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Love 'The Help,' But Please Stop Asking Me to Do the Same

Posted: 08/12/11 03:11 PM ET

I'm generally happy when people fall in love with novels and want to talk about them. I love "Harry Potter" and think Oprah Winfrey's book club was a great thing (even if I didn't always agree with her interpretations). That said, I have never been as disconcerted by the popularity of a book as I have been by the success of "The Help." Random white women constantly want to discuss it with me, encouraging/demanding/hoping that I love the book. Between Obama and "The Help," I've never had so many white people I barely know look for ways to talk about race with me.

But I can't help but feel that "The Help," for all the talk that it is ostensibly about the racism that African American maids experienced under Jim Crow, functions just like Obama does in contemporary public discourse, to illustrate the end of racism. I know that's a funny thing to say about a novel depicting Mississippi in 1962, but the trajectory of the novel invites that feeling. One of the three narrators, Aibleen, says that she realizes she is more free than the racist character that destroys her livelihood, a claim that encourages readers to feel better about segregation because, in this logic, nobody can take real, psychological freedom from anyone. Freedom is really about how you feel, not about, you know, the law. It makes Jim Crow an inconvenience, not an obstacle. At the end of the film, Aibleen confronts the racist character, Hilly, who is overcome by tears at Aibleen's righteousness. The other black protagonist, Minny, is served a meal by her white employers, and the southern-belle mother of the film's white protagonist embraces her daughter's courage in confronting Jim Crow.

In short, "The Help" illustrates how people can embrace the humanity of others, even across difference. This is true. However, the century of black struggle for formal equality in the face of what was, literally, domestic terrorism every day more often teaches us how inhumane human beings can be to each other. I read an Amazon review of the novel that told a reader not to worry that they would have to read over 400 pages of depressing oppression. This is true -- "The Help" makes Jim Crow palatable. I don't think this is a good thing.

I know that some readers have truly felt that they understand something new from reading this book. I know that others are trying to come to terms, as Stockett was in writing this book, with the guilt and affection they felt toward their own black caregivers. Moreover, I know some African Americans have really enjoyed the book, as well. I have no doubt that the same responses will govern responses to the movie.

With this in mind, I've decided to stop bemoaning how much people love it. If you're not a cantankerous critic of racial representations like me, it is easy to fall into the pleasures of both the book and the Hollywood adaptations. Sympathetic narrators, sassy black women (and, in the film adaptation, those colorful, bold, white, Southern women that moviegoers like so much), individual triumph, bonding across lines of difference, and a discrimination story with a spoonful of sugar make it pleasurable. So go ahead, "Help" fans. Love it as a story that makes you feel good, and for some of you, that makes you think. But since someone told me that they actually read "The Help" in an anthropology class, I think it is important to remember, through your happy tears, what "The Help" does not help us know.

You can't know anything about the history of Civil Rights in Jackson, Miss. The Association of Black Women Historians has ably pointed out the failures on this front. People think they know about Civil Rights history, but we've barely scratched the surface. The slogan on the movie poster that "sometimes change can start with a whisper" is historically egregious, given the extraordinary activism leading up that moment. African American women had voices before Miz Skeeter gave them the idea (but we're not going to get a biopic about Ida B. Wells). The general story is that Rosa was tired, Martin had a dream, and after a few boycotts and marches, all was overcome. For the people who will say that I'm being overly critical, just think about all the amazing stories that have not been told, and then ask yourself why "The Help" is so popular, and what films we will never see.

You can't know about black women's lives in this place and time from this story. This represents only a portion of their lives. The movie offers a little more of their lives outside being the help than the books, by virtue of being visual. Did anyone who loves the book note that Stockett only gives Skeeter a full life because she can't imagine what black lives look like outside being the help? We hear about church, we hear about Minny's domestic violence situation and get a brief scene with her child, but the book is not about the complexity of their worlds. Some extraordinary literature about African American women is out there (and I'm not talking about "The Secret Life of Bees").

