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Passing Through Times of Confusion on the Path to God

Posted: 02/28/11 09:28 PM ET

There are as many paths to God as there are individuals. This series looks at six of the most well-traveled paths for contemporary believers.

This final path to God crosses all the other ones at various points. People on the path of confusion run hot and cold with their childhood faith -- finding it relatively easy to believe in God at times, almost impossible at others. They haven't "fallen away" but they've not stayed connected. They cry out to God in prayer and then wonder why there doesn't seem to be an answer. They intuit God's presence during important moments, and perhaps even during religious services, but find themselves bothered by the problems of belonging to their church, synagogue or mosque. They may pray from time to time, particularly in dire need, and they may go to services on key holidays.

But for this group, finding God is a mystery, a worry or a problem.

The main benefit of this path is that it often helps people to fine-tune their approach to their childhood faith. Unlike those who consider themselves clearly religious or clearly non-religious, these people have not yet made up their minds, and so are constantly refining their ideas about a religious commitment.

But confusion can lapse into laziness. The feeling that makes a person avoid worship services because a particular critique easily mutates into a decision not to do so because it's too much work, or because it takes too much energy to belong to a group that demands charity and forgiveness.

Much of my adult life, before entering the Jesuits, the Catholic religious order to which I belong, was spent on this path. As a boy, I was raised in a loving family with a lukewarm Catholic background. My family went to church regularly but we didn't engage in those practices that mark very religious Catholics -- saying grace at meals, speaking regularly about God, praying before going to bed, and attending Catholic schools. But in college I grew increasingly confused about God.

After a friend's death and another friend's mysterious response to his death (see "The Path of Exploration") moved me to give God another chance, I returned to church, but in a desultory way. I wasn't sure exactly what, or who, I believed in. So for several years God the Problem Solver was replaced by a more amorphous spiritual concept: God the Life Force, God the Other, God the Far Away One. While these are valid images of God, I had no idea that God could be anything but those abstract ideas. And I figured that things would stay that way until I died.

Then, at age 26, I came home one night after work and turned on the television set. After graduation, I had taken a job with General Electric, but was beginning to grow dissatisfied with the work. After six years of working late at night and on the weekends, I had also started to develop stress-related stomach problems and was wondering how much more I could take.
On television that night was a documentary about Thomas Merton, a man who had turned his back on a dissolute life to enter a Trappist monastery in the early 1940s. Something about the expression on his face spoke to me: his countenance radiated a peace that to me seemed unknown, or at least forgotten. The show was so interesting that the next day I purchased and began reading Merton's autobiography, The Seven Storey Mountain.

Gradually, I discovered within myself a desire to do something similar to what Thomas Merton had done; maybe not join a monastery (since I'm too talkative) but somehow lead a more contemplative, more religious, life.

That experience helped me to step off the path of confusion and put me on a path of belief, which led to the Jesuits, which led to the priesthood, and which led, more importantly, to a relationship with the One whom I had been seeking.

This series has looked at the six paths on which many contemporary believers seem to travel to God. Each has its benefits and pitfalls. Each, if followed sincerely by the seeker of God, will lead to God. You may find yourself on one path at one point in your life then, suddenly, another. You may feel yourself on several paths at once.

But to the seeker who feels lost, remember: As much as you are seeking God, God is seeking you even more.

James Martin, SJ is a Jesuit priest, culture editor of America magazine, and author of 'The Jesuit Guide to (Almost) Everything: A Spirituality for Real Life', from which this series has been adapted.

 
 
 
There are as many paths to God as there are individuals. This series looks at six of the most well-traveled paths for contemporary believers. This final path to God crosses all the other ones at va...
There are as many paths to God as there are individuals. This series looks at six of the most well-traveled paths for contemporary believers. This final path to God crosses all the other ones at va...
 
 
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Walter H
Thou shalt not coerce. One and done.
01:49 PM on 03/01/2011
The confusion is the result of the process of deliberately cultivating the cognitive dissonance required to hold such a belief.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
09:28 PM on 02/28/2011
Unfortunately, we are in the body and in the body we must do body things. That being said we must not become the body once again. Me, I definitely get stuck on a Country that at least in its own mind thought it was the hope of the world. Not much hope in 2 unprovoked wars, occupation, Drones, Rich pushing the worker down so far to compete with nomadic African tribes can no longer roam free.

