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Robert J. Benz


A Challenge for Men to Give Up Porn

Posted: 05/09/2012 9:38 am

Albert Einstein did not have an erection when he developed the Theory of Relativity.

That is one outrageous claim I can make with full confidence knowing it's absolutely true. No, I was not in the room at the time. I didn't have to be. I'm a man. I know firsthand that it's impossible for men to form even the simplest thought after the blood rushes south from our genius noggins. Can I get a witness?

Internet porn is changing who we are and I don't mean in a good way. Charles Darwin could never have predicted how our species might devolve. Imagine the purest look of horror on Darwin's face upon learning that the next image in his elegant evolutionary progression -- culminating with the dignified, upright modern man -- is followed by a revived Neanderthal lounging on a sofa with laptop and a napkin. Grunt once if you understand what I'm saying, friends.

Men are at a serious disadvantage spending so much time artificially aroused and I'm here to tell you guys -- you're being had. If there's one thing I hate it's when someone tells me what to do, how to think and how to feel. The puppeteers of porn are having a field day defining our sexualities for us and they're getting filthy rich in the process.

Last week I had the opportunity to view some porn with a full supply of blood in my cranium and the astute guidance of author Gail Dines. Oh sure, I had seen all stages of nakedness on the Internet before but never had the images and the language been so revealing to me. You might say that I suddenly saw the Emperor without his clothes and it made me wonder how the innocent liquor store glances at Playboy magazine had so quickly grown to the violent extremes of "Gonzo" porn. Oh, of course... money.

Just so it's clear: I'm no prude, there are no references to Biblical passages in this article and Larry Flynt is not interested in your first amendment rights. Online pornographers want your money and they will feed your most disturbing fantasy to get it. If you're like me and you don't have any disturbing fantasies, one will be invented for you and you'll learn to like it. What's your pleasure: 12 year-olds with tattoos? Handicapped housekeepers? Humiliated Asian boys in bondage? If you buy into the idea that all is fair amongst consenting adults, you should know that your sons are being groomed as the next generation of porn consumers ... and, interestingly enough, so are your daughters. Oh, is that YOUR rape fantasy website? Well, your kids may have clicked on it too. "Dad, that is so rad!"

So, aside from your kids being emotionally scarred forever, what's the real harm in all this porn? Well, I learned that one of the things I like most in life -- women -- are being transformed by the porn culture. Not women themselves but the way I perceive women. When I think of the millions of men glued to their computer screens watching scenes of exploited girls and women in sex acts that most often turn sadistic, I wonder how many licks it takes to get to the center of our Tootsie Pop brains. How many distorted images do we need to watch before our actions become equally distorted? How many times can someone see or hear women being called "whores" before they begin to believe it themselves?

Even worse for me, because I work as an anti-human trafficking advocate, I have the sneaking suspicion that porn has contributed greatly to the expansion of sex trafficking worldwide and the numbers of children, women and men trapped in modern-day slavery. Those being exploited in porn are not much different from those being exploited in prostitution except the camera has been turned on for your viewing pleasure. If you don't believe that your consumption of porn contributes to the exploitation of innocents, then it may also be hard to convince you that the line of coke you just snorted contributes to the suffering and loss of life south of the border where fighting rages on so that you can get a good high at a low price. But who am I to judge, I'm just beginning to come to my senses.

The real clincher for me is learning how the packaging and commoditization of sex affects my own manhood. I mean, it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt and the people studying this subject talk about how the unrealistic and violent storylines lead porn viewers further and further away from being able to relate to real women. And, somehow, we begin to feel inadequate when measuring ourselves against studs jacked up on ... well, pretty much everything. I could be wrong, but I'm guessing that most men are not willing to permanently trade-in real women for Internet porn. Or are you?

By the way, I'm sure some of you Pornbots will be inclined to call me an unflattering feminine name for speaking out against the unabated proliferation of sex on the Internet, but my masculinity is quite secure and that can be confirmed by the breathing women to whom I relate in real life.

To summarize, the people making all the porn are also making all the money and leaving millions of men with a handful of nothing. Enough smoke and mirrors. See for yourself what you've been missing and check out Gail Dines' book, Pornland.

In the meantime, give your penis a holiday by putting thought into someone real. Pause the porn for just one week to start. Just one week moves us all a little further from primitive man and a lot closer to Einstein.

I have a feeling the women you know will appreciate the gesture.