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Sexual Abuse and the Sacred Heart of Jesus

Posted: 06/10/10 06:11 PM ET

Today Catholics mark the Feast of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Permit me a meditation on the Sacred Heart and, believe it or not, the way that this traditional devotion, typically derided as outmoded and old-fashioned, can help the Catholic Church address some of the factors behind the sexual abuse crisis.

(Now some advice for my atheist and agnostic friends: You'll want to skip the next few paragraphs, because what follows is some heavy-duty Catholic piety that I promise you're not going to like. )

In the late 1600s in Paray-le-Monial, France, Margaret Mary Alacoque, a Visitation sister, began receiving visions of Jesus. In a series of mystical experiences, Jesus appeared to St. Margaret Mary, showing her his "Sacred Heart." Unfortunately, Margaret Mary had a tough time getting anyone in her convent take her or her intimations in prayer seriously. (This if often the lot of the saints in religious orders: no one believes them.)

Close to despair, Margaret Mary heard Jesus in prayer tell her that he would send his "faithful servant and perfect friend." A short time afterwards, Fr. Claude la Colombière, a French Jesuit on his "tertianship" assignment (the last stage of formal Jesuit training) showed up at her convent to be a spiritual director to the sisters. To the young Jesuit she confided her astonishing experiences in prayer, which Fr. Claude concluded were authentic.

An aside: being the "faithful servant and perfect friend" of Jesus is a good way of expressing the goal of every Christian life. (Perfect Friend is also the title of a now hard-to-find biography of St. Claude by Georges Guitton, first published in 1956, which made a deep impression on me as a Jesuit novice.)

Since then, devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus has been part of the mission and spirituality of the Society of Jesus, aka the Jesuits. But lately the devotion has been viewed by many in as "outmoded" in the post-Vatican II Catholic world. Too many kitschy dime-store paintings of the Sacred Heart, too many cheesy statues where Jesus has a dopey look on his face, seemed to have doomed this devotion to spiritual obscurity and religious irrelevance. But we neglect it at our peril: It is a powerful symbol of the Love of God that needs to be recovered in a world filled with hatred and bitterness. And it can help us as we address a church riven by the scandal of sexual abuse.

But first let me share a favorite contemporary meditation on the Sacred Heart. The first is an essay from America magazine (later collected in a book on devotions called Awake My Soul) by Christopher Ruddy, a theologian who teaches at Catholic University. Here's my favorite part:

I did not grow up with any devotion to the Sacred Heart, and it is only in the last few years, as I have struggled with vocation and the demands of family life, that the practice has spoken to my own heart: the fearful heart that paralyzes me when I think of the future, rendering me unable to open myself in trust to God; the cramped heart that refuses to admit my wife and infant son, but clings to my own prerogatives, choosing to watch Peter out of the corner of my eye as I read the morning newspaper rather than get on the floor and play with him; the oblivious heart that holds forth at dinner on the recording history of The Beatles's Abbey Road, but forgets to ask Deborah how her class went that afternoon. At times like these I wonder, have I really let into my life those I love so much? Have I gone out to them? Are they part of my flesh or merely fellow travelers?

On a particularly difficult afternoon last summer, I took Peter for a walk. We wound up at a church in our neighborhood, and, almost unable to bear the despair and self-loathing that was consuming me, I went in to pray. I lit a candle before Mary for my wife and one for myself before Joseph. Almost accidentally I stopped in front of a wood-carving of the Sacred Heart. Caught somewhere between rage and tears, I looked up at the heart and, for the first time, saw beyond the barbed-wire crown of thorns encircling it, into its gentleness. A prayer rose up in me, "Jesus, give me a bigger heart." I looked at Peter in shame and in hope, and I went out into the day.

I remain irritable and irritating. I continue to struggle with a stoniness that shuts out so many. I know ever more clearly my deep sinfulness. But in continuing to pray to the Sacred Heart, I have also come to know God's still deeper mercy. I am strengthened by a heart pierced but unvanquished. I am welcomed by a heart that knows only tenderness and so makes me tender. I look on that pulsing, fleshy heart: courageous and vulnerable, compact and capacious, never one without the other.


