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My Family's Fallen -- and Yours -- Deserve More Than Platitudes for Memorial Day

Posted: 05/28/11 05:10 PM ET

On Monday we'll hear a lot of Memorial Day speeches about honoring our fallen soldiers and their disabled comrades. On Tuesday some of the politicians giving those speeches will try to cut benefits for them and their families.

In the words of Ben Franklin, "Well done is better than well said." The nine million veterans who currently receive Social Security benefits would probably agree.

Cutting benefits is no way to honor the fallen or those who came home with their bodies permanently damaged. It would be an act of profound ingratitude to doom them or their families to a life of increased deprivation. Yet that's exactly what these politicians are trying to do.

This morning I read a report called "Social Security: Serving Those Who Serve Our Nation," and my thoughts kept returning to two military heroes. The first was my maternal grandfather, Col. John L. Temple, who was permanently scarred by mustard gas on the battlefields of World War I. The second was my uncle, Lieutenant John Andree Temple, an Army Air Corps pilot who died at the age of 24 in World War II.

My grandfather was born in 1875 and was in his fifties when my mother was born. As a battlefield officer he was much older than most of the soldiers under his command. His already-aging body suffered terrible burns from the gas (photographs on the Internet show just how horrifying those burns could be). He eventually recovered and lived a long life, but spent the rest of his years in pain. Until his death he remained a handsome and compelling figure with a command presence -- so much so that it took a while before people noticed the redness and irritation of his skin, or the way his eyes tended water and became infected.

Col. Temple was luckier than many of the soldiers wounded by this early chemical weapon. He was able to continue his military career, and then to work throughout the Southwest as a railroad detective for the Southern and Pacific. There he began purchasing Native American artifacts for a few pennies or dollars each, carefully noting each item's details and providing details about its creator. "The last of the Chemehuevi weavers," one entry sadly notes.

My grandfather was John L. Temple the Third, or Fourth, or maybe the Fifth - he didn't care much about such things - and he broke generations of tradition by refusing to pass his name on to his son. (My French grandmother probably didn't care about that tradition one way or the other.) It was a typically American act of rebelliousness, or maybe it was just old-fashioned frontier contrariness since he only changed the baby's middle name. Col. Temple was faithful to duty, honor, and tradition in many ways, but he was born in a covered wagon headed West and nobody was going to tell him what to do.

His son, nicknamed Jack, died in World War II. He died after taking a new bomber out for its first flight in the South Pacific. Apparently his plane's engines were sold to the military even though manufacturer Curtiss-Wright knew they were defective. (Curtiss-Wright's senior executives were fired and a general went to prison as a result of Sen. Harry Truman's investigation. Arthur Miller's play All My Sons is based on this incident. )

Jack was a brilliant photographer whose works were exhibited in the 1939 Worlds Fair. His diaries and letters reveal an imaginative, unorthodox personality with a sensibility that might have felt at home in the Beat movement of the '50s or the counterculture of the '60s. He wrote that he wanted to reject the enslaving social norms of career and family so he could wander the planet without obligations.

These are the ambitions of an idealistic and rebellious young man, of course, and they might have changed. But the fact that Jack never married or had children also means that his death didn't leave anybody penniless and in need. For many families of the fallen, Social Security is their only protection from a life of poverty.

Which gets us to that report, which was released on Thursday by Senators Mark Begich of Alaska and Jon Tester of Montana. "Some politicians think the way to balance the budget is to cut veterans' benefits, or services like Social Security and Medicare," said Sen. Tester. "They're wrong." Added Sen. Begich: "Current talk about cutting social security benefits and destabilizing the economic security of our veterans undermines the sacrifices they have made for our nation. It's a disservice our veterans don't deserve."

Some of the report's findings are genuinely surprising. Nine million veterans currently receive Social Security benefits, and 35 percent of the people who receive Social Security benefits are veterans and their families. Most of the children who have lost a parent in the Iraq and Afghanistan wars receive Social Security and, sadly, there are more than 4,000 of them.

Take some time this Memorial Day and read the report. You'll meet the family of Army Chief Warrant Officer Christopher C. Johnson. You'll also meet disabled hero Sherman C. Gillums, Jr., 87-year-old former Tuskegee Airman Dabney Montgomery and his wife Amelia, and 90-year-old ex-seaman Will Parry. All of them rely on Social Security.

For the survivors, life goes on. My father served in World War II without injury. My paternal uncle, Jerry Eskow, was wounded in hand-to-hand combat, but fully recovered and became a director and teacher who guided many young actors. His death last year has left a void in our lives. Col. John L. Temple lived into his late nineties and saw astronauts walk on the moon. We shared hotel rooms on a cross-country trip when I was 14 and he was 90. "I don't like color television, boy," he told me on that trip. "It's not as realistic as black and white."

Jack Temple lives on in the personalities of his siblings and their descendants, in the dedication to social justice he instilled in his little sister, and in his striking photographs.

