There's a profound and miraculous mystery right under our noses: This instant of now has no duration at all, yet somehow it contains all the causes from the past that are creating the future. Everything arising to become this moment vanishes beneath our feet as the next moment wells up....
Where Does It Hurt?
Recognize suffering in others.
We're usually aware of our own suffering, which -- broadly defined -- includes the whole range of physical and mental discomfort, from mild headache or anxiety to the agony of bone cancer or the anguish of...
Are you hard on yourself?
Don't beat up yourself.
The previous JOT -- admit fault and move on -- was about our relationship with other people. This JOT applies the same practice to ourselves.
Most people know their less-than-wonderful qualities, such as...
In middle school, I thought it would be cool to play a musical instrument, and picked the clarinet. My wise parents rented one rather than buying it, and I started practicing. (In the garage because it sounded pretty screechy.) After a week or two of doing scales, I got bored...
What do their faces say to you?
As our ancestors evolved over millions of years in small bands, continually interacting and working with each other, it was vitally important to communicate in hundreds of ways each day. They shared information about external...
Who do you argue with?
It's one thing to stick up for yourself and others. But it's a different matter to get caught up in wrangles, contentiousness, squabbles... in a word, quarrels.
Similarly, it's one thing to disagree with someone, even...
I was enthralled by Dr. Taylor's talk when I first saw it, and have thought about it many times since. From the vantage point today of several more years of dramatic growth in neuroscientific knowledge, I'd like to offer three reflections.
Your brain is a precious gift
When Dr. Taylor's...
What's your own role?
See your part.
In situations or relationships with any kind of difficulty -- tension, feeling hurt, conflicts, mismatches of want, the usual crud -- it's natural to focus on what others have done that's problematic.
This could be useful for...
As a rock climber and a parent, I know some physical kinds of clinging are good -- like to small holds or small hands!
But clinging as a psychological state has a feeling of tension in it, and drivenness, insistence, obsession, or compulsion. As experiences flow through the mind --...