Even though all this miss direction can motivate one to escape the material world itself. Escaping into the CAVE of Meditation for its JOY and Bliss. Surely not of these material things.

But are we not suppose to bring back peace of that mediation in our waking state. Unfortunately, the contrast is almost a shock to me. I know we are suppose to hide our joy otherwise we might attract negative energy. But today a smile and even a look of contentment can brings negative energy. Not that discussion to simply enlighten another of the cause of the mess or spiritual ways can bring negative energy.

Such is the life of a Spiritual Warrior and least we know there is a battle. And winning the battle is sure easy when the material world is so insane..
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10:00 PM on 02/28/2011
Although faved fore you are on target about negativity particularly about a "smile and a look of contentment," where is the victory?
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:58 PM on 02/28/2011
I posted you comment on HCLiberal below. So here is his

Christ taught each person should choose between Flesh (material life) or Spirit (spiritual life)

In the body which we are until the flesh dies, we should enjoy the material life. Christ said be in the world, but not of the world. Take no thought for tomorrow, what you should eat, what you should where. Seek ye the Kindom of Heavan (Spirit) and all things will be added upon you

By deep meditation and contact with the GREAT SPIRIT you bring that energy back to the material world so you function even better materially. We live in joy here and there. We just do not get stuck on wealth, ego, and material suffering
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10:38 PM on 02/28/2011
Unfortunat­ely, we are in the body and in the body we must do body things
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I love being in the body and doing "body things". I especially like doing certain body things with women.

Now, I do agree with some of what you said. We have become too materialistic.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:46 PM on 02/28/2011
The victory is not of this world, the point
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:02 AM on 03/01/2011
Sex is sex.

Individually you should not be stuck on sex. Which does not mean you cannot have good sex. In your interactions like Krishna you must be Karma Neutral. Smiles and not Sorrow. You must not leave emotional and physical attachment baggage behind your self actions. Like leaving decease, unwanted children, abuse, etc. Otherwise you are lost in body action and doing evil.

You must evolve beyond sex the lowest level of attachment in the material world to expand your consciousness beyond body. Does not mean abstinence, but freeing the shackles of physical desires
09:13 PM on 02/28/2011
Is acedia part of that state of confusion?

And what of Noche Oscura (the challenge to San Juan de la Cruz)?
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09:13 PM on 02/28/2011
On the road to recovery there are many doubts and fears. The uppermost thought in our minds must be, God first. Recovery comes about with peace of mind. The inner peace that passes all understanding.Know well, that when we are focused on the Heavenly Father, all things work to the good for everyone. Let us be patient and still and let the Holy Spirit empty us of our wisdom and fill us with the wisdom of the Lord. Let us be at peace with our Heavenly Father and be filled to overflowing with His pure love. Let us triumph in His power that all of the earth may know His love and peace.
09:04 PM on 02/28/2011
JESUS THE LAST NEPHILIM ISBN:978-1-84748-797-1
So Enki began the process of genetic designing once again,using the seeds that were stored.However a major genetic difference was made:he gave the Earthlings wisdom and knowledge,but not eternal life.
'Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made and he said unto the woman "Yea hath God said ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden" The woman said "We may eat fruit from the trees,but the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden God hath said 'Ye shall not eat of neither shall ye touch it lest ye die.'And the serpent said unto the woman,"Ye sall not surely die for God doth know in the day ye eat thereof,then your eyes shall be opened and ye shall be as gods,knowing good and evil... Gen 3:1-5
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soma77
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07:49 PM on 02/28/2011
There are many advantages to having a sanctuary within where one can retreat at any time to an ocean of pure consciousness where one is introduced again and again to the joy and peace of pure love. It is in a state of love where one attains a higher awareness and a spiritual experience in the here and now. The higher states of mind exist along side the lower dimensions, but the higher levels are more loving, creative, and inclusive. The Divine wisdom not to judge those that judge and not to exclude those that exclude others comes from the higher layers of the mind. This spirituality is first experienced within then that person sees the divinity within every other person. This witnessing of Divinity is pure love in the here and now. “Love your neighbor as yourself."
http://thinkunity.com
09:08 PM on 02/28/2011
The experience of this joy and peace is the recollection of the arousal from nothingness. We are not at peace so much as we remember awakening from not being. It is the memory of death, complete death that constitutes bliss.
10:08 PM on 02/28/2011
Death here refers to the cessation of awareness. When there are no obstacles there are no distinctions hence no self awareness. This is the complete cessation of thought or psychical motion. Once obstacles emerge, one recalls arising from this state/non-state. And this constitutes the experience of bliss or peace.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
09:41 PM on 02/28/2011
Thanks for sharing. OM SAT TAT.

