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Every Child Deserves a Family

Posted: 10/31/11 12:11 PM ET

In the past year, we have made so much progress toward LGBT equality. My home state of New York passed marriage equality, "Don't Ask Don't Tell" has ended, and DOMA is under unprecedented assault in the U.S. Senate and in the courts. The momentum is there to build on our progress, which is why I'm proud to introduce the Every Child Deserves a Family Act in the U.S. Senate today.

As more and more LGBT couples are getting married and starting families, we have a great opportunity to place children without a family into happy homes, either by adoption or foster care. But unfortunately, discrimination against both adoptive and foster parents based on sexual orientation or gender identity is still pervasive in this country. Currently, five states prohibit same-sex couples from adopting, and there are six states that ban same-sex parents from adopting their partner's children. In all, 31 states practice some form of discrimination against LGBT families.

Which is why we desperately need this legislation.

The Every Child Deserves a Family Act would prohibit any adoption or foster care agency that receives federal money from discriminating against potential adoptive or foster parents based on sexual orientation, gender identity or marital status. This legislation would open thousands of new foster and adoptive homes to children, ensuring that they are raised in loving families.

I'm proud that my home state of New York has led on this, allowing LGBT individuals -- and now married couples -- to adopt and be foster parents. Mary Keane of Yonkers is a perfect example. At age 50, Mary, a lesbian, decided she wanted to be a mom, so she volunteered to be a foster parent. Now 63, Mary is the proud parent of 12 foster kids, five of whom she has since adopted. Thanks to New York's open foster care laws, Mary was able to give these kids the happy, stable home they'd never known.

The fact is that LGBT parents are just as able to provide a loving and stable home for children as straight parents are. It's my hope that as more and more LGBT Americans are able to marry, so, too, will their families grow to include some of the over 100,000 children still waiting to be adopted or welcomed into foster homes. And as we commemorate National Adoption Month throughout November, it's my hope that the Every Child Deserves a Family Act will get a fair hearing in Congress. Not only will this bill allow thousands of children to find loving families, but it will help move us further toward equality for all LGBT Americans.

 

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In the past year, we have made so much progress toward LGBT equality. My home state of New York passed marriage equality, "Don't Ask Don't Tell" has ended, and DOMA is under unprecedented assault in t...
In the past year, we have made so much progress toward LGBT equality. My home state of New York passed marriage equality, "Don't Ask Don't Tell" has ended, and DOMA is under unprecedented assault in t...
 
 
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wbearl
Retired Manager Mechanical Operations
08:24 PM on 11/06/2011
I have no problem with Gay Marriages, in fact I think it's a waste of time even making an issue out of it. There is little or no sanctity of marriage any more, not since divorce has become so common. However I do have some problems of Gays adopting children. I'm adopted and trust me, that can be a hard enough to deal with without the extra baggage of being adopted by a Gay Couple. Kids by nature are cruel. As an adopted kid you take enough crap from other kids without having to deal with the crap kids would give you about Gay Parents. I have a son I'm very proud of and he is gay and he and his companion have been together for 15 years, longer than the average marrage. We have often talked about adoption.
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Down the rabbit hole and through the looking glass
09:47 PM on 11/06/2011
if it were completely normal, no one would give kids of gay parents any more crap than any other kid. And I'm sure you're aware of the horror stories of foster care and bad adoptions, so I am also sure you are aware that more healthy, normal parents adopting is always a good thing.
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08:12 PM on 11/06/2011
I only wish I'd had two gay, emotionally available, thoughtful, considerate and kind gay dads instead of the distant, self-involved, stoic and emotionally crippled - oh never mind, well done Senator Gillibrand!
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PRONESE
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08:11 PM on 11/06/2011
Big Hollywood does not need to make large contributions to politicians.
But they do.
R/ PRONESE
05:56 PM on 11/06/2011
In my humble opinion, not every child derves a family, but every well formed citizen comes from a well formed family. The LGBT aspect is superfluous. A well formed family is a well formed family. Frankly, good parenting rarely comes naturally any more. It can be taught or nurtured. The configuration of that family can vary, but the passion, committment and perseverience coupled with common sense cannot. As a nation, at lease. We need to support the children and subsequently support well formed families and stop meddling with the ingredients.
03:41 PM on 11/06/2011
This is great.

Most of us will agree with what the senator is trying to do. Let us all support her, by sending an e mail to our Senators, and urge them to support the Senator.

We just might be able to give many children a chance they would have other wise not received.
02:53 AM on 11/06/2011
its sad that rational dialogue isnt possible on this issue
01:03 PM on 11/01/2011
Gillibrand is without a doubt the happiest legacy of the ill-fated Paterson administration. I remember when Paterson first appointed her, after all that dithering over Caroline Kennedy, we down-staters let out a collective, "Kirsten Who?" Many of my fellow liberals were chagrined to discover that, after scanning her record, she wasn't quite as liberal as we would have liked.

But she has completely won me over. I suppose in her upstate heart of hearts she'll never be as liberal as me, but she knows who her constituents are and she knows how to go to bat for them. That she happens to be a beautiful, elegant woman who represents us in the Senate with such grace is the icing on the cake. I'll be proud to vote for "Kirsten Who?" when the time comes.