Even the Chemehuevi tribe, whose lost art of weaving my grandfather once mourned, is clinging to existence.The "Ute-Southern Ute Ethnologue" of 2009 describes the tribe, who once lived near the Oasis of Mara in what is now Joshua Tree National Park, as "near extinction." Less than five people still speak their language, but one of them is in his fifties and is making recordings to preserve its sound. for future generations. The Navajo Native American Veterans Association includes a link to the Chemehuevi tribal government on its website, which suggests that members of the tribe are among our nation's veterans.

You won't read the stories of Colonel John L. Temple or Lieutenant Jack Temple in this new report, and nobody will mention their names from a podium. But you don't need to hear their names. There are many families, many sacrifices, many stories. This Memorial Day we should remember and honor them all.

Then we should do the right thing for them, and for all the other soldiers and families just like them, by ensuring that they receive the security they were promised back in 1935. That promise was made to the American people before a generation of soldiers like Jack Temple and the Eskow brothers went away to war, some never to return.
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Please note: This post was written with assistance from Social Security Works and Strengthen Social Security, the authors of "Social Security: Serving Those Who Serve Our Nation."

The report was cosponsored by the American GI Forum, Gold Star Wives of America, Inc. (my grandmother, a Gold Star mother, proudly displayed her star in the window on Memorial Day); Blinded Veterans Association (mustard gas can cause blindness); the National Association of American Veterans; the National Military Family Association; Paralyzed Veterans of America; the Union Veterans Council, AFL-CIO; VetsFirst, a program of United Spinal Association; Vietnam Veterans of America; and VoteVets.org.

 

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08:56 AM on 05/31/2011
We never heard a word about money when our soldiers were sent to fight a very unnecessary war in Iraq, not one word! Now Sec. Gates talks about the necessity to cut soldiers' pay and allowances because he could not get an increase in Tricare fees from Congress! Talk about trying to set one generation of vets against another! Many of our vets come from successive generations of vets, they are smarter than that and will see thru the ploy. Why don't they go after those "grateful Americans" who are spending their portion of the extended Bush tax cuts in their villa on the med or cruising around the world or sitting at sidewalk cafes sipping $15 cappucinos all over Europe ...... to keep Americans at work! Suggestion for Eric Cantor and Paul Ryan: bring our troops home immediately and tell the soldiers they will have to pay for the fare out of their next paycheck. On second thought better not, they might just suggest it and find a way to word it to make it look as though it is their grandpa's fault!
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Lloyd Cata
07:50 AM on 05/31/2011
...and there was no intent to use "men" in the perjorative, when we should be doubly proud and grateful for the women who serve and who have served this nation.

Many are under the impression that they served "the failure of Bush", but the absolute truth is that they serve "The Constitution"; such as it is, such as it is interpreted, and such as it is used, however badly, to protect the people of the United States.
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Lloyd Cata
07:07 AM on 05/31/2011
On this Memorial Day, I would like every American to understand that these men gave first, Thank God someone was willing to step forward and put their lives, their families lives, and their future, on the line for YOU....all of you.

Then I want you to understand why they did it...why did they believe that they were doing the right thing; and that is because they believed that if they stepped up...maybe, just maybe, YOU would step up too...even should they fall.

It is time for YOU to step up, and in light of what they have given, and those who have fallen, America must find Justice for these men, their families, and their future; for surely the nation cannot survive without men such as these, without families such as these, who have trusted YOU to do the right thing.
03:29 AM on 05/31/2011
All veterans and current men and woman of service deserve 200% of our respect because they are putting themselves in harms way. What every American should be doing to show their support is by calling their congressman and woman and tell them to bring our heroins home instead of using them for political votes!
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Mark Knudsen
10:15 PM on 05/30/2011
well sports fans we are all worked up over th same things weather it is war' care or what it really is all the smoke and lack of fire...when are wwe going to join hands fan th fire into flames than hold their feet to it...for real not like two men say lets have lunch and never do...lets do it an make it stick..what do e have to loose..they have just BOUT TAKEN IT ALL ANYWAY so lets go for broke...you know if we doi God just might bess us...and they can answer for themselves...the old viking...CHEERS for showing some spine, now don't let it slip away like we have been saying they do.....
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thecreeksedge
06:04 PM on 05/30/2011
We should strive to be a country that is worthy of their sacrifice. Righteous platitudes will not get us there.
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Lisette
Paris is always a good idea!
10:34 PM on 05/30/2011
No one is worthy of that sacrifice!
We should bring the Troops home.
Wars fought for freedom are the exception.
10 years of this is a disgrace and for what? Washington? Politics?
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donnasaggia
04:56 PM on 05/30/2011
What war means to the soldier: honor, duty, service to the country.
What war means to business: profits, defense contracts, profits.
What war means to politicians: money, power, campaign contributions, money.
Are we missing something? Say NO to war, and say NO to your kids if they want to go to war. It's just not that glamorous.
03:22 AM on 05/31/2011
Man, you just made my quote of the day. That is basically spot on.
04:27 PM on 05/30/2011
There are many reasons why people join the military, some noble, some practicle. They range from a sense of duty/patrotism to a need to escape from poverty.