"The Help" should really be called "Seeing the Help." From observing the response to the book and hearing the applause after the movie, I think it was transformative for some white people to actually "see" these women at all, and for many African Americans, it is always pleasurable to have fictional representations that depict any aspect of our history. But we should remember that "The Help" gives pleasure largely through lying by omission.

I think there are still books to be written and films to be made about this group of women. I am not someone who believes that African Americans can never depict people in service. We should not devalue the people today and yesterday who hold these jobs and have complicated stories that are rarely told. The one shining spot in "The Help" is the magnificent performance of Viola Davis, who depicts Aibleen with dignity and grace. Do I wish that she could finally get a leading role in which she is not maid? Of course I do (and so does she). But "The Help" actually makes me want to see more stories about black maids, more multifaceted than the one that Stockett and Hollywood provide.

 
 
 
I'm generally happy when people fall in love with novels and want to talk about them. I love "Harry Potter" and think Oprah Winfrey's book club was a great thing (even if I didn't always agree with he...
I'm generally happy when people fall in love with novels and want to talk about them. I love "Harry Potter" and think Oprah Winfrey's book club was a great thing (even if I didn't always agree with he...
 
 
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09:09 AM on 09/27/2011
I found the book to be a Disney-fication of the civil rights movement and was embarassing to read. But this troubles me greatly: "someone told me that they actually read "The Help" in an anthropology class." Egads. She/he should get a refund on the course.
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sejoseph
04:49 PM on 08/19/2011
You should also check out Labor of Love, Labor of Sorrow, black women were economically & sexually exploited when they migrated North also.
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Ujwala Samant
11:17 PM on 08/18/2011
So don't like The Help... but not because there aren't films about the heroes you speak about. I'm Indian, and I'm used to being asked about Gandhi. I'm used to being asked about Indira Gandhi who was more sexist and an oppressor of women. But you see any films being made about anyone else? I am sick of the interpretations by African American feminists/radicals going on about the book being about white women. And I do not see the "bold white Southern women" except for an arrogant Hilly, her spineless friend, and wishy-washy Skeeter. Someone even referred to the book as being about Skeeter, Oh Please! I wonder what the response would have been had The Help been written by an African American woman? The only interesting characters in the book are the African American maids. And throughout the book, Skeeter is told, corrected and made to rewrite what the maids want to say. Skeeter is merely a scribe, not an editor, not an interpreter; she is never ceded that role. She is put in her place and told precisely what to write. Sorry, whilst I studied and still follow non-Caucasian feminism, I struggled with the book because it is very harsh to listen to the language and watch the scenarios unfold. It isn't about subservient maids... it is about women negotiating power. And feminism is not equal.
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Rebecca Wanzo
04:00 PM on 08/19/2011
Ms Samant,
In the order of our critiques: 1.) I talk about how the book is largely about how white southern women have seen understood black women, which ends up making the book, about white women. I went through about 1500 Amazon reviews that suggest that the book structurally supports my reading of these responses. Of course, many people have varied responses to this book, which I also suggest. 2.) The bold southern white women is in the film, not the book, in which the mother's of HIlly and Skeeter are more prominently in the vein of these representations. 3.) I think the point of many critics is that it is unlikely that African American women would have written a book that looks like this, as we have read fiction in which African American women are maids, but it is not the major force of their lives. Many people hate Tyler Perry for his representations of black people, so being a black creator does not make you immune from negative criticism.
06:43 PM on 08/15/2011
I was the age of Skeeter at the time, living in a small town in the south. I read this book and what I felt all the way through was dread--I spent the whole book living in fear about what was going to happen to Aibileen and Minny. I haven't seen the film, but the teasers seem altogether too cheerful for reality. I didn't feel it was making Jim Crow palatable. My family had a movie theater where black people couldn't use the restroom--I remember the bad old days.
02:33 PM on 08/15/2011
right on the money....so done with 'get excited!' a movie that shows blacks don't or didn't really have it that bad after all.....ugh.
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11:09 AM on 08/15/2011
You have provided a wonderful article and so true in so many ways. The most terrifying experiences of my white military childhood took place in Biloxi, Mississippi (1960-1962), and Montgomery, Alabama (1964-1967). My exposure to that evil darkness in those days was so little, and always protected by my military dependency status. The vortex of hate, distrust, and violence I experienced in those days, has never left me, nor have the kindness, strength, and compassion of the few Black adults. I met during those days or the courage of their children. I still do not know how they did it, except by the grace of their Christian faith. What got me through those terrifying days was the brief exposure to those Americans, and they helped me to become the person I am today. Thank you, African Americans of the Deep South during the days of developing Civil Rights.
02:29 AM on 08/15/2011
cont'd....................

