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Coming Out as an Evangelical Supporter of Gay Rights

Posted: 10/11/2011 8:46 pm

This Saturday I was privileged to speak at the ordination of a man I believe will be a wonderful minister. That man, Scott Anderson, happens to be the first openly gay person ordained in my denomination, the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.), since a historic policy shift last July.

Scott's congregation in Madison was bursting with celebration during the service. However, not everyone in our denomination felt joyful.

I understand this distress because, as a lifelong conservative Christian, for most of my life I would have felt the same way.

When I was ordained in 1984 I believed that, with pastoral compassion, gay and lesbian people could become "normal" through repentance and prayer.

Encouraged by colleagues and friends, I spoke and wrote on this topic. I even helped change our church constitution to prevent gay and lesbian persons from becoming ministers -- the very policy that was recently eliminated by a denominational vote.

But in the last decade, I began to discover that God had other plans. Out of the blue, opportunities opened for serious conversation with gay and lesbian Christians.

I'll never forget a conversation I had in 2001 with a gay man who was in a committed, long-term partnership. I had been arguing that his relationship was sinful when he said, "My relationship is the part of my life that demands the greatest sacrifice and stretches me the most in my ability to love. I believe in confessing and repenting my sins. I work at it regularly. But far from feeling sinful, this area of my life that brings out the very best in me."

I felt shaken, thinking this was exactly how I would describe my own marriage to my wife.

A few years later, I met another gay Christian man who was a leader in an international evangelical conservative fellowship. Uncomfortable with his same-gender attractions, he went through every therapy program available and prayed fervently for a cure. None of it worked. When I spoke with him, I remember him saying, "I feel that God doesn't care about me."

If I know one thing, it's that Christian faith, properly understood, doesn't destroy people. Yet, this man was just one of many I met who followed this course to despair. How had the accepted pastoral response so utterly failed these deeply faithful Christians?

The only answer was to return to the Bible. To my surprise and chagrin, themes began to emerge I hadn't noticed before.

When God creates the world and declares it "very good," God also says, "it is not good that the human being should be alone." Genesis describes God's creation of human beings for intimate fellowship with another person. This is not something we can reverse or undo. It is deeply inscribed in our nature.

I learned that the original languages of the Bible didn't even have words for gay or lesbian. Whatever the Bible was speaking against, it wasn't the long-term, faithful, egalitarian partnerships we know today.

I believe now that this was the beginning of a journey God had planned for me all along.

Today, I call on my fellow Christians to join me in celebrating that a gifted servant enters ministry. That Scott Anderson is a gay man in a committed relationship -- and that he has waited decades for this moment -- only enhances his gifts, which include patience and Christ-like compassion.

And it is because of the authoritative Word of the Bible, not in spite of it, that we can rejoice in the good fruit Scott's ministry will bring forth.

To those who still fear this moment, I only ask that you open your heart and your Bible. God will take care of the rest.

The Rev. Dr. Mark Achtemeier is a Minister of the Word and Sacrament residing in Dubuque, Iowa.

This piece originally appeared in the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel.

 
 
 
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SteveDenver
Progressive and liberal, just like Jesus Christ.
11:54 AM on 10/18/2011
There are so many things that christians / evangelicals / catholics / mormons IGNORE, it's such an oddity that they focus intently on gays and lesbians. I guess a lot of pious people need to be bullies, too.
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practiceempathy
Tolerance need not yield to willful ignorance.
02:35 PM on 10/17/2011
If you judge a person by the person he or she chooses to love, in accordance with his or her natural proclivities, instead of judging that person by how he or she treats others, in a daily context, then it is you who is morally questionable.
07:55 PM on 10/15/2011
There is a reason as to why God is the one that is supposed to judge people because only He knows what's in their hearts. That is, when it comes, to things that aren't criminal or harmful acts towards anyone on purpose. How many times has Jesus said for us not to judge one another? And that it doesn't matter what good deed or what is done if its not done in love for one another. We all know how its so easy to do just the opposite and condemn the minute we think we have it right. We used to have an inside joke about how its a great thing that none of my friends or anyone we know was God because we all don't have the patience or understanding or mercy, etc. I get impatient with myself as it is. I'm just glad I don't have to be a judge of anything. And since that's not a burden I have to carry, it seems so much easier to follow the love commandment because you don't think ill of person. And I rambled again.
11:34 PM on 10/14/2011
The church of Pergamos, Thyatira, Sardis, Laodicia welcomes your ordination. Welcome! May you feel at home.
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gal416
is a Bible verse † † †
12:49 AM on 10/14/2011
So homosexuality is not an abomination to God anymore? The apostle Paul recanted Romans1? Sorry, I didn't get the memo.
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
01:16 AM on 10/14/2011
You also never saw any biblical text that uses the modern word "homosexuality." They didn't have the word because what the author calls "egalitarian" same-sex relationships were unrecognized. Anyone who claims that the Bible condemns today's same-sex relationships is lying.
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gal416
is a Bible verse † † †
01:32 AM on 10/14/2011
Romans 1:25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.
04:03 PM on 10/14/2011
I imagine homosexuality is as much of an "abomination" unto the Lord as eating shrimp is, since the exact same Book of the Bible calls both just that.

