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It's Time for a 'Protect Marriage' Movement That Protects All Marriages

Posted: 11/10/11 05:55 PM ET

It is long past time to overturn the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), a shameful piece of legislated discrimination that does nothing to defend marriage and everything to make second-class citizens out of gay and lesbian couples and their families. And so as the Senate Judiciary Committee begins debate on the Respect for Marriage Act on Capitol Hill, our nation takes a much-needed step toward making liberty and justice for all not just a pledge but a reality.

God does not discriminate against same-sex couples, and neither should our federal government. The time has come for a "protect marriage" movement that protects all marriages, and for a "family values" coalition that values all families -- and as a priest and pastor, I want to be part of helping realize that goal.

In my parish, All Saints Church in Pasadena, Calif., we married f46 same-sex couples when marriage equality was the law in California from May to November 2008. When a slim majority of California voters passed Proposition 8 and wrote discrimination into our state constitution, our governing board passed the following resolution:

WHEREAS, the institution of civil marriage in the State of California is, as a result of Proposition 8 and the Court's decision, a constitutionally-mandated instrument of discrimination, which furthers injustice and denies same-sex couples the fundamental dignities to which each human being is entitled;

WHEREAS, our active participation in the discriminatory system of civil marriage is inconsistent with Jesus' call to strive for justice and peace among all people and respect the dignity of every human being; and

WHEREAS, All Saints Church is called to make the sacrament of marriage equally available to all couples, regardless of their sexual orientation;

NOW THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED that the Rector, Wardens and Vestry do declare that the sacramental right of marriage is available to all couples, but that the clergy of All Saints Church will not sign civil marriage certificates so long as the right to marry is denied to same-sex couples.

The Respect for Marriage Act will allow All Saints Church to get back into the business of ministering equally to all who come to us seeking to live lives committed to each other and in alignment with God's love, justice and compassion. And by granting the same federally protected rights and responsibilities to all married couples, it will help us live into our DNA as a nation conceived in liberty and dedicated to the proposition that all are created equal.

The Respect for Marriage Act isn't just the right thing to do for same-sex couples. It's the right thing to do for America.

 
It is long past time to overturn the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), a shameful piece of legislated discrimination that does nothing to defend marriage and everything to make second-class ci...
It is long past time to overturn the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), a shameful piece of legislated discrimination that does nothing to defend marriage and everything to make second-class ci...
 
 
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05:51 PM on 12/04/2011
I always wonder who Jesus was refering this to..

Matthew 7:22-23

22-On judgment day many will say to me, 'Lord! Lord! We prophesied in your name and cast out demons in your name and performed many miracles in your name.'

23. But I will reply, 'I never knew you. Get away from me, you who break God's laws.

I was wonder who Jesus was refering too.. Thanks for making it clear Mr. Bacon.
04:32 PM on 11/18/2011
Everyone should have the right to get married. Except Christian heterosexuals who cannot abide the idea of homosexuality. They should only be allowed to get "Church Unions." I think I'll go draft me up a petition right now.
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Contact1972
Honey Badger Don't Care
01:20 AM on 11/16/2011
Every citizen should be treatd equally under the law. No exceptions.
01:05 PM on 11/14/2011
Bravo for All Saints!

I lived for many years in the Pasadena area and greatly respect these people.

BTW: This is the same All Saints that was subjected to a Bush W. era vendetta for years because in the fall of 2004 a visiting pastor preached a pre-election sermon advising the congregation to consider "who would Jesus vote for." The IRS tried to yank All Saint's non-profit status for that one comment.

Of course, the reason is obvious: JESUS WOULD HAVE DESPISED BUSH AND ALL HE STOOD FOR.

So I guess maybe the IRS was right: All Saints was promoting the Democrats by asking "who would Jesus vote for?"

PS: Meanwhile the RCC and fundamentalist church were giving out "voters guides". Ever hear of an of those churches being threatened with the loss of their "charitable" status? No, you did not, because they have continually gotten a pass from the IRS.
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monkeyshine89
God goggles, like beer goggles, but more deceptive
08:25 PM on 11/13/2011
Here are the arguments against gay marriage (and the comebacks!)

It's not natural, animals are not gay?
First, animals do not have religion, so does that make religion unnatural? Second, you obviously know very little about the sexual practices between animals, dolphins often have gay sex and partnerships, bonobos use sex between both genders as a way of bonding. Crazy sex is very natural, religion is not.

God says it's not okay!!!!
First, ever heard of separation of church and state? You cannot make a law based on religion, sorry this is not Sharia law of the middle east, if you want religious control, go move to Iran. Yes, we are a secular nation. Also what makes you the speaker of god, does he personally give you a plan, because most of the time 'gods' plan sounds a lot like your own.

It's just not rational...
I'm not even going to get into an argument about logic and reason with a theist, it's like trying to debate a wall. Anyways, I fail to see how gay marriage has anything to do with logic, if anything it makes sense to get married, logical in fact.

