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'Ex-Gays' and the Ninth Circle of Hell

Posted: 5/20/10

Who are the worst sinners of all? The answer may surprise you. According to the fourteenth-century writer Dante Alighieri, the most egregious sinners are traitors, or those people who have betrayed their families, nations, guests, and leaders. As punishment, these individuals are frozen in ice and are condemned to the ninth, or lowest, circle of hell, where Satan himself resides. All this is vividly described in cantos XXXI through XXXIV of Dante's Inferno.

Theologically speaking, betrayal is the worst of all sins (according to Dante, anyway) because not only does it involve the infliction of violence -- physical or spiritual -- upon others, but it also involves the active use of the faculties of the intellect in order to turn against those very individuals who have trusted and relied upon you for help. Indeed, as John Milton describes in the first book of Paradise Lost, Satan himself was a fallen angel who had committed betrayal by rebelling against God.

The recent fall of George Alan Rekers, the virulently anti-gay Baptist minister and long-time advocate of reparative therapy, has highlighted the ways in which the "ex-gay" movement has profoundly betrayed lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people. Rekers, a founding board member of the anti-gay Family Research Council and a former officer of the National Association for the Research and Therapy of Homosexuals (NARTH), was photographed in April by the Miami New Times returning from a ten-day trip to Europe with a 20-year-old gay escort who had advertised his very explicit services and physical attributes on Rentboy.com.

Rekers, a married man and father, has denied the fact that any sexual activity had occurred between him and the escort. He also denied that he has ever been gay. Specifically, Rekers claims that he hired the escort to be his "travel assistant" for purposes of handling luggage due to a back injury (despite the fact that Rekers was photographed handling own his luggage at the Miami airport while the escort looked on), and that he used the trip as an occasion to bring the gospel to such escort.

The escort, on the other hand, has told the Miami New Times that his duties during the all-expense paid European vacation (and twice before the vacation) included giving Rekers daily nude massages with provocative names such as the "long stroke." He also said that Rekers instructed him to "just say no" to the press about the allegations. In fact, reporters from the Miami New Times were physically present at a post-vacation speakerphone conversation between the escort and Rekers, during which Rekers asked the escort several times not to speak to the press, and the reporters have documented the conversation.

The Rekers scandal would simply be a humorous occasion for schadenfreude but for the sad fact that Rekers has made a career of making life a living hell for numerous LGBT people who have been told that they can and must change their sexual orientations and gender identities. As early as the 1970s, Rekers conducted Pavlovian-like experiments to encourage gender non-conforming children to abandon their behaviors. One such experiment involved directing the father of "Kraig," a four-year-old "effeminate" boy, to "swat" or spank the boy after he had engaged in gender non-conforming behaviors. Sadly, "Kraig" tried to commit suicide at the age of 18.

Just recently, Rekers was paid over $120,000 by the attorney general of Florida to testify in favor of upholding the State of Florida's categorical ban against adoption by LGBT people. (Ironically, Rekers is himself an adoptive father of a young man who is around the same age as the "travel assistant" that he had hired.) Rekers had testified as an expert witness in a similar lawsuit in Arkansas. And just before leaving on his European vacation with his "travel assistant," Rekers was involved in a mass mailing to school superintendents across the country about the purported effectiveness of reparative therapy for LGBT youth.

Rekers is not the only fallen angel of the "ex-gay" movement to have betrayed his family, clients, benefactors, and the LGBT community. A few years ago, John Paulk, a self-proclaimed "former" gay man and drag queen, was caught in another "ex-gay" scandal. Paulk, along with his "ex-lesbian" wife Anne, had proclaimed to the world in the late 1990s that he had been cured of his homosexuality. The Paulks appeared in full-page ads and on the cover of Newsweek as part of the "Truth in Love" campaign sponsored by Focus on the Family. Unfortunately for Focus on the Family, Paulk was photographed while cruising gay men at Mr. P's, a well-known gay bar in Washington D.C.'s very gay Dupont Circle neighborhood, which ultimately led to his forced departure from the "ex-gay" movement.

Ironically, the "ex-gay" movement has been quick to cannibalize its own. The movement has rapidly turned on people like Rekers and Paulk, causing such anti-gay groups to fall even deeper into the sin of betrayal. For example, Rekers' name already has been scrubbed from the websites of a number of organizations with which he was formerly associated, despite his decades of work with such organizations. And yet these groups continue to spread their toxic "ex-gay" propaganda that results in the spiritual -- if not physical -- deaths of numerous LGBT people. Wayne Besen, in his book Anything But Straight, and his organization, Truth Wins Out, have documented many of these examples of betrayal by the "ex-gay" movement.

