"What do you think about frenemies?"
"I say, keep your friends close, and your frenemies closer."
That's how the saying goes.
#BFF, #Biffle, #BestFriendsForever... All these tags have got me thinking about the flip side of a friendship... a frenemy!
Urban Dictionary defines a FRENEMY in so many more ways than you can shake a stick at it, or hit that "ish" with a bat!
As you have witnessed on MobWives, the term "friend" is used way too loosely. To my surprise, some that I have considered friends have morphed into a straight-up enemy, or this emerging new breed of "frenemies."
I would much rather face my opposition in a black-and-white arena as you being my enemy than this new grey area of calculated hypocrisy of the frenemy territory. MobWives this past season was a textbook example of navigating through the war zone of a frenemy battlefield. Ahem, Let me clear my throat; I have fought my battles, won a war or two and can say victoriously (in my best Elton John voice), I'M STILL STANDING!
Let's play a game... Can you match the MobWife that best fits any of these definitions of will a FRENEMY? If you ask me, all of these definitions can be mixed and matched to all the ladies. :)
I will bet the farm that you will notice one of your own "friends" amongst these definitions. Be safe out there. Remember, sometimes an invitation to a dinner party is only because they want to serve you as first course!
Via Urban Dictionary:
An enemy disguised as a friend.
The type of "friend" whose words or actions bring you down.(whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don't cuz...they're nice... good ...you've had good times with them. U know...they're good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future. The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because "it's in the past"...and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.
Someone who is both friend and enemy, a relationship that is both mutually beneficial or dependent while being competitive, fraught with risk and mistrust.
Someone who you pretend to like but really you both know you hate each other.
A person who pretends to be your friend to get connected to other people you may know and then blows you off once they are connected to your friends. They are very smooth and everyone thinks that person is great until they are eventually traded up by this person for another "better" social connection. They are social climbers and usually the social "leader" in the group. No one wants to reveal this actual frenemy for fear of backlash from the rest of the group. The frenemy will actually put you in a bad light to other people behind your back without making it seem like they are talking about you and actually spill anything you may have told them to others without making it seems they are telling a secret. Be aware of the frenemy because they will have your friends alienate you to be their friend. They are fake and although you may be a smart one to recognize them, others may not and exude praise upon them until they've been tricked by the frenemy.
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