The book however did give me a thumb print of the humanity of the era; the good and bad of it and in my view, as the main character said, helped (no pun intended) give the 'maids/helps' a voice, in the process asserting their importance and contribution (abused as it were), to the society they lived in.

I hope Ms. Wanzo, that as a media figure, this post and your position will influence and trigger more stories of this historical nature, where a broad spectrum of voices can be heard.....would very much love that.

Shalom - ⎝⏠⏝⏠⎠ -
02:29 AM on 08/15/2011
Dear Ms Wanzo,

you raised some interesting points. I must admit although I thoroughly enjoyed the comical value and the brief anthropological insight into the relationships that existed across the social and people group structure of the time. I did feel uneasy that it was a eurasian lady facilitating a voice for these ladies, but i guess that's how the cookie of history crumbles. A hu(e)man being has to be the one, not any other of creation, cause at the end of the day we are all colourful humans, all the same. Regardless of the fact that history and ruling establishments has sought to separate us, by state lines, country & county boundaries and by our creed and ethnicity. It is these stories and experiences we are hearing of, that shows us dispite racism, segregation, prejudice, apartheid and the like, we are all red blooded, skeletal, sinewed, capacitated grey mattered individuals, who have the potential to think GoOD, have a heart of compassion, and be mindful of each other, our fellow human brothers and sisters, no matter where they come from. Not forgetting, we all experience the same bodily functions - ⎝⏠⏝⏠⎠ -
tbc'd.................................
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Dianne Jarreau
11:41 AM on 08/15/2011
This is an article on the front page of HuffPo today:
“It’s a crying shame that white conservatives from the Midwest and the Koch brothers would come into the South and pump millions of dollars into our elections to go back to segregated schools,” she said. “They need to get their nose out of our business.”

The Koch Brothers And The Battle Over Integration in Wake County's Schools

As long as you are aware that the so-called "corporate voice" aka "person"-hood has umpteen Billions in profits from the manufacture of paper-goods to buy elections in the indeterminate but white South against the interests of non-white residents in states like North Carolina.

This attitude was invented when Sam Alito was allowed on the Supreme Court by "W" Bush. Alito is that miserable excuse for an influential human being who sat loudly mumbling throughout President Obama's State of the Union Speech some years back and embarrassing Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg who is at least two years older than I am and was appointed by Bill Clinton. For the record, ...
t.b.c.
10:52 PM on 08/14/2011
As a child who experienced my mother having help one day a week so she could perform her duties as an officer's wife, I have never felt that any one who was black would listen to me about how much the individuals who were 'the help' in my life meant to me. I always felt that someone who could help us knew more about things than us. So, while I ran around, anything I was told by each of them meant a great deal to me. And I feel I was told truths that their own children would have been told. And when at the age of three or four I as sung "Jesus loves you' while being rocked on her knee after some hurt, I felt love as a strong emotion for the first time in my life. I felt so visible and responded to. It was the best help any child can ever have. I haven't read the book or seen the movie, but if it is true to my experience as a child, despite the cultural background, issues, I learned some truth being spoken to me daily, and I took in every bit of it.
07:12 PM on 08/14/2011
Lovely.
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Dianne Jarreau
11:52 AM on 08/15/2011
...Alito used to write for the alumni magazine at Princeton some years before Michelle Robinson arrived there from Chicago with her brother Craig., Alito totally forgot he had written some of the things that he had with an emphasis on "Tradition". He liked tradition as an incoming minority student who didn't like the legal action of a young Jewish woman who was refused service at the "eating clubs" because you have to be invited to eat there by the so-called nonfraternity frat brothers. Alito so loved Princeton campus with its "traditions", new to him, that he was rude to the President of our country whose wife had attended Princeton in the early 1980s ( and was the subject of a fracas caused by a Southern white woman who discovered that Michelle was her daughter's room-mate in those cramped third-floor gothic dormitories; she later apologized upon realizing that tall "girl" was the wife of the new President*).
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LisaLisa1234
07:09 PM on 08/14/2011
I read the book to see what the controversy was about. My friend was reading it at the same time, so we made a date to see the movie together when it came out. We saw the movie in an affluent suburb of Memphis, and I think my friend and her daughter were the only black people in a packed theatre. Of course, the rest of the audience was mostly women, just a few men.