Well there you go, top arguments and ways to refute them, feel free to use anytime!
06:55 AM on 11/12/2011
The American free love movement of the 1840s denounced marriage as sexual slavery. Its abolition would be preferable to its "strengthening."

Still, its very good that God has gotten past his homophobia, as you have discovered. Now maybe He can make further strides resolving on his misogyny and love of cruelty, and hopefully his core issue, the low self-esteem which demands such slavish adoration by His frail mortal creations.
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GDWhiteman
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09:19 AM on 11/12/2011
"maybe He can make further strides resolving on his misogyny and love of cruelty, and hopefully his core issue, the low self-estee­m which demands such slavish adoration by His frail mortal creations" - don't blame God for that - that's nothing more than the odd religious beliefs of simple-minded men who are somehow convinced that God bribed himself to get us off the hook for the consequences of our behavior. Personally, I don't believe that Christianity was ever intended to be a religion, but I can understand the appeal of a religion that falsely claims that we aren't accountable for what we do.
03:06 PM on 11/13/2011
What was Christianity meant to be? And which religion says we are not accountable for what we do?
11:13 PM on 11/12/2011
Can you please evidence your grave accusations. I dare not criticize oldmole1861 lest my misreading of a woman as the mother of God be revealed.
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phal4875
The world is run by cats; we just feed them.
03:04 PM on 11/11/2011
My wife - I happen to be a male - and I try very hard to think of ways in which gay marriage will hurt our marriage of 42 years. Will she suddenly stop loving me, or will I stop loving her? Will one of us or both of us "decide" to "turn gay," now that it is legal in Massachusetts to get married to someone of the same sex? These ideas are absurd - as is DOMA.
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draken54
Don't make me call my flying monkeys
10:50 PM on 11/11/2011
Thank you, EXACTLY........... plus my world is run by 5 cats and I was born just to feed them. Love it :) FAV'ED....................................My girlfriend and I..........and I am a woman...........just want the same equal rights, we don't want anyone to "turn gay". Us being in a same sex relationship doesn't put anyone in harm's way to burn in hell. We are in charge of our eternal souls, no one else, if it is right with my God, I really don't care if it is not right with their God. I say if it is not right with your God, then don't do it. I have consulted my God and she is fine with it.
11:15 PM on 11/12/2011
Absolutely agree with the spirit of this post. (i "fav'ed it). But, the last sentence interests me. Did you create your God or did She create you?
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jaggeththewires
God said what?
02:31 PM on 11/12/2011
It is impossible for two men or two women to Marry one another. They cannot fulfill the becoming one flesh deal that makes a marriage complete and binding. The use of strange flesh doesnt count. For a marriage to be complete it requires the joining of human mating organs. Call what they do something else cause it aint holy matrimony!
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
08:08 PM on 11/12/2011
Do you have a problem with reality? It's quite possible for two men or two women to marry - and it's being legalized more and more all the time. And there are churches the do, indeed, unite same-sex couples in holy matrimony. I'll do it here in Texas in a hot minute when the law banning it is either voted out or the court pitches it. It's just a matter of time. I can barely wait.

Jagge, you're usually famous for quoting scripture - where did you dig up those strange ideas about "human mating organs" and "strange flesh"?
11:16 PM on 11/12/2011
And here, I thought I was all alone in the valley of darkness.
01:08 PM on 11/11/2011
Marriage is a team of two persons working together to preserve, enhance and fulfill the lives of two unique and equal standing persons.

To inject something like "between a man and a woman" reduces the value of marriage to procreation and inhibits the fullest development of those whose labor created the marriage.
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jaggeththewires
God said what?
02:48 PM on 11/12/2011
Absurd! Come to find out my neighbor of 30 years been living a commited and loving relationsh­ip with a woman for the past 40 years. How some ever he gots a real wife and kids back in Atlanta! What you think St Peter gonna say when this woman say she had a unique and preserving relationsh­ip with another womans husband? Her relationsh­ip with this man no matter how great it was to the flesh was adultery. A homs relationsh­ip is fornicatio­n. Nothing holy or honorable about either one! God instituted marriage not man. He declared it to be between a man and a woman.
04:02 PM on 11/12/2011
By what authority do you speak for the creator of tis universe?
If I create a universe; will I be holy?

The story you present is sad. We can doubt that either relationship met my definition of marriage because my definition requires a team and teamwork to preserve, enhance and fulfill the lives of the unique persons who create it.

Again, with all fervor, I state that the fullest possible development of each person can be assured with my definition. A marriage limited to procreation has little value when compared to all the values assured by my definition.
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
08:12 PM on 11/12/2011
Actually, marriage existed before man had a notion there was a God.

If you have a problem with fornication by homosexuals, let's get busy and get rid of laws banning their marriage. Then they won't be fornicating without benefit of wedlock.
11:17 PM on 11/12/2011
You just created that definition. This is not the way language works. ( or logic)
07:01 AM on 11/13/2011
Yes. I created the definition of marriage to convey all of its values. Reducing its value to procreation makes me a stud but not a man, not a unique person, not even a human being nor the sovereign being that I worked a lifetime to become.

