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Stand on the Side of Love: Responding to the Cry for Help from Uganda

Posted: 02/03/11 02:32 PM ET

As a minister I never know when a call might come. I received a call in February 2010 from a leader of the gay community of Uganda, "Come to Africa. ... I need your help." It said, "I know my land is far away and I know our troubles must seem quite removed, but is it not true that 'injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere?' Is it not true that 'we are caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny? Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.' Isn't that true?" It said, "I'm about to take the boldest step of my life to be treated as fully human and as someone who is beloved by God. I'm afraid, but I'm committed. Will you please walk with me and stand beside me?"

With my wife's approval, last February, I kissed our two children goodbye and went to speak at the Standing on the Side of Love conference in Kampala that was organized in secret by my colleague Rev. Mark Kiyimba, the leader of the Unitarian Universalist church of Uganda, to counter the oppressive anti-gay bill that was making its way through the Ugandan parliament. Today, in the wake of the murder of Ugandan gay activist David Kato, the question of how Americans can support the LGBT community of Uganda, and around the world, must be reexamined.

There are times in life when we have to take risks in order to live our values. Those moments often come by surprise and they are often crossroads that cause us to reevaluate our central purpose and the meaning of our lives. Moments when the question changes from, "If I do this, what will happen to me?" to "If I do not do this, what will happen to them."

"There are some things so precious, some things so eternally true, that they are worth dying for," Martin Luther King Jr. said. "If a man has not discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live." There comes a time in people's lives when they have to decide: "Here I stand and I can do no other." And when people are being run over, swept under, knocked down and locked up for no other reason than being who God created them to be, well then, it's time to decide. Is it not the promise of human rights that all people should be free. Is it not the promise of life itself that our living should make a difference for good.

When it comes down to it, I don't really care who you choose to love. I want to know if there is anything you would be willing to die for.

It doesn't matter to me what name you use to refer to God. I want to know if you have faith in your own power to change the world.

It doesn't matter to me if you read the same Bible as I do or if you read scripture at all. I want to know if you have the courage to face the consequences of your beliefs.

It doesn't matter to me if your days upon this earth are four score and five or if they can be counted on the fingers of your two hands. I want to know if you care about what happens to the rest of us when you're gone.

It doesn't really matter to me if you think I'm a fool. I want to know if you would be willing to risk making a fool of yourself for the right reason.

It doesn't matter to me whether we share the same country, culture, color or creed. I want to know if you will stand with me if I call you in the middle of the night.

There are people, born and unborn, who are counting on us to stand up for human rights. May the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender communities in Uganda, and everwhere, feel the blessing of our prayers and of our tangible support as they struggle against deadly hate and homophobia everyday. May they know that they are indeed beloved and children of God.
David Kato risked and ultimately lost his life for the promise that one day men, women and their families could live and love unharmed and unafraid. What are you feeling called to do?

Rev. Marlin Lavanhar is the Senior Minister of All Souls Unitarian Church in Tulsa, OK. His church is the American partner church of the Unitarian Universalist Church of Kampala, Uganda. In 2010, he was awarded as "The Humanitarian of the Year" by the Unitarian Universalist United Nations Office for his support of the LGBT community in Uganda.
He can be contacted at: mlavanhar@allsoulschurch.org

 
 
 
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10:26 AM on 02/07/2011
Thank you for all you do Marlin! This was a beautifully written piece. I picked up some Oriah Mountain Dreamer influence in there - love it.
08:37 PM on 02/05/2011
Very thoughtful and inspiring...thank you for this beautiful piece.
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02:04 AM on 02/05/2011
Hey Marlin,

being neither religious, nor American, I had never heard of you and your Unitarian church before reading this article just now. And while I can't say I am particularly fond of theism, I do want to point that I appreciate your efforts and sincerely wish there were more clerics like you.

Good luck in all your future endeavours!
11:03 PM on 02/04/2011
I will stand with you. Thank you for being who you are and supporting those who need you.
10:33 PM on 02/04/2011
Hey Rev. Marlin Lavanhar
Thank you for your actions we could use more people like you in the world!

I was watching The Rachel Maddow Show tonight. I wanted to send her this article she is now talking about this more and more about this until the Egypt coverage. She also challenged the U.S. or any other country to take a stand on this issue and to act by withdrawing support financially. Do you mind if I send this to her show? I watch your sermons on All Souls Church website by the way keep up the good work!
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10:30 AM on 02/05/2011
Please share it with Rachel and anyone else who you think will care. Thanks!
09:14 PM on 02/04/2011
While the Rev. Marlin Lavanhar should be loudly applauded for his courageous efforts to liberate the oppressed in Uganda, undoubtedly his character leaves him with no other option. While others see him as a hero, he is simply responding to his conscience. Only time will expose the fruit from the seeds of love Rev. Lavanhar’s has planted. May we choose to stand on the side of love with him in prayer and conscience.