The image of the heart of Jesus still has a great deal to teach Christians, Catholics and the Catholic Church today. Especially today -- in light of the sexual abuse crisis. To that end, a story.

Yesterday I was speaking with a Jesuit in my community about the idea of Jesus as a joyful person (part of a new book I'm working on). And he said spontaneously, "Oh he must have been!" I was surprised by his utter confidence in this.

"Why do you think so?" I asked.

"Because children wanted to be around him," he said. "To me that indicates that he was a joyful and gentle person. Children don't want to be with someone who is an ogre."

Good point. Not surprisingly -- since my friend mentioned children -- I was put in mind of the sex abuse crisis. And I started to think about what the Sacred Heart can teach us.

In 2003, soon after the scandals broke in the United States, I participated in a panel discussion, at a large teaching hospital in New York City, on the topic of sexual abuse in the church. The audience was mainly health-care professionals, clergy and several victims of abuse. The panel included several psychologists and psychiatrists. After I gave my talk on what I saw as the causes of the abuse, a psychiatrist outlined the two main characteristics of abusers. (The proceedings were later gathered into a book called Predatory Priests, Silenced Victims.) It was an illuminating presentation that I've never forgotten. The two characteristics were narcissism and grandiosity.

The narcissist, said the psychiatrist, does not care how uncomfortable he makes a child -- or anyone, for that matter -- even if a child expresses or indicates discomfort. That is, an emotionally healthy person would know when another person is feeling uncomfortable. The narcissist does not, and so he persists in his abusive behavior. And, after the abuse is revealed, or the abuser is convicted of a crime, the narcissist personality mainly feels sorry for himself (or herself). Because, as the saying goes, it is all about him.

The abuser with grandiose feelings, the psychiatrist explained, is the "Pied Piper," the larger-than-life personality, the frequent Lone Ranger, who figures into so many abuse narratives. The person who attracts children into his orbit through the sheer force of his personality. The person in whom parents mistakenly place their trust because of his "gifts" with children. The person whom bishops and religious superiors give a wide berth, or even give a pass, because of his "unique" ministry.

Both of these characteristics -- narcissism and grandiosity -- are devastating for anyone in ministry. Yet they are the hallmarks, said the psychiatrist, of the abuser. And the priest-abuser.

How much the Sacred Heart still has to teach Catholics -- especially today. For narcissism and grandiosity are the opposite of the way that Jesus loved. He did not love to serve himself, nor did he love to be seen as "more than" others. Indeed, he "emptied himself," as St. Paul said in the Letter to the Philippians. And though Jesus naturally attracted people to himself, it was never to fulfill his own desires for grandiose plans: indeed, he rejected all of those plans in the desert.

The Sacred Heart is not narcissistic and grandiose but selfless and humble. Jesus's heart is the model for the hearts of all in Christian ministry, and for all who wish to be his "faithful servant and perfect friend."

May all Catholics and the Catholic Church, with God's grace, be freed from narcissism and grandiosity. And may the Sacred Heart, this "courageous and vulnerable" love of Jesus, be our goal as we move ahead in a broken church.

James Martin, SJ, is culture editor of America magazine and author of The Jesuit Guide to (Almost) Everything. This essay is adapted from a longer post at "In All Things."

 
 
 
Today Catholics mark the Feast of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Permit me a meditation on the Sacred Heart and, believe it or not, the way that this traditional devotion, typically derided as outmoded ...
Today Catholics mark the Feast of the Sacred Heart of Jesus. Permit me a meditation on the Sacred Heart and, believe it or not, the way that this traditional devotion, typically derided as outmoded ...
 
 
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03:25 AM on 06/26/2010
Rev. Martin, here is a critic of your earlier article 'It's Not About Celibacy: Blaming the Wrong Thing for the Sexual Abuse Crisis'.
http://broomfieldbugle.blogspot.com/2010/06/review-rev-james-martins-article-on.html

Thank you for reading.
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04:09 PM on 06/22/2010
There's a musical play in Rome written by two priests about the late Pope John Paul II, entitled , "Don't Be Scared". The timing couldn't be better. Like Bungling Benedict's Year of the Priest: a tragedy which should be called a comedy.