Meanwhile, we are CHRISTians, not PAULians.

Tell us what Christ said about homosexuality, and then follow His example, since He was silent on the matter.
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12:01 PM on 10/13/2011
You can't expect the Free Masons to suddenly become a group of boy scouts and open their doors to anyone and everyone and organize some “Happy Pop Tart” party to please some faction of society. Why? Because they have rules, regulations and a form of liturgy.
In the same way, an Institutionalized Religion has a dogma, tenets, a liturgy and more, that do not (or should not) allow it to strip any part of itself just to appear more liberal or moderate. It would only bastardize itself.
Besides, there is no such thing a Liberal, or a Moderate Christian. A religion either has The Truth, through its Scriptures, or it has nothing; this is what is called the Orthodoxy (or fundamentalism) principle. If the Christian (and Jewish) scriptures say that Homosexuality is a Sin, a breach of God's laws, then there is no getting around that, and trying to coat the pill. Either Religion is true, or it is not, period! I am sorry to say that if one is looking for a Religion that accepts gays, one will have to create one, but don't look to the existing ones for solace, you will be luring yourself and asking the religion to bastardize itself, which it cannot do.
Just for clarity here, I have nothing but compassion for Gays, but this is a stark reality. Religion is NOT about Love and Justice, it's about obeying the Scriptures, it's not a democracy.
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Arbutus
Ramble on.
09:17 PM on 10/13/2011
A good reason to avoid religion altogether.
10:10 PM on 10/13/2011
Wow--I didn't realize religion had to answer to you. Anyway, your point of view is the typical black and white, either/or, fundamentalist take. We've heard it a zillion times, and we'll hear it a zillion more.
02:08 PM on 10/14/2011
And I never realized WE had to "answer to religion", especially one we are not members of.

Faved.
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03:17 AM on 10/13/2011
@.Rev. Dr. Mark

JUDE 1-4.

1. Jude, the servant of Jesus Christ, and brother of James, to them that are sanctified by God the Father, and preserved in Jesus Christ, and called:

2.Mercy unto you, and peace, and love, be multiplied

3. Beloved, although I was very eager to write to you about our common salvation, I found it necessary to write appealing to you to contend for the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints.

4. I say this because some ungodly people have wormed their way into your churches, saying that God's marvelous grace allows us to live immoral lives.
The condemnation of such people was recorded long ago, for they have denied our only Master and Lord, Jesus Christ
09:07 PM on 10/12/2011
I am always skeptical when people tell others what "God" says. Whose God? Nature's God?, the Trinitarian 'Father God'. The goddess, Diana? The Great Spirit? The God that you wish to say what you believe is Right? The God that you have absorbed into your sub-conscious and that is now feeding that back into your consciousnesness?

This sounds like a whole lot of theological inventiveness. Nature provides for the procreation of our species, does it not? That is instinctive to the natural male and female. If not, are you going to say that God screwed up? Just where are you going with this?.