No matter what the reason, they all have one thing in common. They offer their lives to the protection of their country.

To even suggest that those that have risked all they are and all they can be deserve less from their country than they were willing to give is morally wrong.

To hold them up as shining examples of true americans while planning to cut their benefits stricks me as evil.
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NAMI
The Divine Socialist
03:03 PM on 05/30/2011
Dear God

I wonder why so many UGLY situations are created by the stupid politicians. It is the worst part of America. Is it not EVIL ?!
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fairwayhill
1948 Palestine belongs to the Palestinians
02:58 PM on 05/30/2011
They have killed thousands of innocent lraqis and Afghans.
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Lloyd Cata
07:34 AM on 05/31/2011
...in the name of "American justice", which only too often is American injustice, but how can that be?

They "followed orders". From the highest general to the lowest private. Surely there have been atrocities and errors; some the 'fog' of war', some the malicious cruelty of twisted minds that should have never been issued a weapon.

...but all under the 'authority' of a president and a government who behaved recklessly, and criminally(IMHO), to destroy not only the tyrant Saddam, but the society of Iraq, that it would have absolutely no means of retaliation or disobedience.
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TheMediaRanger
Pull over, buddy, let's see your poetic license
02:50 PM on 05/30/2011
Honoring the fallen, and those who have given part of their lives or limbs to the freedoms we enjoy, is righteous.

But I wonder how it is that we always seem to forget the patriotism of resisters, especially in this age of perpetual war. How is it that so few observe the sacrifices of 4 students at Kent State, who ultimately gave everything they had in order to help end the killing of American troops at nearly 60,000 in Vietnam?

Why should "Peace Activist" not carry the same favorable weight as "Army Veteran" on a job resume? Indeed, how many lives have been kept from being fully lived by known association and support of anti-war activities?

It's just something to think about. Unless you were stringing radio wires with me in Da Nang, or have brothers, sisters, cousins and friends who fell victim to war's ravages, I'm not really looking for an argument. Otherwise, as they say, fire away.
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Jim bob
Be the change you wish to see.
04:08 PM on 05/30/2011
No argument here, brother. I was out there on hill 26, C co. 1st bn 7th Marines, and came home to the Kent State murders less than a year later. It opened my eyes. Thanks for the good thoughts.
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magginkat
08:20 PM on 05/30/2011
As a veteran, widow of a veteran and the mother of a son who served 15 months in that hell hole called Iraq I agree. These illegal
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Lisette
Paris is always a good idea!
10:40 PM on 05/30/2011
Right magginkat
They celebrate the vets in order to perpetuate war, war, war.
It is an Abomination!
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Barely Left of Pobedonostsev
01:56 PM on 05/30/2011
It is an old form of hypocrisy. Sure, it is worse this year than in most previous years, but it is still not new.

Worse yet, the voters actually reward such hypocrisy at the polls, which is why we can't get rid of it.
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Lisette
Paris is always a good idea!
10:44 PM on 05/30/2011
Yes Syllogizer, I voted for Obama thinking he would end this 10 year killing fields fiasco.
but he didn't and they don't...........
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Mark Knudsen
12:38 PM on 05/30/2011
I was hunting for a colum to post a thought on and yours is it..It seems we are full of plattudes to a level it is sickening...be it today.thanksgiving. easter.christmas..you name it...there are tears in eyes..forgivness in our hearts. blah blah blah and it last One day than back to business as usual. the final words being Go Bless America...do you spose what we ar getting is Gods answer.. from his hipcrital servants.... there is a saying that seems appropert here...those who stand on the corner saying Lord Lord the loudest are ususally the farthest from him so my friends and neighbors if you are really what you say you are I will expect the tone of everyone on this sight to be a itte different from now on and i will expect to see you conduct your selves in public as example of what you really say you are and not in the garbage way it was yesterday ...the old viking
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Transomme
shy; retiring and mirthless
12:59 PM on 05/30/2011
I derive, from what you've stated, that enlightened beings with integrity ought to 'walk the walk'. I hear you loud and clear.
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Barely Left of Pobedonostsev
01:57 PM on 05/30/2011
But this too is just another pious platitude.
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jwilson1
12:20 PM on 05/30/2011
I am a Vietnam Vet and I hate the GOP and DEM's for their lack of courage, killing of my friends, lining their pockets with blood money, subjugating foreign people, bankrupting this economy, treating us like fools and allowing vets to suffer with 750,000 cases of PTSD untreated.

Don't bother to placate us with your saluting us while you take away the benefits because you gave them to the rich GOP, or continued wars of military suppliers DEMs...you all are disgusting people.
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Mark Knudsen
01:13 PM on 05/30/2011
right on but I fear it will fall on deaf ears or indifferent ears...keep up you hammering way..the old viking
01:25 PM on 05/30/2011
Fanned!
11:56 AM on 05/30/2011
We need to honor the fallen by taking care of their families and of active and retired military.