Galen Graham
Sapulpa, OK
08:47 PM on 02/04/2011
Marlin, thank you for all you do, and for keeping us informed of the atrocities happening in Uganda. I wish there were something we could do to help. Hopefully, your excellent article will receive
wide circulation. Please, continue to keep us informed via the Huffington Post.
05:48 PM on 02/04/2011
Once again, Marlin stands on the side of love. Thank you, Marlin for your courage and committment to stand up for the civil rights of ALL people. You are an inspiration.
05:24 PM on 02/04/2011
An important message about the vulnerable status of members of the LGBT community in many nations of the developing world. Unfortunately, the passivity of America's diplomats pales before the complicity of certain U.S. based Christian evangelical organizations in crimes like this. For an informative and troubling overview of the homophobic violence being inflamed by groups like "The Family" in Uganda, Nigeria and other African countries, see Jeff Sharlet's article "Straight Man's Burden" in the September 2010 issue of Harper's Magazine.
05:02 PM on 02/04/2011
Marlin is a man after my own heart. I stand with him and all those who stand on the side of love. The challenge is to have these (our) voices heard by the forces on the other side. How do we deal with the "true believer" who, like many in both Uganda and here in America, are so certain about their moral imperative regarding the LGBT community and other similar issues? How can the voices of reason and compassion be heard by these people? I often want to descend into "hate" when what needs to be heard is love.
04:58 PM on 02/04/2011
Thank you for the brilliant and inspiring piece, Rev. Marlin!! I hope this piece gets sent around and used as a catalyst for action. One thing that people can do is contact Lou Engle and The Call and tell them to please leave Uganda. This evangelical preacher and his organization helped the Ugandan government draft the outrageous & criminal legislation & they continue to exacerbate an incendiary & deadly environment for LGBT Ugandans.
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08:19 PM on 02/04/2011
Thank you for giving something specific people can do to help. I hope others who have specific
ideas chime-in too... especially Ugandans who have access to Huffington Post and who know what folks around the world can do to help. I am not sure our voices would cause a group to leave Uganda, but maybe the bad press would cause them to rethink their positions and back-off from their discrimination. I have worked with religious people of all stripes here in Oklahoma, and even the ones who feel compelled theologically or otherwise not to support LGBT people and issues, have stood with the LGBT community against hatred and violence. That seems like the least we can expect from any religious person, to stand up for those who are being violated and abused. Thanks!
02:59 PM on 02/04/2011
Thank you for speaking up for human rights and for asking us to stand up for what we belief in. We all need, my self included, reminders to use our human hearts and brains for the well being of others.
02:33 PM on 02/04/2011
Marlin, people like you and Rev. Mark Kiyimba (who I was fortunate enough to meet the last time he came to the States) are an inspiration. Thank you for shedding some light on this atrocious situation in Uganda. It is important to remember that this world is a beautiful mosaic of beliefs and lifestyles...everyone is valid and beautiful regardless of where on the globe they live. One can hope that the more light this ugliness in policy attracts the stronger rationality and tolerance will become, and prevail! Keep it up :)
01:06 PM on 02/04/2011
Thanks Marlin!
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05:01 AM on 02/04/2011
There's not much I can do for human rights as one person, that will change things; but I can speak out against those who would deny those human rights to women, gays, or any group that has been reviled by those who talk piety and love and are some of the most hateful people I've come across. I had my share of those self righteous, hateful epithets as an atheist.

Yes, I'm an atheist who does not think humans ore born sinners and evil. Furthermore what is happening in Uganda is truly evil. That has been one of my main issues since I found out about it. I also am a firm advocate of women's rights and freedom to choose, another pet issue. Many things I find very disturbing in this supposedly developing world. I sometimes think I may start my own blog, someday.

There's so much that I feel needs compassion and fixing in this world. Yet I'm just one feeble voice and sometimes I wonder if anyone hears me. But I will continue to rail against those who would sew hatred of other human beings because they disagree, or they feel superior, therefore anyone else is inferior, etc.

For those who think they have the right to deny any group the rights all humans should have, or that somehow, they have all the answers., I can only say they don't even know the questions. Many are bereft of anything resembling a loving, caring human being.
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TheSojourner
My blog is up and running.
05:10 AM on 02/04/2011
Minor oops. Should be SOW HATRED not "sew".
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10:54 AM on 02/04/2011
Soujourner,

Being an athiest may keep you from finding a traditional religioius community of inspiration and justice-making, I want you to know that there are quite a few athiests in my church and in most Unitarian Universalist churches. We welcome people of varing theologies, including those who question the existence of God. Being a part of such a congregation has the benefit of helping folks not feel so alone and offers opportunities for collective action. Plus, you can influence others and be influenced by others who have different beleifs and worldviews. I share this that you'll know that you can be both athiest and a part of a religious community of open-minded, thoughtful, caring people who work together for positive change. I know there are Secular Humanist organizations too around the country in which everyone is athiest or agnostic and they work for change. In my expreince, when the injustices, violence and cruelties of the world start to get you down, having an organized community of freinds, learning and inspiration can lift you up and allow you to get back into the fight for good. In your comment you sound like you feel like a lone voice and I want to encourage you, as I encourage everyone, to find a community you can trust and beleive in so that you can increase your influence and opportunity to make a difference. And, of course, commenting on websites like Huffington Post is another tangible way to spread your compassion. Thanks!