this - exactly how afraid of Bart Stupak am I suppose to be?
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Carl Caroli
Give peace a chance
11:34 AM on 01/19/2010
Our female legislators have fallen into the same trap as their male counterparts - taking campaign contributions with strings attached. Corporate America has mastered the art of using money and people against each other to their benefit, regardless of sex or race, as Obama and Pilosi, among others, prove. Until we get corporate money and lobbyists away from our representatives, they will, in the end, do their bidding, not ours.
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emlr
"a man of knowledge is free"
11:08 AM on 01/19/2010
We need to get rid of the entrenched politicians. Most of the old white haired men that have been there forever and have no idea of what goes on outside of DC.
We need more people like Dean, Grayson, Franken, Warren, Skelton, Whitehouse.
10:18 AM on 01/19/2010
What is wrong with you folks? You act as if Obama has some magic wand in his pocket and he can just wave it and all is ok. He said repeatedly I can’t do it all by myself I need your help, and if you tend to forget he signs into law he dose not make it, that’s the job of the house and senate but you know that. For those of you who say you will not vote for him or any democrat you probably didn’t vote for him any way and for those who keep yelling third party get real there is no viable one as of yet. So if you want change make it if you want things to go back to the way they were sit on your collective butts. Oh and just a reminder of how much work President Obama is and has to do follow the link below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyuxfHvdrGw
11:01 AM on 01/19/2010
This "magic wand" argument is not only hollow but misinformed. Folks like you keep telling Progressives who are genuinely grieved and disappointed with the way Congress has rolled over on EVERY issue that matters to us that we don't have any idea how government works, that the President only "signs (a bill) into law he dose not make it, that’s the job of the house and senate but you know that." I'm sorry to inform you, but it is YOU who has just fallen off of the turnip truck, not us. Those who know how government truly works knows that the office of the President (and as head of the Democratic Party) has ENORMOUS POWER to put pressure on other members of the Dem. party to vote for and shape legislation the way it wants it. THAT is why the "progressives" in both the House and the Senate have rolled over on one after the other issues that matter to progressive voters - BECAUSE THE ADMINISTRATION HAS PRESSURED THEM TO DO SO!!!! We get it. Apparently, you don't. Frankly, I think it's dishonest for bandwagoners like you to keep beating this drum. Give it a rest!
10:13 AM on 01/19/2010
What is wrong with you folks? You act as if Obama has some magic wand in his pocket and he can just wave it and all is ok. He said repeatedly I can’t do it all by myself I need your help, and if you tend to forget he signs into law he dose not make it, that’s the job of the house and senate but you know that. For those of you who say you will not for him or any demarcate you probably didn’t vote for him any way and for those who keep yelling third party get real there is no viable one as of yet. So if you want change make it if you want things to go back to the way they were sit on your collective butts. Oh and just a reminder of how much work President Obama is and has to do follow the link below:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyuxfHvdrGw
10:06 AM on 01/19/2010
Your first mistake was letting them become your heroes.

Maybe if you had not idolized people. Maybe if you analyzed what has been going on through a wider spectrum.

This is the disillusion that the GOP wants. We have become a nation of whiners that want instant gratification. The GOP understands how to play that. TeaPartier know all about whining. Watch CSPAN? Isn't whining just about all that some members of our government are good for?

While you are "remembering" MLKJr and his service to civil rights remember that he worked on it a lot longer than the Congress has been working on a health care bill. He wasn't part of the government; he was a minister, a community organizer. He didn't sit on his tail and whine at the president. He actually *did* things to promote his cause. In LBJ he had a sympathetic ear. LBJ had a super-majority in Congress and yet, truthfully, he only was able to pass what he passed because of MLK's death. That broke the tide.

Suffrage took over 80 years. Slavery longer than that. Healthcare has been given only 50 years?

Really?

Before you and the other whiners try to climb on a high horse, ask yourself the truth. Are you willing to be the MLK of healthcare or "women's issues?" Does gay marriage mean that much to you? Are you, like Rep John Lewis, willing to be beaten for your beliefs?

Would you become a martyr to your cause?
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Mike Armstrong
09:17 AM on 01/19/2010
This reminds me of the German who didn't speak up when the nazis came to get his neighbors, and had no one to speak up when they came to get him.
Have you spoken out about the loss of our other freedoms? They are related. You won't keep your right to choose in a country that has 5% of the world's population and 25% of the world's prisoners.
You won't keep your right to choose when you support placing your neighbor in a cage for consuming a different color plant than you do.
It's the same issue ladies. Figure it out.
08:32 AM on 01/19/2010
Your frustration is of course understandable, but let's keep it in perspective. Don't forget that however disappointing President Obama's performance may be or get, it will never be as bad as Bush's was, and more importantly, it will certainly never be as bad as the next Republican administration's will be. Do you really want to see another Republican administration? That's the difference that a Brown win over Coakley would make.