I think what I gathered from the reactions in the theatre was that the story was easier and more palatable for these women who had never really confronted the other side of their history before, and it seemed to make them feel better about themselves to enjoy a movie where the evil white woman gets her deserts (or desserts, as the case was) and the black women wind up feeling empowered.

My friend enjoyed the movie (she grew up in a small town on the MS border), as did her daughter. But other friends who lived through it in Mississippi, who are old enough to have been there, felt it was entirely too shallow. They give kudos to the woman who wrote it for trying.

Here, though Jim Crow is no longer the law of the land, the reverberations of it still fester. Many whites here still hold the attitudes that were present then, but you only hear about it when they think you think like they do.
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Dianne Jarreau
11:55 AM on 08/15/2011
I found it interesting where Michele chose to eat on campus: the Center for Foreign Students; but then I remembered that you can walk directly from there across Nassau into Witherspoon street and on up to Paul Robeson place and America's smallest ghetto. By this route, you can find a number of grocery stores as well as eateries; one of which was owned by the notorious Menendez brothers who were attending Lawrenceville prep school before they decided to kill their mother for the money.

* I just wanted to make clear that this stuff doesn't only happen to,"The Help". In our country this Southern snobbery has occurred while the President's wife had a scholarship to New Jersey's prestigious Ivy League school.

