Most divorcing parents with minor children are required to participate in a divorce education program in order to get divorced. A recent estimate suggests that almost all states have this requirement. These programs focus on strategies that parents can use to minimize conflict and to develop effective parenting plans that provide regular routines for children. Sometimes parents have difficulty participating in class on a specific day so some courts and divorce educators have created online divorce education programs that take the place of attending a class in person. If you have participated in an online divorce education class, please comment on your experiences in response to this blogpost.
Although scientists have begun to document the effectiveness of divorce education programs in the classroom (see my post about one program), there is relatively little research about online programs.
Jill Bowers, Elissa Mitchell, Jennifer Hardesty and I recently conducted a review of several online divorce education programs (summary; full paper) to assess whether the programs were based on current scientific knowledge about divorce and if the programs were engaging to parents.
We contacted the designers of several online divorce education programs and asked for the ability to log into those websites to review the content and types of educational strategies that were used to teach divorcing parents.
In terms of the content, we found that most of the programs included information about children and the ways in which parents can be help children deal with divorce, but the programs had limited information about the legal system and how it worked. The most glaring omission from most programs was a failure to deal with issues such as substance abuse and domestic violence that can completely change the strategies and advice for parents in dealing with divorce and parenting after a split.
Overall, we found that these programs largely used text to convey their educational messages. There were some programs that included video vignettes, and they were much more engaging than just written materials. Despite the wide range of educational strategies that can be used online, these programs were mostly quite limited. Most programs could be improved and made more effective. For example, rather than simply describing the need to develop a parenting plan, these programs could include an activity in which divorcing parents can actually begin to write a parenting plan. Likewise, parents could be shown examples of different parenting plans and asked to rate and/or comment on the strengths and weaknesses of the plans. These strategies would transform the online programs from a required, passive exercise into an active process that could help parents figure out their own strategies for dealing with divorce. In the long run, exes who co-parent together, reduce the amount of conflict between them, and foster good relationships with their children will live healthy and happier lives.
As I noted in the beginning of this piece, this work was conducted by colleagues and me. We are very interested in hearing the reactions of parents who have taken these online courses. If you have taken an online divorce education course, please comment on this post about the ways you found it helpful and what might be done to make the courses more interesting and helpful.
Today, the discussion centers more on what parents can do to ensure that their children adjust well to post-divorce life. One area parents should watch is how the financial effects of divorce impact the life of a child. Research shows that children face increased stress when they experience a significant change in lifestyle as a result of their parents’ divorce. http://bit.ly/rEIAza
http://arnoldwadsworth.com/family-law-divorce/
Boyd Lemon-Author of "Digging Deep: A Writer Uncovers His Marriages," a memoir of the author's journey to understand his role in the destruction of his three marriages, helpful for anyone to deal with issues in their own relationships. Information, excerpts and reviews: http://www.BoydLemon-Writer.com.
It is difficult to properly parent anyone in 4,6 or 8 hours but parents from our online program I beliee are getting helpful information and gaining valuable skills. During this time, that is what keeps us encouraged and to know we are helping.
Hope this helps - Michelle ChildSharing.com
Robert, I would welcome your thoughts on my program which has been endorsed by many judges, lawyers, and mental health professionals across North America. Please email me at deborah@thesmartdivorce.com for more information.
Deborah Moskovitch
Divorce Consultant and Educator
Author of The Smart Divorce
www.thesmartdivorce.com
It was utterly useless. It is transparently a way for the court to bilk $80 out of divorcing famlies.
Oh, and those hours and hours I spent talking about these issues with my therapist, and her letter to the court that we had discussed this. Irrelevent. The judge ordered me to go to the class and pay the fee anyhow.