"Don't Be Scared"???? This from a not-so Holy Pontiff heading a Church which has not only scared children and their parents to death, but it has permitted little boys and girls to be ravished by pious, hand wringing presbyters. While John Paul may have been looking on telling the world, "don't be scared"???
Sounds as if this play is just another sequel to "Halloween".
07:24 PM on 06/21/2010
Cardinal Mahony, when asked in a court proceeding as to whether he would report sexual abuse incidents? "Not necessarily"
http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-lopezcolumn-20100620-column,0,4523336.column

I would suggest that, aside from all the doctrinal recitations, that the best teaching right now for the sake of the church's credibility would be to report sexual abuse cases to the police as soon as anyone in that institution hears of them in order to prevent more cases like the one the linked article describes.
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11:20 PM on 06/19/2010
Fr. Martin, I have a question. A friend coaches soccer with boys. He complains constantly, " Those $@#!% parents go home to f**k and never pick up their kids! I babysit all day!!" (He's Greek) I raised two sons and two daughters. I would never have left them with anyone whose personal habits were not well known to me. What sort of pixie dust did these bad priests toss in people's eyes? In one case I know personally the family was poor, the parents alcoholic, and the priest brought money and toys. The logistics of this nightmare is not commonly known. I used to keep children in my home. Parents were always late. On two occasions they wouldn't let me borrow their car to run for milk. They trusted me with the children, but not the car! There's a lot of dynamics going on here between parents and free babysitting. The creeps know this.
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06:18 PM on 06/19/2010
Heaven is about the charm of beautiful desires for other people. Hell is ill will, indifference. Isn't it wonderful that so many people are chatting about these profound things here? Unless you're an agent provocateur, you came to this site freely to fuss, to learn, to think.
I'm Catholic and I think this anger and spleen over the hurt children is healthy. Will it encourage a cleaner and more Christian Catholic Church?...for certain.
About Epicurus. He needed to see evil as the omission of good. The sins of indifference and omission are the reason he had to ask those questions.
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02:19 PM on 06/19/2010
The Catholic Priest, said the psychiatrist, does not care how uncomfortable he makes a child -- or anyone, for that matter -- even if a child expresses or indicates discomfort.

FTFY
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Solidarity. Courage. Humor.
02:32 AM on 06/19/2010
"I am a queer, Jewish Buddhist who believes in the Sacred Heart of Jesus". -Allen Ginsberg one of the great poets of the twentieth century.
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09:05 PM on 06/17/2010
Thank you, Fr. Martin. I always pass the Sacred Heart on my way to the Blessed Mother's alcove. Next time, I plan to light a candle.
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03:46 PM on 06/17/2010
Preposterous medieval superstition without a single shred of rational evidence.
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04:26 PM on 06/18/2010
God's going to getchee
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A voice crying in the wilderness
05:48 AM on 06/17/2010
*sigh* The Bible is not about God's understanding of humans; it's about humans struggling to understand God. That understanding has evolved over 3,000 years. For Christians, any idea about God must be filtered through the prism of Jesus. Flinging Bible quotes (mostly out of context) at one another only adds to the noise.
11:52 AM on 06/16/2010
"Narcissism and grandiosity". See it all the time. Company owners and bosses I've worked for, people I've come across in the finance business, politicians who came round looking for contributions, ex-business partners. The ones with the biggest egos were mostly men. By comparison, many female workers and business owners that I've come across were very level-headed, hard-working and surprisingly less gossipy than the men.
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Two 'alves of coconut!
10:34 PM on 06/15/2010
I don't know, to me, Catholicism is just kind of a target of convenience. First up: Virgin birth. Sure. Likely story. That may be what she told her husband, but we all buy that line, don't we? Right. Next up: The Magic Hippie himself, Jesus. Do you really think he's coming back, after what the Romans allegedly did to him? Christ's second coming? He must have some stamina, there, most guys are good for once a night. After that, have a frank talk about the heart of Christianity, well Catholicism anyway, and that's Vatican City, where apparently the age of consent is something like...12? So, if you're on the turf of the Almighty, the catholic schoolgirls are fair game, something like that. And, these are the people trying to lecture the rest of society about sexual/social morality. I see. But I still think it's funny. Besides, if Catholics are such morally upright people, why do they need confessional? NOW we know where they get all the material for those smut-books...clergy by day, ghostwriter for Penthouse by night. True Confessions, indeed. Finally, 'go forth, and multiply'. What, 6.8 billion kids aren't enough? Condoms are not The Devil, here, but mass ignorance, even at Mass, comes a close second.