Anyway, I made myself a list when somebody pointed out to me the products produced by Georgia-Pacific; that marking is on all packages, products of the Koch brothers, who must have had a reason for naming their paper-cups: Dixie cups..
03:39 PM on 08/15/2011
As you so obviously do. And how brave of your "friends" to come with you and sit in a darkened theatre chocked full of white people -- alone. I wouldn't have done it.
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LisaLisa1234
05:09 PM on 08/15/2011
I'm sorry, I don't understand your reply. As I so obviously do what? Hear about it? I'm also confused as to why you would put "friends" in quotes; are you saying we're not friends? She suggested that particular theatre, because it was closer to her house than the one I wanted to go to, so she didn't really come with me as much as I went with her.
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03:46 PM on 08/14/2011
I went to see this movie after reading the book expecting to love it and to be honest I absolutely did not like it. I was completely thrown off by the use of ebonics. I grew up in the south. My grandmother was a maid all her life and she could string together sentences using proper English. Had she ever caught me saying "Law" when I was supposed to say "Lord" we would have had a problem. I don't know why the author of the books choose to act as if these women could not speak properly and then showed a clip of Medgar Evers who lived "two blocks away" and he had no problems speaking proper English. Also they were around white people who spoke proper English everyday and yet they spoke in Ebonics. I didn't get that choice and I found it humiliating as a black woman. Also they act if if only the mammy type worked in homes. My grandmother was a very attractive woman. She's dead and gone but when I'm home I have people stop me all the time to let me know they remember her beauty..and that she was a terrific dancer..apparently could Lindy hop with the best of them. My point is, we are not all mammies. I don't feel that the attractiveness of black women was represented on purpose.
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Heru1
05:54 PM on 08/14/2011
Just want to point out that Ebonics is not improper English, it is a language that makes use of English vocabulary.
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08:20 PM on 08/14/2011
Well go on a job interview and use it. Think you'll get the job? I doubt it.
03:43 PM on 08/15/2011
"Laws! ...do sah smahts!" Thanks for pointing that out Opie. I'll try and write that down in my important things whites say notebook --if Ahs kin memberin how to wrat.
lawgrrl
I feel like I am in a whirlwind of stupid!
11:23 AM on 08/15/2011
F& F. My grandmothers (both educated women at the time) had to work for white families when they could not find work from time to time, and my great-grandmother worked for a white family most of her life. It's interesting to see and hear the white children talk about how much they loved these black women and what they meant to them, and that they enjoyed a great relationship with them. but they forget, they are looking through the lense of a child's memory. A child does not notice the tired look on "the help's" face, or the fear in here eyes when she drops china and it breaks on the floor, a child doesn't consider how much "the help" misses their own children and family members, and that the help isn't there b/c they want to be, but because they have to be. I know many black women like myself who have heard the stories from women in their families who were "the help" and the stories are not good. But if you ask the white families they worked for and children they raised, they think it was a mutually loving and enjoyable relationship. The fact that the employer's version and the employee's version are so divergent is very telling.
01:56 PM on 08/15/2011
You put your finger on it. Thanks.
itolduso
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02:49 PM on 08/15/2011
My two brothers and two sisters and I loved and respected the black woman that 'helped' raise us....while our mother was out working........teaching poor black children in the inner city schools........ignorance and hate is not the whole story, else how would tolerance and love have come so far?
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beadingchef
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12:59 PM on 08/14/2011
I would love to know more about the history of that time in through the eyes of the women who lived through it. Like all of history it has a multitude of views, may which are not shared. I read the book, I would say much of was "white washed" (pun with tongue in cheek here). Some women when they write and you get it, change you for life, Alice Walker is one of these writers. I would appreciate if anyone can recommend some books by women who lived this history.
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Daisy Sharp
05:08 PM on 08/14/2011
As Ms. Wanzo wrote below, I'd recommend Danielle McGuire's At the Dark End of the Street. I read this and it was a revelation on so many levels. I cried through parts of it, I was enraged, I was in awe, and most of all, it truly brought home to me that no matter what color, race, religion, land, whatever, we are from, we're women, and that gives us a bond, or should. Sexual terrorism can be used against any of us, and to this day it is being used around the world. It's out of fashion now to express sisterhood, but, if you read this book I'd dare you not to feel a strong sense of such.
lawgrrl
I feel like I am in a whirlwind of stupid!
11:29 AM on 08/15/2011
I love that you even want to know, and wish more people had the intellectual and historical curiosity, if more people did, there would be more understanding. Check out "Eyes on the Prize", documentary mentioned in the article. It is long, and harrowing, but rewarding. That will give you an absolute perspective of what black domestics were living through, the times and the violence, rather than the white-washed version depicted in "The Help".
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beadingchef
creativity is the spark of intention
01:17 PM on 08/15/2011
Thank you will do.
jusathot
a mother from another mother
09:11 AM on 08/14/2011
I am very embarrassed that I cannot remember the woman's name who wrote about this topic. I thought it was Ann Petry. Anyway in the story, the maid asks her boss for a health card in a diplomatic way (clever) instead of being forced to supply one. She also talked about older white women complaining that attractive Black maids influence White men-of-the-house to have sex with them, etc.

There is a lot of writing by sisters about this topic, but apparently the only person we hear on the subject of Black maids is the voice of a White employer's daughter.
04:31 PM on 08/15/2011
This woman stole this story (surprise) from her brother's maid. We have to help them do everything.
jusathot
a mother from another mother
09:28 PM on 08/15/2011
Lol.
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FloridaLAW
This Day, This Moment, Right Now!
06:12 AM on 08/14/2011
it's nothing new, we should be used to White people telling us that "Jim Crow wudn't that bad!" It's driving Miss Daisy all over again.
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Heru1
05:56 PM on 08/14/2011
They're even trying to say that slavery wasn't all that bad (See, eg., Michelle Bachmann).
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BlackJAC
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07:03 PM on 08/14/2011
Margaret Atwood and George Fitzhugh were saying that long before.