Thanks Dave!
03:18 PM on 11/06/2011
Dave

She is also pushing to get rid of the DOMA. She is pushing for same sex marriage for the country. She is a lot more liberal that most of you know.
11:39 AM on 11/01/2011
Additionally, once an adoption is approved the tax code needs to be amended to allow couples, regardless of the gender of the partners, to be able file as "married". (Define "married" as a civil union between two consenting adults for the purpose of raising a child.) Anyone raising a child (single or as a couple) should be able to avail themselves to this tax treatment.
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Steve Marchand
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11:38 AM on 11/01/2011
From age 6 to age 10, I was sent from one family to another where I encountered good and well intentioned people but also incredibly violent ones. There is no doubt in my mind that, even at that young age and after having experienced so much heartbreak, I would have recognized that love is love, no matter who it comes from. There would have been no debate in a choice between being loved by a gay couple or beaten by a straight one. Love wins no matter what. Anyway, my apologies for a shameless plug, but I am currently writing my story at citizenofvillejoie dot com, if you're interested.
Thank you Senator for what you do.
03:40 AM on 11/01/2011
Any potential adoptive parent should be vetted, sexual orientation should not be an automatic disqualifier unless there is an individual dynamic that is specific to those involved. Disqualifying groups or classes of people is just a lazy way to avoid meaningful screening of potential parents. In many states single men seeking to adopt are also disqualified by policy were single women are not. This seems to be addressed in this proposal by marital status. I don't believe this will be any easy bill to pass and it is a difficult proposal to politically support in other areas of the country. I think its goals would be easier to accomplish in a broader proposal.
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11:03 PM on 10/31/2011
yes but what kind of family?
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Married Gay Pagan Man
11:27 PM on 10/31/2011
Nothing at all wrong with a same-sex couple. They are as capable of raising happy healthy childen who grow up to contribute to society. So I am glad to see the Senator behind this.
11:39 PM on 10/31/2011
There are no guarantees in any 'family', but, I would pray that it be a family full of love and support for their children. God told us the greatest gift of all is love and a family without it is not a family, it's just labeled as one. Unfortunately, many of those labeled families are not full of love and the children suffer. Placing any child into a house full of love creates a sense of family and that is the only kind of family that should matter, not who else lives in that house. It's about the gift of love.
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Ioan Lightoller
Proud Married Gay Pagan Man
01:23 AM on 11/01/2011
Amen!
03:23 PM on 11/06/2011
You have no idea what the state of NY puts potential foster/adoptive parents through. You get a background check from the day you were born to your current day. Criminal checks, neighbor checks, employer checks, family checks, financial checks, home checks, and the list goes on.
09:19 PM on 10/31/2011
Good on you Senator!
08:37 PM on 10/31/2011
Reading this article put the biggest smile on my face. Thank you senator for addressing such an important and, in my opinion, a largely ignored issue. I hope this legislation passes!
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RainbowTeacher
09:03 PM on 10/31/2011
Agreed! Thank you Senator - keep up the good work!
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CanuckistanCommie
I ain't no Commie but Pat Buchanan thinks so!!
07:41 PM on 10/31/2011
To all those Christian zealots out there, I want to share this with you.
I was born out of wedlock. At the time, my birth mother had lost her husband in an accident one year prior and was caring for two children on her own. This was the early sixties.
I was put up into the Catholic Childrens Aid in Ontario. I was then placed into the home of a Catholic married couple who had 4 children. As I got older, I along with 2 of my other siblings were sexually abused by my pedophile father. For me the abuse went on for 6 years.
When I grew older, I tracked down my natural family and had I not been given up to that family, would have avoided the abuse.
I am married and have two children that I am proud of.
My daughter's godfather lived in a homosexual relationship with his partner, a father of two boys.
Both boys are heterosexual.
My point here is that religious intolerance does not protect the child as it comes down to personality.
Parenting is not a physical act, it is a responsibility. One that my adoptive father failed at and one that my daughter's godfather excelled. .
Do I say, stop with the adoptions? NO
Just remember zealots " He who throws stones should not live in glass houses"
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kevinbr38
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07:22 PM on 10/31/2011
About 18 years ago by mutual consent a young Gay teen came to live with my partner and I. His single mother couldn't deal with his sexual orientation.My partner and I fed, clothed, and housed him gladly, and put him through school all the way to his MBA. His mother contributed nada, and in fact moved out of state.
We were thwarted at every turn from becoming his legal guardians because of our sexuality and the then [non-exsistent] legal status of our relationship. The fact that he was happy, and thriving with us and his mother had in essence abandoned him made no difference in our legal attempts..
Children deserve to be with people who will love and nurture them regardless of how they came to be in foster care, or put up for adoption, or as in our cased simply given away, and certainly regardless of the sexual orientation of those who would care for them.
We all turned out quite well, but certainly could have benefited from some form of legal recognition of our family.
Our son is grown, my partner and I are now in fact legally married, and I am going to support my senator from New York in this endeavor.
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Ms NYC
Republicans for Voldemort
09:35 AM on 11/01/2011
Congratulations on your marraige and on being a wonderful man.
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kevinbr38
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11:24 AM on 11/01/2011
Thank you. It's the NYC water!
I'm happy going on 21years with my partner, grown "son" 2 doggies and 2 kitties :).
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KanaMV86
01:54 PM on 11/01/2011
You're a good man. :)