Language and logic?
12:39 PM on 11/11/2011
First I would like someone ot please, explain to me what "marriage" is.

How can we agree on common treatment when there is no common definition.
Sounds like a "seperation of church and state" issue.
recless
Evidence first. Believe later. Maybe.
04:29 PM on 11/11/2011
Religion may have conscripted marriage (as it did for morality) but it existed long before any of the modern kinds of religion existed.

Personally, I say get the state out of the business altogether. Mary Lincoln didn't need one to be married to Abe, Mary Washington didn't need one to be married to George.
05:19 PM on 11/11/2011
Not at all.

Civil Marriage is a legal contract that creates kinship and family. It can only be entered into by two people who are legally competent to sign a contract, and who are not already family as defined by the marriage law. It creates a certain set of rights, benefits, obligations,. and responsibilities, also defined and enforced by law.

Churches, as agents of the state, may solemnize a marriage, i.e., make it legal. But it isn't necessary. But it is not legal without the official contract approved by the state.
03:21 PM on 11/13/2011
I don't think the State (or any organization) should promote homosexual behavior. I think they should be treated with respect like everyone else. But to promote behavior against rational and natural law is beyond me.
11:30 AM on 11/11/2011
Glad to see pastors and churches take this kind of stand. Marriage equality does nothing to harm my marriage or anyone else's. Passing a nation-wide marriage equality law is the right thing to do as civilized human beings.
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ProofRequired
Taking back the human race, one believer at a time
11:28 AM on 11/11/2011
Thanks you, Rev., for being progressive enough to see past the insanity of scripture on the subject of homosexuality. But doesn't this glaring flaw in the word of God make you wonder about everything else?
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
04:36 PM on 11/11/2011
Reputable Bible scholars with no agenda other than academic integrity have been disagreeing with the insane interpretation for many years. It's good to see another church take a stand for what's right.
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
06:23 AM on 11/12/2011
"doesn't this glaring flaw in the word of God make you wonder about everything else?" - only for those whose faith in God can't exist without faith in the Bible. Some Christians prefer to limit their worship to God and consider the Bible's primary purpose to be inspiring folks to know God rather than merely know about God based on the assumptions and hangups of men.
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ProofRequired
Taking back the human race, one believer at a time
11:46 AM on 11/14/2011
Fair enough, but then why Judeo/Christianity at all? Why not just believe in a higher power of your own design?
11:11 AM on 11/11/2011
Civil unions are fine.

But the state should have the foresight to be able to logically recognize that men and women were made for one another. It is simply reasonable. The love between same-sex people is a beautiful thing. But it is not the same spiritual union as that between a woman and a man.
11:26 AM on 11/11/2011
How do you figure that?
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ProofRequired
Taking back the human race, one believer at a time
11:27 AM on 11/11/2011
You mean those fine spiritual unions that end up in divorce almost half the time? Does it really make a difference in your life or any other if a couple wants to get married? Do you feel a pain in your gut where your soul is supposed to be when two men want to honor each other with the greatest promise of love? Get past your obvious religious teaching and remember that in this country, Chrisitianity is not the law.
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GDWhiteman
Christian mystic iconoclast
09:22 AM on 11/12/2011
It should also be noted that the divorce rate among Christians is no different that the rate for non-believers.
05:06 PM on 11/12/2011
I do not believe Christianity should be the law. But, it does upset me when people do not live their lives well.

That sounds very off putting, no doubt. But I think happiness (living life well) is stalled when people engage in certain behaviors.

Also, what do you mean by, "get past your obvious religious teaching." Are you suggesting I should hide it?
10:32 AM on 11/11/2011
Except for a few delusional conservatives, most Americans believe in the separation of church and state. The solution is simple. The solution provides a win-win for all concerned. The solution is, as we say, a NO BRAINER:

Remove terminology associated with religious beliefs or cultural traditions from state and federal law. Use tradition-neutral terminology to describe and define the secular benefits and protections established by a secular union.

Individuals and organizations are welcome to go down to their club houses and do as much "marriage" as they can stomach, using whatever definitions as requirements they prefer. The legal benefits and protections formerly associated with that common English-language word become available to all law-abiding, tax-paying similarly situated adults without anyone having a tantrum about their religious beliefs or cultural traditions.

What kind of person cares more about a smudge of printer ink on a seculat, government-issued legal document than then law-abiding neighbors' Fourteenth Amendment RIGHT to Equal Protection of the Laws?

UTAH—Hypocrisy Elevated
11:31 AM on 11/11/2011
The legal term is "marriage". Marriage is a legal contract. If some churches are bothered by marriage equality, let them use the term "matrimony" or any other term THEY prefer. There is no reason to change the word for the legal contract of marriage.
04:52 PM on 11/11/2011
I agree. . . but. . .

Here in HATU--Please set your clocks back 60 years--many members of the One and Only True Green Jell-O Fan Club sincerely believe that they OWN that particular, common English-language word.
11:48 PM on 11/10/2011
Thank you, Ed. God bless you and the people of All Saints for your ongoing commitment to bringing about the justice and peace of God.