But the movie of the material world when you return was better as a comedy or even a drama. When for 4000 years the man could evolve with a lot less material survival effort. Today it is as though you have awaken in a monster movie and the RICH and Poor have found SECULARISM and GROUP COMMUNITY "accept it the way it is" or you are not living in MODERN TIMES, you should volunteer for free for Public Servants who are well paid. Replacing the material struggle and freedom with holding hands and singing KUMBYA

LOL :) enjoy
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soma77
Author, Speaker, Retreat Facilitator
07:14 PM on 03/06/2011
One can view the material survival effort as a comedy or as a monster movie. I like to see it as an inspirational, spiritual movie on life, living and love. Enjoy the movie and if you don't like it change the channel.
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researcher
06:51 PM on 02/28/2011
"The feeling that makes a person avoid worship services"


worship what and whom???????

would a deity that has infinite awareness desire to be worshiped. I think not. man does but only in their ignorance. we are expressions of that that is. we are the dynamic aspect of this infinite most call god. without us and indeed all life itself there is no expression just isness. awareness is not dynamic but consciousness is dynamic. intelligence must express, it must create, it is the necessity of infinite to create and express.

create might be better defined as manifest but to believe that materialism creates consciousness passes no logic test. the materialist confuses cause and effect. the religious in a way do the same by making a god in their image.

the christian belief that the wrath of god and its unconditional love demanded atonement. how is for passing a logic test? not.

"But to the seeker who feels lost, remember: As much as you are seeking God, God is seeking you even more".

this makes god in a human image. as long as we see infinite separate from us we will continue to worship a deity that does not exist and cannot exist if we understand infinite, and will never exist. infinite does not seek; infinite is. souls seek awareness just as a baby seeks to walk.

infinite is all and all; we are as aspect of that all and all.
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08:52 PM on 02/28/2011
A deity that has infinite awareness desires to be worshiped not because he needs to know what you are doing for Him, but because the people around you need to know on who's side you're on. You need to manifest that to them so they can know Him, since nobody is born with that knowledge.

2 Corinthians 4:18
'While our minds are not on the things which are seen, but on the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are for a time; but the things which are not seen are eternal.'

How do you know that something you don't see is there, unless until someone tells you it's there? That's what parenthood is for.
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
09:46 PM on 02/28/2011
Like GOD is the energy and light and we are a smaller version of the energy and light until we return to the whole energy and light once again

That is what Christ, Buddha and Krishna taught each in their own way but the same result what ever name was used.

Church as you say is not necessarily teachers of these great mens teaching
10:04 PM on 02/28/2011
The sat guru is inside.

Aum tat sat.
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NoboyukiMasaki
happy-happy, joy-joy
04:28 PM on 02/28/2011
The Age of the Universe is not infinite; therefore, one has to ask the question, "How did the Universe come into being?"

Come on all you guys. Show me your "fastball."

Supersymmetry basically says that "in the beginning, all of the forces of the Universe were somehow bonded together in some Grand Unified Field theory.

1. How did all of these forces come into existence in the first place?
2. If you can answer #1 (Even Stephen Hawking CAN'T), then explain how and why Supersymmetry destabilized into "The Universe?"