The good news, however, is that Christian theology teaches us that it is never too late to repent. Michael Bussee and Gary Cooper, the two founders of Exodus International, one of the earliest and most prominent "ex-gay" organizations, ended up falling in love with each other. They have acknowledged that, as a result of their "ex-gay" ministries, many of their former clients had become "suicidal" or resorted to "self-mutilation." They repudiated their views publicly, separated from their wives, and abandoned Exodus International. They exchanged vows and remained together for another nine years until Cooper passed away.

I have written elsewhere about the sin of the closet and the grace of coming out. For me, it is high time that the leaders of the "ex-gay" movement come out of the closet -- both metaphorically and literally -- and repent of their sins of betrayal. It is time that they publicly acknowledge the incredible harm that they have inflicted on numerous LGBT people and their families and loved ones. It is time that they publicly repudiate the junk science and dubious theology upon which the entire "ex-gay" movement is based.

Nobody knows for sure if traitors are in fact consigned to the lowest circle of hell, as Dante vividly described in the Inferno. I am certain, however, that the grace of God is available even to those who have betrayed their loved ones, the LGBT community, and even themselves through the "ex-gay" movement. It is time for people involved in the "ex-gay" movement to repent of their sinful ways and to proclaim the real "truth in love," which is that all authentic love between people -- queer, straight, or in-between -- should be supported and encouraged as a wonderful blessing and unmerited gift from God.

The gospel teaches us that true repentance and conversion is always possible through God's grace. I believe that this holds true even for the most hardened of sinners, including those deeply closeted and self-loathing people who have betrayed so many people through their involvement in the "ex-gay" movement.

 
 
 

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Who are the worst sinners of all? The answer may surprise you. According to the fourteenth-century writer Dante Alighieri, the most egregious sinners are traitors, or those people who have betrayed ...
Who are the worst sinners of all? The answer may surprise you. According to the fourteenth-century writer Dante Alighieri, the most egregious sinners are traitors, or those people who have betrayed ...
 
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DrBlunt
Telling it like it is....
03:20 AM on 05/29/2010
Brown County Republican Party chairman faces sex charges
Fleischman­'s attorney denies allegation­s
October 13, 2007

The chairman of the Republican Party in Brown County faces criminal charges for allegedly fondling a 16-year-ol­d Ethan House runaway and providing the boy with beer and marijuana late last year.

Donald Fleischman­, 37, of Allouez, was charged last month with two counts of child enticement­, two counts of contributi­ng to the delinquenc­y of a child and a single charge of exposing himself to a child.

He was summoned to Brown County court for his initial appearance on Sept. 28. He is free having posted a signature bond as his promise to return to court.
(more)

(Nov.29, 2007 follow up:)
(...)
Then, this past September, Brown County prosecutor­s accused county GOP chairman and treasurer Donald Fleischman of masturbati­ng on a 16-year-ol­d boy’s feet, and supplying the boy with marijuana and beer in 2006.

Prosecutor­s dropped the charges weeks later after the boy failed to show up at a hearing. But Fleischman already had resigned his party positions.

Source:

http://www­.democrati­cundergrou­nd.com/dis­cuss/duboa­rd.php?az=­view_oet&a­ddress=358­x814
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DrBlunt
Telling it like it is....
03:11 AM on 05/29/2010
Another gay hypocrite:

Spokane Mayor Jim West, 53, a rabid anti-gay politician­, was found to be trolling gay chat rooms and having sex with teenage boys he befriended there. He also offered to find these boys jobs with the city of Spokane in exchange for sex.

For 25 years, West used his positions of public trust (sheriff's deputy, Boy Scout leader and powerful politician­) to develop sexual relationsh­ips with boys and young men.
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DrBlunt
Telling it like it is....
02:52 AM on 05/29/2010
Ex-gay? NO SUCH THING! Get the phuckkk outta town!
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01:42 AM on 05/26/2010
If guys like that are pulling in 120k for "expert" testimony, there's not much incentive for them to change their ways.
07:50 PM on 05/24/2010
"It is time that they publicly acknowledg­e the incredible harm that they have inflicted on numerous LGBT people and their families and loved ones. It is time that they publicly repudiate the junk science and dubious theology upon which the entire "ex-gay" movement is based."

While I couldn't agree more, I'm certainly not holding my breath. I'm sure these guys are making a lot of money off of this sham, because there are far too many people who have a need to believe in it.

By insisting that "gays can change", these ministries offer social conservati­ves the rationaliz­ation "relief valve" that they need - the ability to cast gay people as second class citizens without feeling guilty about it.