Your point is illusive at best.
05:50 PM on 10/12/2011
the purpose of religion is relationship to god religion is not relationship between humans ;true, churches for centuries emulated this status of god with some disastrous results; churches either were not concerned about being human or they interfered in human to human relationship; God relates to humans and humans relate to god but religion is not human to human relationship

God is not about human relationships god or relgion is about strenthening each human being so that all other relationships become optimum

religon is not concerned about human relatiosnhip it doesnt endorse or prohibit it seeks to connect each human being with divine Being in order to relieve stress and make relatiosnhips ideal
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BornOKtheFirstTime
pedicabo ego vos et irrumabo
03:00 PM on 10/12/2011
mon dieu que la religion rend con!
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catsanon
Humans... Such silly creatures.
11:06 AM on 10/13/2011
mais oui........
12:02 PM on 10/14/2011
Absoluement.
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antaeus
Marriage Equality Is Here
02:38 PM on 10/12/2011
This is a very impressive essay. Thank you.

It left me wondering about the accreditation process for institutions that grant the doctor of theology degree. Do all programs require study in textual problems? Given what fairly can be called an obsession with gays on the part of Christianity and politics for the past 30 years, it surprises me that someone with a doctorate wasn't prompted earlier to question the purported biblical basis for homophobia.
02:20 PM on 10/12/2011
Just read and you will understand what God has said:
Leviticus 18:22, 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10; 1 Timothy 1:9-10
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
03:53 PM on 10/12/2011
Just read with the cultural and historical context in mind and you will understand that God said something different from "all same-sex is sin".
12:05 PM on 10/14/2011
I thought Christ came to relieve us of the OT 'rules'. If not, do you still 'think' we should stone disobedient children or the victims of incest to death? Should we deny communion to the disabled?

I'm a Christian, not a 'Paulian'. (Paul had his own "thorn of the flesh". Care to guess what THAT might be?)

Paul didn't much like women with short hair, men with long hair or farmers who cross-pollinated their fields either.

I'd rather follow what Jesus said about homosexuality - which was NOTHING. Would that His (selective_ 'Followers' would take the hint and do likewise.
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gutenmorgen
a.k.a. poopdeck
02:11 PM on 10/12/2011
Dear Sir. You will be perpetually at risk of discovering from your God that your transformation was actually a mistake hence must be reversed. I prefer the basic and far more solid humane guidance which I inherited from my parents that I must accord gays and lesbians the same laws and privileges that society gives me, a heterosexual. Since I am not a member of any religious organization I have no control over what their rules are but I am free to notice that you admit that you were once brainwashed by your own church.
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LLeGrande
An Increasingly Disgusted Liberal Democrat.
02:09 PM on 10/12/2011
Here's a question to the Reverend Doctor -

Why didn't this god-of-yours tell you this a long time ago?

I'll keep the remainder of my opinion regarding this private. But it's not complimentary.
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
02:35 PM on 10/12/2011
Sometimes people don't listen when God talks. Don't blame God for the Doc being a little slow learning here and there.
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02:00 PM on 10/12/2011
Thank you for pointing out the fact the words did not exist for gay or lesbian when the bible was put on paper. I've said the same thing for years, yet the vast majority of xtians do not believe me. I am amazed at this group of people; that the person they say the emulate and follow are the exact opposite of he. Ghandi said it quite appropriately; I like your Christ. I don't like your Christians. They are so unlike you Christ. He was and is exactly right.

Why must people hate? Other than they are afraid of something they don't understand or, they're afraid of something that is inside of them that they refuse to acknowledge.

I really don't like the vast majority of the xtians in this country today.
02:02 PM on 10/13/2011
I dont like all these anti-christs filling our pulpits, the web pages and the media, either .And the anti-Christ isn't the bugger-man. It's a spirit that dwells within these peoples souls.
10:17 PM on 10/13/2011
"I really don't like the vast majority of the xtians in this country today."

Of course you don't--fashion doesn't allow you to, and you don't have the spine to contradict fashion. Do you?
democratbob
Believe in equality for all, including marriage.
08:50 AM on 10/14/2011
Well, I was once one of those Christians to whom he refers and I completely agree with him. People are not quoting Gandhi because it's the fashion but because what he said has become increasingly true of those in our country who consider themselves the standard bearers of 'true Christianity', the more conservative Evangelicals and fundamentalists.