I'll bet that NONE OF YOU CAN ANSWER QUESTION #1.
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Semprini
The Dept. of Redundancy Dept.
07:21 PM on 02/28/2011
I know the answer, but I'm not going to tell you.
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whirlpool
founder walnut tree congregation
07:24 PM on 02/28/2011
How do you know the age of the universe is not infinite? Perhaps the big bang was just a transition from a previous universe of universes.
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Kiri the Unicorn
53 miles west of Venus
07:42 PM on 02/28/2011
I've read some stuff about membrane theory that sounds a bit like that, but I haven't made much sense of it. Something about rippling superstructures of space-time that can come into contact and initiate a new universe.
Honestly, I'm wondering if this is something we'll ever know for certain.
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NoboyukiMasaki
happy-happy, joy-joy
08:44 PM on 02/28/2011
"How do you know the age of the universe is not infinite?"

Somebody's got their "thinking cap" on.

It's really very simple actually. If the age of the universe were infinite, then you and I wouldn't be having this conversation.


It's called: "HEAT DEATH": http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heat_death_of_the_universe

Let me explain:

Bob works third shift at a local factory. He comes home and finds that although it's winter, the hood of his wife Marsha's car is very warm. He asks his wife, "hey honey, have you been home all night? Marsha replies, "yes, I have."

Bob, intuitively applying the Second Law of Thermodynamics, already knows something is wrong. Because, if Marsha's car had NOT been moved all night, it would be COLD.

The same is with the Universe. If the Age of the Universe were INFINITY, then the Universe would be cold beyond belief. All energy would essentially be dead.

Don't get me wrong, though. I am a Christian Democrat - but, I'm also an Engineer. I believe that since the very existence of the Universe was more or less "impossible" - then That Which Created the Universe, is obviously capable of ANYTHING.
03:02 PM on 02/28/2011
ah, yes, the seeking. seems it has to do with levels of consciousness. each step, or several steps will open someting new to us. then, it's not that the previous thing is now worthless and false; it was merely what had to be passed, and now we're ready for the next. this is why all the different religions and subsets of those religions and atheism, agnosticism, etc exist: to meet us wherever we are on the path. so, it really is silly to come along on these threads and argue about what pov is the truth, no two points on the path are alike. but, no matter where you are you gotta admit, it sure is mysterious, ain't it?
02:38 PM on 02/28/2011
Confusion in life is common, if not universal to all. As our Saviour beckoned, however, "Come unto me all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest".
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03:59 PM on 02/28/2011
He must have been kidding.
No intelligent man would say something like that seriously.
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whirlpool
founder walnut tree congregation
06:24 PM on 02/28/2011
Well there are a lot of sayings in the Bible attributed to Jesus that Biblical scholars don't think he said based upon linguistic methods and studies. There are versions of the Bible where the stuff he said are marked. Like many things in the Bible perhaps this saying is a metaphor but I agree with you that it is hard to see it here.
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whirlpool
founder walnut tree congregation
08:49 PM on 02/28/2011
There are some real Biblical scholars believe it or not. Marcus Borg at OSU is a good example. As for Iliad scholars, there are professors of the classics. I took a course in mythology once where the Iliad was studied. Fascinating . One of the best courses I ever took.
11:45 PM on 02/28/2011
One of my favorite hymns, "Come Unto Me". Thank you for reminding me of it.
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Daleri Rileda
Jungle Jargon
02:30 PM on 02/28/2011
Read the Bible and you won't be so confused.

There are many roads and paths but they all lead to Jerusalem, eventually if you know enough to know that is where you want to arrive.

It all goes back to the provision that Abraham said that God would provide on Mt Moriah just outside of Jerusalem. Our Creator Himself is the only one who can do anything for us because no one else can.
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SolarArray
Republican = Trash America, Any Cost
06:01 PM on 02/28/2011
Sure thing.