To all disgruntled progressives: keep your shirt on. Push like crazy for progressive candidates in the primaries. Then, and this is key, whether the progressives make the Democratic ticket or not, work like crazy to elect Democrats. Democrats may be disappointing, but Republicans will be horrific. And if you don't work to elect a Democrat, you get a Republican.
10:08 AM on 01/19/2010
Corporate Democrats are not going to win by playing the "we're not Bush," "Look out! Sarah Palin," and "lesser of two evils" cards. Progressives know they're not respected. Witness Rahm's quote to the Wall Street Journal, "Don't worry about the Left. Where else are they gonna go?"

When pharma doesn't get what they want, the money dries up.

When liberals and progressives don't get what they were promised by corporate Democrats, they work harder, give more money and drag friends to the polls.

And who gets the legistion they want? Take a look at the failed Drug Reimportation amendment.

Undying loyalty does not get respect. If your support is unconditional, you will be taken for granted.
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1murillo
Can't be neutral on a moving train - Zinn
05:19 AM on 01/19/2010
Sive: of course you're allowed to hold close to heroes as you will. However, it's naive to think that the best way to persuade anyone (esp politicians) is to quit.
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11:41 PM on 01/18/2010
This is my take on this whole thing: The Democrats want to lose so they can make more money for their campaign arm. They were never more successful raising than during Bush. Obama gets elected and the DNC/DSCC/DCCC contributions tank. The internet has hurt that funding rather than helped it, I can now just donate directly to my chosen candidates campaign rather than through the party machine. Granted, mostly their poor fundraising among the people have to do with their policies, the only folks giving money to the DNC are corporate.

But when the decidedly bad at goverment GOP have the reigns? That's another story. I've grown cynical. It's all about the money Lebowski.
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Bitsko
He of the smoldering eyes
10:48 PM on 01/18/2010
What a wonderful recipe for the return of right wing governance. Sorry, Ms. Sive. I picked my side years ago and am sticking with it.
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ProudLiberalDan
Standing up an fighting conservatives since 1987
11:02 PM on 01/18/2010
Obama is just as much a corporatist as George W. Bush.
11:07 PM on 01/18/2010
So you regret not voting for McPalin?
12:41 AM on 01/19/2010
Regret? No. I stand proud of my progressive ideals. I'll never vote for a Republican. Yet what is the point of voting for a Democrat when once elected the break their promises and cave to corporatist concerns? The betrayal of the DLC to progressive ideals is worse than the predictable distruction caused by movement conservatives.

Assertions that we have to stick with Democrats because Republicans are worse is false. These lesser of two evil arguments will not hold the base together.

In some ways I wish the Republicans were still in power because then it would still be their fault for all the economic injustice being inflicted upon the country. Conservatives were smart enough to grab as much money as they can before they lost power and then pull out of the market so the Democrats were left cleaning up the mess. They knew Democrats couldn't hold it together and would once again lose their gains two and four years later to the short memories of the public and the hypocrisy that is movement conservatism.
10:29 PM on 01/18/2010
greetings....Well, as Tina Turner would say..."We don't need another hero......"
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dvm
There is no them. It's only us.
08:57 PM on 01/18/2010
Ever since Hillary's run, it has become more and more clear to me that it is TOTALLY acceptable in America to be sexist.

Where is the outrage at Scott Brown's laughter as one of his thug supporters jokes about shoving a curling iron up Coakley's butt?

There is no tidal wave of outrage, but just a ripple. This kind of behavior is 'normal'. Its accepted. Even glossed over, minimized.

No longer. I have had enough of women's issues being thrown under the bus, and I sense I am far from alone. Women are waking up to this persistent but insidius inequality that still lags eons behind race equality.
11:44 AM on 01/19/2010
You need to research the 'curling iron' comment... Martha Coakley was dragging her feet for 9 months with the abuse of a 2 year old! Read it at http://biggovernment.com/2010/01/15/coakley-and-the-curling-iron-rapist-part-ii-lawyers-seeking-justice-for-rape-victims/
This is why Coakley does not deserve the Senate seat.