The Reverend Debra W. Haffner is the director of the Religious Institute on Sexual Morality, Justice, and Healing. She is an ordained Unitarian Universalist minister. She is an endorsed community minister with the Unitarian Church in Westport, CT.

Rev. Haffner was the chief executive officer of SIECUS, the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States, from 1988 through May 2000. Under her leadership, SIECUS tripled in staff size, increased its annual budget revenues more than six fold, and opened professional offices in New York and Washington, DC. During Rev. Haffner’s tenure at SIECUS, she created the Religious Declaration on Sexual Morality, Justice, and Healing; the National Coalition to Support Sexuality Education; the Commission on Adolescent Sexual Health; and the Guidelines for Comprehensive Sexuality Education, Kindergarten – Grade Twelve.

Prior to joining SIECUS, Rev. Haffner served as the Director of Education for the Center for Population Options; the Director of Community Services for Planned Parenthood of Metropolitan Washington; a Special Assistant in the U.S. Public Health Service; and the Resource Center Coordinator of the Population Institute.

Rev. Haffner is the author of From Diapers to Dating: A Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Children, which was called by Kirkus Review “the very best kind of guide for being a better parent,” and Beyond the Big Talk: Every Parent’s Guide to Raising Sexually Healthy Teens, which the American Library Association’s Booklist says, “offers solid advice and resources to parents, who will greatly appreciate her candor.” She is also the co-author of a college sexuality textbook and “What I’ve Learned About Sex.” Her most recent book is A Time to Heal: Protecting Children and Ministering to Sex Offenders. Rev. Haffner has also published nine chapters in books and encyclopedias, more than 70 articles in professional journals, 14 monographs, and numerous pamphlets for the general public. She has conducted speeches and training workshops in Brazil, Cuba, Panama, Venezuela, England, Hong Kong, Japan, Israel, New Zealand, Uruguay, Guatemala, England, Spain, and the Netherlands.

Rev. Haffner’s work has been honored by Planned Parenthood Federation of America, the Yale School of Epidemiology and Public Health, the Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, the Association for the Advancement of Health Education, and the Society for Adolescent Medicine. She received the Connecticut Sexuality Educator of the Year Award in May 2002 and the Norwalk High School 2005 Alumni Award.

Rev. Haffner appears regularly in the national media. She is frequently quoted in the New York Times and the Washington Post, and has appeared on such programs as Nightline, PrimeTime Live, 20/20, Dateline, Crossfire, Good Morning America, Oprah, and the Today Show.

Rev. Haffner has a Masters of Divinity from Union Theological Seminary, a Masters of Public Health from the Yale University School of Medicine and an undergraduate degree from Wesleyan University. In 1996-97, she was a Research Fellow at the Yale Divinity School. She is also a Fellow of the Society for Adolescent Medicine. She is currently a Visiting Professor at Union Theological Seminary and the Yale Divinity School. Rev. Haffner has been married for 24 years and is the proud mother of a 20-year-old daughter and a 12-year-old son.

Blog Entries by Rev. Debra Haffner

Sex and the Single Minister

Posted August 24, 2009 | 02:40 PM (EST)


On Friday, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America voted by a substantial margin to affirm the ministries of gay and lesbian clergy in "committed, lifelong, same-gender relationships." In the words of my colleagues at the ELCA, the vote means "ending the discriminatory two‐tier system of the past and...

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"You Shall Not Murder" Exodus 20:13

5 Comments | Posted June 4, 2009 | 10:58 AM (EST)


I am appalled by how some of the mainstream media has covered the assassination of Dr. George Tiller this past week. The New York Times blog asked "Is It a Moral Murder?" The Religious News Service blog asked, "Is there Biblical evidence for murdering someone to potentially save...

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Will Clergy Lead the Way on LGBT Equality?

5 Comments | Posted April 30, 2009 | 05:44 PM (EST)


Despite recent advances for marriage equality for same-sex couples in New England and Iowa, public support still wavers. The latest poll from Quinnipiac University indicates that only a third of Americans believe that same-sex couples should be allowed to marry. An ABC News-Washington Post poll registered stronger support...

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Don't Call Yourself Progressive If You Don't Support Sexual Justice

Posted April 3, 2009 | 01:51 PM (EST)


You know when marriage equality comes to Iowa that lesbian and gay equality has become a mainstream American value. Yet the Iowa court decision recognizing marriage rights for same-sex couples arrived the very week that new articles appeared in Newsweek, the Washington Post and U.S. News...

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The Immorality of Teaching Abstinence Only

Posted March 12, 2009 | 04:58 PM (EST)


Last week, the Obama administration released its first peek at its 2010 budget. One part that has received little attention so far calls for "state, community-based, and faith-based efforts to reduce teen pregnancy using evidence-based models. The program will fund models that stress the importance of abstinence while providing...

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Sex and the Seminary

Posted January 7, 2009 | 06:03 PM (EST)


I became a minister after a 25-year career in sexuality education. I took courses at three different seminaries and was stunned to discover that none of them had a full-time course on sexuality issues for ministers; that sexuality, ever-present in the Scriptures, was barely mentioned in my classes on the...

