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I am a Parent

09/12/2012 03:29 pm ET | Updated Nov 12, 2012

Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body. ~Elizabeth Stone

I am a Parent

It is Monday at 5pm. I just got home from work. My wife, 9-year-old boy , 4-year-old boy and I sit down to dinner. We eat until 6 hurrying to get to my 4-year-old's soccer practice by 6:30. I'm his coach. My wife is the assistant coach. We return home by 7:30. My oldest is in 4th grade and gets home from school around 4:30, so he and Mom got some of his homework done already, but we still have a lot to do. I help him with his math and check over what he did before I got home. It is now 9:00. I take the boys up to bed. After brushing their teeth and finishing our nighttime routines, it is around 9:45. I now have some quiet time with my wife and time for myself. It is a long day when you don't get time for yourself until 10pm, but it is worth it. I am a parent.

It is Tuesday at 5pm. Our oldest starts his homework while dinner is being finished. He needs some help on a reading comprehension assignment. The 4-year-old wants his brother's attention, but brother still has spelling words to study. It is now 6:30 and we have Boy Scouts at 7:00. We may be raising two Eagle Scouts here. We return from Boy Scouts at 8:30 with a derby car in hand. We sit as a family and read our choice of novels/books. A picture book with beginner words works for the 4 year- old. I enjoy reading, but more importantly I am modeling for my children the importance of independent reading. It is now 9:00 and time for our nightly routine. All tucked in at 9:45. I now have some quiet time with my wife and time for myself. It is a long day when you don't get time for yourself until 10pm, but it is worth it. I am a parent.

It is Wednesday at 5:00. I do not go home. I meet my wife at the music store where my eldest son takes piano and vocal lessons. We have a quick dinner while we are out. We get home around 7:00. My eldest son has at least 2 hours of homework, while my youngest wants to play. My wife takes the older boy and helps him with his homework, while I get to play Skylanders. It is now 9pm. We start our nightly routine. I now have some quiet time with my wife and time for myself. It is a long day when you don't get time for yourself until 10pm, but it is worth it. I am a parent.

It is Thursday at 5pm. This is a day where we have no place to be. My son has three tests tomorrow so we start to study right after dinner. It is 8pm. We spend the next hour playing family games and reading a bit before bed. After our nightly routine it is now 9:30. I now have some quiet time with my wife and time for myself. It is a long day when you don't get time for yourself until 10pm, but it is worth it. I am a parent.

It is Friday at 5pm. My eldest son wants to go to the High School Football Game. We decide after dinner to support our school district and go to the game. We get home from the game around 9:00. After our nightly routine, it is 10:00. I now have some quiet time with my wife and time for myself. It is a long day when you don't get time for yourself until 10pm, but it is worth it. I am a parent.

Does my week sound familiar? Of course it does because as parents we know that giving our children every opportunity to explore their strengths and supporting their needs is our parental responsibility and our passion. In a little over a decade, I will have my wife's undivided attention and all of the time I want to myself. Some readers may be thinking that I must be looking forward to those quiet days ahead, but I am not. All I can think of is that I hope that the time that we spent together meant as much to my boys as it did to their mother and me. I hope they call and visit often. After all, I am a parent--- forever.