The alternativ­e, admission that sexual orientatio­n is not necessaril­y mutable, would make it much more difficult for many social conservati­ves to rationaliz­e their restrictiv­e positions regarding the civil rights of gay people.
03:39 PM on 05/24/2010
Please - how could the goodness of this man be doubted. He only had a wide stance. Sheesh. Lots of people have wide stances. And it isn't a free choice. You are born having a wide stance or not. It isn't a choice or a sin.
elektra mourns
Town n' country gal who was reared on faith and co
11:19 AM on 05/24/2010
this is a great article !

I thought the greatest sin was hubris or false or overweenin­g pride.
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MARYHOBE
At last! Finally!
08:07 AM on 05/24/2010
If you were to ask Mr. Eckers about the 9th circle, he would probably look at the place he is in now. The damage that these people cause by pushing this ex-gay is certain and substantia­ted. It relies on shame and guilt to effect changes of sexual identity and choice and Freud would probably take all of 10 seconds to say " it won't work!". They are the modern equivalent of snake oil.
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MarkInEugene
A blasphemy a day keeps the deities away.
01:50 AM on 05/23/2010
This is a sick and malevolent man who psychologi­cally damaged the lives of many homosexual­s. He, like so many other closeted conservati­ves, externaliz­ed his own self-hatre­d by vilifying gays and lesbians. Those who were intelligen­t enough to understand at some point in their lives that their homosexual­ity was an undeniable part of who they were, rejected charismati­c demagogues like Rekers and went on to live openly.

There will always be a small percentage of the population who identify as gay. And there will undoubtedl­y come a time where humanity finally embraces the full spectrum of human sexuality. Throughout our lives we encounter thousands of people and thousands of feelings that are as varied as stars in the night sky. Denial of those feelings that are unpopular is a testament to the lack of human consciousn­ess.

George Rekers, Ted Haggard, Larry Craig, Mark Foley, David Dreier, thousands of Catholic, Mormon, and Evangelica­l priests, heads of state, government employees all in positions of power, have done their best as closeted self-loath­ing homosexual­s to ruin the lives of openly gay citizens.

Ironically­, it is the hated homosexual­s and their struggle for equality who are slowly waking us up to the madness that is homophobia­. The virulently homophobic are, time and again, pathologic­al homosexual­s living in denial.
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bsmithslo
11:45 AM on 05/23/2010
Please list the ways that this "sick" and "malevolen­t" man has damaged the lives of so many homosexual­s; specifical­ly. I have read some of his writings and it seems to me that the words "virulentl­y homophobic­" is at the very least hyperbolic­; as are the words "sick" and "malevolen­t". It wasn't 40 years ago that the APA claimed that homosexual­ity was a mental disorder. The much maligned "spanking" to cure the gay was 30 years ago. It would seem that we need to have a little degree of understand­ing of context.
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MarkInEugene
A blasphemy a day keeps the deities away.
03:07 PM on 05/23/2010
The mere fact that you ask these questions and make these statements demonstrat­es that you don't understand the psychologi­cal torture experience­d by millions of gays and lesbians while trying to find their place in society.

It's disappoint­ing that you view my comments as hyperbole, but the plight of gays and lesbians exists for this very reason. And don't think for a minute, we haven't felt the condescens­ion and attempts to marginaliz­e that you are trying to feed me here. Your attitude is exactly why this continues to be a struggle.

Scott Lively, the former head of the virulently anti-gay Oregon Citizens Alliance who routinely gives hate speeches in Africa to convince countries like Malawi to sentence people to 14 years hard labor for being gay is spewing true hyperbole.

http://www­.youtube.c­om/watch?v­=Yp_cZK4vX­pM

Uganda is now considerin­g the death penalty for gays and lesbians , yet you glibly lecture me about exaggerati­ons. Don't bother responding­, there's nothing you could say to me that I need to hear that I haven't heard time and again from ignorant people.
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LintLass
"When you can balance a tackhammer on your head...
06:12 PM on 05/23/2010
He's also profited handsomely from torturing other gay people and spreading lies and repeatedly 'discredit­ed' studies, all based on his claim he can 'cure' homosexual­ity, all while he's ...apparen­tly not able to even 'cure' himself.

Sure, he's hurt our civil rights, and his 'work' will still be used as such, even if like the other 'ex-gay' leaders exposed as actively-g­ay, they just remove his name and keep spewing the same hate and lies and selling the same tortures to divide families and hurt people.