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Unearthing Common Ground: Why Reducing Abortions is Not the Goal

Posted December 3, 2008 | 11:17 AM (EST)


There comes a moment in justice movements when society edges forward just enough that once-heated controversies - suffrage, racial integration, interracial marriage - become part of the cultural fabric. Sexism and racism may continue to simmer, but the overall movement can declare victory and move on.

On Election Day,...

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Clergy Stand Up for Marriage -- Same-Sex and Otherwise

Posted October 20, 2008 | 12:30 PM (EST)


The conventional wisdom is that religious people oppose marriage rights for same-sex couples. The conventional wisdom is wrong. This Unitarian Universalist minister is thrilled that I can now perform legal marriages for lesbian and gay couples in my home state of Connecticut. And I am hardly alone.

Today...

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Yes, Sex Education in Kindergarten!

Posted September 17, 2008 | 02:44 PM (EST)


Sex education has made it into the presidential campaign, but not in the way I might have hoped.

I'd like to hear more about how sexuality education can be an important component of both educational policy and efforts to reduce unintended pregnancies. When almost nine in 10...

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Bristol Palin, Mary Cheney and the Limits of Family Privacy

Posted September 2, 2008 | 04:34 PM (EST)


The John McCain campaign says this is a just a private family matter. Sen. Barack Obama says candidates' families, especially children, are off limits. But when family matters relate directly to policy matters, they are fair for discussion.

Obviously, I am referring to the media coverage surrounding Alaska Gov. Sarah...

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Don't Leave Sex Out of Saddleback

Posted August 14, 2008 | 12:13 PM (EST)


You may remember the "Compassion Forum" last April at Messiah College in Pennsylvania, where Sens. Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama spoke of their personal faith and America's response to poverty, AIDS and the environment. Unfortunately, there was little room at the Compassion Forum for women, gays, lesbians, bisexuals and...

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A Sermon for Our Times: Bishop Gene Robinson in the Face of Fear

Posted July 15, 2008 | 06:00 PM (EST)


Watch this clip from the BBC.

Really. Stop now and watch it. It's less than two minutes. And it brought me to tears.

If you don't recognize the clergyman who is speaking, you have surely heard of him. He's the Right Rev. Gene Robinson, the ninth bishop...

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Sisterhood of the Maternity Pants

Posted June 20, 2008 | 03:28 PM (EST)


Is it mere coincidence that Jamie Lynn Spears, the 17-year-old actor and sister of Britney, had her baby on Thursday, just one day after Time magazine reported a "pregnancy boom" at Gloucester High School in Massachusetts? Some might say that coincidence is God's way of getting our attention....

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Standing on the Side of Love

Posted June 16, 2008 | 01:23 PM (EST)


Earlier this month I was in San Francisco, meeting with a few dozen friends and colleagues who have spent their careers working for equality for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) persons in every aspect of our religious and civic life. Many are ordained clergy; many are in committed, long-term...

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Celebrating the California Supreme Court Decision on Marriage Equality

Posted May 16, 2008 | 01:00 PM (EST)


As a Unitarian Universalist minister, I am often called on by couples I don't know to perform their wedding ceremonies. These couples generally are from different religions or one is divorced or they don't belong to a church or synagogue. Before I will marry anyone, I ask to meet with...

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What if You Gave a Revolution and CNN Didn't Come?

Posted April 14, 2008 | 01:13 PM (EST)


You probably didn't hear about it. I thought perhaps I had just missed the television and press coverage, but when I Googled it, I didn't find any key national news stories. Entertainment press covered the benefit, local press covered the event, but such sources as the New York Times, CNN,...

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Sex Education For Politicians

Posted March 11, 2008 | 12:47 PM (EST)


On Thursday of this week, my organization is co-sponsoring a Congressional panel on religious support for sexuality education. It seems somewhat ironic to be telling members of Congress why they should support teaching sexuality education to young people in the midst of the latest revelations of sexual misconduct by yet...

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Why I Don't Care If John McCain Had an Affair in 1999...and Why You Shouldn't Either

Posted February 21, 2008 | 03:18 PM (EST)


You've read the allegations. I don't need to repeat them.

The compulsive game of "sexual gotcha" has officially begun this election season. More than a few commentators have worried what will happen if there is a not-so-unexpected discovery of a Bill Clinton post-White House affair. We remember back to other...

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Message to Congress: Just Say No

Posted November 5, 2007 | 10:21 AM (EST)


Unbelievably, late last week, the conference committee on the Labor and Health appropriations bill agreed to the Bush administration's request for more money for abstinence-only-until-marriage education. The new total in the reconciled appropriations bill is $141 million, $28 million more than it was this year.

From...

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Good News About Adolescent Sexual Behavior Never Seems to Make the Headlines

Posted October 22, 2007 | 10:27 AM (EST)


The articles and TV news stories on the Portland school board's 7 - 2 decision to provide prescription contraceptives at school based health clinics in middle school have featured alarming headlines like "Kiddie Birth Control," "Birth Control for Kids?" and "Birth Control Pills for 11-Year-Old Girls." What most have failed...

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