- "I will destroy ... both man and beast."
God is angry. He decides to destroy all humans, beasts, creeping things, fowls, and "all flesh wherein there is breath of life." He plans to drown them all. 6:7, 17
- "Every living substance that I have made will I destroy."
God repeats his intention to kill "every living substance ... from off the face of the earth." But why does God kill all the innocent animals? What had they done to deserve his wrath? It seems God never gets his fill of tormenting animals. 7:4
- God tells Abram to kill some animals for him. The needless slaughter makes God feel better. 15:9-10
- God kills everyone (men, women, children, infants, newborns) in Sodom and Gomorrah by raining "fire and brimstone from the Lord out of heaven." Well, almost everyone -- he spares the "just and righteous" Lot and his family.19:24
- God creates light and separates light from darkness, and day from night, on the first day. Yet he didn't make the light producing objects (the sun and the stars) until the fourth day (1:14-19). And how could there be "the evening and the morning" on the first day if there was no sun to mark them? 1:3-5
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:03 PM on 02/28/2011
The WORD of Christ are the "red letters" of the New Testament.

The worlds knowledge is filled with GREAT Teachers whose methods lead many men to enlightenment, Buddha, Krishna, Mohammad and to not know Christ by calling him the Old Testament is a huge void of knowledge. He taught each person as did the others to Self Realize. In is his teaching righteousness (right actions) of good over evil and all men good or evil will receive eternal life. Not these claims of fear and damnation of the Ol. But JOY and Bliss.
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AntithiChrist
Rhymes with Grist
02:47 AM on 03/01/2011
I tell ya...that Jesus' dad...one hosed guy. Hope he didn't pass any of his genes to his offspring...uh...er...wait...
06:34 PM on 02/28/2011
"More than any other time in history, mankind faces a crossroads. One path leads to despair and utter hopelessness. The other, to total extinction. Let us pray we have the wisdom to choose correctly."
— Woody Allen
02:24 PM on 02/28/2011
In order to change the world, all you must do is change oneself.

Everyone has the key.
Psychokinesis cloudbusting is our gift.
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alterego55
"Always intended to be a factual statement"
02:13 PM on 02/28/2011
No amount of prayer or other ritual practice has ever given me one spec of comfort. Given the fact I was raised Catholic, there was a lot of prayer.

During periods of existential crisis, people resort to a historical religious doctrine of which they are familiar. Some don't. I didn't and my mind and spirit has never been more at peace - its been about 30 years now. I guess I found the right path.
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Daleri Rileda
Jungle Jargon
02:36 PM on 02/28/2011
It seems you never did learn what the Bible says because only the truth of God's word can give us true freedom and real peace.

Just because you have no conflict does not mean you have a clear conscience or true peace. Someone who is drugged has no apparent conflict either and that does not mean they have the light of life.
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whirlpool
founder walnut tree congregation
03:36 PM on 02/28/2011
Who are you to say what alterego has learned or not learned?
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:12 PM on 02/28/2011
You obviously have not done "Hong Sau" and as you gain concentration of one thought the meditation on the Holy Ghost as "OM" will lead your single light to filling the whole body full of light. That joy and bliss will replace you blank mind with unimaginable Color and Light of the Energy within and without

But Buddha taught emptiness and living NOW. Seems more your style. I am of the more Tibetan Buddhist Clan of Christina Raja Yoga. We join our little spirit to the ONE SPIRIT.

But each must pursue our path. If our spirits were the same in this separation we would not all be here

InJOY1111
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SocBeat
Bald and proud
10:52 AM on 03/01/2011
This is for both Daleri and Cayuse:

Alterego tells us that he/she has found peace without god. And the two of you have the nerve to tell him (I'll go with "him") that he hasn't really found peace because he didn't find it your ways (which are different from each other). What arrogance!
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01:52 PM on 02/28/2011
There are as many paths to God
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Paths to nowhere!
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cayuse
Soaring Eagle, soaring to Spirit from the ego self
10:13 PM on 02/28/2011
And one is all we need. Although as a Raja Yogi I do like many methods
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10:29 PM on 02/28/2011
Have a good time when you get to nowhere, Yogi.
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nikanj
free the fnords
01:15 PM on 02/28/2011
Sadly, all 'paths to god' seem to lead away from the
gardens of the goddess; the result is that her gardens
are neglected while we wander endlessly . . .
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01:53 PM on 02/28/2011
Beautiful.
02:23 PM on 02/28/2011
watch this video please.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xjIOjY3s-jc its a four part.
I will not let you wander, my friend.