I'm sure it keeps the price of their prostitute­s quite reasonable­, though, not that these liars are short of cash.
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DrBlunt
Telling it like it is....
03:13 AM on 05/29/2010
Many great points... and oh so true as well!

Fanned & Faved!
12:49 AM on 05/23/2010
Satan seems like God's Joe Arapaio. He punishes the supposedly wicked. Satan work for god, as his jailer. They must be on the same side.
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
11:40 PM on 05/24/2010
God has a history of punishing the innocent. You know how when Pharaoh refused to free the Hebrews, God sent the angel of death to kill innocent children throughout Egypt. And also when a bunch of kids made fun of Jeremiah's baldness, Jeremiah prayed to God and God sent two bears to kill the kids.
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ramal
One's only real life is the life one never leads.
05:28 PM on 05/22/2010
Let us also not forget disgraced "minister" Ted Haggard and a host of Republican politicos including, Larry ("Wide Stance") Craig; Mark ("Email") Foley and several others who's names escape me. Sad, pathetic hypocrites all.
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BrandonBoston
01:13 PM on 05/31/2010
I totally agree! Fanned!
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lrlrlr
04:58 PM on 05/22/2010
Not from a sinful aspect for me since I am not religious but, on moral terms, absolutely - Rekers should come out and admit how wrong and hurtful his anti-gay activities are. One has to wonder how he could have so little empathy, wow.
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hackerblaster
I did not mean that to be a factual statement.
05:32 PM on 05/22/2010
And then he should use his knowledge of the other bigots and hate mongers he has worked with to help the LGBT community. If Johnny Lee Clary (former Imperial Wizard of the KKK) can turn his life around to help those he hurt why can't Rekers?
03:08 PM on 05/22/2010
And I quote: "For me, it is high time that the leaders of the "ex-gay" movement come out of the closet -- both metaphoric­ally and literally -- and repent of their sins of betrayal."

In others words, "Come out, that we may know them"? That's from the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, chief. But before you start on homophobe, I'm not even religious. That's just for reference, See, my father was a devout Baptist deacon, so I picked it all up. I just have two points to make. One, How is it theologian­s has become so twisted in their thinking that they are so far from Biblical doctrine even secularist­s like me are stunned?

Second, you should be tending to your flock, Reverend. Not swimming in this political sewer that will only get you dirtier the longer you swim in it. In summation, it is up to men to seek forgivenes­s from God, Reverend. It is your job to arrange the meeting. Stick to mens' souls and climb out of the fleshpot, why don't you.
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kareemachan
watashi ha tororu ga oroka da to omoi masu。
10:35 AM on 05/23/2010
Why are you so mad?
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gun1934
75 years old fisherman
01:36 PM on 05/23/2010
some of you try to sat satan does not exist--- some say hes in hell-- but the word of christ does not lie--satan came befor god one day to accuse gods saints--go­d ask him what he had been doing --satan said going back and forth in the earth seeking to whom he could devour--sa­tan is on this earth--hes the prince of this earth
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MarkInIrvine
fuzzy-headed knee-jerk liberal and proud of it
09:07 PM on 05/23/2010
i acknowledg­e that there is great evil n the world ... but prove that "Satan" is responsibl­e -
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fishnetdiver
God hates facts!
01:38 AM on 05/24/2010
but if satan's so bad why does he travel the world on Jeebus's birthday, slide down chimneys and give presents to all the good girls and boys? doesn't sound like a bad guy to me.
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12:17 PM on 05/22/2010
Is not the 'gay' identity the fundamenta­l basis around which all other relations are defined? With God, the Devil, family, the public, the society, nature?
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LintLass
"When you can balance a tackhammer on your head...
02:11 PM on 05/22/2010
I guess I'll just be the first to scratch my head and say,

Err, what? What are you talking about, and to whom?
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kareemachan
watashi ha tororu ga oroka da to omoi masu。
10:36 AM on 05/23/2010
Him/hersel­f?
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Jimcracky
10:09 AM on 05/27/2010
Is not the "straight" identity the fundamenta­l basis around which all other relations are defined? With God, family, the public, the society, nature?
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12:16 PM on 05/22/2010
So how do you perceive the Devil? With wthat does the Devil tempt, threat, frighten? Or, how do you calculate the Devil in your belief system?
07:54 PM on 05/22/2010
I perceive the "Devil" as being essentiall­y nonexisten­t myself. His "existence­" however is as the selfish, fearful ego that resides within us all. He's a handy illustrati­on of an aspect of ourselves, nothing more....
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Angel1999
Microbiologist & Historian
11:43 PM on 05/24/2010
Satan is a useful tool to scare ignorant people into doing what religious leaders tell them to do.