Karen felt like her life was in danger every time Phil was driving. He treated a drive on the highway as a challenge to his honor and manhood. If someone was driving slowly in the left lane, he thought it was his right to tailgate, flash his lights and blow...

Most of us get angry at times -- often over things that on reflection seem trivial. But if you are feeling frustrated often, yelling at your partner, criticizing your colleagues and friends, blowing your horn in traffic, throwing things around the house, then you might want to take your anger...

We all know that unemployment is one of the most difficult times in one's life, but did you know that it could possibly kill you? In a study in Finland, Professor Pekka T. Martikainen found that people who had been unemployed in prior years had higher mortality rates than people...

We were walking our dog, Jane, along a country path the other day when we met an older man, his wife and their beautiful chocolate lab. Wagging his tail, looking up, begging to be petted, the lab and Jane made instant friends. I thought, "Dogs have so much to teach...

All of us have regrets at some time. It may be spending too much time in a problematic relationship, buying something you realize is not what you thought it would be, wearing a tie that clashes with your jacket, or eating too much dessert. For me, it was buying Lehman...

Since the fall of Lehman Brothers, the crash in the market, the rise of foreclosures, and the depressing rate of unemployment, many of us have had worries about money. But money worries are not limited to financial crises in the general economy. There are some people who are always worried...

If you are like me you have found yourself putting off things to do that you know would be good to get done. We procrastinate on exercise, getting the taxes done, cleaning the house, making that phone call and getting our work done. You tell yourself, "I know I should...

If you are like a lot of people, you know that there are things that you should be doing, but can't seem to get yourself motivated to do them. Whether it's exercise, dieting, getting work done, cleaning up your home or getting in contact with people you know, you simply...

Everyone knows that the current unemployment rate is high (9.2 percent) and has been high for over two years. Adult men are more likely to be unemployed than adult women (9.1 percent vs. 8.0 percent), with teenagers (24.5 percent), whites (8.1 percent),...

Alcohol abuse is one of the most insidious, destructive and self-defeating habits that millions of people struggle with. Many thoughtful, kind, intelligent and good people get caught in the web of alcohol abuse and dependency. You don't have to be an "alcoholic" to have a drinking problem -- but you...

Many people feel after a few years of marriage and kids that the spark is gone, they have gotten stuck in a routine, the wife is busy with the kids and her work, the husband is tired and frazzled when he gets home and there doesn't seem to be any...

You find yourself taking forever to make a decision, complete the work in front of you or even get dressed in the morning. One woman spent two hours getting her makeup just right, finding the right combination of clothes. Another man bored his friends with his continual indecisiveness about what...

A day doesn't go by that you don't hear that nasty, contemptuous, nagging voice saying, "You can't do anything right. You're a loser. You're not good enough." Then you notice that voice is your voice. You are your own worst enemy.

Do any of these statements sound familiar to...

The news seems overly-focused on the antics of actor Charlie Sheen, who has been described by some commentators as suffering from bipolar disorder and who is viewed as currently in a state of mania. Because I have never met Sheen, I am not in a position to diagnosis him --...

Millions of people are out of work and many more will lose their jobs. Even in good times there are large numbers of people who get fired, usually due to nothing about their own performance at work. Losing your job can be one of the most difficult experiences that you...

Worry has a mind of its own.

A negative thought pops into your head, you pay attention to it, you feel you need the answer right now, you think you have a responsibility to do something about it and you can't do anything else until you finally...

Well, my recent post ("Why Men Don't Listen to Women") on HuffPost drew a lot of comments. The article was a follow-up to an earlier posting on "What Not to Say to a Loved One Who is Upset." In the earlier article I suggested some simple...

In a recent posting I identified a list of the wrong things to say to someone who is upset. Interestingly, this led to a lot of comments on The Huffington Post, which got me thinking. The first thought I had was, "Why do men find it so hard...

In cognitive therapy we focus on the way that you think about things. When we are distressed, we have automatic thoughts -- that is, thoughts that come to us spontaneously, seem true and generally go unexamined. Sometimes your thoughts are accurate; sometimes they are biased. But the first thing to...

It's one year now since Haiti was devastated by a horrific earthquake that destroyed homes, killed over 250,000 people and changed life forever for hundreds of thousands of survivors. Aid was late and insufficient, and many still remain homeless. How can one survive this kind of devastating trauma? How can...