Long story short, 15 will get you 20, even if you're dressed up in your Halloween outfit, there, and being Of The Cloth isn't the same as having diplomatic immunity.
07:31 AM on 06/15/2010
Christians, What's your answer for the Riddle of Epicurus?
Is God willing to prevent evil, but not able? Then he is not omnipotent.
Is he able, but not willing? Then he is malevolent.
Is he both able and willing? Then whence cometh evil?
Is he neither able nor willing? Then why call him God?
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01:36 PM on 06/15/2010
First, what is evil? Is it illness, hunger, war, theft? Surely all these things are in our hands to cure. God gave us minds and hands, why should we allow evil to persist? Should God make everything perfect? Where then is the purpose of life? If the universe was still and dead there would be no evil. It is only with life and choice that evil exists. When a wolf brings down a moose calf, it is not evil. When a virus cell coppies itself it is not evil. Only humans with our ability to choose between creation and destruction are capable of perpetrating and percieving evil. If God took away our choice there would be no evil but there would be no humanity either.

Second, evil is not alone, there is good. It is the opportunity to have the good that we should focus on. draw a breath and tell me how you earned it. What have you ever done to deserve the joys of life? What could you ever do to repay the gift of a sunset, a breeze, or a sigh?

Epicurus imagines a world in which we are no more than automatons. Things must decay to produce new life. Stars must explode to make shining gold. Evil must exist to allow for free will.
Read the Book of Job, Chapters 37 - 42.
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04:23 PM on 06/18/2010
First,what is evil? Sexually mollesting a child who has come to you , trusting you as the representive of God is evil.
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10:39 AM on 06/20/2010
I agree. The root of all evil is turning away from active deeds of love to ...da daaahhh...usually the Golden Calf. Sins of omission set the evil ball in motion, what follows is a chain of causality...then we need nobility..
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02:22 PM on 06/19/2010
God is: An Underachiever!
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Hmm... I am..... I AM!
12:30 AM on 06/15/2010
Fr. Martin-- I agree with "Olaugh". Where is the apology? Not to mention the evolution of the Catholic church?
This piece was written in true Jesuit form and I like/respect that -- St. Ignatius (along with St. Francis of Assisi) is one of my favorites. I wholeheartedly believe in Contemplative Prayer, discernment and the Sacred Heart of Jesus -- I'm just not a fan of the Church, it has only let me down time and again.
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02:52 PM on 06/14/2010
Reverend Martin, the meditation you offer may go a distance to understanding how the embrace of an open, expansive, and vulnerable heart could counter the nacissim and grandiosity inhearant in the abusers' natures but it does not get to the true issue. The crime and sin of the abuse scandal is not that there were and probably are an infinitesimally small minority of priests who abuse children, it is that the hierarchy of the Church, in the name of forgiveness and compassion, aided and abetted the abuse. The Church shielded abusers and transfered them to other congregations where they continued to hurt children. The Church used money and pressure to silence victims and their families. The Church, while publicly committing to end abuse by priests (a naive committment in my opinion), still refuses to make public records concerning the abusers and the decisions by Church leaders concerning them.

Extend the meditation. It is not merely individuals but the entire hierarchy of the Church which needs to contemplate its narcissism and grandiosity.

The time of trial for the Church has just begun. You have my prayers and my best wishes, be strong.
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04:18 PM on 06/22/2010
and the hierarchical abuse is more widespread than the news media would have us believe. Cardinal Mahoney is simply one of many.
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07:56 PM on 06/22/2010
ding ding ding

Right on the first guess!